Sugar Wife
The National Lyrics


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sugar wife
sugar wife
sugar wife
can you make me a man
baby doll can you make me a dad

I'm no butterfly (repeats)
if you tried to make a miracle
you never shoulda tried
if you tried to make a miracle
sugar wife
baby doll

can you make me a man
can you make me a dad
can you make me a man
can you make me a dad





sugar wife

Overall Meaning

The National's song "Sugar Wife" is a haunting ballad that explores the complexities of relationships, specifically the role of a spouse or partner in one's personal growth and development. The repeated refrain of "sugar wife, can you make me a man? Baby doll, can you make me a dad?" is a poignant plea for support and validation, as the singer grapples with his own limitations and insecurities. At the same time, there is an underlying sense of frustration and resignation, as if the singer has realized that he cannot rely on anyone else to "make" him into the person he wants to be.


The line "I'm no butterfly" adds further nuance to the song's themes of self-acceptance and transformation. The butterfly is a symbol of metamorphosis and change, but the singer acknowledges that he is not this mythical creature - he is a flawed, human being with all the complexities and contradictions that entails. This is echoed in the lines "if you tried to make a miracle, you never shoulda tried" - perhaps a recognition that there are no easy solutions or quick fixes to the challenges that we face.


Overall, "Sugar Wife" is a poignant reflection on the ways in which our relationships shape us, and the extent to which we are responsible for our own personal growth and development. It is a deeply introspective and emotional song, and one that will resonate with anyone who has ever struggled to reconcile their own desires and ambitions with the expectations placed upon them by others.


Line by Line Meaning

sugar wife
Addressing the sugar wife, who is likely a romantic partner or spouse.


sugar wife
Repeating the address to the sugar wife for emphasis.


sugar wife
Repeating the address to the sugar wife once again for further emphasis.


can you make me a man
Asking the sugar wife if she has the ability to transform the artist into a mature and responsible adult.


baby doll can you make me a dad
Asking if the sugar wife can also help the artist become a father figure and provider for a child.


I'm no butterfly (repeats)
Repeating the assertion that the singer is not a fragile and ephemeral creature like a butterfly.


if you tried to make a miracle
Imagining a scenario where the sugar wife attempts to perform a miraculous feat.


you never shoulda tried
Suggesting that attempting such a feat is impossible and a mistake.


if you tried to make a miracle
Repeating the hypothetical scenario for emphasis.


sugar wife
Addressing the sugar wife once again.


baby doll
Using a term of endearment to refer to the sugar wife.


can you make me a man
Repeating the request to the sugar wife to make the artist into an adult.


can you make me a dad
Repeating the request to the sugar wife to help the singer become a father figure.


can you make me a man
Repeating the request with urgency to the sugar wife.


can you make me a dad
Repeating the request with even greater urgency to the sugar wife.


sugar wife
Ending the song with a final address to the sugar wife.




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Written by: AARON DESSNER, MATTHEW BERNINGER

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