Kristy Are You Doing Okay?
The Offspring Lyrics


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There's a moment in time
And it's stuck in my mind
Way back, when we were just kids

Cause your eyes told the tale
Of an act of betrayal
I knew that somebody did
Oh, waves of time
Seem to wash away
The scenes of our crimes
But for you this never ends

Can you stay strong?
Can you go on?
Kristy are you doing okay?
A rose that won?t bloom
Winter's kept you
Don't waste your whole life trying
To get back what was taken away

Though the marks on your dress
Had been neatly repressed
I knew that something was wrong
And I should have spoke out
And I'm so sorry now
I didn't know
'Cause we were so young

Oh, clouds of time
Seem to rain on
Innocence left behind
And it never goes away

Can you stay strong?
Can you go on?
Kristy are you doing okay?
A rose that won?t bloom
Winter's kept you
Don't waste your whole life trying
To get back what was taken away

Oh, clouds of time
Seem to rain on
Innocence left behind
And it never goes away

Can you stay strong?
Can you go on?
Kristy are you doing okay?
A rose that won't bloom
Winter's kept you
Don't waste your whole life trying
To get back what was taken away





Don't waste your whole life trying
To get back what was taken away

Overall Meaning

The lyrics of The Offspring's song "Kristy, Are You Doing Okay?" revolve around a lasting effect of a childhood traumatic experience. The singer is reminiscing about a moment from the past when they were just kids, and they witnessed something terrible happening to Kristy. The lyrics describe how the incident has left a lasting impact on Kristy, even though time seems to have washed away most of the evidence. The singer expresses their remorse about not being able to help Kristy at the time and asks her if she is okay now.


The song acknowledges the pain and damage caused by childhood trauma that can follow a person through their entire life. The lyrics encourage Kristy to "stay strong" and "go on," to not let the past define her life. The line "Don't waste your whole life trying to get back what was taken away" highlights the futility of trying to reverse the damage caused by the trauma. Instead, it encourages Kristy to focus on moving forward despite the pain and to find some sense of peace and joy in life.


Overall, the song's poignant lyrics underscore the importance of acknowledging and addressing childhood trauma while emphasizing the need to move forward and find strength to overcome the lasting impact of such experiences.


Line by Line Meaning

There's a moment in time
I have a vivid memory


And it's stuck in my mind
It's always present in my thoughts


Way back, when we were just kids
In our youth


Cause your eyes told the tale
I could see the truth in your eyes


Of an act of betrayal
Someone betrayed you


I knew that somebody did
I was certain it happened


Oh, waves of time
The passing of time


Seem to wash away
Tend to erase


The scenes of our crimes
The memories of our wrongdoings


But for you this never ends
But you can't forget


Can you stay strong?
Are you able to remain resilient?


Can you go on?
Are you able to keep moving?


Kristy are you doing okay?
Are you doing well, Kristy?


A rose that won't bloom
Your potential that remains unfulfilled


Winter's kept you
You've been emotionally frozen


Don't waste your whole life trying
Don't spend your entire existence attempting


To get back what was taken away
To recover what was stolen from you


Though the marks on your dress
Even if you tried to cover it up


Had been neatly repressed
Your scars are concealed


I knew that something was wrong
I sensed that something wasn't right


And I should have spoke out
I should have spoken up


And I'm so sorry now
I regret not doing so


'Cause we were so young
Because we were inexperienced


Oh, clouds of time
The passage of time


Seem to rain on
Appear to pour down


Innocence left behind
What was once pure and good is lost


And it never goes away
And it never disappears


Don't waste your whole life trying
Don't spend your entire existence attempting


To get back what was taken away
To recover what was stolen from you




Lyrics © Warner Chappell Music, Inc.
Written by: Bryan Keith Holland

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Most interesting comment from YouTube:

@wirawansaputraimade4419

There’s a moment in time
And it’s stuck in my mind
Way back, when we were just kids

'Cause your eyes told the tale
Of an act of betrayal
I knew that somebody did

Oh, waves of time
Seem to wash away
The scenes of our crimes
For you this never ends

Can you stay strong?
Can you go on?
Kristy, are you doing okay?
A rose that won’t bloom
Winter’s kept you
Don’t waste your whole life trying
To get back what was taken away

Though the marks on your dress
Had been neatly repressed
I knew that something was wrong
And I should have spoke out
And I’m so sorry now
I didn’t know
'Cause we were so young

Oh, clouds of time
Seem to rain on
Innocence left behind
And it never goes away

Can you stay strong?
Can you go on?
Kristy, are you doing okay?
A rose that won’t bloom
Winter’s kept you
Don’t waste your whole life trying
To get back what was taken away

Oh, clouds of time
Seem to rain on
Innocence left behind
And it never goes away (It never goes away)
It never goes away

Can you stay strong?
Can you go on?
Kristy, are you doing okay?
A rose that won’t bloom
Winter’s kept you
Don’t waste your whole life trying
To get back what was taken away



All comments from YouTube:

@lightanchors6622

"Don't waste your whole life trying to get back what was taken away"
That was all I needed to hear. Thank you.

@blamstam

Isabella Evans that line is like an icicle into my heart. It’s true, it’s good advice, but it’s so difficult to let go of the innocence stolen that I get hung up on in life.

@bup6340

Im still mad that I didn't see my brother when he played Skyrim, accidentally tossed up a shield and thus blocked an arrow. He also did not record it and I want to see that!

@thegreatest4860

It’s an icicle for most. Wounds don’t heal and it’s nature to see what you’ve lost every time you close your eyes. I just wish I would of told her I loved her one last time

@chrisp7110

This was one of the key teachings of Buddhism. I used to study at a Buddhist school and this was a philosophy that the Buddha teaches. Let go and move on because time cannot be turned backwards and you have so little time to be on this planet, so just live it to the fullest. No matter how dark your life was, there is still light ahead, you just need to let go completely so that you can embrace light.

@lightanchors6622

@@chrisp7110 Indeed! Back then those words rang true. Since then, I have gone through a Major change, a shift in perspective. I dove deep within, healing everything I could reach. Even being able to forgive the one that stole my innocence and childhood. 😊 It no longer consumes me. I am Free.
There is no 'getting it back', but I was able to do something even Better. Forgive and Heal. 💙💚💜

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@ChipJones421

What makes this song so beautiful (and rather heartbreaking at the same time) is that the girl's abuse stuck with Dexter for this long and clearly affected him. We meet so many people in life, and those we meet in school stick with us the longest because we essentially know them for the better part of around 15 years on average. We see them 5 days of the week during the school year. Friends or not... these people will always have a spot in your memories. I cannot think of a single memory from my time in school that would stick to me like the meaning behind this song. And that shows just how a small scale event (one thay affected only one girl) had harnessed itself to Dexter's memories for a lifetime, to where he made a song about it.

@sicherndeseele

I think it happens to more folks than you'd think. Some are just super sensitive to what's happening around them. It's often also a side effect of being a child with a narcissistic parent or abusive parents.

I think a lot of artists (music or otherwise) draw from that well.

I have quite a few memories from 30 & 40 years ago. Which friends had stuff going on at home or some at school. People I barely knew. But, I could sense certain things about people.

@timtravels116

I’m grateful my kids are way more sensitive to the plight of others than I was in high school/college. I look back and think about people I was classmates with but never really knew, and I now see some of them were suffering.

@DixonsCider

I still remember the girl from.my high school who had to lose out on everything after being driven near mad by her family to do what was called the 'suicide 5' or 5 very hard subjects that had public state exams. To get the best results to go to uni etc. Turns out this poor thing who seemed so together, ran school council, was super sporty and won trophies and shit in many sports as well as crushing it in rather hard subjects...
Nearly died of malnutrition thanks to bulimia.

Fucking parents.

I still think about her suffering and misery to this day.

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