Only The Lonely
The Motels Lyrics


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We walked the loneliest mile
We smile without any style
We kiss all together wrong
No intention

We lie about each other's drinks
We live without each other
Thinking what anyone would do
Without me and you

It's like I told you
Only the lonely can play

So hold on here we go
Hold on to nothin' we know
I feel so lonely
Way up here

You mention the time we were together
So long ago well I don't remember
All I know is it makes me feel good now

It's like I told you only the lonely can play
Only the lonely only the lonely can play

Only the lonely only the lonely can play
It's like I told you only the lonely can play




Only the lonely
Only the lonely can play

Overall Meaning

The Motels' popular 1982 song "Only the Lonely" speaks about a couple who seem to have lost their way in their relationship, walking a "loneliest mile." Despite their bodies close together, their style of smiling and kissing is not on point, without any intention behind it. The lyrics go on to say how they lie about each other's drinks, and whilst they may live together, they're not living together anymore. They wonder what anyone would do without each other, implying the unhealthy codependency they have developed.


The chorus, "It's like I told you, only the lonely can play" speaks to the sense of isolation that has developed between the two of them. They're alone together, and the only ones who understand the struggle are themselves. The song conveys the sadness of realizing that the relationship is no longer fulfilling, however, they still hold onto the memories of when it was. Towards the end of the song, the lyrics illustrate the effect those memories have on the singer, the mere mention of the time they were together makes them feel good, even if they don't remember much about it. The final verses of the song repeat the chorus, implying that the loneliness felt in relationships is a common, yet often overlooked experience.


Line by Line Meaning

We walked the loneliest mile
We have experienced a deep sense of loneliness, as if we have been walking an incredibly long and isolated path without any companionship.


We smile without any style
When we try to put on a happy face, it comes across as forced, lacking any kind of genuine charm or charisma.


We kiss all together wrong
When we embrace, our kisses are not passionate or romantic, but instead awkward and devoid of any real feeling.


No intention
Our actions towards each other lack any real purpose or meaning, as if we are simply going through the motions without any real connection or emotion.


We lie about each other's drinks
We fabricate stories and make up false details about one another's lives, maybe to appear more interesting or to hide our true selves from each other.


We live without each other
Despite being in each other's lives, we seem to be fundamentally alone and disconnected, as if we each exist in separate worlds that never truly intersect.


Thinking what anyone would do
We ponder what others would think of us and our situation, perhaps because we don't really know how we should be feeling or what we should be doing in this lonely state.


Without me and you
We imagine what life would be like without each other, almost as if we are tempting fate or daring each other to leave and break the loneliness we have created.


It's like I told you
As if to emphasize a previously discussed point or confirm a suspicion, the artist asserts that their loneliness is a unique experience that only certain people can truly understand.


Only the lonely can play
The artist suggests that only those who have experienced deep loneliness can truly understand and relate to their situation, as if it is a kind of exclusive and isolating club.


So hold on here we go
Perhaps a plea for togetherness or a desire to hold on to whatever small moments of connection they can find, the singer urges their partner to stay despite the difficulties.


Hold on to nothin' we know
As if acknowledging that their relationship isn't built on anything solid, the artist encourages their partner to hold on despite the uncertainty and lack of any real foundation.


I feel so lonely
The singer's loneliness is overwhelming and all-encompassing, a pervasive feeling that colors everything they do and think.


Way up here
As if physically separated from others or somehow elevated from the rest of the world, the singer feels completely isolated and alone.


You mention the time we were together
The singer's partner brings up a time when they were happy and connected, as if trying to remind them of what they used to have or what they might still be able to find.


So long ago well I don't remember
Despite the small glimmer of hope their partner offers, the artist cannot remember the connection they once shared, suggesting that they have become fully consumed by their loneliness.


All I know is it makes me feel good now
Although they can't remember their past, the artist finds comfort in their present state of loneliness, perhaps because it is a familiar feeling that they have grown used to over time.


Only the lonely only the lonely can play
Repeating the earlier sentiment, the singer suggests that their loneliness is still an exclusive and unique experience, reserved for those who can understand and relate to their isolation.


Only the lonely can play
A final affirmation of their repeated argument, the singer suggests that their loneliness is not something that can be easily shared or understood, leaving them forever separated from others despite their deep desire for connection.




Lyrics © Reservoir Media Management, Inc.
Written by: Martha Emily Davis

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@DRourk

@@lazyway4555 Untrue...

The answer is complex, but it's not that. Music was dying long before people stopped buying records or CDs.

The 80s was the last of 3 amazing decades of music and the last of 6 amazing decades of movies. Yes, there's some good stuff since, but there's a marked decline in the quality of creativity coming out of Hollywood and the music world since.

There are more amazing songs and more amazing movies in any given year between ~1960-1990 than there is in an entire decade since 2000. The early 90s through the mid 00s is when the sharp decline occurred.

The why is indeed complex, but corporate greed and the propensity of the average Joe to fall for the corporate media marketing nonsense had quite a lot do with it.



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@jonpaul3866

IT'S ALMOST 2024 WHO IS STILL LISTENING TO THIS 1982 CLASSIC?

@armorup10

Loved the Motels still listen to them .My Favorite 80's Music So Timeless....

@microminiskirt

ME TOO AND IT'S NOW 2024 AND THIS SONG IS BETTER THAN ANY OF THIS NEW NOISE THEY CALL MUSIC.@@armorup10

@matthewkeating5963

Yep, and on vinyl.

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YES YOU GOT THAT RIGHT!
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@jonpaul3866

IT'S 2024 AND THIS SOUNDS BETTER THAN ANYTHING TODAY WHICH IS THAT NOISE TODAY THEY CALL MUSIC.🤢🤮@@armorup10

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@shawnstarks1743

Unless you lived it, you will never understand what the early days of MTV meant to so many people. This is a song that makes you stop what your doing, listen, reminisce, and sometimes tear up about an era long ago. (SMH)

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Rigth on

@sylvia22772

I’m listening to this ‘80’s classic in 2024 🎉

@joncabotxox9389

It’s still not the same as actually living in that awesome era. I miss it soooo much!!!

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