Better Man
Taylor Swift Lyrics


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I know I'm probably better off on my own
Than lovin' a man who didn't know what he had when he had it
And I see the permanent damage you did to me
Never again, I just wish I could forget when it was magic

I wish it wasn't 4 AM, standin' in the mirror
Sayin' to myself, you know you had to do it
I know the bravest thing I ever did was run

Sometimes, in the middle of the night, I can feel you again
But I just miss you, and I just wish you were a better man
I know why we had to say goodbye like the back of my hand
But I just miss you, and I just wish you were a better man
A better man

I know I'm probably better off all alone
Than needin' a man who could change his mind at any given minute
And it was always on your terms, I waited on every careless word
Hopin' they might turn sweet again, like it was in the beginning

But your jealousy, oh, I can hear it now
Talkin' down to me like I'd always be around
Push my love away like it was some kind of loaded gun
Oh, you never thought I'd run

Sometimes, in the middle of the night, I can feel you again
But I just miss you, and I just wish you were a better man
I know why we had to say goodbye like the back of my hand
But I just miss you, and I just wish you were a better man
A better man

I hold onto this pride because these days, it's all I have
And I gave to you my best and we both know you can't say that

I wish you were a better man
I wonder what we would've become if you were a better man
We might still be in love if you were a better man
You would've been the one if you were a better man
Yeah, yeah

Sometimes, in the middle of the night, I can feel you again
But I just miss you, and I just wish you were a better man
I know why we had to say goodbye like the back of my hand
But I just miss you, and I just wish you were a better man
A better man
(Sometimes, in the middle of the night, I can feel you again)
We might still be in love if you were a better man
(But I just miss you, and I just wish you were a better man)
Yeah, yeah
I know why we had to say goodbye like the back of my hand
But I just miss you, and I just wish you were a better man
A better man




We might still be in love if you were a better man
You would've been the one if you were a better man

Overall Meaning

The song "Better Man" by Taylor Swift is about a woman who is reflecting on her past relationship with a man who didn't appreciate her and treated her poorly. The woman acknowledges that she is better off without him, but she misses what they had and wishes he had been a better man. She describes the permanent damage that he caused and the emotional toll it had on her. The woman knows that the bravest thing she ever did was leave him, even though it was hard to do.


The chorus of the song repeats the line, "Sometimes, in the middle of the night, I can feel you again, But I just miss you, and I just wish you were a better man." This line conveys the conflicting emotions that the woman feels – she misses him, but she knows that the relationship wasn't healthy and she wishes he had been a better partner.


In the final verse, the woman holds onto her pride and acknowledges that she gave him her best, but he couldn't do the same for her. She wonders what could have been if he had been a better man, and if they could still be together if he had treated her better.


Overall, "Better Man" is a poignant reflection on a toxic relationship and the conflicting emotions that come with a breakup. It highlights the importance of treating your partner with respect and appreciation, and the lasting impact that a bad relationship can have.


Line by Line Meaning

I know I'm probably better off on my own
I understand that being alone is better than being in a relationship where the other person is unaware of what they had.


Than lovin' a man who didn't know what he had when he had it
Being in love with someone who didn't recognize the value of our relationship was a bad choice.


And I see the permanent damage you did to me
You inflicted permanent emotional harm on me that I am still dealing with.


Never again, I just wish I could forget when it was magic
I don't want to go through this again, and I wish I could erase the memories of when things were good between us.


I wish it wasn't 4 AM, standin' in the mirror
I wish I wasn't constantly plagued by thoughts of you, especially when I'm alone with my thoughts in the early hours of the morning.


Sayin' to myself, you know you had to do it
Reminding myself that ending our relationship was the right thing to do, even though it was difficult.


I know the bravest thing I ever did was run
Leaving you was one of the bravest things I have ever done, even though it hurt me deeply.


I know why we had to say goodbye like the back of my hand
I understand completely why we had to end things, it is as familiar to me as the back of my hand.


But I just miss you, and I just wish you were a better man
I still miss you, but I wish you had been the person I thought you were and treated me better.


I know I'm probably better off all alone
Being alone is likely better for me than being with someone who can change his mind on a whim.


Than needin' a man who could change his mind at any given minute
Being with a man who could flip on our relationship at any moment was not something I needed in my life.


And it was always on your terms, I waited on every careless word
I always had to conform to your needs, and I hung onto your every word even if it was thoughtless.


Hopin' they might turn sweet again, like it was in the beginning
I hoped that you would go back to treating me well, like you did in the early days of our relationship.


But your jealousy, oh, I can hear it now
Your jealousy was a burden on our relationship, and I can still hear it in my mind.


Talkin' down to me like I'd always be around
You talked down to me like I was always going to be there, as if you didn't value my presence.


Push my love away like it was some kind of loaded gun
You treated my love like it was a dangerous weapon and pushed it away from you.


Oh, you never thought I'd run
You never thought I would have the strength to leave, but I did.


I hold onto this pride because these days, it's all I have
I cling to my pride because it's one of the few things I have left after everything that has happened between us.


And I gave to you my best and we both know you can't say that
I put my best self into our relationship, and we both know you didn't do the same.


I wish you were a better man
I wish you were the kind of person who would have treated me with the respect and love I deserved.


I wonder what we would've become if you were a better man
I can't help but think about what could have been if you had been a better person and partner.


We might still be in love if you were a better man
If you had been a better partner, we might still be together today.


You would've been the one if you were a better man
If you had abided by the qualities of a good partner, I might have seen you as the person I wanted to be with forever.




Lyrics © Universal Music Publishing Group
Written by: Taylor Alison Swift

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Most interesting comment from YouTube:

Michelle De La Fuente

Hace muy poco tiempo tuve que alejarme del hombre al que amaba... 💔😞
Amo las canciones de Taylor, pero a decir verdad admito que no había escuchado esta canción, no sé por qué no la conocía pero, llegó justo en este momento que me siento totalmente identificada con ella. 😔
Realmente amar a un hombre que no sabe lo que quiere y que no sabe valorar la mujer que eres cuándo te tiene es totalmente devastador 💔
Tuvimos una hermosa historia de amor al comienzo y a lo largo de nuestra relación, él me daba tanta paz, a su lado me sentía cómo con muy pocos hombres nunca me había sentido en mi vida, con él sentía que no me podría faltar nada más, él era mi lugar seguro y me hacía sentir que yo era el suyo también 😓
Me fui amándolo con todas mis fuerzas, pero en el fondo yo sabía que estaba tomando la decisión correcta, aunque me estuviera desangrando por dentro 😞💔
Lo extraño tanto... 😓
Pero él cambió, dejó de esforzarse, dejó de hacerme feliz, poco a poco me iba sintiendo más y más sola (a pesar de tenerlo a mi lado), con él viví un amor muy bonito y muy diferente, aprendí mucho, y se los juro; yo sí me veía a su lado amándonos por el resto de nuestros días y teniendo un futuro muy bonito, teníamos muchos planes y coincidíamos en tantas cosas.
Me resultó tan doloroso dejarlo.
Pero al mismo tiempo a su lado sólo me estaba sacrificando, yo terminé luchando por los dos y creo que eso es muy egoísta, el amor cuándo ya no es mutuo ya no sirve, uno solo no puede luchar por los dos.
Lo extraño demasiado, me duele que él haya dejado morir lo nuestro, no merecíamos un final así de vacío, sin duda merecíamos más.
Él llegó cómo una luz, una lucecita a mi vida cuándo estaba atravesando por un proceso doloroso, no lo esperaba ni lo buscaba pero llegó y me iluminó la vida de arcoíris 🌈
Ahora esa misma luz se la envío a él, para que ilumine su vida, le hace mucha falta amarse más para que ya no lastime a nadie.

Siempre te querré de una forma muy especial, te lo dije y te lo cumpliré...
Te amé muchísimo, pero cómo te dije una noche: "me amo mucho más a mi misma; y aunque me esté muriendo por dentro sé que lo mejor es que me vaya..."
Te amo Marco, me diste un amor muy bonito, aunque hubiese querido que nuestro desenlace no fuese tan doloroso.
Quizás algún día volvamos a encontrarnos y espero que para ese entonces ya no sienta ningún ápice de amor por ti, para poder tomar tu mano y desearte lo mejor... ❤
Y seguir adelante.
No supiste valorar lo que tuviste a mi lado, espero que enmiendes tu camino para que un día sí puedas hacer la cosas bien.
Mientras tanto yo seguiré adelante, aunque ya sin ti, ya no con el corazoncito lleno de ti, ni de tu amor, ni de tus locuras y sin tu sonrisa de fábula y tus preciosos ojos verdes; pero sí con recuerdos muy bonitos y habiendo preferido que tú hubieses sido un mejor hombre para mi, quizás de ese modo lo nuestro jamás hubiera tenido final... cómo diste esta rolita de Tay. 🤞🏻✨



All comments from YouTube:

Juan Pablo García Ayala

I am a rock and metal guy, but last year I started listening to Taylor Swift. I started with Folklore and Evermore, and those were absolutely phenomenal and helped me with my anxiety. Now I know all her songs. Her music and lyrics are beyond beautiful.

Stephanie Jackson

She speaks to people across genres and ages. She has some very beautiful songs.

Saoirse Tully

For me, when she did a song with Bon Iver - She's ethereal. It confirmed my love.

Rubaiya Alam Raiya

I have the same experience as you!

eliz964

My job in 2020 was very stressful and I had a ton of anxiety due to it. Folklore and evermore also helped me calm my mind. It's amazing what music can do.

Ellen Grace

She’s incredibly talented, on many levels - songwriter, musician, businesswoman, performer, and human. I went to her concert in Philly with my niece about 7 years ago. We had great seats and were surrounded by Swifties. It was a blast but what those teenagers didn’t understand yet was how her music is timeless. I’m now 59 and this song really hits home on my last relationship with a 61 year old man. Taylor is a universal force! ❤

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Sarah Williams

Left an abusive relationship. The right thing but doesn’t take away the grief. This song has always hit hard. Thank you Taylor.

Steph

Hope you found your better man :)

Amanda Poteet

Same!

S R

Same, girl. This song always hit so very close to home for me. I can't count how many times I've listened. Always strangely comforting.

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