Hurting Game
Trijntje Oosterhuis Lyrics


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Well it has been so long, never thought that I'd see you again
Too long living with this dull aching pain
Deep and slow, well I had to let you go
Then you walked back into my life
And you said all the things that I wanted to hear
I'd be lying if I say, It didn't feel good
Just to see you again
I can't afford to care about you and me anymore
Oh darling it's not me that you're looking for

Yes we've got to say goodbye
'Cause you know it could never be the same
So we've got to stop touching the flame
'Cause you know it's just a hurting game

I loved you then and you know I'd still love you now
But we're not free to be
I'm not gonna hurt him the way that you hurt me
Now you appear from way back when
Standing here like a vision of what might have been

Yes we've got to say goodbye
'Cause you know it could never be the same




So we've got to stop touching the flame
'Cause you know it's just a hurting game

Overall Meaning

The lyrics of Trijntje Oosterhuis's song "Hurting Game" speaks about a complicated love story where the singer reunites with their ex-lover after a long time. The singer talks about how they have been living with pain and had to let their lover go. However, the lover returned back into their lives and started saying all the things they wanted to hear, which made them feel good. The singer realizes that they cannot afford to care about their former lover anymore, and it's not them that their lover is looking for.


The singer knows that they have to say goodbye and stop indulging in the flame of love that can only bring pain to them. They know it can never be the same since they are not free to be, and the singer cannot hurt their current partner. However, the singer still loves their ex-lover and wishes things could have been different. It's a story of lost love and painful memories that still linger within the singer's heart.


Line by Line Meaning

Well it has been so long, never thought that I'd see you again
After a long time, never expected to see you again.


Too long living with this dull aching pain
Living with an incessant, heart-wrenching pain for too long.


Deep and slow, well I had to let you go
It was a tough and gradual process, but had to let you go.


Then you walked back into my life
But then you returned back into my life.


And you said all the things that I wanted to hear
You said everything I longed to hear, making me feel good.


I'd be lying if I say, It didn't feel good
It would be a lie if I say it didn't feel good.


Just to see you again
Just to see you once again.


I can't afford to care about you and me anymore
I can't afford to care about you and me anymore.


Oh darling it's not me that you're looking for
Oh darling, you're searching for someone who isn't me.


Yes we've got to say goodbye
Yes, we have to bid goodbye.


'Cause you know it could never be the same
Because you know it can never be the way it was before.


So we've got to stop touching the flame
So, we have to stop getting close to something that will burn us.


'Cause you know it's just a hurting game
Because you know it's just a game that will hurt us.


I loved you then and you know I'd still love you now
I loved you before, and you know I still love you now.


But we're not free to be
But we are not free to be together.


I'm not gonna hurt him the way that you hurt me
I will not inflict the same pain on him that you did on me.


Now you appear from way back when
Now, after a long time, you appear again.


Standing here like a vision of what might have been
Appearing here like an imagination of what we could have been.




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Comments from YouTube:

kathy eddy

I live this woman’s voice❤️😊

kathy eddy

That was Love this woman’s voice!

Maru Palstra

Heerlijk, geweldig nummer!!

LercyLeroy

Blijft één van de beste nummers van La Oosterhuis :) 

Romchikthelemon

I heard that somewhere in 90s