How Insensitive
Shirley Horn Lyrics


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How insensitive
I must have seemed
When he told me that he loved me
How unmoved and cold
I must have seemed
When he told me so sincerely
Why he must have asked
Did I just turn and stare in icy silence
What was I to say?
What can you say
When a love affair is over?

Now he's gone away
And I'm alone
With a memory of his last look
Vague and drawn and sad
I see it still
All the heartbreak in his last look
How he must have asked,
Did I just turn and stare in icy silence
What was I to say?




What can you say
When a love affair is over?

Overall Meaning

Shirley Horn's song "How Insensitive" is a poignant reflection on the end of a love affair. The lyrics describe the singer's inability to express emotion when her lover confesses his love for her, and her subsequent regret now that he is gone. The opening lines of the song, "How insensitive I must have seemed / When he told me that he loved me," set the tone for the singer's remorse. The word "insensitive" suggests that she was not able to fully appreciate the depth of his feelings for her, and that she failed to respond in a way that would have conveyed her own emotions. The next line, "How unmoved and cold I must have seemed," underscores this idea, suggesting that the singer's emotional walls prevented her from engaging with her lover on a deeper level.


The singer then imagines her lover asking why she "just turn[ed] and stare[d] in icy silence" when he professed his love. This is a powerful line, because it speaks to the idea that words are not always enough to convey emotions - sometimes we need physical gestures, facial expressions, or other nonverbal cues to communicate our feelings effectively. The singer suggests that she was not able to provide these cues, and that her failure to do so led to the demise of their relationship. The final stanza of the song is perhaps the most heartbreaking, as the singer laments her solitude and the memory of her lover's sad, final look. The line "What can you say when a love affair is over?" encapsulates the entire song, in a way - the singer is reflecting on her own inability to express herself, and acknowledging that sometimes, there are no words to repair a broken relationship.


Line by Line Meaning

How insensitive
I must have appeared unfeeling


I must have seemed
I gave off the impression


When he told me that he loved me
When he confessed his affection for me


How unmoved and cold
I appeared unemotional and distant


I must have seemed
I gave off the impression


When he told me so sincerely
When he expressed his feelings honestly and sincerely


Why he must have asked
He probably wondered


Did I just turn and stare in icy silence
If I just stared back without any emotion


What was I to say?
What response could I give?


What can you say
What is appropriate to say


When a love affair is over?
When a romantic relationship ends


Now he's gone away
He has departed


And I'm alone
I am by myself


With a memory of his last look
Recalling his final expression


Vague and drawn and sad
Unclear, depressed, and prolonged


I see it still
It is still vivid in my mind


All the heartbreak in his last look
The expression embodied all of the sadness and pain of the ending of our relationship


How he must have asked,
He probably wondered


Did I just turn and stare in icy silence
If I just stared back without any emotion


What was I to say?
What response could I give?


What can you say
What is appropriate to say


When a love affair is over?
When a romantic relationship ends




Lyrics © O/B/O APRA AMCOS
Written by: Antonio Carlos Jobim, Norman Gimbel, Vinicius De Moraes

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Comments from YouTube:

@ryanjstew

i have watched and watched this video over and over and over again. And every time, I just get goosebumps. It's like I'm mesmerized and can't turn away. I miss Shirley Horn.

@jacquelineroman7608

Saw Mrs. Horn at Kennedy Center and was stunned by her voice, her timing and phrasing, her presence and her beautiful playing. She was a true diva and performed flawlessly. There were times so quiet that you could hear the person next to you breathing!! The Washington Post did a beautiful story on her right after the show and she died a short time later. What an irreplaceable gem, A Time For Love...mmmm-mmm!!

@Winston-op5de

Jacqueline Roman -How sad, thanks for sharing. I didn't know she died. What a big loss for the music world and the world in general. What an incredibly talented woman she was. I can hear here voice and her playing over and over again and never get tired of listening to her incredible talent.
May she rest in peace and continue delating the people who still listen to her music.

@prcty

A musical Genius like Ms. Shirley really understands the importance of silence . She has a way of making the listeners crave her performance. Its hypnotizing . Great musicians hypnotize their audiences. Carmen Mcrae, Sarah Vaughn, Diane Reeves and Shirley Horn can turn a ballad into a moving testimony

@michaelscott7462

Truly there are beautiful notes in that wonderful silence.

@annettebrent

She packs so much emotion in each word so effortlessly. A true Great.

@briankellow2182

"What can one say?", indeed. She was truly a singular artist. Every breath, every note, is poetry.

@nancydrew5

It, s hard to watch Madam Horn and take regular breaths at the same time. She has my lungs in the palm of her hand. Her timing and phrases the way she keeps me on edge...so intense.

@richardcondon3797

+nancydrew5 hey, if you recognize that you too can develop a distinctive voice. it';s in the ear and bred in the bone. she had in common with jobim and bernstein that they would hum along as they played. maybe it;s that way we learn as children to love music. most people can't sing as they become overcome with the emotion it creates.

@richardcondon3797

One of the great performances of the 20th century by the most accomplished of musicians in a very full field.

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