His & Hers
Wretch 32 Lyrics

His and her point of view
The situation is seen from two different perspectives: his and hers

In this world where we grew
The context in which their relationship developed

There's his and her point of view
Both of them see things differently

Now here's his point of view
The focus is on his perspective

First of all I hate the way you talk to me
He dislikes the way she communicates with him

But I fucking can't stand when you're ignoring me
Ignoring him makes him feel really angry

It's like everyday you want to go to war with me
She seems to be constantly picking fights with him

You're crying over spilt milk and trying to wipe the floor with me
She is overreacting to small issues and trying to make him feel bad about minor mistakes

Everytime I ring you, your phone was in your bag
She doesn't answer his calls and keeps her phone in her bag

But every time I'm with you your phone is in your hand
She is always on her phone when they're together

Yeah I get annoyed and you'll say I'm paranoid
She accuses him of being paranoid when he gets annoyed about her phone use

And I'll send another message like, "I'll never phone you back"
He threatens not to call her back in response to her behavior

And why would you say, "Cool" to that if you ain't cool with that?
He questions her response to his message, suggesting that she may not actually be okay with it

You make me feel like it was all a plan
He feels like she is intentionally trying to upset him

Like there's a man up in your yard and you're waiting for the chance to let a couple hours pass just to call me back
He suspects that she might be seeing someone else and deliberately waiting to call him back

And you don't never sound the same when you're in the wrong
She sounds like she's lying when she's done something wrong

Kinda sound like you're staring down your intercom
She sounds nervous and defensive

Just waiting for him to leave, said you'd tell me if you did cheat
She is waiting for someone to leave so that she can confess if she cheated

And I'm breaking what we could be so I'm guessing it's make believe
He is concerned that their relationship might not be real or authentic

Still I don't believe you but I'll run with it
He doesn't trust her but he is willing to give her the benefit of the doubt

'Cause I'm out 'ere keeping up some fuckery
He is also behaving badly and contributing to their problems

And just because I beat doesn't mean that you can beat
He acknowledges that he has made mistakes, but it doesn't excuse her behavior

Because two fucks don't make a right and it could never tarnish me
He knows that their bad behavior doesn't justify the other's actions and won't ruin him

Sometimes I wonder if I've ever rocked your world
He questions whether he has ever truly satisfied her

You care about your lashes and you care about your girls
She is more invested in her own appearance and her friends than their relationship

The one you're always chatting, but she always does your nails
She is close with a friend who does her nails

Talking about your fashion, "It's gotta be YSL"
She is preoccupied with high-end fashion brands

Even though I think the dress couldn't be shorter
He doesn't approve of her fashion choices

Kinda makes me wonder, how the fuck were you brought up?
He questions her upbringing and values

Hearing conversation about your love for the altar
She talks about her religious beliefs and commitment to marriage

Still I never listen 'cuh I've done it with all ya
He has heard these same claims from other women before and doesn't take them seriously

At the end of the month I always give you money
He supports her financially

And at the end of the night I always give you loving
He also provides emotional support

Had to state a few things and you don't have to change nothing
He shares his thoughts but doesn't expect her to change

It's just my point of view, I wouldn't tell you if it wasn't
He is just expressing his perspective and wouldn't share it if he didn't feel strongly about it

Now here's her point of view
The focus shifts to her perspective

I don't think that you respect me
She feels disrespected in their relationship

I kinda think that you expect me to be here waiting for you coz its easier
She believes he takes her for granted and expects her to always be there for him

Coz we've got a child together, went the extra mile together
Their commitment is due in part to their child but also their shared experiences

But still there ain't a picture where we ever smile together
They don't have any happy memories captured together

How many times do I have to say, how many times
She has expressed herself repeatedly and doesn't feel heard

I'm getting sick and I'm tired and I'm tired and I'm crying my eyes out, I don't know why
The stress of the relationship is making her emotionally unwell

And then you've got the cheek to come and dry my eyes
He tries to comfort her but she resents him for causing her pain in the first place

Avoiding me don't mean jack now
He can't fix things by avoiding her

The toilet seat can go back down
He is being asked to consider her needs at home

And you can back down
He should also consider not always asserting himself in disagreements

You say your upbringing made you never trust women
He has a trust issue because of his past experiences

Well it's funny how we're both from that background
She also comes from a similar background but doesn't share his same trust issues

And I trust you with my life
She puts a lot of faith in him and their relationship

And you've hit me twice
He has physically hurt her in the past

And both times I came back crying
She feels emotionally drained and abused, even if he hasn't hurt her recently

I wish you knew the kitchen just like you know women
She wishes he were better equipped to help out with household chores and cooking

I wish you knew the dishes just like you know whippin'
She wants him to understand that cleaning the house is just as important as their sex life

Between us there's a big difference, I might reply to a DM but you go the distance
She acknowledges that there are differences in their communication styles and effort put into the relationship

Said I want a baby you were scared, I could tell
She wanted to have a child, but he was hesitant and she could tell

But when you slept with that hoe you weren't protecting yourself
He slept with someone else without using protection, putting her at risk

And that's disgusting, imagine if you gave me something
She is rightfully upset that he would expose her to potential STIs

Probably just say your favorite word, say nothing
He tends to brush things under the rug and not address the real issues

And don't try and lie because I know that it's true
She is convinced that he slept with someone else and knows it's the truth

It was one of your friends fucking telling on you
Her suspicions were confirmed by one of his friends

Plus the fact, I could fucking smell it on you
She also had other evidence, such as the scent of another woman on him

You treat me like I'd never do better than you
He doesn't think highly of her and she feels undervalued

If you left me on the floor, that's a step up from you
She would be better off being left alone than being in a relationship with him

I don't know why love made me settle for you
She regrets getting involved with him and wishes she could have done better

At the end of the day you know that you're my nigga
She acknowledges that they are still together despite their issues

So at the end of the night I've always got you dinner
She takes care of him and cooks for him

Had to state a few things even though you'll say I'm bitter
She has to speak her truth even if he responds negatively

It's just my point of view, although you probably beg to differ
She shares her perspective, even though he may disagree with it