I Don't Depend On You
The Men Lyrics


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The night
So young
You could lose
You could gain
Your temperature's rising
Better pull into the outside lane
You always say you're not the jealous kind
Then you tell all your friends that I've got one thing on my mind

I've played this scene before, you had one foot in the door
But there's always plenty more, don't try to use me
I don't depend on you, I've got my own friends too
I'll never be your wife, don't try to use me
I've played this scene before, you had one foot in the door
But there's always plenty more, don't try to use me

It's cruel but it's true, I don't depend on you
It's cruel but it's true, go back to the end of the queue

I've played this scene before, you had one foot in the door
But there's always plenty more, don't try to use me
I don't depend on you, I've got my own friends too
I'll never be your wife, don't try to use me
I've played this scene before, you had one foot in the door
But there's always plenty more, don't try to use me

The night, so young
You could lose, you could gain
Your temperature's rising
Better pull into the outside lane
You always say you're not the jealous kind
Then you tell all your friends that I've got one thing on my mind

I've played this scene before, you had one foot in the door
But there's always plenty more, don't try to use me
I don't depend on you, I've got my own friends too
I'll never be your wife, don't try to use me
I've played this scene before, you had one foot in the door
But there's always plenty more, don't try to use me

It's cruel but it's true, I don't depend on you
It's cruel but it's true, go back to the end of the queue





It's cruel but it's true, I don't depend on you
It's cruel but it's true, go back to the end of the queue

Overall Meaning

The Men's song "I Don't Depend On You" is a bold statement of personal independence and self-respect. The lyrics describe a relationship in which the singer refuses to be used, even though it would be easy to do so. The first verse sets the scene of a young couple, with the temperature rising both literally and emotionally. The singer warns the other person to pull over to the outside lane, perhaps meaning that they should slow down or take a break before things get out of hand. The next few lines address the other person's jealousy and the way they gossip about the singer. The second verse repeats the idea that the singer has been through this before and won't be used. The chorus reinforces this sentiment, with the singer stating that they have their own friends and won't be anyone's wife. The final lines are a repetition of the opening verse, hammering home the message that the other person should stop looking to use the singer and go to the back of the line.


Overall, "I Don't Depend On You" is a song about emotional strength and standing up for oneself in relationships. The lyrics suggest that the singer has been hurt in the past and has learned from those experiences, making them less vulnerable to manipulation. While the other person in the song might think they have the upper hand, they are mistaken – the singer has more power than they realize.


Line by Line Meaning

The night
The current situation, generally nighttime


So young
Full of promise and possibility


You could lose
You have the ability to fail or miss out


You could gain
You have the ability to succeed or win


Your temperature's rising
Your emotions are becoming more intense


Better pull into the outside lane
You should take a step back and re-evaluate


You always say you're not the jealous kind
You claim to be secure and trusting in the relationship


Then you tell all your friends that I've got one thing on my mind
But you still gossip and spread rumors about me


I've played this scene before, you had one foot in the door
This situation is familiar, you've been here before, with one foot out the door


But there's always plenty more, don't try to use me
There are other options, don't manipulate or take advantage of me


I don't depend on you, I've got my own friends too
I am independent, I have my own support system


I'll never be your wife, don't try to use me
I won't commit to you, don't try to take advantage of me


It's cruel but it's true, I don't depend on you
It may be harsh, but it's reality, I don't need you to survive


It's cruel but it's true, go back to the end of the queue
Face the truth, you're not a priority or a necessity in my life




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Written by: MARSH, OAKEY, WARE

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Wolfgang

Listened again today and after knowing and loving this for 40 years for the first time it occured to me that the subject of this song (a woman declaring her independence) is basically the same as in "Don't You Want Me". Maybe my English was too bad back in the day to notice.

The Last Guitar Hero

always loved the bass on this

maribel bermudez

I love this song. Human league is fabulous 💋💋💋💋💋💋💋

Gil Reed

instrumental version is the best !!

toitoitoy

It is called Cruel

cbkbstudio

Some prototypical sounds for "Don't You Want Me" in the beginning, and then some "Being Boiled" stabs towards the end!

JUAN PABLO ARENA

And "Love action"

thdraws

Listening to this now, it does seem to be a template for the sound Oakey & co evolved into.

Ashley Pomeroy

I love the little "bong" noise at 03:10

Ian Craig

Edwyn was thinking of this when he wrote Rip It Up, I always thought.

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