Family
Wu-Tang Clan Lyrics


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They did not tell us that all of that, being my own person and my being independent
Would lead to separation, loneliness, celibacy, and lesbianism
They didn't tell us that if you give up the man, you're gonna take one of these things
It gets worse and would destroy your nation
They made us think it was some kind of glorified position to brag about the fact that
I got my own job, my own credit card, my own car so I don't need no man
I don't even know how we got that mixed up
Ain't none of that got anything to do with having being with no man
We have some serious relationship problems
You know, over 60% of our women are single, widowed, separated, or divorced
They don't have a man
They need fathers, they need protection
To raise a child, you need a parental coalition of a man and a woman
We have sons, by not having have a father in the home, they don't know how to respect women
They may bring the welfare system in and tell us in order to feed, and clothe
And house our children, we have to give up our man–we have to put the man out of the house
When the white farmwife goes to the government for subsidy for the farm
They don't tell them to get rid of the farm and they keep that family together




But in the black community they make it a requirement
Because they want to keep endorsing into the black community that the black man is no good

Overall Meaning

In these lyrics from the song "Family" by Wu-Tang Clan, the singer reflects on the societal pressures and misconceptions regarding independence and relationships, particularly within the context of the black community. The lyrics describe how women were misled into believing that striving for independence and self-sufficiency would lead to empowerment, but instead, it resulted in feelings of isolation, loneliness, and even changes in sexual orientation.


The singer criticizes the idea that detachment from men equates to strength and success, highlighting the detrimental consequences of this mindset. By emphasizing personal accomplishments such as having a job, credit card, and car as substitutes for emotional fulfillment and connection with a partner, the singer exposes the underlying issues within relationships and the community at large. The lyrics suggest that the pursuit of individual success should not come at the cost of meaningful relationships and a sense of belonging.


Furthermore, the lyrics address the systemic challenges faced by black women, pointing out the high rates of singlehood, widowhood, separation, and divorce within the community. The absence of strong male figures in the lives of many black women and children is highlighted as a contributing factor to relationship difficulties and the breakdown of family structures. The singer emphasizes the importance of fathers and the need for a balanced parental coalition of a man and a woman in raising children for healthy development and respect for women.


Lastly, the lyrics touch on the unequal treatment and expectations placed on black families by societal structures. A comparison is drawn between how white farmwives are supported in maintaining their family unit while black families are pressured to separate from their men in order to receive government assistance. This disparity perpetuates harmful stereotypes about black men and undermines the stability of black families. The lyrics shed light on the social injustices and discrimination faced by the black community, urging for unity, understanding, and preservation of familial bonds.




Lyrics © Kobalt Music Publishing Ltd.
Written by: Ronald Maurice Bean

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