In the pre-release livestream for the music video, dodie said “It’s actually about passive aggression, it’s interesting, it’s more about when- I think it’s like a feeling that I have to deal with when someone else in my life, be it a partner or a friend, like, goes quiet, like, thinks introspectively and deals with their problems internally, I freak out, ‘cause I’m like, ‘I’m the problem,’ like, ‘what have I done, to make you feel upset?’ And that’s probably coming from past trauma.” She also mentioned a comment describing it as “finding anxiety in someone’s silence.”
“'Hate Myself” is an inner monologue of someone who seems to find themselves in relationships of any kind with people who deal with their feelings internally – unfortunately resulting in assuming the issue is with them.
The music video is filmed over the span of a few days in the beautiful seaside village of Polperro in Cornwall, and also a boat in London. My video partner and the director Sammy Paul and I excitedly landed on the silly idea of the training leading up to becoming a post-lady, and thoroughly enjoyed planning the many bizarre exercises she would have to perfect. Our excellent Art Director, Louis Grant, worked on bringing her home and training station to life. Though jogging on cliff tops in the rain, carrying a large sack and slipping in the mud was certainly cold and exhausting, I think I preferred it to slowly feeling sicker, licking stamps on a swaying boat by the Excel.'" - via DIY Mag
"'This was written on a guitalele, and it was definitely inspired by HAIM and [2020 track] ‘Now I’m in It.’ I just thought the lyric ‘When you go quiet, I hate myself’ was so funny. It was certainly something I was feeling but didn’t know how to deal with, so I just laughed it off in that line.'"
—via Apple Music
Hate myself
dodie Lyrics
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Oh, do you look angry? Oh, what did I say?
Filling in the gaps, build a problem that
Neither of us need, something wrong with me
I'm getting desperate, losing my mind
How do we get here every time?
One will fold their arms, one will do the dance
Really is no need, something wrong with me
No, I don't think I can help it
Oh so illogical, I'm not magical, I can't read your mind
But how can you not hear the whole conversation
I have sitting still with a brain on fire?
I know it's a me thing
Eyes closed, isn't helping
When you go quiet, I hate myself
When you go quiet, I hate myself
Look at you sideways playing a game
What if I laugh now? I think I'm insane
Filling in the gaps, build a problem that
Neither of us need, something wrong with me
Pushing a boundary, something to prove
Strong expectation, you already lose
Oh, one will fold their arms, one will do the dance
Really is no need, something wrong with me
No, I don't think I can help it
Oh so illogical, I'm not magical, I can't read your mind (read your mind)
But how can you not hear the whole conversation
I have sitting still with a brain on fire? (Brain on fire)
I know it's a me thing
Eyes closed, isn't helping
When you go quiet, I hate myself
When you go quiet, I hate myself
Give me a mystery
Maybe they'll bloom for me
It's always the quiet ones
Oh, something here must be done
I'm open and ready here
I don't think they get me, dear
I'm only proving how
I'm only worth losing now
Give me a mystery
Maybe they'll bloom for me
It's always the quiet ones
Something here must be done
I'm open and ready here
I don't think they get me, dear
When you go quiet, I hate myself
I don't think they get me, dear
Give me a mystery
Maybe they'll bloom for me
It's always the quiet ones
Something here must be done
I'm open and ready here
I don't think they get me, dear
When you go quiet, I hate myself
I don't think they get me, dear
(No, I don't think I can help it) I don't think they get me, dear
I don't think they get me, dear
(No, I don't think I can help it) I don't think they get me, dear
I don't think they get me, dear
(No, I don't think I can help it) I don't think they get me, dear
I don't think they get me, dear
(I don't think I can help it) I don't think they get me, dear
(When you go quiet I hate myself)
(No, I don't think I can help it)
The lyrics of dodie's song "Hate Myself" delve into the complicated dynamics of a relationship where one person constantly questions their worth and sabotages themselves. The singer feels an overwhelming sense of insecurity and self-doubt, constantly seeking validation from their partner. They are hypersensitive to any signs of anger or disappointment and interpret them as personal failures. In their desperate attempt to fill in the gaps and find faults within themselves, they create unnecessary problems that neither person actually needs.
The singer struggles with their inability to understand their partner's perspective. They feel frustrated by their own lack of magical abilities to read minds and interpret the whole conversation. This highlights their deep fear of misunderstanding and their need for constant reassurance and clarity. Their hyperactive mind, depicted as "a brain on fire," intensifies their anxiety and self-hatred. They feel trapped in their own thoughts and blame themselves for their partner's silence.
The chorus reveals the singer's self-loathing when their partner goes quiet. It is during these moments of silence that their insecurities are exposed, causing them to hate themselves even more. The song implies that the singer's self-worth is contingent upon their partner's attention and response. They are driven to prove their worthiness, but ultimately feel that they are only worth losing.
Overall, "Hate Myself" explores themes of anxiety, self-sabotage, and the detrimental effects of seeking external validation in a relationship. It portrays the anguish of someone who is constantly at war with themselves, struggling to understand their own worth and fearing that they will never be fully understood by others.
Line by Line Meaning
Could it be different? Did I ruin the day?
Is there a possibility for a different outcome? Did my actions spoil the entire day?
Oh, do you look angry? Oh, what did I say?
Your facial expression shows anger. What did I say to cause this?
Filling in the gaps, build a problem that
Creating assumptions and exaggerating, constructing an unnecessary issue
Neither of us need, something wrong with me
None of us require this, there is something flawed within myself
I'm getting desperate, losing my mind
Becoming increasingly anxious and losing control of my thoughts
How do we get here every time?
Why do we always end up in this situation?
One will fold their arms, one will do the dance
One person will react defensively, while the other will try to appease
Really is no need, something wrong with me
There truly isn't a necessity for this, there is something flawed within myself
No, I don't think I can help it
No, I don't believe I have control over it
Oh so illogical, I'm not magical, I can't read your mind
It's extremely irrational, I possess no supernatural abilities to understand your thoughts
But how can you not hear the whole conversation
But how is it possible for you to not comprehend the entire discussion?
I have sitting still with a brain on fire?
I am remaining motionless with an overwhelmed mind?
I know it's a me thing
I am aware that it is based on my own issues
Eyes closed, isn't helping
Closing my eyes is not aiding the situation
When you go quiet, I hate myself
When you become silent, I despise myself
Look at you sideways playing a game
Observing you with suspicion, engaging in a deceptive act
What if I laugh now? I think I'm insane
What if I laugh at this moment? I believe I am losing my sanity
Pushing a boundary, something to prove
Testing the limits, attempting to demonstrate something
Strong expectation, you already lose
Having high hopes, you have already failed
Give me a mystery, maybe they'll bloom for me
Provide me with an enigma, perhaps it will bring positive outcomes for me
It's always the quiet ones, something here must be done
It is often the introverted individuals, there is something that needs to be addressed here
I'm open and ready here, I don't think they get me, dear
I am willing and prepared, but I don't think others truly understand me, my love
I'm only proving how, I'm only worth losing now
I am only demonstrating that I am only worthy of being lost at this point
(No, I don't think I can help it) I don't think they get me, dear
(No, I don't believe I have control over it) I don't think others truly understand me, my love
Lyrics © BMG Rights Management
Written by: Dorothy Miranda Clark
Lyrics Licensed & Provided by LyricFind
HelloStudios
[Verse 1]
Could it be different? Did I ruin the day?
Oh, do you look angry? Oh, what did I say?
Filling in the gaps, build a problem that
Neither of us needs, something wrong with me (Mmh-mmh-mmh)
I'm getting desperate, losing my mind
Oh, how do we get here, every time?
One will fold their arms, one will do the dance
Really is no need, something wrong with me
[Pre-Chorus]
No, I don't think I can help it (Ha-ha-ha-ha-ha!)
(Nope)
[Chorus]
Oh, so illogical, I'm not magical, I can't read your mind
But how can you not hear the whole conversation?
I have, sitting still with a brain on fire
I know, it's a me-thing
Eyes closed - isn't helping?
When you go quiet, I hate myself
When you go quiet, I hate myself
[Verse 2]
Look at you sideways, playing a game
Oh, what if I laugh now, think I'm insane
Filling in the gaps, build a problem that
Neither of us needs, something wrong with me
Pushing a boundary, something to prove
Strong expectation, you already lose
Oh, one will fold their arms, one will do the dance
Really is no need, something wrong with me
[Pre-Chorus]
No, I don't think I can help it (K)
[Chorus]
Oh, so illogical, I'm not magical, I can't read your mind (Read your mind)
But how can you not hear the whole conversation?
I have, sitting still with a brain on fire (Brain on fire)
I know, it's a me-thing
Eyes closed - isn't helping?
When you go quiet, I hate myself
When you go quiet, I hate myself
[Bridge]
Give me a mystery
Maybe they'll bloom for me
It's always the quiet ones
Oh, something here must be done
I'm hoping I'm ready here
Don't think they get me, dear
I'm only proving how
I'm only worth losing now
Give me a mystery, maybe they'll bloom for me
It's always the quiet ones, something here must be done
I'm hoping I'm ready here, don't think they get me, dear
(When you go quiet, I hate myself)
Don't think they get me, dear
(No I don't...)
Give me a mystery, maybe they'll bloom for me
It's always the quiet ones, something that must be done
I'm hoping I'm ready here, don't think they get me, dear
(When you go quiet, I hate myself)
Don't think they get me, dear
[Outro]
No, I don't think (Don't think they get me here)
I can help it (Don't think they get me here)
No, I don't think (Don't think they get me here)
I can help it (When you go quiet, I hate myself)
(Don't think they get me here)
No, I don't think (Don't think they get me here)
I can help it (Don't think they get me here)
No, I don't think (Don't think they get me here)
I can help it (When you go quiet, I hate myself)
No, I don't think
I can help it
(Mmm-mmm-mmm-mmm)
Luna 🌱
lyrics! <3
[Verse 1]
Could it be different?
Did I ruin the day?
Oh, do you look angry?
Oh, what did I say!?
Filling in the gaps
Build a problem that
Neither of us needs
Something wrong with me
(Mmm-mmm-mmm)
[Verse 2]
I'm getting desperate
Losing my mind
Oh, how do we get here
Every time?
One will fold their arms
One will do the dance
Really is no need;
Something wrong with me
[Pre-Chorus]
No, I don't think
I can help it
(Ha-ha-ha-ha-ha!)
(Nope)
[Chorus]
Oh, so illogical
I'm not magical - I can't read your mind!
But how can you not hear the whole conversation
I have, sitting still with a brain on fire?
I know - it's a me thing
Eyes closed - isn't helping?
When you go quiet, I hate myself
When you go quiet, I hate myself
[Verse 3]
Look at you sideways
Playing a game
Oh what if I laugh now (?)
Think I'm insane
Filling in the gaps
Build a problem that
Neither of us needs
Something wrong with me
[Verse 4]
Pushing a boundary
Something to prove
Strong expectation
You already lose
Oh, one will fold their arms
One will do the dance
Really is no need;
Something wrong with me
[Pre-Chorus]
No, I don't think
I can help it
(K)
[Chorus]
Oh, so illogical
I'm not magical - I can't read your mind!
But how can you not hear the whole conversation
I have, sitting still with a brain on fire?
I know - it's a me thing
Eyes closed - isn't helping?
When you go quiet, I hate myself
When you go quiet, I hate myself
[Bridge]
Give me a mystery
Maybe that will for me
It's always the quiet ones
Oh, something that must be done
I’m open and ready here
Don't think they get me, dear
I'm only proving how
The moment we're losing now
Give me a mystery
Maybe that will for me
It's always the quiet ones
Something that must be done
I’m open and ready here
Don't think they get me, dear
(When you go quiet, I hate myself)
Don't think they get me, dear
(No I don't...)
Give me a mystery
Maybe that will for me
It's always the quiet ones
Something that must be done
I’m open and ready here
Don't think they get me, dear
(When you go quiet, I hate myself)
Don't think they get me, dear
[Outro]
No, I don't think
(Don't think they get me here)
I can help it
(Don't think they get me here)
No, I don't think
(Don't think they get me here)
I can help it
(When you go quiet, I hate myself)
(Don't think they get me here)
No, I don't think
(Don't think they get me here)
I can help it
(Don't think they get me here)
No, I don't think
(Don't think they get me here)
I can help it
(When you go quiet, I hate myself)
No, I don't think
I can help it
(Mmm-mmm-mmm-mmm)
Kendall Louise
[Verse 1]
Could it be different?
Did I ruin the day?
Oh, do you look angry?
Oh, what did I say!?
Filling in the gaps
Build a problem that
Neither of us needs
Something wrong with me
(Mmm-mmm-mmm)
[Verse 2]
I'm getting desperate
Losing my mind
Oh, how do we get here
Every time?
One will fold their arms
One will do the dance
Really is no need;
Something wrong with me
[Pre-Chorus]
No, I don't think
I can help it
(Ha-ha-ha-ha-ha!)
(Nope)
[Chorus]
Oh, so illogical
I'm not magical - I can't read your mind!
But how can you not hear the whole conversation
I have, sitting still with a brain on fire?
I know - it's a me thing
Eyes closed - isn't helping?
When you go quiet, I hate myself
When you go quiet, I hate myself
[Verse 3]
Look at you sideways
Playing a game
Oh what if I laugh now
Think I'm insane
Filling in the gaps
Build a problem that
Neither of us needs
Something wrong with me
[Verse 4]
Pushing a boundary
Something to prove
Strong expectation
You already lose
Oh, one will fold their arms
One will do the dance
Really is no need;
Something wrong with me
[Pre-Chorus]
No, I don't think
I can help it
(K)
[Chorus]
Oh, so illogical
I'm not magical - I can't read your mind!
But how can you not hear the whole conversation
I have, sitting still with a brain on fire?
I know - it's a me thing
Eyes closed - isn't helping?
When you go quiet, I hate myself
When you go quiet, I hate myself
[Bridge]
Give me a mystery
Maybe they'll bloom for me
It's always the quiet ones
Oh, something that must be done
I'm hoping I'm ready here
Don't think they get me, dear
I'm only proving how
The moment we're losing now
Give me a mystery
Maybe they'll bloom for me
It's always the quiet ones
Something that must be done
I'm hoping I'm ready here
Don't think they get me, dear
(When you go quiet, I hate myself)
Don't think they get me, dear
(No I don't...)
Give me a mystery
Maybe they'll bloom for me
It's always the quiet ones
Something that must be done
I'm hoping I'm ready here
Don't think they get me, dear
(When you go quiet, I hate myself)
Don't think they get me, dear
RTGame
it's always so GOOD. Love your work!
Pink Lemonadez
Was NOT expecting to see you here but it's a welcome surprise. Glad to have you on the dodie train
Annie Lapointe
RT?????
Springgreenfairy
OH MY GOD hi rt 🥺 worlds colliding rn
davina
well hello daniel
Fizzybunniez
she should do a song to monkey clock dont u think
Marah Bandit
As someone with ADHD, this song encompasses the feeling of RSD (Rejection Sensitivity Disorder) where if i perceive any form of rejection from someone I care about I immediately overthink and get immense anxiety. If someone I care about who usually opens up to me suddenly shut down around me I would probably sense myself into a spiral like the lyrics of this song
Beckie
Same and yes. So strongly. Or being unable to read the social cues and blaming ourselves
LaPiñaMagica 42
That’s exactly what I was thinking
Adhd squad stand up XD ✌️
Eliaquim Guedes Crispim
I feel the same way.