The band has released six studio albums:
To Plant a Seed (2009)
Understanding What We've Grown to Be (2011)
Tracing Back Roots (2013)
We Came as Romans (2015)
Cold Like War (2017)
Darkbloom (2022).
They also released two EPs in 2008 titled Demonstrations and Dreams.
Current members
Joshua Moore – lead guitar, backing vocals (2005–present)
Dave Stephens – lead vocals (2006–present); keyboards, synthesizers (2005–2008, 2018-present); rhythm guitar, backing vocals (2005–2006)
Lou Cotton – rhythm guitar (2006–present)
Andy Glass – bass, backing vocals (2006–present)
David Puckett – drums, percussion (2017–present)
Former members
Jonny Nabors – bass, backing vocals (2005–2006)
Sean E. Daly – bass, backing vocals (2006)
Sean N. Zelda – drums, percussion, backing vocals (2005–2006)
Mark Myatt – lead vocals (2005–2006)
Larry Clark – unclean vocals (2006–2007)
Chris Moore – unclean vocals, keyboards, synthesizers (2007–2008)
Eric Choi – drums, percussion (2006–2016)
Kyle Pavone – clean vocals, keyboards, synthesizers, MIDI controller (2008–2018; died 2018)
Former touring musicians
Joseph Arrington – drums, percussion (2016–2017)
I Can't Make Your Decisions for You
We Came as Romans Lyrics
Jump to: Overall Meaning ↴ Line by Line Meaning ↴
But he turned and ran as soon as I turned my back
It seems as if the way here
Wore worse on me than it did on him
I feel like my words have only given way
To brief intentions but no intent for action
I've waited, I've asked, I've hopedFor you to show me I've thought wrong
Prove to me that I've thought wrong
And it will fill me further than being right
I wish you'd prove to me that you want to
Live life as much as I want you to
I swear my hopes are selfless in this
I only want you to feel whole
I swear my hopes are selfless in this
I only want you to feel whole
But I can't make your decisions for you
But I can't make your decisions for you
I feel like my words have only given way
To brief intentions but no intent for action
I've waited, I've asked
I've hoped for you to show me I've though wrong
I've led a horse to water
But he turned and ran as soon as I turned my back
It seems as if the way here
Wore worse on me than it did on him
I can't make your decisions for you
I can only be a guideI can't make your decisions for you
I can only encourage action
I hope that my words have only given way
To real intentions with pure intent for action
I've waited, I've asked, I've hoped
Now show me that I've thought wrong
The lyrics to We Came As Romans's song "I Can't Make Your Decisions for You" are about feeling helpless in trying to help someone who isn't willing to help themselves. The singer compares themselves to leading a horse to water, but the horse turning and running as soon as they turn their back. They feel like they've tried everything - waiting, asking, hoping - for the other person to prove them wrong and show that they want to make a change, but they haven't. The singer is frustrated and wishes that the other person would prove to them that they want to live life as much as they do.
The chorus repeats the powerful message that the singer can't make the other person's decisions for them, but they can only be a guide and encourage action. The singer's hopes are selfless - they only want the other person to feel whole - but they recognize that they cannot force someone to make a change. The bridge of the song shows the singer declaring that they hope their words have been more than just brief intentions, but instead have led to real intentions with pure intent for action. They've waited, asked, and hoped for the other person to change, and now they are looking for proof that they were wrong.
Overall, the song is a powerful message about the limitations of trying to help others. While we can offer guidance and support, we cannot make decisions for others and force them to take action. We can only hope that our words and intentions encourage change.
Line by Line Meaning
I've led a horse to water
I've tried to help you, but it's up to you to take the next step.
But he turned and ran as soon as I turned my back
You seem to be running away from the help I'm offering.
It seems as if the way here
The path to improvement is hard for me too.
Wore worse on me than it did on him
I'm taking the brunt of trying to help you make changes.
I feel like my words have only given way
I think my advice is falling on deaf ears.
To brief intentions but no intent for action
You're not following through with the plans we discussed.
I've waited, I've asked, I've hoped
I've tried my best to get through to you.
For you to show me I've thought wrong
I want you to prove to me that my concerns are unfounded.
Prove to me that I've thought wrong
If you can show me I'm wrong, it'll make me happy.
And it will fill me further than being right
Being proven wrong will feel better than being right in this situation.
I wish you'd prove to me that you want to
I hope you can show me that you're committed to making a change.
Live life as much as I want you to
I hope you can enjoy life like I do.
I swear my hopes are selfless in this
I'm not trying to benefit myself, but you.
I only want you to feel whole
I want you to feel happy and complete.
But I can't make your decisions for you
Ultimately, you have to make your own choices.
I can only be a guide
I'm here to offer advice and support, but not to make decisions for you.
I can only encourage action
I can motivate you to take action, but it's up to you.
I hope that my words have only given way
I hope that you're now ready to take my advice seriously.
To real intentions with pure intent for action
I hope that you're now genuinely committed to making a change.
Now show me that I've thought wrong
I want to see that you're ready to take steps towards improvement.
Lyrics © Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC
Written by: ANDREW GLASS, DAVID STEPHENS, ERIC CHOI, JOSHUA MOORE, KYLE PAVONE, LOU COTTON
Lyrics Licensed & Provided by LyricFind
@ADOMO5
I love how their lyrics can actually make you see yourself doing what they are singing about. That's what makes this band so magically delicious.
@TheCamisado14
I dedicate this song to every "friend" I ever cared deeply for and in turn, they treated me like crap.
@KristonaKush
My last name is Roman, and I'm proud to say.. I came as a Roman. <3
@walie211
The best song out of the whole album
@cryptbloodreign
Jesus. This & 'What My Heart Held' have absolutely CRUSHED me. This record is going to be unbelievable. The drumming is incredible.
@JasonFolk07
You know they are crazy good when almost every song they make is good /great
@savagewraith
When WCAR first dropped an album I found it because it was related to ADTR and The Devil Wears Prada according to iTunes funny thing is that since they have been around WCAR has been my favorite band. So glad I stumbled upon them years ago. Still my favorite band, probably always will be. Just bought another shirt last weekend in fact (:
@coreyclark5192
Congrats.
@hhd2415
This changed my life. Thank you.
@Shockers3000
Who dares to dislike ANY We came as romans song from equal vision!!!