"How You Get The Girl" is about how to show someone you care and get them back i… Read Full Bio ↴"How You Get The Girl" is about how to show someone you care and get them back in your life. The song talks about how to stand up to the person you want to be with, and how to never give up believing that everything will be alright. The chorus speaks to how the singer will wait forever and ever if they need to, in order to show the person they love, how much they care and to win them back for better or for worse. This song is about staying committed, no matter how much time passes or heartbreak is endured, and promises that things will work out in the end, as long as you remain dedicated to winning the heart of the one you love.

How You Get the Girl
Taylor Swift Lyrics

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(Oh oh oh)
(Oh oh oh, oh oh, oh oh)
(Oh oh)

Stand there like a ghost
Shaking come the rain, rain
She'll open up the door
And say, are you insane, -ane?

Say it's been a long six months (oh oh oh, oh oh oh, oh oh, oh oh)
And you were too afraid to tell her what you want, want (oh oh oh, oh oh oh, oh oh, oh oh)

And that's how it works
That's how you get the girl

And then you say
I want you for worse or for better
I would wait for ever and ever
Broke your heart, I'll put it back together
I would wait for ever and ever

And that's how it works
That's how you get the girl, girl, oh
And that's how it works
That's how you get the girl, girl

Remind her how it used to be, be
Yeah, with pictures in frames of kisses on cheeks, cheeks
Tell her how you must've lost your mind (oh oh oh, oh oh oh, oh oh, oh oh)
When you left her all alone and never told her why, why (oh oh oh, oh oh oh, oh oh, oh oh)

And that's how it works
That's how you lost the girl

And now you say
I want you for worse or for better
I would wait for ever and ever (ever and ever)
Broke your heart, I'll put it back together
I would wait for ever and ever

And that's how it works
That's how you get the girl, girl, oh
And that's how it works
That's how you get the girl, girl, yeah

And you could know, oh
That I don't want you to go

Remind me how it used to be
Pictures in frames of kisses on cheeks
And say you want me, yeah, yeah

And then you say I want you for worse or for better (worse or for better)
I would wait for ever and ever (ever and ever)
Broke your heart, I'll put it back together
I would wait for ever and ever (I want you for ever and ever)

And that's how it works
That's how you get the girl, girl, oh
(That's how it works) and that's how it works
That's how you get the girl, girl, oh (get the girl)

(That's how it works) and that's how it works
That's how you get the girl, girl, oh
And that's how it works
That's how you get the girl, girl, oh

And that's how it works
That's how you got the girl

Overall Meaning

In "How You Get the Girl," Taylor Swift gives relationship advice on how to win back an ex-girlfriend. The song starts with Swift singing about standing in the rain outside of her house hoping for her to come back to him, but she questions his sanity. He admits that he was too afraid to tell her what he wanted when they were together which was the reason for their breakup. He then realizes that saying what he really wants and showing how much he is willing to do for her is how to win her back. He tells her that he will be there for her no matter what and that he will always be by her side through thick and thin. Swift sings about how reminding her of the good times they had and making her feel wanted once again is how to win back the girl.

The song speaks of the complexities of relationships and how important communication and showing your true feelings are in making them work. Sometimes, it takes losing something to realize what you want and to go after it. The song shows that even if you make mistakes in a relationship, you can still make up for them with patience, persistence, and love.

Interesting facts about "How You Get the Girl":

Interesting Facts
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Line by Line Meaning

Stand there like a ghost
Approach the girl tentatively, like a ghost, uncertain of how she will react

Shaking come the rain, rain
Overcome with doubt and anxiety, shaking like a leaf in the rain

She'll open up the door
If she's interested, she'll open up the door to the possibility of a relationship

And say, are you insane, -ane?
She may question your intentions and sanity for approaching her in this way

Say it's been a long six months
Acknowledge the amount of time that has passed since you were last in contact

And you were too afraid to tell her what you want, want
Admit that you were too scared to express your feelings for her

That's how you get the girl
This approach is the key to winning her over

And then you say
If you follow this strategy, you can then express your true feelings

I want you for worse or for better
Express your devotion to her, no matter the circumstances

I would wait for ever and ever
Promise to wait for her for as long as it takes, showing your commitment to the relationship

Broke your heart, I'll put it back together
Acknowledge if you've hurt her in the past, and promise to make things right

Remind her how it used to be, be
Take her back to happier times, reminding her of the good memories you shared

Yeah, with pictures in frames of kisses on cheeks, cheeks
Use visual aids to trigger positive memories, like pictures of special moments and affectionate displays

Tell her how you must've lost your mind
Admit that leaving her was foolish and you regret it

When you left her all alone and never told her why, why
Acknowledge if you failed to communicate and left her in the dark, causing confusion and hurt

That's how you lost the girl
This is how you lost her in the first place, by failing to communicate and show your love

And you could know, oh That I don't want you to go
Make it clear that you do not want to lose her again

And say you want me, yeah, yeah
Reinforce that you want her back in your life

That's how you got the girl
By showing your devotion and commitment to the relationship, you have successfully won her over

Lyrics © Universal Music Publishing Group, Kobalt Music Publishing Ltd.
Written by: Max Martin, Johan Karl Schuster, Taylor Alison Swift

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