He's Not You
Anne Murray Lyrics


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No one knows my love for love,
Though many things do for two.
But don't pretend
That he's a friend who used to.

Well,I blame myself for every bruise
And then the things I do.
He can't help it,
If he's not you.

He wants nothing more than changin'
things,
But I know he can't help it too.
He's a man any girl would be proud,
If there's a future.

And I don't know why
He keeps on forgiving me
For the things couldn't do.
He can't help it,
If he's not you.

He holds me like you held me
He can't make me feel the same.
Though he's not the one I dream about,
He's not the one to blame.

And it's not for him
To give to me
For the love he dreamed for two.
He can't help it,
If he's not you.

And it's not for him
To give to me
For the love he dreamed for two.
He can't help it,
If he's not you.





He can't help it, if he's not you.
He can't help it, if he's not you.

Overall Meaning

The chorus of Anne Murray's song, He's Not You, seems to convey that the singer is comparing her current lover with a former one. She believes that no matter how much this new lover may try to love her, understand her, touch her, or comfort her, he simply can't be as perfect or as beautiful as the previous one. Even though the new lover cannot help himself, and even though he holds her tight like the former one, she simply does not feel the same way with him. She seems sad that she cannot reciprocate his love because it's not his fault that he's not the previous one.


In the verse, she says that she blames herself for every bruise she received from the previous one. She acknowledges that the former one hurt her, but she was attached and could not help doing the things she did with him. She knows her current lover wants to change her, but she is not sure if she wants to. She acknowledges that he is a man who any girl would be proud to have, but she cannot help feeling the way she does. She wonders why he keeps forgiving her though he cannot possibly understand her situation.


Line by Line Meaning

No one knows my love for love,
No one understands how much I love being in love.


Though many things do for two.
Many things are designed for couples in love, but that doesn't make up for the absence of a true partner.


But don't pretend That he's a friend who used to.
Don't try to pass off a new love interest as if he was previously just a friend.


Well, I blame myself for every bruise And then the things I do.
I always blame myself for the hurt I feel in my relationships and my own actions that lead to it.


He can't help it, If he's not you.
The new potential partner cannot be blamed for not living up to the standards of a past lover.


He wants nothing more than changin' things, But I know he can't help it too.
New partner would do anything to make the relationship work, but I know it's impossible to recreate the same feelings from a past relationship.


He's a man any girl would be proud, If there's a future.
The new partner is a respectable man that any woman would be lucky to have if there were no past comparisons.


And I don't know why He keeps on forgiving me For the things couldn't do.
New partner keeps forgiving me for things I cannot control, but can never compare to the forgiveness from the past partner.


He holds me like you held me He can't make me feel the same.
The new partner may do similar things, but it doesn't give the same feeling as past partner's gestures.


Though he's not the one I dream about, He's not the one to blame.
Although the new partner is not the one she dreams of, it is not his fault and she can't resent him for it.


And it's not for him To give to me For the love he dreamed for two.
It is not fair to expect the new partner to give the same kind of love the past partner showed towards her.


He can't help it, If he's not you.
The new partner cannot be expected to fit the mold of the previous lover.


He can't help it, if he's not you.
The chorus is repeated for emphasis on the fact that the new partner should not be blamed for just being himself and not the previous partner.




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Robert Thompson


on Me Too

Lyrics found here are completely wrong; completely different song.

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