My Affair
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When I was just a child
My folks would drive me wild
They'd spy upon my every move
Until it drove me to despair
They told me what to wear
They told me not to cut my hair
But that's all over now
I had to tell them anyhow

It's my affair
Where I go and what I do
It's my affair oh yeah
It's my affair
It's up to me and not to you
It's my affair

That's the way I want to keep it
I kissed the boy in secret
Thrilled me to the very core
I couldn't stop I wanted more and
I didn't hear the door and
They caught me on the floor
With my affair

And when we first got wed
We used to stay in bed
All day and night all night and day
We bedded half our lives away
But that's all over now
We move in higher circles
Chomping through the upper crust
I couldn't see you for the dust
And then you met that girl
Who left you with your money spent
And now it's no concern of yours
If I sleep with the President

It's my affair
And if I don't come home tonight
It's my affair alright
It's my affair
Who I see is up to me
It's my affair

That's how I want to keep it
I kiss the boys in secret
Hiding in the parking lot
Is just as far as I have got but
If the phone should ring and
There's no one there
Then it's my affair

Eso es asunto de ella
Donde va why lo que hare

Well it's all over now
You've seen the last of me
And I don't have to put up with you
Giving me the third degree
So you go on your way




And don't come sneaking round the back door
Trying to get yourself

Overall Meaning

back in
Cause it ain't gonna be like that no more


In "My Affair," Kirsty MacColl expresses her frustration with the control her parents and husband have over her life. She asserts her autonomy and right to make her own decisions, including whom she sees and where she goes. These decisions include a secret affair with a boy and potentially even sleeping with the President.


The first verse describes how her parents were overly controlling, dictating what she wore and even how she styled her hair. This suffocating environment drove her to rebel and pursue things they would not approve of, such as her secret affair. The second verse describes her marriage, where she and her husband used to spend all their time in bed but have since drifted apart. She accuses him of being more interested in climbing the social ladder, leaving her behind in the process.


Throughout the song, the refrain "It's my affair" emphasizes her ownership of her life and her decisions. She will not let anyone else dictate how she lives. The final stanza declares her independence from her previous relationships and tells her ex-husband to move on and leave her alone.


Line by Line Meaning

When I was just a child
As a child, my parents controlled every aspect of my life, which frustrated me to no end.


My folks would drive me wild
My parents' overbearing behavior caused me to become angry and resentful.


They'd spy upon my every move
My parents monitored my actions constantly, not allowing me any privacy.


Until it drove me to despair
Their controlling behavior caused me a lot of emotional pain and distress.


They told me what to wear
My parents made decisions about my clothing, taking away my ability to express myself through fashion.


They told me not to cut my hair
My parents didn't allow me to style my own hair, making me feel like I had no control over my appearance.


But that's all over now
I've grown up and gained independence from my parents' control.


I had to tell them anyhow
I had to reveal my true self to my parents, regardless of any negative consequences.


It's my affair
My choices and actions are my own responsibility and no one else's.


Where I go and what I do
I have the freedom to go wherever I want and do whatever I please.


It's up to me and not to you
Nobody else has the right to dictate my life or make decisions for me.


That's the way I want to keep it
I value my independence and intend to maintain control over my own life.


I kissed the boy in secret
I had a secret romantic encounter with someone I wasn't supposed to be involved with.


Thrilled me to the very core
The experience was extremely exciting and emotionally impactful.


I couldn't stop I wanted more
I was so enamored with the experience that I wanted to keep going.


And I didn't hear the door
I was so caught up in the moment that I didn't realize someone was coming into the room.


They caught me on the floor
My secret encounter was discovered by someone else.


We used to stay in bed
When my partner and I were first together, we would spend all our time in bed.


All day and night all night and day
Our passion for each other consumed us and we didn't want to do anything else.


We bedded half our lives away
We spent so much time together in bed, it felt like it became our permanent address.


We move in higher circles
We've moved up in the world and now associate with more elite social circles.


Chomping through the upper crust
We've made it to the top and enjoy the privileges of high society.


I couldn't see you for the dust
You were left behind in the wake of my success.


And then you met that girl
You moved on and found someone else.


Who left you with your money spent
Your new partner has drained your finances.


And now it's no concern of yours
Your financial struggles are no longer my responsibility or problem.


If I sleep with the President
I have the freedom to become involved with anyone I choose, regardless of their status or position.


And if I don't come home tonight
I have the liberty to choose where I spend my nights, without answering to anyone.


Who I see is up to me
It's my decision who I spend time with and who I involve myself with romantically.


Hiding in the parking lot
I have to be secretive about my romantic encounters to avoid scrutiny or judgment.


If the phone should ring and
If someone tries to reach me through a phone call,


There's no one there
And nobody answers the call,


Then it's my affair
It's not anyone else's concern why I didn't answer the phone or who I was with at the time.


Eso es asunto de ella
This is her matter,


Donde va why lo que hare
Where she goes and what she does.


You've seen the last of me
Our relationship is officially over and you won't have to deal with me again.


And I don't have to put up with you
I'm glad to be free of your controlling behavior.


Giving me the third degree
Questioning me relentlessly and intrusively.


So you go on your way
You can continue living your life without me.


And don't come sneaking round the back door
I don't want you trying to re-enter my life without my consent or knowledge.


Trying to get yourself involved
Attempting to insert yourself into my personal affairs and decisions.


In my affairs no more
You are not welcome to be a part of my private life anymore.




Lyrics © Universal Music Publishing Group, BMG RIGHTS MANAGEMENT US, LLC
Written by: KIRSTY ANNA MACCOLL, MARK EDWARD CASCIAN NEVIN

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