Lose You to Love Me
Selena Gomez Lyrics


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You promised the world and I fell for it
I put you first and you adored it
Set fires to my forest
And you let it burn
Sang off key in my chorus
'Cause it wasn't yours
I saw the signs and I ignored it
Rose colored glasses all distorted
Set fire to my purpose
And I let it burn
You got off on the hurtin'
When it wasn't yours, yeah

We'd always go into it blindly
I needed to lose you to find me
This dance, it was killing me softly
I needed to hate you to love me, yeah

To love, love, yeah
To love, love, yeah
To love, yeah
I needed to lose you to love me, yeah
To love, love, yeah
To love, love, yeah
To love, yeah
I needed to lose you to love me

I gave my all and they all know it
Then you tore me down and now it's showing
In two months, you replaced us
Like it was easy
Made me think I deserved it
In the thick of healing, yeah

We'd always go into it blindly
I needed to lose you to find me
This dance, it was killing me softly
I needed to hate you to love me, yeah

To love, love, yeah
To love, love, yeah
To love, yeah
I needed to lose you to love me, yeah
To love, love, yeah
To love, love, yeah
To love, yeah
I needed to lose you to love me

You promised the world and I fell for it
I put you first and you adored it
Set fires to my forest
And you let it burn
Sang off key in my chorus

To love, love, yeah
To love, love, yeah
To love, yeah
I needed to hate you to love me, yeah
To love, love, yeah
To love, love, yeah
To love, yeah
I needed to lose you to love me
To love, love, yeah
To love, love, yeah
To love, yeah

And now the chapter is closed and done
To love, love, yeah
To love, love, yeah




To love, yeah
And now it's goodbye, it's goodbye for us

Overall Meaning

The lyrics to Selena Gomez's song "Lose You To Love Me" are about the end of a toxic relationship, where she realizes that she needs to let go of the person she loved in order to find herself. The opening lines of the song are an acknowledgment of how she fell for empty promises from her partner, who set fires to her forest and let it burn. The metaphorical forest refers to her life, which the partner destroyed. Gomez also reveals how her partner would sing off-key in her chorus, indicating that he was not contributing positively to her life.


The chorus reveals that Gomez went into the relationship blindly, ignoring signs that were evident. This relationship had been killing her slowly; hence, she needed to hate her partner to be able to love herself. The artist admits that while healing from the hurt, she realized that she had given her all to the relationship. However, her partner had torn her down without considering her efforts. In two months, he replaced them, making her think that she deserved it.


The song's main message is about the importance of self-love and how it is difficult to find it when one has to give it all to a toxic partner. In this relationship, Gomez lost herself, and it was not until the end that she found that she needed to let go of the person she loved to discover herself. The song's final lines, "And now the chapter is closed and done, And now it's goodbye, it's goodbye for us," indicate that she has moved on, and it is time to say goodbye to the past.


Line by Line Meaning

You promised the world and I fell for it
You sold me a dream and I believed you


I put you first and you adored it
I made you my priority and you loved it


Set fires to my forest and you let it burn
You destroyed everything I had and stood there watching


Sang off key in my chorus 'cause it wasn't yours
You didn't fit in with my life, but you tried to make it yours anyway


I saw the signs and I ignored it
I saw that you weren't right for me but I pretended the signs weren't there


Rose-colored glasses all distorted
My perception of you was distorted by how I saw you through rose-colored glasses


Set fire to my purpose and I let it burn
You ruined my dreams and I let them go up in flames


You got off on the hurtin' when it wasn't yours, yeah
You enjoyed causing me pain even though it wasn't your place to do so


We'd always go into it blindly
We entered into the relationship without knowing what we were getting into


I needed to lose you to find me
I had to let you go in order to find who I truly am


This dance, it was killing me softly
Our toxic relationship was slowly destroying me


I needed to hate you to love me, yeah
I had to stop loving you to start loving myself


To love, love, yeah
The feeling of love


And now the chapter is closed and done
Our story is over


And now it's goodbye, it's goodbye for us
We're saying goodbye to each other for good




Lyrics © Universal Music Publishing Group, Warner Chappell Music, Inc.
Written by: Selena Gomez, Justin Tranter, Robin Fredriksson, Mattias Larsson, Julia Michaels

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@merrick6048

“You promised the world and I fell for it
I put you first and you adored it
Set fires to my forest
And you let it burn
Sang off-key in my chorus
'Cause it wasn't yours

I saw the signs and I ignored it
Rose-colored glasses all distorted
Set fire to my purpose
And I let it burn
You got off on the hurtin'
When it wasn't yours, yeah

We'd always go into it blindly
I needed to lose you to find me
This dancing was killing me softly
I needed to hate you to love me, yeah
To love, love, yeah
To love, love, yeah
To love, yeah
I needed to lose you to love me, yeah
To love, love, yeah
To love, love, yeah
To love, yeah
I needed to lose you to love me

I gave my all and they all know it
Then you tore me down and now it's showing
In two months, you replaced us
Like it was easy
Made me think I deserved it
In the thick of healing, yeah

We'd always go into it blindly
I needed to lose you to find me
This dancing was killing me softly
I needed to hate you to love me, yeah
To love, love, yeah
To love, love, yeah
To love, yeah
I needed to lose you to love me, yeah
To love, love, yeah
To love, love, yeah
To love, yeah
I needed to lose you to love me

You promised the world and I fell for it
I put you first and you adored it
Set fires to my forest
And you let it burn
Sang off-key in my chorus

To love, love, yeah
To love, love, yeah
To love, yeah
I needed to hate you to love me, yeah
To love, love, yeah
To love, love, yeah
To love, yeah
I needed to lose you to love me
To love, love, yeah
To love, love, yeah
To love, yeah
And now the chapter is closed and done
To love, love, yeah
To love, love, yeah
To love, yeah
And now it's goodbye, it's goodbye for us.”



All comments from YouTube:

@selenagomez

This song was inspired by many things that have happened in my life since releasing my last album. I want people to feel hope and to know you will come out the other side stronger and a better version of yourself.

@ilbifuckr7997

💓💓💓

@hey_anna_paula

you're inspiring 💜

@lalaiamuseless4606

Good luck, love. I hope you heal and live.

@milenacarattidealmeida8514

WE LOVE YOU

@ishasaleem6627

So proud of you sel!!!

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@nisa9093

You don't miss the person.
You only miss the memories .

@Ari_Cloud

me too

@jazminewiggins6725

Same. Memories never fade.

@viper8735

the memories man.

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