It's Not Supposed to Be That Way
Steve Young Lyrics


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It's not supposed to be that way
You're supposed to know I love you
But it don't matter anyway
If I can't be there to control you

It's like the other little children
You're gonna dream a dream or two
But be careful what you're dreamin'
Soon your dreams'll be dreamin' you

It's not supposed to be that way
You're supposed to know that I love you
But it don't matter anyway
If I can't be there to console you

When you go out to play this evenin'
Play with fire flies till they're gone
And then rush to meet your lover
And play with real fire till the dawn

But it's not supposed to be that way
You're supposed to know that I love you




But it don't matter anyway
If I can't be there to console you

Overall Meaning

The lyrics of Steve Young's song, "It's Not Supposed To Be That Way" highlight the complexities and challenges of love and relationships. On the surface, the song seems to express frustration and a sense of helplessness in the face of the distance and lack of control that the singer feels towards his partner. He wants to be there to love and console her, but he is unable to. However, as one delves deeper into the lyrics, one begins to see that the song speaks to a fundamental truth about love - that love is not about control, but rather about trust, freedom, and acceptance.


In the first verse, the singer acknowledges that he loves his partner, but it seems like his love is not enough to bridge the distance between them. He seems to be struggling with the idea that he cannot control his partner's actions or thoughts, and this is a source of frustration for him. However, the singer also seems to be aware that control is not the same as love, and the two cannot be conflated.


In the second verse, the singer draws a parallel between his partner and other children. He acknowledges that dreaming is a part of growing up and discovering oneself, but warns her to be careful what she dreams of because soon her dreams may take over her reality. The singer seems to be suggesting that his partner is at a stage in her life where she is still figuring out who she is and what she wants, and he is powerless to influence her. Again, the singer seems to be grappling with the idea that love is not about controlling the other person, but rather about supporting them in their journey, even if it takes them away from us.


In the final verse, the singer urges his partner to go out and enjoy life, to play with fireflies and to find a lover. He acknowledges that she will do what she wants to do, and he cannot stop her. However, he also wants her to know that he loves her and will be there for her, even if he cannot console her. The singer seems to be acknowledging that love is not about being there all the time, but rather about being there when it matters the most, even if that moment comes at dawn after a night of playing with fire.


Overall, Steve Young's "It's Not Supposed To Be That Way" is a poignant reminder of the complexities of love and the importance of accepting and supporting our loved ones, even if we cannot control them.


Line by Line Meaning

It's not supposed to be that way
The situation we are in is not supposed to happen that way.


You're supposed to know I love you
You should have known that I love you and care for you.


But it don't matter anyway
In any case, it doesn't make a difference.


If I can't be there to control you
If I am not around to be with you and guide your actions.


It's like the other little children
Just like other children, you too will have dreams.


You're gonna dream a dream or two
You will have a few aspirations and hopes.


But be careful what you're dreamin'
You need to be cautious about what you want to achieve.


Soon your dreams'll be dreamin' you
Eventually, your desires will possess you.


When you go out to play this evenin'
When you step out to have some fun tonight.


Play with fire flies till they're gone
Have a good time with the glowworms until they disappear.


And then rush to meet your lover
And hurry up to meet your partner.


And play with real fire till the dawn
Then indulge in some exciting activities until morning.


But it's not supposed to be that way
This kind of behavior was not intended to happen.


You're supposed to know that I love you
You should have understood that I care for you.


But it don't matter anyway
In any case, it doesn't make a difference.


If I can't be there to console you
If I am not around to comfort you.




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Kim Young


on Lonesome, On'ry and Mean

The lyrics posted here are not actually correct and I don't understand why they are not. If you listen to Steve's vocal you will hear what they should be. This song is truly about getting clean and sober, according to what Steve told me!

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