You Were a Kindness
The National Lyrics


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I was in a fog, I didn't notice everything
Was coming all apart inside of me
There wasn't any way for anyone to settle in
You made a slow disaster out of me

There's a radiant darkness upon us
But I don't want you to worry
I was careful, but nothing is harmless
Baby, you better hurry

You were a kindness when I was a stranger
But I wouldn't ask for what I didn't need
Everything's weird and we're always in danger
Why would you shatter somebody like me?

It doesn't work that way
Wanting not to want you won't make it so
It doesn't work that way
Don't leave me here alone

I'll do what I can to be a confident wreck
Can't feel this way forever, I mean
There wasn't any way for anyone to settle in
You made a slow disaster out of me

There's a radiant darkness upon us
But I don't want you to worry
I was careful, but nothing is harmless
Baby, you better hurry

You were a kindness when I was a stranger
But I wouldn't ask for what I didn't need
Everything's weird and we're always in danger
Why would you shatter somebody like me?

It doesn't work that way
Wanting not to want you won't make it so
It doesn't work that way
Don't leave me here alone

It doesn't work that way
Wanting not to want you won't make it so




It doesn't work that way
Don't leave me here alone

Overall Meaning

The National's song "You Were a Kindness" is a reflective and emotional piece about feeling lost, broken, and in need of comfort. The singer describes feeling like everything was falling apart and that they were becoming a disaster. Despite feeling overwhelmed, they find solace in the kindness and generosity of a stranger. The words "You were a kindness when I was a stranger" highlight the importance of empathy and human connection in moments of distress. The refrain "It doesn't work that way, wanting not to want you won't make it so" suggests that the singer is grappling with conflicting emotions, trying to resist falling too deeply for this stranger for fear of being hurt, but unable to control their feelings.


The song's haunting imagery is further amplified through the repeated line "There's a radiant darkness upon us," which could be interpreted as a metaphor for the weight of depression and despair that surrounds the singer. They acknowledge that nothing is harmless, and that even the kindness of a stranger can be a double-edged sword. The final lines of the song - "Don't leave me here alone" - plead for the stranger not to abandon them in their moment of need, cementing the importance of human connection.


Overall, "You Were a Kindness" is a melancholy yet beautiful testament to the power of kindness, empathy, and connection. The lyrics convey a sense of vulnerability, honesty, and authenticity that is characteristic of The National's music.


Line by Line Meaning

I was in a fog, I didn't notice everything
I was unaware and lost, and I couldn't see everything clearly


Was coming all apart inside of me
I was falling apart emotionally and mentally


There wasn't any way for anyone to settle in
No one could get close or truly understand me


You made a slow disaster out of me
Your presence caused chaos and destruction in my life, little by little


There's a radiant darkness upon us
There's a powerful and ominous force hovering over us


But I don't want you to worry
Despite the darkness surrounding us, I don't want you to be anxious or concerned


I was careful, but nothing is harmless
I tried to be cautious, but everything carries some degree of risk


Baby, you better hurry
We need to act fast to protect ourselves and our relationship


You were a kindness when I was a stranger
You were gentle and compassionate towards me when we first met


But I wouldn't ask for what I didn't need
I wouldn't pretend to require something from you that I didn't actually need


Everything's weird and we're always in danger
Life is unpredictable and dangerous, and we never know what might happen next


Why would you shatter somebody like me?
Why would you want to hurt and break someone as fragile as me?


It doesn't work that way
It's not as simple as just wanting or not wanting something


Wanting not to want you won't make it so
Trying to convince myself that I don't want you won't actually change my feelings


Don't leave me here alone
Please don't abandon me and leave me to navigate the challenges of life by myself


I'll do what I can to be a confident wreck
I'll try to appear strong and put-together, even though I'm really a mess inside


Can't feel this way forever, I mean
I know that my current state of mind won't last forever




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