That Kind of Man
The Nylons Lyrics


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People say I'm a happy go-lucky guy
When the music and wine start to flow
I go to discos and gay cabarets
Unable to let myself go

Some people live to be the life of the party
Lampshade hat and they're away to the races
So many people loving so many lovers
Takin' everybody to some strangers place

Don't get me wrong I've had my share of affairs
I've had some hot nights singin' one night stands
But right up front I think it's only fair
To tell you I've got different plans

[Chorus]
That's not the way I am
I'm not that kind of man
It's not that I am shy
I'm just not that kind of guy
So if you feel the same
You're tired of playing games
Then try to understand
That I'm not that kind of man

A lot of people take their loving too lightly
They change emotions like they're changing their clothes
They come alive and thrive on new lovers nightly
How they do it I don't know, 'cause

[Chorus]

If you see him standing on the edge of the action
You think he's only playing it cool
He's only looking for a little sweet satisfaction
I'm tired of being somebody's fool

So if you spot me on the fringe of the party
Holding up the walls with hot and hungry eyes
Don't be afraid to say hello to a stranger
You just might like your surprise

[Chorus]

Overall Meaning

The lyrics to The Nylons' song "That Kind of Man" explore the theme of self-identity and not conforming to societal expectations. The first verse describes the singer's reputation as a partygoer who loves music and wine but struggles to let go and have fun in discos and gay cabarets. The second verse talks about the party culture, where people love many lovers and live to be the life of the party. The chorus then declares that the singer is not like that and has different plans. The third verse discusses people who take their love-life too easily and change emotions as if changing clothes. The final verse encourages the audience to step forward and say hello to the singer, who is tired of being somebody's fool.


The song's theme of self-identity and not conforming to stereotypes is relatable to many people. The tone of the song is melancholic and reflective, imbuing it with sincerity and authenticity. The phrase "That Kind of Man" is repeated a few times in the song, emphasizing the singer's willingness to challenge normative culture. The song's mood is characterized by the juxtaposition of a party atmosphere with the internal struggle of the singer, who wants to be himself but is struggling to do so.


Line by Line Meaning

People say I'm a happy go-lucky guy
People perceive me as someone who is cheerful and carefree


When the music and wine start to flow
In social situations where music and alcohol are present


I go to discos and gay cabarets
I enjoy going to nightclubs and gay entertainment venues


Unable to let myself go
Struggling to fully immerse myself in the experience


Some people live to be the life of the party
There are those who thrive on being the center of attention


Lampshade hat and they're away to the races
They are quick to indulge and pursue any fleeting desire


So many people loving so many lovers
There are a lot of people who engage in promiscuous relationships


Takin' everybody to some strangers place
Going to unfamiliar locations with various partners


Don't get me wrong I've had my share of affairs
I have engaged in flings and casual sexual encounters before


I've had some hot nights singin' one night stands
I have had passionate and fleeting connections with people


But right up front I think it's only fair
However, it's important to me to be upfront and honest


To tell you I've got different plans
About what kind of relationships I want to pursue


[Chorus]
Refrain: I am not the kind of man who engages in meaningless flings


A lot of people take their loving too lightly
Many people don't take relationships seriously


They change emotions like they're changing their clothes
They shift from one partner to another without much thought or consideration


They come alive and thrive on new lovers nightly
They enjoy the thrill of seeking out and connecting with new people


How they do it I don't know, 'cause
I don't understand how they are able to engage in such behavior


[Chorus]
Refrain: I am not interested in being that kind of person


If you see him standing on the edge of the action
If you see someone being reserved in social situations


You think he's only playing it cool
You might assume he's just trying to look nonchalant


He's only looking for a little sweet satisfaction
But really he is seeking something more meaningful


I'm tired of being somebody's fool
I am not interested in being used or manipulated by others


So if you spot me on the fringe of the party
If you see me hanging out on the outskirts of social events


Holding up the walls with hot and hungry eyes
Looking on with longing and desire


Don't be afraid to say hello to a stranger
Feel free to come over and introduce yourself


You just might like your surprise
You might be pleasantly surprised to find out what I'm really like


[Chorus]
Refrain: I am not the type of man who engages in casual flings




Lyrics © Peermusic Publishing
Written by: JAMES PAUL COOPER

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Comments from YouTube:

@7JANEWAY

Yes, they’re gay, There—I said it.

They were also THE premier a capella group—the standard for all other a capella groups. It’s not surprising that in the 80s, they not only brought back classics like “Happy Together” and “Kiss Him Goodbye”, they charted with them as well.

Unfortunately, they are no more. But their videos and albums keep the music alive, and so new generations can experience at least some of what was.

@kelqueen9998

The arrangement on this song is phenomenal! One of their best!

@kanpaifighto

Paul was such a phenomenal song writer and performer...beyond sad that he’s no longer with us :(

@CarpeNoctem42

Amazing that "gay" seems be an issue in these comments when it's all about excellent music. The Nylons toured the Netherlands frequently in the 80's and I've been fortunate enough to have been able to see them. I *love* their music and it also amazes me that I still like it in 2013. In my opinion that says a lot about the timeless quality of their music! Thank you, guys! You make the world a brighter place.

@iriskenny1747

Marc, my favorite. R.I.P to a wonderful group of guys

@agontry

The first song I heard from them. Always loved it. A pity you almost never hear it on the air.

@teenonator

God, I wore the heck out of The Nylons' first four albums.

@hartleycwhite

Excellent song, excellent video from an amazing group.One of my favorites

@garyleenelson6870

i have been listening since the early 80s my quartet justice in highschool 1988 went to the nylons concert at our highschool in everett washington im one of those that always like to meet famous people so i asked the guys hey lets go talk to them after the concert arnold invited us on stage and with my tenors arrangement on what he wrote that won our contest for the state in that year we were asked to sing with them on stage i was bass at the time now of course im 48 now disabled but was 18 then now sings 6 octaves bass tenor alto soprano and baritone remember very well those days and we sung sillougetts and kiss them goodbye that is a time i will never forgert it was the orignals mark, paul, arnold, and claude i love them still to this day as well as the new ones gavin, garth that was an experience i had to share for now with all of you stay safe and long live not just acappella but this group the best in the world the nylons

@DanGross_MusicJournalism

That bass is laying it DOWN!

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