Usher Raymond IV (born October 14, 1978 in Chattanooga, Tennessee), known s… Read Full Bio ↴Usher Raymond IV (born October 14, 1978 in Chattanooga, Tennessee), known simply as Usher, is a Grammy Award winning American R&B singer-songwriter, producer and actor. He rose to fame in the late 90s, releasing the multi-platinum albums My Way and 8701. His success continued with the release of his 2004 album, Confessions, which has sold over 20 million copies worldwide, and earned Usher four American Music Awards and eight Grammy nominations. To date, he has sold approximately 40 million albums worldwide and has won five Grammy Awards. He released his debut album in 1994 and has since released 1997's My Way, 2001's 8701, 2004's Confessions and 2008's Here I Stand. His sixth studio album, Raymond v. Raymond, was released March 2010.

In 1990 Usher joined an R&B local quintet called the NuBeginnings, which was organized by local music svengali, Darryl Wheeler and then he decided to pursue a career in music. Aside from recording, Usher has ventured into business. He has established his own record label, US Records, and is a part owner of the Cleveland Cavaliers franchise. He has also dabbled in acting, with a recurring role on the teen sitcom Moesha, and roles in the films The Faculty (1998, with Josh Harnett) She's All That (1999, with Freddie Prinze, Jr.) and Texas Rangers (2001, with Ashton Kutcher).

Lessons For The Lover
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Turn the lights on

How could someone hurt you but still make you feel so good?
Holler, scream and curse you and you stand there and let them do it
Just cause he gives you pain, that don't mean he ain't the one
Fuck you out your brain you'll be smiling when he's done

So my advice would be no don't leave, don't go so easy, no

Let that argument turn you on
It's worth it

And these are the lessons learned by lovers
These are the reasons we make love
There's no exception, one day we gotta look each other in the eye
You learn all these lessons when you're in love
A lesson for the lover, the lover
A lesson for the lover, the lover (keep the lights on, I want you to see)

So hard to imagine living life without them there
'Cause now you're so caught up in the passion
But this shit is beyond compare, yeah
'Cause don't he make your heart beat, beat, beat like a drum
You fought hard but think about how hard you come

So my advice would be no don't leave, don't go so easy, no
Just let that argument turn you on
Ooh, it's worth it

And these are the lessons learned by lovers
These are the reasons we make love
There's no exception, one day we gotta look each other in the eye
You learn all these lessons when you're in love
A lesson for the lover, the lover
A lesson for, a lesson for the lover, the lover

C'mon here, look at me

No one wants to be fighting
All day long, all night long
So we'll just scream 'til we start making love (do you)
And as time goes on we're feeling
Okay, babe, alright, love
And we'll forget about it in the morning

And these are the lessons learned by lovers (ooh)
These are the reasons we make love (yeah, ah)
There's no exception
One day we gotta look each other in the eye (baby look me in the eyes)
You learn all these lessons when you're in love
A lesson for the lover, the lover
A lesson for the lover, the lover (yeah, oh)
For the lover, for the lover
These are the reasons
Lessons, oh-oh

Lesson, lessons, ah
Turn the lights on

Overall Meaning

The song "Lessons for the Lover" by Usher is all about the ups and downs that come with being in love. The opening line of the song, "How could someone hurt you but still make you feel so good?", serves as an anchor for the rest of the lyrics. Usher sings about how someone can curse and scream at you, yet you still stand there and let them hurt you, just because they give you pleasure. He advises against leaving someone just because of an argument and encourages embracing the argument to turn each other on. He believes that the arguments are worth enduring because they help teach us important lessons about relationships and love.

The chorus of the song, "These are the lessons learned by lovers, these are the reasons we make love", drives home the idea that love is all about learning and growing from our experiences. Usher acknowledges that love isn't always perfect, but that is just how it goes. He reassures that the good eventually outweighs the bad and that the lessons we learn are valuable in our journey towards finding love.

Overall, Usher's "Lessons for the Lovers" is a song that delves into the real and raw experience of relationships. It's a reminder that love isn't always easy, but life would be less without it.

Line by Line Meaning

Turn the lights on
Get ready to face the truth and see things as they really are.

How could someone hurt you but still make you feel so good?
It's hard to understand why we can be drawn to people who are not good for us.

Holler, scream and curse you and you stand there and let them do it
Sometimes we allow others to mistreat us because we think it's worth it for the pleasure they give us.

Just cause he gives you pain, that don't mean he ain't the one
Sometimes we confuse pain and pleasure and believe that someone who hurts us is the perfect lover.

Fuck you out your brain you'll be smiling when he's done
Even though we may feel degraded and used, we can still enjoy the physical pleasure of sex.

So my advice would be no don't leave, don't go so easy, no
Don't give up too easily on a relationship that may have more to teach you.

Let that argument turn you on
Use conflicts and disagreements as a way to fuel passion and desire.

And these are the lessons learned by lovers
Love can teach us many things, including how to handle pain and pleasure, how to communicate, and how to forgive.

So hard to imagine living life without them there
Even when we know a relationship is not good for us, it can be hard to imagine our lives without that person.

'Cause now you're so caught up in the passion
When we're in love, it's easy to become overwhelmed by the intense feelings and physical sensations we experience.

But this shit is beyond compare, yeah
The pleasure and pain of love is so intense and unique that it cannot be compared to anything else.

Don't he make your heart beat, beat, beat like a drum
The thrill and excitement of being with someone we love can make our hearts race and our bodies tingle with desire.

So we'll just scream 'til we start making love (do you)
Sometimes we need to let out our frustration and anger before we can rekindle our passion and desire.

And as time goes on we're feeling okay, babe, alright, love
As we work through our struggles and difficulties, we can find a sense of peace and contentment in our relationships.

And these are the lessons learned by lovers (ooh)
Love can be a powerful teacher and help us grow and learn more about ourselves and each other.

Lyrics © Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC, Warner Chappell Music, Inc.
Written by: Richard Butler, Eric Goudy, Earl Hood, Pierre Medor

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