Message To My Girl
Split Enz Lyrics


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I don't want to say "I love you"
That would give away too much.
It's hip to be detached and precious,
The only thing you feel is vicious.

I don't want to say "I want you"
Even though I want you so much.
It's wrapped up in conversation,
It's whispered in a hush.

Though I'm frightened by the word,
Think it's time I made it heard.

No more empty self possession,
Visions swept under the mat.
It's no New Years resolution,
It's more than that.

Now I wake up happy
Warm in lovers embrace.
No one else can touch us
While we're in this place.

So I'll sing it to the world
This simple message to my girl.

No more empty self possession,
Visions swept under the mat.
It's no New Years resolution,
It's more than that.

Though I'm frightened by the word,
Think it's time I made it heard.

So I'll sing it to the world
This simple message to my girl.

No more empty self possession,
Visions swept under the mat.
It's no New Years resolution,
It's more than that.

Oh there's nothing quite as real
As the touch of your sweet hands.




I can't spend the rest of my life
Buried in the sand

Overall Meaning

"Message To My Girl" is a song by Split Enz that was released in 1984. The song is about a man who is afraid to express his feelings to his girlfriend. He states that it's trendy to be detached and that the only emotions he feels are those of anger. However, he realizes that he cannot continue to live a life without sharing his true emotions. He decides to reveal his feelings to his girlfriend and confess his love to her. He's done with all the empty self-possession, and the visions that he's kept hidden away. It's more than just a new year's resolution; it's a commitment he wants to make to her for the rest of his life.


The lyrics in the song portray the fear of vulnerability and the struggle of being honest with oneself and others. The singer claims that it's easier to hide one's feelings than to reveal them, but he knows deep down that it's time to let go of his fears and express his love openly.


The song builds with a guitar riff and a rhythmic beat, while the vocals are delivered with emotion and intensity. The chorus is catchy and easy to sing along with. The record's production by Hugh Padgham gave the song a polished sound that helped bring it to mainstream success. It has remained a popular wedding song and even featured in the soundtrack of the movie "Eagle vs. Shark."


Line by Line Meaning

I don't want to say "I love you"
The singer is hesitant to openly express their strong feelings towards their significant other.


That would give away too much.
The singer is afraid of revealing too much vulnerability to their significant other.


It's hip to be detached and precious,
The singer feels societal pressure to appear unemotional and detached in modern culture.


The only thing you feel is vicious.
The artist believes that emotional walls and detachment can lead to negative feelings and behaviors.


I don't want to say "I want you"
The artist wants to avoid appearing too forward or needy.


Even though I want you so much.
The singer's desire for their significant other is strong and difficult to deny.


It's wrapped up in conversation,
The singer hopes to express their feelings in a subtle or indirect way.


It's whispered in a hush.
The artist wishes to express their feelings in a quiet or private manner.


Though I'm frightened by the word,
The artist is scared of expressing their love due to the potential risks involved.


Think it's time I made it heard.
The artist ultimately decides that it is important to share their true feelings with their significant other.


No more empty self possession,
The singer realizes the futility of holding back emotions and desires for the sake of pride or control.


Visions swept under the mat.
The artist acknowledges that they have been repressing their true feelings, hiding them away from the world.


It's no New Years resolution,
The singer distinguishes their desire to express love as more than just a passing resolution or goal.


It's more than that.
The singer sees their decision to share their true feelings as a significant step towards genuine connection with their significant other.


Now I wake up happy
The singer experiences genuine joy and contentment after opening up to their significant other.


Warm in lover's embrace.
The artist feels comforted and safe in the arms of their significant other.


No one else can touch us
The artist feels as though they and their significant other have a unique bond that cannot be replicated.


While we're in this place.
The singer is content in the current moment, feeling secure and loved.


So I'll sing it to the world
The singer is now willing to openly express their love and desires to others.


This simple message to my girl.
The artist's message is straightforward and directed towards their significant other.


Oh there's nothing quite as real
The artist believes that their love and connection with their significant other is the most authentic and genuine aspect of their life.


As the touch of your sweet hands.
The artist finds comfort and tenderness in the touch of their significant other's hand.


I can't spend the rest of my life
The singer acknowledges that they cannot continue to repress their true feelings and desires.


Buried in the sand
The artist sees hiding their emotions as a futile and unfulfilling way to live their life.




Lyrics © BMG Rights Management, PFIVE Entertainment Mexico
Written by: NEIL MULLANE FINN

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Comments from YouTube:

@c.m.4686

Was at a Crowded House concert this evening in Toronto and Neil sat down at a piano and played this song solo. It was beautiful. It was also his birthday today, so we all sang Happy Birthday to him. I hope he felt the love. Such a fantastic concert. Some new songs from their upcoming new album, but a heck of a lot of our favourites from the past.

@raybrown3145

Neil is everywhere lately, he was playing with Fleetwood Mac too!

@scottallison2296

Oh there's nothing quite as real
As the touch of your sweet hand.

This line kills me every time

@angusmacpherson3252

Wonderful. Brings back so many great memories. But that's what music is all about. Take care everyone...

@Adam-oy4ix

A perfect song. I feel so lucky as an Aussie kid to have grown up in NZ in the 70's and 80's and have been exposed to this kind of music

@drewbase

I feel so lucky as a Dutchie kid to have grown up in the 80’s and 90’s and also have been exposed to this kind of music 😅

@allowah6

Strangely it did far better in Australia than New Zealand.

@michelleambrose4134

Me too

@gorgen23

You poor soul 🇦🇺🇦🇺👍🏻👍🏻

@Huntermark27

I think this song is one of the finest pop love songs ever recorded. The words are beautiful ❤

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