Selah
This Patch of Sky Lyrics

I think you think you know what you're getting into.
You believe that you understand the gravity of the situation, but you may not fully comprehend its depth and complexity.

I think you think you're ready, that you understand that letting go comes... easy, that it's second nature.
You may think that you're prepared to let go and move on, but the truth is that it's difficult to sever attachments and say goodbye.

I think that at some level we all wish this were true.
Most of us hope that letting go were easy and painless, but it's often more challenging than we anticipate.

But we never really know how attached we are or how accustomed we've become to having and holding, to seeing and saying "I love you".
We often underestimate the depth of our attachment to things, people, and experiences, and only realize their true value when they're gone.

I think we spent so much time promising to never leave. Not because we think we would, but because if we never leaved them then they never leave us.
Sometimes we make promises to stay with a loved one forever, not because we think we'll break that promise, but because we want to avoid the pain of separation and loss.

And I think it's safe to be honest: The latter hurts more! When they leave, they leave holes, voids, and emptiness that we believe simply can't be filled.
The pain of losing someone is often worse than the anticipated pain of leaving, as they leave behind a void that cannot easily be replaced or filled.

I think it's true what they say about time. That time heals, but it's funny - no one ever tells us that time forgets...
Although time may help to ease the pain of loss, it doesn't erase it entirely, and the absence of a loved one remains palpable over time.

I think it's because it isn't true. You never forget their absence, those significant days, the ones you wish the calendar would simply skip.
The reason time doesn't forget is that we continue to experience the absence of our loved ones in significant moments and milestones, wishing they were still a part of our lives.

We close our eyes to them but even in darkness we're reminded: Things are complicatedly simple and altogether different.
Although we may try to ignore the pain of loss, it remains a complicated and complex part of life that can't be fully comprehended or explained.

I think we think we know how to handle death, how to stay present in the land of the living when the one we love isn't.
We may believe that we're capable of dealing with death and grief, but the truth is that it's a difficult and unpredictable process that challenges us in unexpected ways.

But I think if we were honest we'd admit that we have not a clue! We just wake up... and do it!
Despite our best efforts to understand and cope with loss, the truth is that we're often uncertain and confused, simply trying to navigate life one day at a time.