Reasonable Man
The National Lyrics


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I don't mind losing a girl to herself
A quiet love is better than none
And I don't mind losing a friend to a friend
If only to be a reasonable man

And I don't mind waiting if it's for the best
A careful heart is better than none
I don't mind painting my back with the past
Pictures in resolute pain
Smoothing the laugh o'er the lane

But if it happens to you
The same kind of deal
I recommend fire
Instead of the fool

I don't mind shaking your hand at the door
If only to be a resolute man (Pictures in resolute pain)
If only to be a resolute man
If only to be a resolute man

But if it happens to you
The same kind of deal
I recommend fire
Instead of the fool

I don't mind shaking your hand at the door
If only to be a resolute man (Pictures in resolute pain)
If only to be a resolute man
If only to be a resolute man





If only to be a reasonable man
If only to be a reasonable man

Overall Meaning

The National's song "Reasonable Man" is a reflective and melancholic piece that centers around the theme of acceptance and loss. The opening lines reveal the singer's resignation to losing a loved one to their own self, indicating his willingness to give her space to explore her own self in her own way. He acknowledges that a relationship which turns out to be quiet and uneventful is still better than having none. He further expands on this theme in the next line, admitting that losing a friend to another friend - again, if it means being reasonable - is worthwhile. The singer speaks of being a "reasonable man," indicating that he is willing to forgo his own desires and aspirations if it's what's best for everyone.


The second half of the song delves into the singer's past and how he has chosen to deal with it. He paints a vivid image of his "resolute pain" and "laugh o'er the lane," suggesting that he has carried the weight of his experiences with him but has also learnt to cope with them. The final lines of the song speak of the singer's advice to others going through the same experiences. He recommends using fire - a metaphor for dealing with pain, instead of foolishly ignoring it.


Overall, "Reasonable Man" is a hauntingly beautiful track that forces the listener to confront their own sense of loss and coping mechanisms.


Line by Line Meaning

I don't mind losing a girl to herself
I am fine if my relationship with someone ends because they are focused on finding and bettering themselves.


A quiet love is better than none
Being with someone who doesn't speak or connect in the way that you are accustomed to is still better than being alone.


And I don't mind losing a friend to a friend
I am okay with a friend prioritizing another friend if it benefits their relationship.


If only to be a reasonable man
I do this action in order to be considered reasonable and understandable.


And I don't mind waiting if it's for the best
I am willing to be patient if it is the best option for the situation.


A careful heart is better than none
I would rather be cautious in my feelings than not have any emotion at all.


I don't mind painting my back with the past
I am willing to acknowledge and carry the weight of my past experiences.


Pictures in resolute pain
Having memories that elicit strong emotions from personal strength rather than fragility.


Smoothing the laugh o'er the lane
Overcoming past wounds with grace and optimism.


But if it happens to you
If this same scenario happens to you in the future...


The same kind of deal
The same type of outcome or situation.


I recommend fire instead of the fool
I advise a drastic action such as severing ties completely rather than continuing to tolerate foolhardy behavior.


I don't mind shaking your hand at the door
I am willing to part on good terms and with mutual respect.


If only to be a resolute man (Pictures in resolute pain)
This statement refers to earlier mentioned idea of being strong and unwavering despite harrowing experiences.


If only to be a reasonable man
I am doing these things in order to be seen as someone who is level-headed and practical.




Lyrics © BMG Rights Management, TUXEDO MUSIC
Written by: Billy Cioffi, Mickey Mcgee

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