The Act Of Being Polite
The Residents Lyrics


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They found her in the morning sitting in a chair,
She was rapping something up and rapping it with care.

I didn't mean to hurt her when I fell asleep last night,
I was just exhausted from the act of being polite.

Oh yes I was just exhausted from the act of being polite.




Overall Meaning

The first two lines of The Residents' "The Act of Being Polite" describe a woman who was found sitting in a chair early in the morning, carefully wrapping something up. It's unclear what she's wrapping or why she's doing it, but the image is haunting and mysterious. The next two lines reveal that the singer accidentally hurt someone the night before, but he didn't mean to. He was simply too exhausted from the "act of being polite." There's a sense of social pressure in these lyrics, as though the singer was forced to perform politeness even when he didn't want to, and that pressure caused him to do something harmful.


The song as a whole seems to be a commentary on societal norms and the pressure to conform. The repeated chorus of "act of being polite" underscores this theme, as though the singer is performing a role that he doesn't enjoy or believe in. There's a sense of fatigue and weariness throughout the song, as though the singer is tired of pretending to be someone he's not. It's a bleak and unsettling vision of social interaction, but one that feels all too familiar in our modern world.


Line by Line Meaning

They found her in the morning sitting in a chair
The girl was discovered by others in a seated position the following day


She was rapping something up and rapping it with care.
The girl was methodically wrapping an item with precision


I didn't mean to hurt her when I fell asleep last night
Unintentionally, harm was done while in slumber the night before


I was just exhausted from the act of being polite.
Merely, weariness resulted from the effort of maintaining civility and decorum


Oh yes I was just exhausted from the act of being polite.
Reiterating the previous sentiment regarding fatigue as a result of being courteous




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Comments from YouTube:

Bundocko

Wow we need these kind of crazy artists i love what i see and im sure the world is a bit better with them. C'est un délire délicieux et sucré de folie

Isaac Lux Signifer

The Residents and the dark side of the web go hand and in hand.

Alekx

Hasn't anyone else felt that way? I'm pretty familiar with that exhaustion. I'm a natural introvert, but because of school and work I've been forced to be around people constantly.

Vitor Moura Bolzan Moreira

My cheeks hurt just from reading this

Sztermel

Alekx yeah that feeling is very much known to me as well. Your lips start to hurt from constant fake smile and you get that weird headspace feeling, that you'd like to release all of that fake feeling but you shouldn't cause it will not fit into the situation and will look suspicious when you change your attitude so fast.

Sharon Wilson

i was listening to this when i was aprox 14 and now i am 51! still like it though

whatthemeh

Something about the absurd lyrics and how the music complements that just makes me laugh out loud, this tickles my soul.

DKsFan1

the more i listen to this song the more addictive it becomes(as with most of their music) Cant get sick of it...

Nolan Hartnett

I'm so pleased with myself :) I learned to play this on the trumpet, playing by ear (something I truly suck at). So far the only other things I learned by ear are the McDonalds tune and the Old Spice tune.

Ferenc Szabo

Even though this isn't the original video from 1980, it's worthy of being an actual Residents creation. Great job.

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