Pole Grinder
Revolting Cocks Lyrics


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"Bein' a man or bein' a woman.
Has nothing to do with your genitallia.
It has to do with what's right in your heart.
Man? Or woman? Or both? "

She's got a reason to lie
She's got a reason to cry
How she was born a guy
Kiss your good mother goodbye

Shake it now (x 3)

"Why do I dance?
That's a good question.
I'm dancing to pay for my opperation.
Man? Or Woman? Or Both?"

She's got a surprise
She's a he in disguise

Concealing all is wise
Tucking it up to the prize

Shake it now (x 3)

Loving it baby
I'm loving myself (x 3)

Loving it baby
Yes I'm loving myself

"On the good days I feel like I get it.
Like it all makes sense.
I can stay in the moment.
I don't have to control everything in the future.
On the bad days.
I just wanna grab the phone and start dialing numbers."

(Pole Grinder)

Loving it baby
I'm loving myself
Loving it baby ( x 3)

(Pole Grinder)

Loving it baby
I'm loving myself




Loving it baby
Yes I'm loving myself

Overall Meaning

The song ‘Pole Grinder’ by Revolting Cocks talks about self-acceptance and gender dysphoria. The song starts by questioning the traditional notion of gender classification being solely based on biological genitalia. It puts forth the idea that what truly makes a person a man or a woman is the goodness in their heart. The lines "Man? Or woman? Or both?" can be interpreted as a call for accepting and recognizing diverse gender identities.


The second and third stanza of the song focus primarily on the story of a transgender person who was born male but is transitioning to female. The person feels the need to conceal their true identity and is struggling to undergo a gender reassignment surgery. The lyrics "She's got a reason to lie, she's got a reason to cry" can be interpreted as the struggles and hardships that a transgender person faces every day from society. The line "Tucking it up to the prize" indicates the person's effort to tuck their genitalia away and keep it a secret. The song acknowledges the self-doubt and pain that can occur in the search for self-love and acceptance.


In the final part of the song, the person explains how they dance to pay for their gender reassignment surgery. It shows how difficult and expensive it can be for transgender individuals to undergo surgeries and other medical procedures to transition. The last line "Loving it baby, I'm loving myself," can be seen as a statement of self-acceptance, and self-love, despite the struggle the transgender community faces.


Line by Line Meaning

Bein' a man or bein' a woman.
Gender is a social construct.


Has nothing to do with your genitalia.
Your body does not define your gender.


It has to do with what's right in your heart.
Gender is about being true to yourself.


Man? Or woman? Or both?
Gender identity is personal and unique to the individual.


She's got a reason to lie
The artist's gender identity does not always match their appearance.


She's got a reason to cry
The singer may experience discrimination and judgement because of their gender identity.


How she was born a guy
The singer was assigned male at birth.


Kiss your good mother goodbye
The artist is saying goodbye to the stereotype that they have to be a certain gender because of social expectations.


Shake it now (x 3)
The call to action is to express oneself and be proud of who they are.


"Why do I dance? That's a good question.
The artist is reflecting on their motivation to dance and how it is tied to their gender identity.


I'm dancing to pay for my operation.
The singer is saving up money to financially transition to their true gender identity.


Man? Or Woman? Or Both?"
The artist is still grappling with their gender identity.


She's got a surprise
The singer's gender identity may not be immediately obvious to others.


She's a he in disguise
The singer was not assigned the gender they identify as at birth.


Concealing all is wise
Society may not be accepting of the singer's gender identity, so it is safer to conceal it.


Tucking it up to the prize
The artist is describing the process of tucking their genitalia to appear as their true gender identity.


Loving it baby
The artist is embracing and accepting their gender identity.


I'm loving myself (x 3)
The singer is finding self-love and validation through their gender identity.


Yes I'm loving myself
The singer is reinforcing their self-love and acceptance.


"On the good days I feel like I get it.
The artist experiences a range of emotions and self-doubt regarding their gender.


Like it all makes sense.
The artist feels confident and comfortable in their gender identity on some days.


I can stay in the moment.
The artist is able to be present and not worry about the future on good days.


I don't have to control everything in the future.
The singer feels free from the burden of controlling all aspects of their life when they are at ease with their gender identity.


On the bad days.
The artist struggles with their gender identity at times.


I just wanna grab the phone and start dialing numbers."
The singer may seek support and validation from others who have undergone the same experience.


(Pole Grinder)
The repetition of this phrase creates a catchy chorus that repeats throughout the song.




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