Next Best Thing
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Aesop Rock You can read along with me in your book You will…
All Time Low Go! I'm looking forward to another day without you, The way…
Endeverafter Lying beside you in a dream And I guess I'm okay Whatever…
FLOOR CRY I like holding your hand But it hurts, oh I can't…
Floor Cry Vansire I like holding your hand But it hurts, oh I can′t…
Jesse Dyen I don't know why you pry, get me feeling like…
Nikki & Rich Mmm... You know the difference between you and me? Everyt…
Roscoe & Etta Next Best Thing I’m gonna try to replace you for a…
Sam Tsui Once upon a time I would have Moved a mountain just…

Samantha Stollenwerck she was out there on the shelf|thinking all about herself|wo…
Tenille Arts Someday when your party phase is over And you're cleaning up…

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Happy Ending This is the way you left me I′m not pretending No hope,…

Haven't Met You Yet I'm not surprised Not everything lasts I've broken my heart …

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01Kings and Queens5:42

02Just For Now4:08

03Bend and Not Break4:31

04Next Best Thing2:44

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05I'm Movin' On3:54

06The Predatory Wasp of the Palisades is Out to Get Us!5:02

07Haven't Met You Yet4:04

08Save the Hero4:30

09Woods4:47

10Happy Ending4:55

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Most interesting comments from YouTube:

booksandtea

3y↑64

In my culture and society, people like to maintain a strange balance when it comes to adulting. Nobody in college in India is considered as grown-up or independent as their peers in the West. Up until you begin earning on your own, you are very much considered your parents' children when it comes to things like money, relationships, and choices of things like what to study in school and college, what kind of job to take up, all the way down to (in some cases) what you can and cannot have (clothes & other personal belongings). Your parents buy everything for you, they pay for your college and all other living expenses, you live with them, and yes - you don't pay rent. Your parents and extended family have a say in most things you do. They do not consider you as enough of a mature or responsible person to live your own life - and even if they do, they seek to suppress or control your independence rather than give it the freedom to thrive.

On the other hand, in the case of women, they would like to get you married off as soon as possible, and you're not considered too much their child for them to give you away in marriage. Once married, your extremely sudden and abrupt transition from being treated like a child to being treated like a grown woman with responsibilities and expectations is complete. Now you're expected to have it all - cook, clean, go to work, take care of your husband's family, be in touch with your own, take on emotional responsibilities in addition to your physical ones, and soon enough start having some kids.

It's an odd set of beliefs to entertain within one system but they coexist in our parents' minds and shape our lives in very real ways.

While everything I've said here by no means applies to every person in India, it's a prevalent enough set of expectations to be a tangible feature of our society. Also, I apologize for the solely heteronormative point of view described here.

TLDR: In my culture, at the age of 23 I can be considered not old enough to choose whom to love or what to wear or have control of my own finances, but I am considered old enough to be married off and assume all the responsibilities marriage in India entails.

Kat Todorova

Another great video essay!
I was wondering if you could also analyze any of the following tropes in one of your upcoming videos:
- the tormented artist
- the social oucast/wallflower
- Eastern European characters as mobsters and villains
- the selfless, protective dad
- the cool single aunt
- the wise elderly female character (usually a side character who exists solely to support/move the main character forward in their journey)?
Thank you and keep up the great work!

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The Take

3y↑45

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Nia Rose

can you guys review sex/life?

Namedrop

Adulting requires money and most Millennial don’t have any.
Then the Boomers shat on them

Linda Schreifels

@Anna Rose really don’t get the hatred for Mabel. She’s delightful, even at her most frustrating!

Anna Rose

3y↑4

Please could you guys make a analysis on the character of Mabel Pines, and a analysis of the hatred of Mabel Pines. Would be really interesting to hear your analysis about her.

Ray Williams

3y↑2.8K

Maybe we resist becoming "adults" because we remember how horrible the adults in our own lives were when we were growing up. Becoming that kind of person didn't look very appealing.

Neyooxetusei Dreamer

no generation grows up well.... INCLUDING YOURS.

DrawciaGleam02

@Elaine Stokes
Did you get that from fairly odd parents? 😆

In Hobi’s wine cellar

2y↑1

my mom and my dad got married at 20 in 1996. they divorced in 2004 when i was 2. my stepdad was married three times before the age of 30 and never finished college. my mom got her ba at 23, my dad never went back. i get so much anxiety around picking a career, forming intimate relationships and getting my life together because i always remember how crappy my parents had it. what's worse is they always pushed me to do better than they had and i always feel like whatever i do won't be good enough.

Dance of the sugar plum fairy

3y↑2

PREACH

muscular 2014

3y↑3

I was a child in elementary during the 2000s and the media back then treated 30 years old badly. In 2021, people who are in their 30s or pushing 30 are still partying and dressing young.

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Rémi Dogger

3y↑1K

I'm 27. A week ago my nephew who's 5 years old looked at me very seriously and said 'you're actually just still a kid too, aren't you?'. Little dude is way too wise

The Aviator Creator

1y↑1

Haha you're not alone at least

Dr. POP

2y↑1

Omg I wasn't planning on crying today...

Balzac T Bagher

Probably had a look of disgust

Chlorine

2y↑3

@Neyooxetusei Dreamer Thanks for the heads up man. Though I don't think it could get any worse

Neyooxetusei Dreamer

2y↑3

At 27 you are just starting your saturn return, by 33 you will have gone through hell. as life will drag you into adulthood by your hair, even if you don't want to go.

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heather wills

3y↑923

What I like about the word "adulting" is that it deconstructs what adulthood is. We've turned all the responsibilities of adulthood into a verb. Something that we must do, but it's not who we are. We've broken down the rules of what it means to be an adult and realized that we don't have to let go of the things we enjoy simply because we've reached a certain age. As long as we get the "adulting" done, we're free to do whatever we want.

Alex the ENTP

3y↑9

@spj4you As a millennial who designed my own backyard wedding (with my groom), wore a hastily altered dress, and served sushi and zero wedding cake, thank you for seeing me.

spj4you

3y↑18

One of my favorite manifestations of this is how Millenials have changed the wedding landscape and really embraced infusing their personalities into the events, decor, and music as opposed to everything being so "proper" and "sophisticated."

neuralmute

3y↑23

I don't think it's necessarily a generational thing either. My mum gave up a lot of what could be considered "acting her age" in exchange for doing what she loves when she left my (highly abusive) father, and now she's an official Cool Granny who does the necessary amount of adulting, but knows how to balance it with fun. Watching her let go of some of the unspoken and unnecessary rules of a certain type of adulthood has been amazing.

Shroomer

3y↑15

I think this idea of a “generational” clash is more of a clash between people who prefer intrinsic motivation and people who prefer extrinsic motivation: artsy vs sporty, secular vs religious, subjective morality vs objective morality, etc.

AhhH!

3y↑55

Being a grown up is just doing tasks everyday for the rest of your life, and it can feel like those tasks define my personhood
Like I feel as inexperienced and unqualified today as I did when I was 13, but at least I can stay up as late as I want

Hannah

3y↑787

There's also a lot of survivor bias in older generations. We don't get to hear from older adults who didn't make it - those who lost their lives in the AIDS crisis, were traumatised or living with undiagnosed mental illness or disability, were victims of domestic abuse, etc. It's a privilege to survive long enough to sneer at younger generations. I wasn't diagnosed with ADHD and autism until my early 30s and was suicidally depressed at the time. If I were born fifty years earlier I'd either be institutionalised or dead by that stage. Autistic adults are still one of the most under-employed demographics because of the gross lack of accommodation and acceptance. So yea, "adulting" is hard and I'm alive and able to talk about it on the internet. The boomer version of me was silent and invisible and the world pretended she didn't exist.

Tessa Rae

Stop I don’t want to think about this 🥲🥲🥲

Kind of kidding but seriously, I am not sure what accommodations to ask for. Saying you’re prone to UTI’s was the only way to get basic the basic need of being able to use the restroom when needed last I checked in the past (like three years ago)…

What things do I ask for for anxiety? What about the body dysmorphia I have to deal with when I get ready in the morning, can I get accommodations so people are finally more forgiving when I’m late?

I just don’t know, and since I’m lucky to not need to work right now I’m feeling more and more content to just hide away for the time being… to be as you said invisible, and like I don’t exist…

R MH

2y↑2

@Thirst Without Borders -- or, in some cases of allergies and intolerances people didn't used to know existed, the people just died. Ask the elders if that's to be celebrated along with their supposedly stronger/tougher survived 15 miles uphill both ways in the snow blah blah blah selves, eh? Lol, good grief, smh.

Alexandria Stephanie Persaud

3y↑1

I never even would have considered this idea and this is why we need to hear different perspectives. Thank you so much for sharing! 💕

Viveras Schweiz

Love and Hugs, your Existence is appreciated.

penstemon

This is a really good point

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indie flop queen

3y↑804

can we all agree that having kids does not make you an adult?

Mooselock

Amen

neco

An adult is someone who made it through adolescence stage. I think the correct word for that is "Responsible".

Natalia Borisova

Only fair if parenst do not take care of their child

Tessa Rae

Dang I was hoping I’d pass once I did the married and kids thing lol 😆

Lisa Tejada

2y↑7

Absolutely! I work as a preschool teacher, I seen many immature and irresponsible parents transfer that on to their children. Society has influenced people to believe that becoming an adult is like a destination. You not real an adult until you're married or once you become parents. But this unfortunately isn't the case. It's a process each individual goes through,.

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Caroline L

3y↑2K

"Just because people have been growing up fast for generations doesn't mean they've been growing up well."

YUP

Neyooxetusei Dreamer

no generation grows up well.... INCLUDING YOURS.

Jomara Madrigal Reyes

2y↑2

Or when your childhood had you grow up fast and be the adult or be the partner impacts a lot

Alexander Foß

2y↑2

@Anmeldn You must have never seen an over 55 years old on a computer, then. Nor the divorce rate of that generation.

Anmeldn

Compared to us they did, they were more grounded more outside, more lifeskills. We are declining.

Alexander Foß

2y↑1

So true. The mere fact that so many people only made up as grandparents what they had fucked up as parents speaks volumes about this.

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I Am Danielle E. Gray

3y↑1.7K

My mom has told me ever since I was a kid, to slow adult. Not to settle for anything, career, marriage and wait until you feel ready to have kids. That is why I am slow adulting. I am a very together millennial, I think waiting is a good thing. I may feel like an imposter sometimes but I also feel grateful to my mom for helping me through this process of becoming an adult.

the light of the jedi

3y↑1

also no need to ever have kids - something to keep in mind

its_Sarah

3y↑1

My mom was the same!!! She told me to wait to date until I have a career and live in a city I want to live in. I'm 23 single and living the life! I'm in graduate school and plan on going to law school in nyc :) I love the idea of marrying a great guy and having kids but I told myself of I'm single for the rest of my life with 3 cats I'm cool with that too 😃

Sin annuncios hasta ~4-23-2k23

Well I do solidly appreciate what you are saying, to me one of the most difficult parts of that parts of that in an emotionally stunting/at times demoralizing way is the 'don't move out too soon' part.. it's aggravating to think that still remaining in my parents is being done in the interest of pragmatism since having an account to the pleated all too soon by rent in barely competent living spaces is all too prevalent; will be turning 30 in a few weeks

muscular 2014

3y↑1

I don't believe in the millennial and gen z thing but at 25 I feel like I am not ready for marriage or start a family. I just want to focus enjoying my life and career in my 20s and 30s.

Nimbereth

Enjoy your cats and dogs.

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Suede Jones

3y↑807

The thing with “Adulting” is, we need more money.

Tessa Rae

I dont want to have to choose between paying car insurance or eating…😞

Reed Kellner

3y↑1

The ability to provide stability and security that comes with being able to buy a home...the ability to provide for big responsibilities, like one's own health, insurance, transportation, and financial needs...the certainty that knowing that what you were doing with your life was the best thing you could possibly do--because participating in industry was good, being a citizen of your country was right, and going to church on Sunday was true...these things do not escape our grasp because we are somehow deficient, or not up to the challenge in the same way previous generations were. These things are gone.

usagi18

3y↑1

@Maayan Abutbul Socialism will finish you even worse.

Leeanna Tweed

!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Alex Hernandez

3y↑3

For real

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Dena

3y↑80

This is a valid, but financially privileged perspective. The issue is that people with no family/money backgrounds dont have the luxury for false starts and the process of adulting or starting their own thing..mistakes can make the person homeless and emotionally and financially ruined for life

Ham

3y↑259

I honestly don't get why some of my fellow Gen Zs have the need to constantly make fun of milennials. Maybe it's because I am an older GZ and so have some things in common with milennials, but I feel like most of our issues are so similar and instead of berating each other we should stop the whole 'my generation is better than yours' and start helping each other. I think that the previous generation made so many things easier for mine, so thank you

C. E B.

2y↑2

Well, speaking as a zillenial myself, millennials take themselves too seriously and could probably use a little friendly elbowing from younger generations. I would encourage them to make fun of many millennial trends because they very often target trends that I either couldn't pull off, couldn't afford, or just couldn't stand. Finally, someone agrees with me 😁 Mwahaha!

Also, how do people part their hair now? I've always stuck to just off center or center part because that's what works for me.

its_Sarah

3y↑4

@OneAutumnLeaf yes omg its so annoying 😭😭 like I wore skinny jeans in High School and had a side part. I literally don't care if teenagers made fun of me for that because 1. I laugh at myself too and 2. I literally made fun of my parents for their 80s hair and clothes like it's a thing???

its_Sarah

3y↑10

I'm guessing you're a zillennial too? I related a lot to millennials but I was considered too young and I relate to Gen z but I'm considered too old.

Are millennials cringe? Yeah but that is kinda normal lol. I mean have you seen 2014 fashion lol like what were we thinking haha along with those tumblr days and thinking how cool we were as hipsters!

I don't think Gen Z is better than Millennials or millennials are better than Gen Z tbh. Gen Z has their own cringe that they're gonna look back on ngl. Millennials introduced me to so many important things.

I also Lowkey hate Gen Z lecturing Millennials about how they could have done better. Like bro chill they did the best they can, I understand you can critique them but don't go too far

Fuhgetabatit

3y↑9

Don’t forget GEN Z is the same generation that ate tide pods

L

3y↑14

Honestly I think I get along better with early Gen Zrs than my own cohort (early-mid Millennials). I'm still inexperienced in a lot of important ways and have anxieties about where my life is headed... Plus, since I'm pretty much on my own, I feel vulnerable and like a child. I feel like I have more in common with older Gen Zrs, and that makes me feel comfortable and relaxed. On the other hand, with people my own age, I always have the impression that they look down on me, tolerate me, and/or just generally don't think I'm on their level maturity-wise. A lot of this is probably projection, more to do with how I feel than how they feel, but... I have trouble talking about my insecurities with them, because I fear seeming immature or needy.

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GardenBoyDon

3y↑210

There's often a classism argument that is left out of these "adult hood" conversations. It is a privilege for people, whom are well off financially, to delay adulthood. People in lower classes often don't have a choice but to work straight out of high school or get married to sustain rising living costs

Tessa Rae

@rishabh anand I agree… in some ways its worse because people can be working the same entry level job for years since before adulthood, but other adults with post college “real” jobs won’t even treat these people as “real” adults because they haven’t had the option of going to college….

mastersnet18

2y↑1

@ASMRyouVEGANyet? yea I’m talking about starting careers as in their jobs. If you start a job right after high school you are only 18 years old. Compare that to someone who went to grad school and doesn’t start their career until their mid-late 20’s. And the age of marriage and having kids have a very strong link to social class. Wealthier people have kids the latest, middle class, slightly earlier, working class even younger, and lower class often start in their teens. Teen pregnancy is more common in lower classes as well. Same thing with marriage. Lower class and working class people marry earlier, while middle class wait till after college usually m and wealthy people marry the latest.

ASMRyouVEGANyet?

@mastersnet18 post your links to the statistics. Majority of low class people I know, myself included have gone through numerous, low paying jobs and are just now able to change careers due to things like Coursera and online teaching that offer cheaper learning abilities. Wealthy people are taught to start in high school, they take extra classes and get college credit before graduating high school. They enter into their careers and start earning faster than people in lower classes.

mastersnet18

2y↑5

It’s definitely a class thing. The wealthier people are they later they start careers, marry, and have kids. The statistics back that up.

Kaily Juarez

2y↑3

I feel like it can go both ways at this point. Sometimes lower class people born into low income homes often work straight out of highschool or get married- college sometimes isn't even on the table. Usual mile stones like getting that amazing job or buying a home or a new car aren't attainable. People from well-off homes may be able to afford all of these things- or at the very least utilize the opportunities that were already within reach to begin with- and achieve adulthood (given that we're basing what adulthood is on having all of that apart from being financially stable). Rich people can afford to choose to do nothing, but I think poor people sometimes have little choices aside from "nothing"

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merefin l

3y↑488

Generationally speaking, Millennials grew up during a time of relative prosperity and then had it all crash right as they were expected to become independent. Gen Z grew up during and after that crash, and I think a lot of the Gen Z attitude toward Millennials comes from an understanding that they are starting from even farther back than many Millennials, and that there is a new degree of seriousness needed in order for most members of Gen Z to survive. I'm right in between both generations and I think Millennials were allowed to develop a lot of expectations for their futures that Gen Z grew up knowing they'd never have a chance at. Millennials are justified for feeling disillusioned and taking things slow, but Gen Z needs to be quick on the uptake and adaptable in order to have any chance at life. I think that's the difference.

Rachel C

@ASMRyouVEGANyet? I mean, Gen Z has had to deal with active shooter drills, active shooters being a very real threat, and the pandemic interfering with their schooling and life events, whether college or high school. Climate change, recessions, and non stop 24/7 world wide news and travesty pinging at their developing brains. They also have peers going to war. They have had to deal with loads of stress, just like we did. The point of my comment wasn't "we had it worse" just that we also had it sucky. Gen Z has stress thrown at them constantly, it's just moving fast and easier to numb out because it's so much at once.

ASMRyouVEGANyet?

@Aniya Waters get good grades and apply to colleges in countries with free schooling.

ASMRyouVEGANyet?

@Letty Lunasical sadly the environmental issue is due to older generations. I remember taking environmental classes in highschool in the 90s and no one took the environment seriously.

ASMRyouVEGANyet?

@Rachel C this comment is right on the money. I was born 1983 and remember doing bomb drills, preparing for war, thinking the coast would drop off into the ocean, and not having the internet made it scarier because you only had your small circle of friends to get information from. I went to college and 9/11 happened my freshman year. Then friends go off to the military and we're all worried about a war breaking out. Gen Z has not had the same issues and has had the ease of technology to make life better. That's why Gen Z is so easy to complain about simple things now going their way. They don't have to handle stress how previous generations had to.

Ariel-kun

Same. As a Gen Z, I wanna study philosophy (it's the only thing I know I actually want) and then I keep having the feeling that I'll end up as a waitress or something like that, just because I didn't bother to look and took the first job I found. I'm 17 btw.

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Moni Zav

3y↑53

My parents are the last ones of the boomers (model 63 lol). When they started working in their early 20s, they immediately got amazing jobs with all the benefits and stability of the 80s economy (pensions, paid leave, 20 days of paid holidays, etc.). My dad was even able to afford 2 flats when he was 24 and got another one with my mom when they got married at 25. They were parents of two kids when they were 29. My mom decided to become a full time mom at 30 because they really didn't need another income to keep their lifestyle and she really wanted to be with us. My dad retired when he was 52 and it is now living the life with my mom...
All of that is impossible in today's world. I go through life doing my best given the circumstances and, if buying a Lego set makes me forget at least for 10 minutes that I will never be able to stop working because I won't have a pension in my 60s (if climate change doesn't kill us all first), I will freaking buy a Lego set!

Tessa Rae

@She_wizzdom 10/10 recommend lol 😆

She_wizzdom

3y↑9

I have deleted all my social media accounts because I was constantly comparing myself, constantly feeling like shit about myself. I just want to wake up and not feel so depressed everyday. Everything has changed so suddenly.

Right Weaponry

3y↑34

It's really hard to be a responsible adult when the only way you can move out of your parents home is to either pay 80% of your income to rent or have 8 roommates, let alone have savings or be able to afford a child. Why should a single person need two full time jobs to barely scrape by and then be told to "just stop buying avocado toast" My rent is quite literally triple what my mom pays, and it was the cheapest spot i could find.

Maggie Robertson

3y↑30

I think its massively important to consider to role of Birth control (and access to it) when discussing slow adulting. The way we Millennials have been allowed to meander through our twenties is a direct result of the fact that we have been able to delay parenthood. That was a gift not open a few generations ago, and tragically still not open to so many women.

Maggie Robertson

2y↑1

@telepathicmagicshop yup. I'm American of Irish Catholic decent. This is exactly my family's experience. My grand parents were in no way prepared to raise that many kids starting so young.

Cravid Ana

3y↑225

I love shows that are realistic about adult life. About how confused and lost we feel. Adulthood is scaring. Everyone is just taking it one step at a time. I love how Issa is lost and kinda stuck in Insecure. We don't have anything figured out. We are just trying to survive out here and figuring out how disappointing the adult world is. How cruel.

Also, I love how our generation have different priorities. We might never own a house, we might never be rich, but we are trying to be present, to be there, to show up, to speak up. I love that.

R MH

3y↑1

@Isa Lo Explica Todo / Isa Explains It All -- Same for me with reading. I'm a realist, so I don't lie to myself about the state ofthe world, nor do I appreciate being lied to by my media. Yet, if I'm reading a fic that basically ends like "emotionally distanced self from family and friends to protect them politically even after went into hiding and lived alone until death" or "unable to escape bad domestic situation b/c baybehs but 'made the best of it' i guess" or "and nothing rly changed b/c legal loophole/public-safety-issues prevented them from getting justice or punishing evildoer but they sighed and bitterly went on anyway" then wth is the point? Might as well read the news, as that.

Isa Martin

3y↑8

I feel like the "realistic" nature of shows like Insecure and Shrill makes them fantastic to watch but hard to binge ... It's like I WANT to see a more accurate portrait of adult life for millenials, but also I can only suffer so much through fiction while also feeling like that in real life, you know?

meg arbo

3y↑583

Guys! Guys! I have to tell you something: I'm 48 and feel like an imposter, too. So do your parents! Really! They don't know what the hell they are doing either. Everyone makes it up as they go along. Also, a lot of the stuff Society tells you that you want really might not be right for you anyway. I didn't own a house till I was 45 and sometimes miss renting. With the exception of three couples, everyone I know who got married under 30 are now divorced, some with kids. Not fun. Sure, pay your bills and such but don't worry about being self - actualized before 30. Take your time. Figure out who you are.

Robin Chesterfield

YES! So glad somebody brought this up...and worded it this well, too. I'm a Gen Xer (the generation that seems to be almost COMPLETELY forgotten in the whole Boomer vs. Millenial vs. Gen Z "war") and I STILL don't feel like a proper adult. Pop culture at the time made it seem like the SECOND most kids turned 18 they were bursting to get out of their parents' homes, and that Adults were calm and serene about being responsible. No, the ones who were good at hiding the exact same emotional crises that everybody else has (such as my Boomer mom) were just REALLY good at hiding it.

This was also right around the time that being an Adult stopped meaning you HAD to start wearing certain types of clothes...as was smacked home to me in the face by that time I saw a "kid" in the park who turned out to be a mom with a stroller. She was wearing a t-shirt and jeans rather than makeup and a dress or suit, and I suddenly realised: "Wait. Adults don't necessarily LOOK adult any more?!"
(and thank goodness, because I myself am ALL about the casual wear. :P)

What this comes down to is, it doesn't matter if you turned 18 in the '90s, 2000's, 2010s or just now--NOBODY magically becomes independent, capable of comfortably getting by on their own, and turns into a responsible emotion-hiding parent just because the candles on their birthday cake increased by one. And that, for me, was a HUGE relief to learn.

Bologna

3y↑6

@Taylor Skaalrud I had the same exact experience. While I didn't really have direction till my 30's, I don't think my 20's were wasted. I've met so many different people, some amazing and some that taught me lessons, and had so many experiences along the way that helped me shaped who I am. Yolo!!

RReneeS

3y↑11

@meg arbo, lol, I was about to come here and say the same thing all in all. I'm the same age as you, 48, and I feel nothing whatsoever like we think, or are told a person our age should feel, and my life is unlike that of many of my peers, who have spouses (or at the very least some kind of significant other), kids and sometimes grandkids. I have none of that and basically live a pretty directionless, purposeless existence :) I have no "career", I've taken on many gigs over the years in order to earn a paycheck so I can pay the bills that are my own responsibility now. Otherwise, I'm probably living the life I would have lived when I was 24 if I'd had the kind of money at my disposal that I have as a working "adult." All that being said, it has caused a lot of therapy hours, because it's not easy feeling like you have no real purpose as a human being. But it's not the adulting that I feel is hard. It's trying to live in a world that definitely makes you feel that if you've never reached those certain tried and true age old milestones in your adult life like home ownership, planning your finances down to a science etc. you're somehow an oddball

neuralmute

3y↑13

@Taylor Skaalrud If you've been learning from living and you've enjoyed at least some of your experiences, then nothing's been wasted.
For reference, I'm 43, and I've bounced around between different levels of adulting ability since going off to school at 18. Right now I'm at a bit of a low point, financially, physically, and psychologically, following a bad case of Covid, but at least I've had time to think about what to do next!
(It's going back to school. That's what I need to do next. Not sure where I'll find the money, but I'll dig it up from somewhere...)

Anon ymous

3y↑8

@Taylor Skaalrud You didn't "waste" anything.

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Travis Knight

3y↑548

I don't think we are all that unique. I think all past generations struggled with their own version of this but we struggle openly and past generations have a revisionist history version of how simple things used to be. We also exist at a tipping point where the bad decisions of past generations are boiling over.

Manners Bananers

@AhhH! Translation?

AhhH!

So u think the "oh no" that feel get louder every coming year started in the 1910s?

Introvertsan

3y↑1

Definitely

Shannon Bailes

3y↑6

Well said.

Clara Berg

3y↑20

This is exactly what i think too!

Taylor Skaalrud

3y↑64

When gen Z (or younger) starts using adulting unironically, I'm not even gonna say "I told you so". They're just behind the curve and we all need help these days. Generational warfare is counterproductive and I'd rather work with the younger generations than chide them for being young. If we can set up a generation for success, that's a win for us all.

Akshay Balakrishnan

3y↑130

I think with social media content focusing on how hard adulting is, more people realize they aren't alone and don't face the 'impostor syndrome' as you mentioned, or atleast don't feel too bad that we haven't grown or don't feel like 'adults'.

Ana Cláudia Siqueira

3y↑326

This whole Millenials x Gen Z thing is actually so silly. It feels like us, the Millenials couldn't prove ourselves for the previous generations and are now trying (and failing!) to prove something for the younger generations to come. Adulting is hard due to everything we went through as a society that has changed 50 years in a decade, especially for POC's and minorities. But we do diferently than our parents, and our kids are going to figure It out to do it their way too. And I think that's ok! :)

Miss Miye

3y↑2

@J D I'm not into mocking gen z but this exchange reminded me a super cringy occasion when there was a bunch of gen z kids bashing millennials and a solid argument they had was "we punch cops and fight the system". The friggin nerve: There isn't a comment section big enough to fit the literal HELL activists from the three previous generations had to undergo while doing activism yet we have to admire people who (are enjoying the fruits of that activism and thus) can post hashtag fuck Trump and take selfies at rallies while fearing very little for their integrity. They indeed take a lot of things for granted.

Jen

3y↑4

@viktor-tori suzikIgnoring bills doesn’t have anything to do with a generation because literally anyone can do that.

J D

3y↑10

@viktor-tori suzik do you think the majority of us millenials just sit around and complain? We have been trying, alone and outnumbered, to change policy or social norms for decades. Any change in the right direction is because Gen Z and millenials have each other now.

viktor-tori suzik

3y↑5

@The King in Yellow the fact you are 27 and have this mentality is the most millennial thing I’ve ever heard of lmao. Gen Z here, kinda sad to see so many doomer millennials out there who weren’t given enough of a chance to live out their dreams or even create dreams for them to live by. It’s sad, really, adults really grow up and instead of focusing on the beauty or doing something to change the world (like so many have done/are doing) they just sit around and complain. Also, ignoring problems make them worse. You going to ignore the bills you have to pay?

You seem to have ignored the biggest problem in your life: never focusing on the good in the world and keeping your mindset around the negative pushing yourself into a corner until your only safety net is nihilism.

Sheetal Chopra

3y↑6

@The King in Yellow that's sooo depressing lol, u rlly should be in my generation. Umm so some people actually enjoy life. Like that is a thing. Also you shouldn't have used Buddhism in ur argument, u took like one element and ran with it and then forgot about everything else within that religion that contradicts you.

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loverrlee

3y↑183

So much of being an “adult” is based on monetary ownership... which is kept from most of us

Shaun Dreclin

2y↑1

Hard to feel like an adult when even moving into your shitty first apartment is out of reach for many of us. I lucked into finding roommates that would take me in, if I had to do it alone I'd still be living with my mom at 31.

everberry51

3y↑4

No one likes to say this part 🥴

Dylan Jolie

3y↑6

This.

KC

3y↑79

I think being a real adult isn’t material things like marriage or doing your taxes or even having a “professional” job, it’s about having self awareness, recognizing your problems, and working to try to fix them. I was very very sheltered but also emotionally abused as a kid and have literally just started being an adult at 33, even though I’ve been doing responsible things for ages. I live with roommates (because company is good, I will not settle for a partnership I don’t want, and I also don’t want to throw away money on overpriced apartments to live alone) and have car debt, but I feel like an adult.

Halloween All Year Round

If being an adult was to be self-aware, responsible, self-disciplined, resilient, self-accountable and honest I could have been an adult since I was 3 years old, parenting my parents and other adults in my life. Yet here I am at 32 disabled and at the verge of homelessness unable to get and keep a job. Also policed, controlled and abused as a kid, teen and young adult by family of origin. Emotional maturity and knowing one's and others' inherent worth doesn't pay the bills. And it can't keep me or others safe. Though I fully agree that being a "grown up" should be about emotional maturity. I hope you're safe. And I'm glad you have a found family and know your boundaries.

Sahare Wazirali

THIS

The Spanish Notebook

3y↑3

Very well said! Being an adult is not following society's standards.

Kyle Morello

My thoughts exactly!

mendez5525

2y↑8

Coming at the end of my 30 year, I'm done trying to be an "adult." I riddled myself with anxiety, expectations, status, and unhealthy habits. I used to be so scared of everything, especially failure, but now I'm very comfortable in accepting that I have little control over things and that my experiences are more important than the rewards that could have come with them.

ChromeDestiny

I had severe panic attacks and depression in my early 30's cause I was scared about not having enough ambition and feeling unemployable. Things aren't that much better ten years later but at least I'm over beating myself up that much over feelings of inadequacy. I look around and see how nuts the world has become and now just take it one day at a time.

Gby P.2399

3y↑13

I'm a 21 year old Gen Z er and I don't have anything against millenials taking it slow to adult since Boomers and Gen X are the ones to blame for screwing us over in terms of economic stability and mobility

Jerline J

3y↑42

Growing up I always saw adults being really busy, somber, quiet, tired and or angry. This all made them seem kinda boring too. Now I'm a grown up and I have some insight as to why they were like that 🙃

spj4you

3y↑29

Adulting is basically what a mid-life crisis used to be. We're actually just getting it out of the way sooner.

Elysian Solace

Yes.

Sahare Wazirali

Yep

Kennedy Jo Jackson

3y↑233

I really like this video. I'm 19 years old and this past year has really stunk. I graduated high school in 2020, I settled for online community college instead of university classes. I felt it was safer due to the virus. I did awful my first semester and realized I wouldn't have done much better at uni. Despite being a good student in high school (choir soloist, dance team captain, ap classes, avid volunteer) I lost every bit of motivation. The scholarships I applied for didn't roll in the way they were supposed to. What saddened me the most, but also oddly made me happy was knowing many of my classmates were experiencing the same thing. Adulting is scary, but knowing I'm not alone remedies some of my fear.

Anyone

@mymymy yes! Is there any advice you could give if I’m questioning my own course in college which I am only on my second year btw!

mymymy

3y↑4

i'm 27, and i actually took 6 years to finish HS due to mental health. I was able to take those 2 last years (doing a self reliant program) to work, experience life, figure shit out, fix my mental health especially. Went straight into college (as a C student, might i add) and kept going back because I'd find a new path via my previous program (i.e photography turned into graphic design, something i've NEVER considered but got to experience a bit of).

I found a lot of people i knew who went straight into post secondary, felt the same way as you. Pushing 18 year olds (well, 16/17 when you apply, take prerequisite courses) to decide on their career path is INSANE.

Anyone

3y↑2

Omg I am also your age! And also decided to go for online community college which may be better and you can always transfer to the school you want (if you want to of course!!!) But I TOTALLY feel you. So just know, you’re definitely not alone!

Arexis

3y↑3

You’re going to be okay, taking time to figure out your life is perfectly normal!

AhhH!

3y↑12

I really don't like the derision that some gen z have for this sort of disillusionment, but I understand it
I think that they're thinking they'll have it easier, when people like us who are more in-betweeners are really aware of the fact that it won't be so simple
My siblings (27-21) are just doing their best and they aren't where they hoped it would be by now, but they are moving forward and growing, and that's all I can hope for honestly
I hope we end up happy at the very least

Nini Silver

3y↑95

Life is sooo long nowadays, having all figured out by 20-30 is super scary. This is the time to get out of our comfort zones and explore who we are, giving us time to figure out things is important but we need to take baby steps with responsibilities as well, saving some money, taking care of our health, eating well, read a bit, kiss a lot of frogs, explore other cultures, that what adulting means to me as young millennial.

Piratearicat

The idea that I have to keep doing these for 50+ more years seriously terrifies me

Nove Pipps

2y↑1

Yes I'd like my brain to finish developing before I make such major decisions lol

She_wizzdom

3y↑2

@BadgerCheese94 that's the exact reason why we shouldn't be stressing ourselves so much ,worrying about the future. After all, I may not even live that long? 😂 Think about it, the idea is really calming, whenever I start freaking out about the future, this thought never fails to make me feel a little better.

BadgerCheese94

3y↑1

@Nini Silver Thanks. I wasnt close close with him but he was a work buddy and a nice guy and its sad hes no longer with us when he had a whole life ahead of us. Dont know how he died but sadly I also suspect suicide as he showed obvious signs of depression.

Nini Silver

3y↑5

@BadgerCheese94 Sorry to hear, I'm sending you the best energy possible. I also lost a friend by suicide at age 16, believe me, there's no day that I don't wonder what kind of person he would be today. But, I still believe that in this life you need to remain strong for those you love and don't walk anymore with you in this life.

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crystalfairy912

3y↑83

Did anyone else take “don’t hurry to grow up” lessons of kids shows too seriously? Or is that just me? So I’m thankful for series like New Girl and Broad City with disaster 20 somethings.

a

3y↑10

Same, I learned it from realising my parents didn't have a set holiday period. I was like "hahahahaha no way I'm living like yall" so I've been searching for ways to retain my innerchild since then

Trina Q

3y↑246

I've learned that NOBODY feels, like an adult, even when they legally are one. It's completely normal to not have your life sorted or "together" by 30, but that's alright, since life is a journey, and we all move at different paces.

Mabel Simon

3y↑1

@C. R. Barboni p

Isa Anderdonau

3y↑1

@ifthiswaswiftie Well, I wonder where the pressure truly comes from. is it actually another person? peers? society? media? ourselves? if i had to prove it, i can't make out where it comes from. maybe listening to others will actually help understand how everyone struggles with different things at different times in their lives. I have the impression to share those stories and listening to others helped me more than over-focusing on myself and ignoring others in my 20s, going through one self-improvement idea after another. only when i started talking - and listening - openly to peers and other ppl about certain struggles did i truly understand the context of those struggles and my place among them. and of course countless actually helpful insights and advice. but of course, i live in a set of living conditions that are not representative of the many other life situations ppl can be in.

ifthiswaswiftie

3y↑2

Agreed! aka just be yourself and ignore the others. this is your own life exam.

Isa Anderdonau

3y↑5

@C. R. Barboni Thank you. I'm really far from my best self, but I figure it's all alright. I'm trying what works and what doesn't, like everyone. But it makes me sad to see the pressure put on the 20-somethings from... society? media? their peers? themselves? without giving them the context of their situation. for example the myth that living with your parents after the age of X is a sign of failure. Historically, that's how it used to be. until you married or had enough financial resources (shared apartments weren't a big thing, but marrying could be that version of that ; plus marrying younger then) it was only until the mega economical boom around the 50s. But somehow that time- which was actually the anomaly- is ironically the standard we all feel we must adhere to and be judged against. However, there is more and more content out there addressing these issues, which will hopefully help us all, but of course especially the generation that is currently struggling with this topic the most, as they become adults. which is an imperfect process and I doubt will ever be finished :D

C. R. Barboni

3y↑4

@Isa Anderdonau Well done, friend -- I hope you continue to get better at being your best self.

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Jiménez

3y↑331

I always feel bad because I'm 27 and I still don't have it together. It doesn't help that my disabilities, mental illness and trauma took my childhood away. I watched my mom struggle and I knew things got a lot harder as an adult. Why would I want that?

hollywoodshopaholic

3y↑1

I'm around your age and strongly believe that the only tools people should need to be respectable is a strong moral code and integrity. If we have those, we'll be able to get the crucial administrative "adult" tasks (bills, taxes, work assignments) done as well and take care of ourselves. I'd much rather live amongst people who were honest with themselves than people frantically trying to fit into an outdated, classist/ablesit norm.

nicole fornuto

3y↑17

I'm in the same boat as you, I'm 26 and i feel bad about not acting like an adult despite the fact that I've suffered from a traumatic childhood and i suffer from anxiety and depression and have watched my parents struggle with money and mental health.I've seen and experienced how it can be,why would i want that for myself ?

Emma

3y↑17

I’m in exactly the same position. depressed, disabled, confused. Age hits you so hard in your 20s, too. suddenly I’m 26 and realising i’m not a baby and not having my shit together isn’t so cute any more. but i think you need to march to your own beat and chase your happiness.

Leni GM

3y↑18

I think adulting is much harder when dealing with those issues... I started feeling a bit like a grown up when I finally decided to take meds to treat my mental illnesses. I was 27. I'm 30 now and I still don't feel like a real adult but I think I've got my things a bit more together than before. It just takes some time

TeYa

3y↑16

@lakitha tolbert I'm 33 and my parents retired this year (on paper but not really). It freaked me out so much. They are cool with it, even look forward to it and are financially secured. But I'm still panicking. I've been taking care of myself fully for over 10 years, living in different country. But still I feel like a little kid...

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Veronica Piccinini

3y↑108

Considering what the previous generation left us (mainly the 2008 economic bubble, the 2016 president elections, the terrorist attacks of early 2000, no anti-stalkiing lawsuits), i hardly blame mine for slowing down and keeping their "inner child" intact as long as it needed to be.

Admit it. They left us nothing but their messed up mistakes we are forced to fix on their behalf

JP

3y↑4

Speaking as an LGBTQ person, I'm grateful to the previous generation for making HUGE strides towards the (mostly) acceptance that I experience today (I live in the UK, I know people in other countries aren't as lucky). Our rights have come a long way in the last 50 years!

It's easy to remember the bad stuff the generation before us has done, but we should remember the good stuff too.

Izzy Woods

3y↑24

It’s like they left us this horrible mess but broke all the brooms and vacuums 😫😫

Yvonne Wei Ohara

3y↑129

I wish this video also commented on the experience of children of immigrants in the US. Many of us did have to grow up a little earlier than we wanted and it wasn't even an option for us to slow-adult through life at a time we wanted to.

CaraMarie13

3y↑1

@Jessica Victoria Carrillo so true. Like i get what this video is saying but as someone who was raised by a single immigrant mother i barely saw because all she did was work, i honestly find this ridiculous. Nobody is born having it together (whatever that means) but when you don't have much and someone else sacrificed their own personal fulfilment so that you have a better future, you better rise to the occasion. So to answer the question of what motivates you off the bed everyday: the people that practically worked themselves to death for you.

Beddy TheCorgi

3y↑3

This whole video reeks of middle class. Poor people adult from a young age without the whining or self indulgence they portray as normal. This attitude isn't normal except in 1st world middle to upper middleclass. This ignores the millions of millenials living in the US who were latch key or had major responsibility as kids to help parents run small biz, raise feed and dress siblings, care for ederly members etc.

AhhH!

In a way I feel like I'm doing way less work when I now that I don't live with my parents

NJGuy1973

3y↑5

@Yvonne Wei Ohara Your story is similar to that of the children of the Ellis Island era. From roughly 1880 to 1924, millions of immigrants poured into America. They pushed their children to achieve and assimilate. They endured the Depression and two world wars, and their descendants built the postwar superpowers.

The later generations had the luxury of slow adulting.

Jessica Victoria Carrillo

3y↑8

I also want to save from me and my cousins it's like we grew up babysitting and doing chores while maintaining a's and b's and school and going to college and went to college and yet I have one cousin who can't drive mostly because her parents are closing structures and most of us are hardly that independent

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reyfan011

3y↑284

I can relate to this title so much. I’m 27 but still feel like a teenager. I just graduated college and now have to be a full time working adult, no longer a student working part time. It’s a weird feeling.

Jen

@im_a_chair I felt the same way but then realized nobody should have any say on what I like or what I do. If I wanna listen to old Radio Disney songs from my childhood, I’m gonna do that.

Jen

@Annie hey, it’ll come! Just keep swimming. 🐠

She_wizzdom

@Dr SHOHINI DAS you are a ‘Dr’ though 😎

Dr SHOHINI DAS

I am 27, staying at home preparing for my entrances and I feel like a child too

Lu HeDi

@She_wizzdom I hope the best for you and your path.

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Mariana RG

3y↑15

I think the disdan to the "adulting" discussion comes from the fact that it points out how the world had become unnecessarily more difficult for younger generations.

WasItJustADream?

3y↑84

I think it's a cool and needed message but i dont fully agree. Some young people dont decide to adult because of society or family pressure. Im entering adulthood because is what i want for myself, to not be dependent, and that's a positive thing and an act of self love too. The correct way of growing up is respecting your own limits and desires

Yasmin

3y↑204

The issue with this milestone "race" is that adulting is post 18 to the end of individuals lives. Do we want to be the generation that thinks compulsory HigH sChoOL were the best years of our lives because we rushed things afterwards?

This isn't allowed

3y↑6

@Chilkies Agreed, 1 in 4 teenage girl experience depression during teenage years, so high school is definitively not "the peak".

Yasmin

3y↑6

@Chilkies Right? Maybe we should address the bigger issue: Ageism!

Chilkies

3y↑31

I really don't understand the idea of peaking in highschool, peaking in college maybe, but even that is pretty strange. The life experience just isn't there. I intend to peak in my 60s.

Sophie H.

3y↑11

LOUDER

Hopper ☭ The Marxist

3y↑189

I’m 35 and I don’t feel like an “adult” becoming an “adult” happens in different ways for different people. I know people around my age who are a lot less developed in some areas that I’m developed in. Having a great Job, partner snd kids or a house aren’t the only things that make you an “adult”. And yes money is a big part of whether it’s easier to “slow adult”

Erik Carlson

3y↑6

Phew, I'm 32 and still trying to find stability in my life. Thanks a lot!

Whitney85

3y↑12

I’m also 35 and I have ping ponged between very adult periods of being together and boring and periods where I feel like I’m re-living my early 20s with no stability. It’s a process.

N D

3y↑11

I just turned 30 and your comment makes me feel better. 😭 Thank you 🤗

Fenja

3y↑25

I (25) talked with my mom (54) the other day, that I don’t feel like grown up yet and she was just like „me neither, and probably no one ever will.“

Natalia Utemova

3y↑30

This video couldn't have been more in time! I'm 22 and at the crossroads of my life, under so much pressure and constantly feeling like I'm an imposter. Now I at least feel less alone :)

A-may Lewis

3y↑2

Yes your deffinetly not. I'm 22 too and I feel the same way 😫

MyStringSnapped

3y↑70

I feel like I never understood what I needed to learn to be an adult as far back as high school. It’s still hard to figure it out at 30.

Tomika Kelly

3y↑5

Same. Make a goal of what needs the most improvement in your life and create a plan. Truth be told, if we had all of the answers life wouldn't be as fulfilling and exciting.

Oddivia

3y↑7

I think an unmentioned elephant in the room for the millennial "slow adulting" is mental health issues. I've seen it said and read a lot about how millennial's mental health is generally very low compared to the previous (two?) generations. A lot of millennials have depression and a lot of anxiety issues (I see a lot of eating disorders too) from what I've been able to tell, myself included. (Got depression, ADD, an eating disorder, etc etc)

It was strange to me to see gen Z clown on millennials this way when they seem to know about mental health issues quite well; adulting when you have this stuff weighing you down makes it feel a lot more like an accomplishment when you can actually find the motivation and energy to manage it... or an ironic pat on the back, aka "adulting". Again, I can only speak from my own experience/memory.

From what it looks like though, the Gen Z's that make fun of millennials are mostly teenagers on tiktok, so I guess they don't really have to deal with the full scope of 'adulting' yet. :P I was a bit disappointed to see them punch sideways is all, cus we're all pretty much in the same leaking boat together.

Kyle Norty

3y↑8

I love the point about how joyful it can be when you finally start doing "adulting" tasks. I've found something exciting about setting up my own dentist appointments or paying off debt. Like I spent so much of my teen years and early 20's not knowing what to do that when I do something "adult" with no help and I don't mess it up, it's nice.

booksandtea

3y↑64

Dr SHOHINI DAS

3y↑4

You are absolutely right

Khushi Singh

3y↑12

This is so true for the average Indian. And though in my personal case, my parents allow me to choose pretty much everything on my own and do not control me, I still wish for them to guide me. Like, the way typical Indian parents control their kids is toxic but the way kids in the west are left all by themselves is toxic too. I wish parents just guided and supported their kids in ways that kids wish to be guided and supported.

Anne Payne

3y↑16

You do realize that the whole opening season of Mary Tyler Moore focused on how she, not a boomer but a member of the earlier silent generation, was just starting her adult life in her thirties? Not gaining traction as an adult has been a widespread cultural theme for literally fifty years, although the greater overall acceptance for it, which I definitely agree with, is newer.

CarrieV

2y↑1

Mary Tyler Moore character was supposed to be divorced. CBS censored that part because divorce <clutch pearls!>. So she was really restarting her life as a newly single, independent woman.

Lucy Preece

3y↑71

I mean the education system is a joke and teaches all the wrong things. The point of education should be to produce well rounded capable adults who can cope in the world independently. From an early age everyone should be taught life skills. Cooking, cleaning, money management and as they get older they should be educated on stuff like responsibility and independent living and stuff like managing taxes. Even caring for a pet. I was lucky that my parents encouraged me to learn these things from an early age meaning that now I'm 23 I can cope with living independently but not all parents can or do teach their kids these things. They should be in school curriculums. Learning skills like writing a CV or applying for jobs and stuff. Even personal topics like physical and mental health, sex and relationship education not just about pregnancy and STIs like get taught now but stuff like indicators of abuse and toxic relationships. Education currently in the US and even in the UK where I am focuses way too much on the academics and nothing on practical life skills and then wonders why young people leave school and college utterly clueless and unable to cope. If stuff is taught from an early age it helps to create better more well rounded adults. Not everyone has parents like mine.

xiaoying

3y↑1

This is so true! I’m 33 but still feel like a teenager and I’m still struggling with adulting. When I grew up, the education system only focused on academic performance. I lived with my mum since my parents separated when I was about 12. My mum had a successful career but had no time for me, so I never learned any of these important life lessons, not from my school or parents. As a result, I’ve struggled so much after university, and haven’t been able to get my life together until my 30s. For people who can’t learn life lessons from their parents, it’s such a shame that schools don’t teach them how to live a life properly!

Ninja Black

3y↑2

Honestly the only reason i don't home school my child is because i want him to have a social life. Thats it. I don't expect schools to teach him anything that will help him in adulthood

Anyone

3y↑2

Omg yes! I feel like I lack the most BASIC skills needed in life. I sometimes realize how hard it would be if I needed to live alone or something, because I wouldn’t even know how! Crazy!!!
I literally don’t even KNOW how to write a resume! Like I wish I did (btw if you do know how to, could you please explain?)

KaylaNoelle1

3y↑58

I’m just so sick of people telling me I’m old when I’m only 25 and my brain could have literally just finished developing last week! I just now landed my first stable full time job. I had one lined up right after graduating last year but the pandemic killed that possibility because it was marketing in a theatre. 🤦🏻‍♀️ I’m just thrilled to not have to work several shitty jobs every single day with no time off and still barely make ends meet. Yet people are bitching at me for not being married with kids right now.

Anyone

3y↑1

What the heck? I’m 19 my goodness. If 25 is old now. Soon enough 15 is going to be cinsidered the age of senior citizens sheesh😂
But yeah people call me old too. Like uhmm. I’m not even starting my second year of college yet wth T^T

yazzerino

3y↑3

if ur old at 25 I must be geriatric at 28 lol damn

Path Evermore

3y↑11

@Acapella Fella ahhh nostalgia of generation BS from the 90's

Acapella Fella

3y↑3

Slacker

Path Evermore

3y↑19

Oh god. My generation didn't learn a lesson from our mistakes. No dont have kids til you are ready, if you never are, that's fine. Your generation needs to define new normal not just reuse our failed excuse for normal.

Audrey 13

3y↑10

I'm 31, in a civil union, 2 kids, a house, a job as a teacher that I love and I still feel like I'm 16. I don't know who put me in charge 😆 I feel overwhelmed sometimes and I have my sh*t relatively together. I had so much to learn when I left my parents' house. Some aspects of being an adult is hard and we need to recognize this.

PlainJane 777

3y↑33

I am the opposite. I had to grow up at 14 years old. Get a job, take care of my family, and learn how to not think about myself. Now since I am older, I am aging backwards in a way. I will not being having kids because I finally can go to the park late at night and swing on the swingset or dress in clothes that are cute and not worry about another mouth to feed. I am in a huge amount of debt but slowing getting out and not having to take care of someone else is awesome.

Suhana Ahmed

3y↑2

yesss!!! I grew up way too quick thinking about everyone else but me, I never had the opportunity to do fun silly things and am spending my 20's catching up on all of this.

Sahare Wazirali

3y↑3

I felt this :( especially the swings part. I just spent a night out super late like it was highschool. My friend and I talked all night at the park. I still made it to work on time the next day, but nights like that make me feel lucky to be alive. And also they remind me that time is ours for the molding.

V J

3y↑12

Thinking about it, I can totally understand the hesitancy to “grow up” by Millennials, because I personally had the opposite experience growing up. A lot of Millennials were helicopter parented and actually missed out on a crucial part of their childhood development, so the whole stage of sudden independence is really hard. For myself, I’m right at the middle point of the generations having been born in January of ‘96–but I had an upbringing where I was pretty severely neglected. And perhaps it’s no surprise why my entire life, including now, I’ve just wanted to grow up and get to that next stage—because I have needed the resources to take care of myself as I’ve always been forced to be independent, long before I was ready to do be. For me, it’s about having my practical needs met. For someone who had smothering parents, it’s about having a sense of autonomous identity and the freedom to enjoy the little things. Hopefully this comment makes sense lol

Troy Walker The Progressive Anarcho Communist

3y↑271

its difficult to adult on poverty wages

Kaily Juarez

2y↑1

@Camelopardalis thank u for talking, I appreciate the length at which you explained your argument, very informative lol I'm going to stick to my own age range for now

Camelopardalis

@Kaily Juarez I replied to your unedited (or at least way shorter) comment before.

Camelopardalis

@Kaily Juarez
I don't know what makes me write these long comments in this thread ... I digress a little bit much in the middle but get back on track towards the end.

I get that. I have a brother who's almost exactly four and a half years older than me. And he just always felt like such a "significantly older, almost adult" person to me. But I know that this is in part based on my time as a seven-year-old (very literally) looking up at an eleven/twelve-year-old. This boy was taller than me and knew much more than me and was able to do more things on his own than me. Being a couple of years older logically made it so that he was always ahead of me. And at no point was I ever in a relationship (or something comparable) with someone "that much" older than me. But that's simply how things were for me. I know I had quite a crush on two co-workers when I was 16. One was 27 and the other was either 27 or 29. (I think it was the latter.) And regardless of whether it would have been a good idea to start anything with one of them (I don't think it would have), it would have been legal for one of them - the former - to do so. The latter could have been considered my superior at work, which would have made it illegal for him to engage in any type of sexual relationship with me. In these kinds of cases, the age of consent was at the time and is to this day 18 where I live. But I really don't see this whole "I am 16, he is 27" as thing that "really should be illegal but sadly it isn't". I know what I looked like (what my body looked like) at age 16. I was fully developed. So there was nothing pae*ophilc about for example the men who sexually harassed me in public. They were pigs, they were annoying, some of them frightened me. But they weren't pae*philes. And I honestly think that 27-year-olds should let their hands off 16-year-olds, no matter how consensual anything about them having a sexual partner that age would be. To me, it really isn't about not criminalising an adult man. To me, it's about not making a 16-year-old who simply hasn't been victimised, simply hasn't been abused in the slightest, a victim. To talk about them as if they knew nothing about anything. I know that on the internet, something like that is easily misunderstood. I'm not slut-shaming a 16-year-old or something for "asking for it" and "it" being "their own fault" is something "happens" to them. No, to me, it really is just about not labelling someone a victim on principle, based on their young age, if that age really isn't that young. Again, I just find this disrespectful toward those people and what I call "actual victims" of se*ual violence of any kind including coercion. But to go back to your main point: I understand that you feel/see that your brother and you are at different points in your life. And I myself would not want to have a romantic/sexual relationship with someone who happens to be much younger than me but still definitely old enough for a sexual activity with an adult. But different people are different. Some people just want to have sex and nothing more or at least not much more. And such a person can be 17 or 21 or 29 or 35 or 41 or 52 or whatever. The question is at what age you can be considered old enough to consent to for example such a "it's just about sex" relationship, regardless of any age difference. And I just say that at some point, someone is just old enough to be able to consent even if there's a huge age difference. It of course depends a lot on the actual level of maturity of the younger person as well. But at some point - at some age of the younger person in question - you have to stop and say "Hey, now they are old enough to consent and not just unable to do so due to their young age". And I really think that at age 18, that is the case. Yes, an 18-year-old is more easily taken advantage of than a 23-year-old, for example. But even a 58-year-old can be taken advantage of. That is neither a reason for me to say that the age of consent (or age of consent for a bigger age gap than x amount of years) should be 25 or that it should be 60. At a certain point, you don't just have to make a clear cut, but in my opinion you really can. What should laws look like otherwise? Do people really want to limit the kinds of people an 18-year-old can have consensual sex with to people aged 18 to 25? Or people aged 16 to 25? At some point, an adult is an adult for a reason. I honestly don't think that is in the interest of such an 18-year-old. And I don't mean that as in "Don't limit 18-year-olds opportunities to get sex".
Generally, and personally, I feel that 16-year-olds don't really have to have sex. (I mean, no-one has to ever have sex - there's nothing wrong with not having sex ever or not having sex until you're 50 or however old someone is.) I am all for not having sex when in doubt, regardless of age. I wished everybody was always 100% sure that they want to have sex with the person whom they are about to have sex. And this counts the more, the younger the person themselves is. I am in my mid-to late thirties and I am pretty darn sure I would reject ever 21-year-old who wanted to have sex with me. But I would fight back against every claim that I had the duty to reject them because of their young age. They're not children. I only have a duty to reject them if they are mentally disabled and on the mental level of a teen at best or if they are heavily drunk or on drugs - but that duty I have regardless of their age in such a case.

If you want to stay away from 24-year-old at age 17 or 18, do so. Stick with people your age for as long as you want and whether you're se*ually active or not. I don't know if you have any sexual experience, and it's none of my business. In part because I am so much older than you but also on principle. It's none of my business who has sex and who hasn't. But generally, I can say that while I don't judge people for having sex (and I only use the word "sex" when it's consensual; I very much do judge se*ual a*users and as*aulters etc.), I wished people would accept the complete fact that not having had sex at age 20, for example, is nothing really out of the ordinary. It's the case for some people and not for others. Both things are normal. And as I said before, when in doubt, people just shouldn't have sex. It's not good for them, and it's not good for their partner (if that partner in any way cares about them, at least).

Kaily Juarez

2y↑1

@Camelopardalis oh I see. I myself am a couple months away from 18, and I read your comment and thought oh wow. I couldn't even imagine myself with anyone 5 years older than I am, as I have a brother who's 24 and I believe we are at very different points in our lives. I still think age gaps when people are young are relevant because I believe that we don't truly develop until 25. I would say a 13 year old prioritizes different stuff than a 19 year old who's just finished highschool. Like, a 40 year old woman and a 32 year old man (or vice versa) makes sense to me. But 13 and 19? Two completely different stages. I wouldn't say pedophile, but I think there's definitely something sus there. I think the plight is that people believe a 28 year old (or 19, whatever) would be much more likely to manipulate someone a few years younger than them so the relationship immediately comes into questioning like "is this abusive or are they just normal people in a healthy relationship?" Because it's hard to see past the age gap. anyways good convo im going to bed lol

Camelopardalis

@Kaily Juarez Considered that this a YouTube comment section, this was an extremely civil response. I simply happen to be of the opinion that after a certain age, you can't argue with "big age gap = a problem, no matter what" anymore. While I see that there's quite big a difference between age 19 and age 28, I simply cannot confirm that that kind of "age combination" is inherently problematic. And I agree, experience leads to maturity. Due to a string of negative life events, I lack a lot of experience (as in: "I have made these experiences, but not continuously for many years") as well as certain specific experiences (one-time things) that I associate with adulthood. And I know other people with the same "issues". People who've been treated badly by the world and who, in effect, were held back by the type of help they got. Yet even in cases like that, I find it extremely disrespectful to say to someone that "actually, you were ra*ed by a pae*ophile" back when you had a 19-year-old boyfriend when you were 15. I don't condone relationships like that. But if the (former) 15-year-old feels good about that relationship before, during, and years after it takes place, I find it to be quite a slap in the face of such a person. And not just a slap, but a kick in the face of a person who was ra*ed at whatever age - even when they were in their forties, and it was a comparatively "harmless" ra*e. I mean, I know a woman who was ra*ed at the ages of 4, 11, 20 and repeatedly at 22. And she herself talked about the great sex - her word, not mine - she had at age 13. How great it was. How massive of an or*asm she had. I am not going to tell a person like that that "actually, you were also abused at age 13" just because she was so young. (I also have no reason to believe that the guy she had sex with at that time was too old to have sex with her according to local law.)

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Shawn Ravenfire

3y↑20

I never felt like an adult. I went from feeling like a clueless kid straight on into feeling too old to be useful.

Jemima Janvier

3y↑5

The other day my mom, a 53 year old Gen X, made a comment on how immature I was as a 20 year old Gen Z. I thought to myself, of course you think I'm immature, you were married when you were my age. There's a discrepancy in what adulting was long ago and adulting today, and slow adulting can feel shameful.

Zayan Sayed

3y↑14

ill be honest seeing millenials be so open about their failures and how hard it is to live succeed and be happy is a large part of why i feel quite secure in myself and feel relatively more grown up than my peers. Im not some really mature person but ive been able to easily see the kinds of struggles to expect and how many come to terms with it and ive given myself a sense of pace and perspective thanks to it. Of course now we have a whole new generation that is basically built off of seeing failed adults and has the expectation to never become that. now we have just so many in gen z trying to be grown up about everything knowledgeable about everything because we dont want to fuck up in the same ways we see millenials do. Maybe im just projecting but yeah.

Halloween All Year Round

I see what you mean about learning from others' experiences but you're painting Millenials as "fuck ups", terrible examples, failures and pity cases. No one wants to be perceived that way. It's pretty dehumanising and victim-blaming. Besides you seem to be kind of missing the point about how governments, banks, monopolies and the global economy screwed us all over, yourself included. I hope you don't have to struggle as much.

Unboxing Alyss

3y↑2

How did millennials "fuck up"? A lot of what we are going through is out of our control.

gabbi

3y↑3

This video made me feel SO much better about not having the typical adult things at 28. It's a good thing I'm not married yet, im only starting to go through therapy now and dealing with my issues and trauma and figuring myself out. I would have passed on so many of my issues if I already had kids.

Da Ta

3y↑10

Thank you! Needed this after my father emotionally abused me again and insulted me for being dumb, still living off their money and still studying. (Although I suffer from trauma and depression because they physically abused me but they never see this and say Im
Stupid for saying it)

Halloween All Year Round

I'm in a similar situation and I'm so sorry about it being your life too. You're not dumb. Your parents are abusive pieces of sh17. I hope you can be safe and away from them as soon as possible.

Pink

3y↑22

I'm slow-adulting and it's not on purpose. I used to think I was a failure because of it, but now I'm just enjoying the ride. 😎

Sahare Wazirali

Yep.

kupalisky

3y↑35

When did we start equating being an "adult" with being boring and bland? Why can't adults play videogames and have fun?

Anyone

3y↑4

I have the same question my self. Like I can still like plushies, coloring and painting and listening to kpop. All while doing adult things and learning to prioritize and learn things I wish I knew and learned earlier.

Hallows4

3y↑5

This makes so much sense and I love it! Even though I haven’t been able to get my own apartment yet and my current job is not an absolute passion, when I got my first credit card a bunch of years ago I did genuinely take joy in the fact that I could spend my money as I chose and was able to take responsibility for my own expenses. Even if a job is not ideal, if you’re working with good people it does provide a genuinely rewarding experience, and the regular schedule that a job gives you also allows specific times that you can carve out to follow your passion and enjoy your free time fully on your own terms.

fishinthesea09

3y↑10

I think we need to abandon the idea that "adults" exist. From what I have come to understand, everyone - regardless of their age - is just trying to make it in an increasingly more complex world and in a difficult economy. You may appear "adult" if you have a bit of financial stability, but that's about it. You have to figure out your life until the day you die, and that's how it's always been. It has become ok to talk about things like mental health and how a work-life balance is managed in our society, but these problems have always been there. Also, people have already been complaining about both the younger and older generations back in ancient Egypt.

Patricia A

3y↑3

I'm moving out of my parents' house at 30 (it's not weird in my culture to stay with parents as an adult btw). I feel way more ready than I ever was at 22 or 25. I'm scared but I feel ready. I'm finally free of student loan debt. I'm so glad my parents have been so supportive.

Hal E.G.

3y↑4

I wish videos like this would take into account the experiences of disabled millennials, who have additional struggles due to trying to enter the workforce at a time when the economy was heavily biased in employers' favor. My employers didn't accommodate my needs because they didn't have to. They could just hire someone else. And without a job, I couldn't afford health insurance, and without health insurance, I couldn't afford treatment for my illness. Without my parents' help, I would have ended up on the street, no joke. But it's easy for people to look at me now, unemployed and living with my parents, and assume I'm just another millennial who refuses to 'adult.'

Vinny_Chic

3y↑1

Thank you so much for this video. I think before I watched this I felt this overwhelming pressure to feel like I had everything in my life figured out by now, marriage, kids, the house with the picket fence, and I recognize that i was even putting undue pressure on my partner to have all this stuff figured out too. I honestly feel released from a huge weight after watching this. And I'm really thankful you take your time to make these. They truly help.

Millennium Shadow

3y↑15

In a nutshell, we all have no idea what we're doing.

And I agree with taking is slow so you can find what is right for you. "Slow and steady wins the race," as they say.

Mlem

3y↑53

I'm 31 and I've only been growing up since a year because my cat got sick and even with a job I'm having a hard time paying her bills.
Honestly, being an adult sucks and if I don't have to, I avoid it like the plague ...

Kyanne Summer

3y↑7

I completely understand you, my kitty as well. I hope the best for your kitty.

LePetitdoll

3y↑5

My mom always encouraged me to do what i wanted in a sense that made me very independent from a very young age. She has told me that wasn't exactly her intention but she is glad that it turned out that way. Intentionally she did the opposite of her parents, she didn't force me to have a career as soon as i was out high school or a prospect of romantic relationship. Which growing up i appreciated because the thought of being married with kids and mortgage by 30 stressed me out to no end. She literally made me feel safe to be my own person.

Caspar

3y↑14

I watch as my 34 yo husband plays video games while our teenage daughter stares him down for the ride he promised her. Just so perfect.

Authentically Trish

3y↑1

I had to restart my life in my 20’s and it took forever to find full time work. Now I’m almost 30 and finally feel like I’ve been adulting for a little bit. Looking forward to even more of it!

Lee Molloy

3y↑5

I think we need to even move away from thinking being an adult you have to move out and try to make it on your own. This isn’t a thing in other cultures. Community living is so much better for the individual and the collective.

Naomi Bousson

3y↑7

My mom once told me that as a twenty-something she was under the impression that people past their thirties had it all figured out. "Then I became thirty myself and realised that I don't know anything so I thought that I would get it all together by the age of forty." Now she has passed fifty and she still feels like she doesn't know what she is doing but she realises now that there won't ever be such a moment where she does. The worst part of it is, she says, nobody talks about it. "All my peers act like they have their sh*t together. Nobody talks about how hard and confusing it is sometimes and everyone seems to assume you know the things you have to know as an adult. You have to learn things on your own and if you happen to tell anyone about how you actually feel, people will look at you like you're some kind of idiot."

This is of course her own personal experience but still,... If I had to choose between pretending everything is okay or oversharing that I have no idea what I'm doing, I'd pick the latter.

Path Evermore

They act. That's all it is. My journey in life followed the same path of realization. This was a major cause of anxiety in me for 20 years until i figured out my own version of adulting.

David Sanchez

3y↑8

Never slow down or fast up your "adulting" just because Society asks for it... live your age according with your rithm and always be in balance....

Jim Terpstra

3y↑42

If you keep pushing off adulting you’ll never have to do it… and you’ll always resent who you depend on.

Aquamarine Rhino

3y↑3

Oof! True because we do need a sense of independence. I think it also depends on the culture but in the US there’s this tension/expectation to be independent and a lot of young adults feel guilty about staying at home with their parents because they can’t afford it even if they are working a lot. (And maybe in other cultures that are more communal it’s more socially acceptable for a working adult to live with their parents. Or even married individuals living with or very near to their parents or grandparents)

Yonder Mileslimpey

3y↑15

You can keep your inner child and still take care of your bills and responsibilities.

Fabianne Deacon

3y↑17

I think recognising individual paths and understanding there isn't a time limit on growth ultimately makes it a nicer world to live in. But people only actually want that when the economy is doing well. LOL

Will Schneider

3y↑7

Maybe 'adulting' became popularized in a generation which not only wasn't left a stable adult world but which also wasn't taught how to be an adult by the previous generation.

I had to figure out finance and credit, home and vehicle maintenance, maintaining and creating new adult friendships, cooking and cleaning, work/life balance, and many other things on my own. I also was left to my own devices regarding personal ethics and how to consistently stick to my ethical code even when it's difficult or I am only presented with different unethical choices.

And, on top of that, the global climate is reaching a tipping point at which the planet may start careening toward being uninhabitable, capitalistic markets and culture bombard us with endless want while very little around us teaches us to cherish that which is enough, we're still in the process of coming out of a once in a century pandemic that claimed millions of lives, systemic corruption and inequality exist in nearly all power structures, economic inequality combined with the wild cost of living has placed what we were sold is a normal life (house, car, career, retirement) well out of reach of the majority of us, there was an armed insurrection to overturn a legal democratic election a few months ago and half of my country wants to pretend it didn't happen because they secretly support it, and I still have no idea if coffee is healthy or not because it changes every other week. The constant awareness that we're teetering on the edge of oblivian and the people in positions to do something about it being fundamentally selfish and corrupt leads to a general feeling of hopelessness that is quite effective at sapping hope and motivation.

This era has unique challenges in being an adult and it's okay to approach the subject with empathy and compassion instead of more generational tribalism which gets us nowhere. We have challenges both subtle and gross.

Nonya Beeswax

3y↑1

As one of those early millennials, I can testify: Life is completely unexpected and unplanned. We know so little, even by following the hundred of standards given to us. So...take a step back, watch, study your surroundings, ask questions, take a chance.

It's never too late to get it right

God Bear

3y↑6

I'm definitely slow adulting. I'm almost 30 and I have no idea what the fuck is going on or what I'm supposed to be doing. Send help...

Hannah Garcia

3y↑1

Love this video essay! Definitely hits on everything that many of us are going through right now as young adults.

Rob Chuk

3y↑1

This was therapeutic. Like a warm hug. Kinda needed this. Thank you.
Also, Broad City was deeper than it got credit for. That show has essay material that could last for months

mesaana1112

3y↑3

Being almost 40, I loathe being considered a millennial. But this video is very true. I'm glad I took time to know myself before doing what everyone in my family has done by my age. I'm seen as problematic for it but fuck it, I'll undo generational curses by finding me before screwing up the next generation as a child of disfunction.

Fefe477

3y↑1

This kind of defines me, I look around people I know who are my age or younger are working good jobs, getting married and having kids seem to have it together. It like they find their happiness in their lives meanwhile I just live in a moment to figure my life out to be, and I know there are many like me that are doing the same.

Tiffany Roth

I love love love this video!!! Thank you soooo much for making it!! I agree 100% … slow-adulting is the better way to take life, and those who criticize are just jealous they didn’t think of it first and it’s too late for them… my dads a boomer and one of BFF and we both cried while trying to figure out how to file his taxes online! Love you dad

washedblue

3y↑4

The ironic (?) thing is that, while I think a lot of us have become solid and okay with this stance for a multitude of reasons, there's always that little voice that says "what if I think this way BECAUSE I am immature? Or because I'm resigning to be okay with the slow hike due to ineptitude?" At least for me. No matter how many times I try to tell myself to take my time and do what works best for me, it's impossible to not hear the criticism of other generations or feel burdened by societal expectations even if they are outdated and non-applicable in modern times.

I guess it's good to keep a mindful outlook on these things and to consider other paths or ways to improve but it can be trying to keep the balance.. or explain to older gens why it's actually okay in the long run without sounding like you're making excuses or are following a concerning herd-mentality even in your adult years.

DistressedDamsel79

3y↑1

It's been 27 years and I finally feel like I'm waking up. There are a lot of factors that go into that, but I imagine the mentality I have now is what I was expected to have when I turned 18/entered my 20's. Some days I regret it taking so long, but I think I am mostly grateful that it is happening now. Hopefully I don't have to have a mid life crisis later because I've already dealt with it now. Maybe that's wishful millennial thinking, but part of it seems reasonable. I have been addressing a lot of existential questions and feelings so if I do come across them later in life they won't feel as foreign. The goal being in the years between, I will develop healthy habits and responses to support my growth. For the first time in a long time I've felt active hope. Not the passive, empty "hope" which for me was insecurity masquerading as apathy propelled by cognitive dissonance.

K Rys

3y↑33

I love being an adult. I have my own money (not much but mine) can dress myself how ever I want and take my own decisions. I wouldn't go back to being a kid at all. My personal nightmare would be to wake up as a 13 year old. uuuuuuuuuuuughhhhhh

Anyone

OMG YESS😭😭 Like ask me if I want to go back to middle school (which I like just graduated from hs in 2020 but like… anyways) and I would say nope.

Khushi Singh

Indian? Asian?

nordette

3y↑3

Me too!! I always say this!!! It still blows my mind I can go any where in the world I would like and there's absolutely nothing stopping me. I love getting older, it keeps getting better even through the struggles. Its all a blessing 🙏

jaeyuno

3y↑1

i just turned 20 yesterday and my parents, especially my mom, always compare me to her when she was my age but i decided to slow adult because adulting felt like releasing everything that made me happy and letting go of my inner child. the take made me realize a lot of things that helped me in my journey and i couldn't be any more grateful. slow adulting is valid, your life processes are valid. everyone has their time and pace, walk through yours and enjoy life.

Heather

3y↑1

This is such a good show. Thank y'all for putting so much effort and care into it. I appreciate you!

Shanchita Roy Sorno

3y↑3

I thought I was the one who is struggling with being an adult. the last adult thing I did was buy my own bottle of wine, which was in 2019. then 2020 happen I had(forced) to live with my parent again and live off their money. which I feel extremely guilty about, now it's 2021 and things are not getting better. and I am depressed. this covid shit just messed up my life.

Thirst Without Borders

3y↑1

I will pass my judgement when all millenials have reached their 80s. My suspicion is that a lot of us will skip the midlife crisis, the hallmark of "WTF did I not get to enjoy my life at all".
Also, as a millennial that adulted since I was 16, thanks to becoming an orphan, part of it is also letting kids go. Also, many of us don't hate our parents so much we want to get out of their house as soon as possible. Also, women are financially independent, so we don't need to marry to live on our own. Also, Sex and the City, a GenX Show, was alternative world/wishful thinking for most of their frustrated working mom viewers when it aired. Also, my boomer parents advised me never to grow up fully, because that would mean losing your spirit to the pressures of the world.

Kat Todorova

Sophie Lophey

My parents (gen x) definitely slow adulted. And I love that! They didn't have me young, so they never complain about missing out on important milestones that people have when they don't have kids in their thirties. I feel like my parents really lived before they married and had me, so I will do the same.

Mir. Ella

3y↑1

Also what makes "adulting" really hard at least for me is social expectation that to be a grown up, actual person you have to be in a relationship - I'm 24 and still not married nor having a kid and I have to deal on a daily basis with people, even my coworkers, treating me becuase of that like I'm just a child who "pretends" to be an actual person and who's opinion never matters (I'm not sure if I'm millenial or gen Z tho)

Halley Angel

3y↑1

When I was 16 my dad told me to enjoy being young don't let go of being young.

I'm 26 and I still love video games and toys while advancing as a adult. You wouldn't know that by meeting me since I act like a child at heart.

She_wizzdom

3y↑2

Thank you so much! That was beautiful ❤ I am senior genZ and I agree that adulting is one big roller coaster ride

Geneva Rockeman

3y↑1

Shout-out to J.R.R. Tolkien who tried to normalize being messy and ridiculous in your 20's. Merry and Pippin were in their 'tweens' or between 20 and 33 and were, therefore, totally expected to act like they did. I fully support this life timeline.

Lobiwan

3y↑8

This was kinda painful to watch because I hella felt this all in my heart and soul. I’m glad I watched it tho, it was a good video

Sunshine 🌿

11:25 external markers of adulthood = maturity !!!
11:59 you're not alone in this!! this is so comforting
14:04 it's also okay to hold onto your passions! Even if they aren't strictly "adulty"

Jaz Nought

I'm 28 and feel like I just turned 20 in some ways and in some ways I feel like I'm 40. But I am most definitely not a responsible adult and it gives me a shit ton of anxiety. If I could just accept it and embrace it, I'd feel a lot less like a failure in life. This video really helped give me a new perspective on things, thank you.

Mia B-P

3y↑2

At 19 now, all I need to do is be able to manage my money well, eat healthy, be more punctual, and keep the house clean. If I can learn all that, I think I can manage the rest of adulting. I mean, those are the areas I need to improve on. I still do those things, but I'm not sure if I could do that alone and independently. I still feel like a teenager even if I'm an adult. I think I have to be more responsible and motivated.

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