Be Careful
Van Dyke Parks Lyrics


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At the age of nine my father said to me
Son you're growing fine I'm very proud to see
Soon a man you'll be with all the zest for life
But your greatest test will be to choose a wife

Be careful son be careful
All that glitters isn't gold
Be careful son be careful
Movin' round toward the young and the old
You must watch them twice
That is my advice
You'll find they're nice from far but far from nice

Marriage is not a sport, it is no game to play
Once they have you caught, it's hard to get away
Behind every great man there's a woman, that's true
But she has a hand in every downfall too
Every lady is a woman though nature's act
But every woman is not a lady and that is a fact




To comprehend the difference it will take a lot
For they both pretend to be what they are not

Overall Meaning

The lyrics of Van Dyke Parks's song, Be Careful, are a father's advice to his son who is growing up and becoming a man. He warns his son that while it's great to be young and free, he needs to be careful when it comes to choosing a wife. His father reminds him that not everything that glitters is gold, meaning not everyone is who they appear to be.


The father further advises his son that he must watch those around him, those who are young and old, twice before making any rash decisions. He cautions him that people may seem nice from far, but they can actually be far from nice. Marriage should not be taken lightly; it's not a sport or a game to play. Once someone gets caught, it can be tough to get away.


Behind every successful man, there's a woman, but the father notes that the woman also has a hand in every downfall. The father explains that every lady is a woman by nature, but being a lady is not the same as being a woman. To understand the difference, it takes a lot of observation and paying attention to discern between the two.


Overall, the father's words of advice are to tread carefully and make sure to choose a partner wisely to avoid any pitfalls.


Line by Line Meaning

At the age of nine my father said to me
My father spoke to me when I was nine years old


Son you're growing fine I'm very proud to see
He praised me for my growth and said he was proud of me


Soon a man you'll be with all the zest for life
He predicted that I would soon become a man with a lot of enthusiasm for life


But your greatest test will be to choose a wife
He warned me that my greatest challenge in life would be to select a wife


Be careful son be careful
He urged me to be careful and cautious


All that glitters isn't gold
Appearances can be deceiving


Be careful son be careful
He repeated his warning to be careful and cautious


Movin' round toward the young and the old
I should be wary of both young and old women


You must watch them twice
I should observe and evaluate them carefully


That is my advice
This is the counsel he gave to me


You'll find they're nice from far but far from nice
It's easy to be fooled by their initial appearances, but they might not be nice people deep down


Marriage is not a sport, it is no game to play
Marriage is not something to be taken lightly or treated as a game


Once they have you caught, it's hard to get away
If I make a wrong choice, it would be difficult to leave the relationship


Behind every great man there's a woman, that's true
There is often a supportive wife behind every successful man


But she has a hand in every downfall too
However, if things go wrong, she could also be responsible for his failure


Every lady is a woman though nature's act
Every woman is biologically female


But every woman is not a lady and that is a fact
However, not all women behave in a manner that can be described as ladylike


To comprehend the difference it will take a lot
It would require a lot of effort to understand the distinction between a lady and a woman


For they both pretend to be what they are not
Both ladies and women pretend to be something that they are not at times, so it can be hard to tell the difference




Lyrics © Warner/Chappell Music, Inc.
Written by: DURRIE PARKS

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