If I Can't Have You
The Flamingos Lyrics


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I still can't believe it, I can't see it
I should just stop counting days
On the subject of the future
Wouldn't it be nice to leave it open-ended
And pretend it could go either way?
If I could have you back again
I'd think about it once or twice, I guess
If I could have you back
I'd reconsider, maybe I'd say, yes
On the other hand it would be
Better to have a life
Without the constant indecision over
If I could have you back, if I could have you back
On the topic of the time we spent together
I can't say I never wondered
If you ever think about these days
If I could have you back again
I'd think about it once or twice, I guess
If I could have you back
I'd reconsider, maybe I'd say, yes
On the other hand it would be
Better to have a life
Without the constant indecision over
If I could have you back
It's game over, you've lost this round
And now I get to turn you down
Thanks for all the lessons learned
I'm taking in what I have heard
Practice makes perfect
If I could have you back again
I'd think about it once or twice, I guess
If I could have you back
I'd reconsider, maybe I'd say, yes
On the other hand it would be
Better to have a life
Without the constant indecision
If I could have you back again
I'd think about it once or twice, I guess
If I could have you back
I'd reconsider, maybe I'd say yes
On the other hand it would be
Better to have a life
Without the constant indecision over
If I could have you back, if I could have you back




I still can't believe it, I can't see it
I should just stop counting days

Overall Meaning

The Flamingos's "If I Can't Have You" is a song about regret and indecision in a past relationship. The lyrics express the desire to have a former partner back, yet at the same time the uncertainty and fear of making the wrong choice. The singer is grappling with the idea of whether it's better to have a life without their former partner or to take the risk of possibly rekindling the relationship.


The opening verse shows the singer coming to terms with the end of the relationship and the battle between wanting to move on and longing for their old flame. The lyric "I should just stop counting days" shows that the singer may have been waiting or hoping for a reconciliation which may never come. The chorus expresses the confusion and conflict within the singer's mind. The singer admits that if given the chance to have their partner back, they would hesitate and consider whether it's truly what they want.


The second verse is reflective and shows that the singer hasn't fully moved on. The lyrics suggest that the two shared an intimate connection, and the singer wonders if their former partner thinks about those moments as well. But despite these thoughts and feelings, the singer still has doubts about whether the relationship is worth pursuing once again. The bridge seems to be a resolution of sorts - the singer acknowledges that the relationship is over and that they have learned valuable lessons from it. However, the final line of the song, "I should just stop counting days," shows that there is still a sense of longing and uncertainty in the singer's heart.


Line by Line Meaning

I still can't believe it, I can't see it
I am in disbelief about what has happened and cannot comprehend it


I should just stop counting days
I should stop obsessing over the past and focus on the present


On the subject of the future
When it comes to thinking about what's to come


Wouldn't it be nice to leave it open-ended
It would be pleasant to not have a definite plan and leave possibilities open


And pretend it could go either way?
To imagine that the situation could have a positive or negative outcome


If I could have you back again
If I could have a second chance with you


I'd think about it once or twice, I guess
I would consider the possibility of being with you again briefly


I'd reconsider, maybe I'd say, yes
I would think again and possibly agree to try again


On the other hand it would be
Looking at things from a different perspective


Better to have a life
It's best to live a life


Without the constant indecision over
Without the constant questioning and hesitation about


If I could have you back
If I could have another chance with you


On the topic of the time we spent together
When thinking about the period we spent together


I can't say I never wondered
I have wondered


If you ever think about these days
If you ever reflect on the moments we shared


It's game over, you've lost this round
The game of love is finished, and you've failed


And now I get to turn you down
And now I have the opportunity to reject you


Thanks for all the lessons learned
Thank you for teaching me valuable lessons


I'm taking in what I have heard
I am absorbing and processing what I have learned


Practice makes perfect
Repetition and hard work can lead to mastery




Writer(s): C. Gonzales

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Comments from YouTube:

azdoowop

WOW - 69 years ago from 1953 and it still rocks my soul.

acrucker

Another Masterpiece for future generations to enjoy!  Thank you,  Flamingos!

Dee McC

I can listen to this group EVERY day (in fact, when I get into my car, I automatically flip to their CD)  thanks for posting.

Steve

What? You don't have a '53 Buick to listen in? ;)  Thx for visiting my channel.

Dee McC

lol, nope sold it

gary sosenko

One of my favorite groups.. real classy... always thought Golden Teardrops was their first ( but just found out it was their 3rd release)

bigarnie41

One of the best ever R&B leads ever! The Great Sollie McElory I could listen to this all day

215barry

This was The Flamingos first record for Chance out of Chicago. The leads on this are Solly McElroy and Johnny Carter from March 1953. Also in the group at this time Jake and Zeke Carey and Judah Byrd.

Ruben Quiroz

THIS MY ALL TIME FAVORITE OF THE FLAMINGOS. THANK YOU FOR POSTING.

nenazpuppy

This is a bad ass jam 🎵
Love it ❤ ❤
Great post again Steve 👍

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