Startin' With Me
Jake Owen Lyrics


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I had a one night stand with my best friend's baby sister
And to this day he still won't speak to me
I pawned my grandpa's old guitar in college
For a case of beer and a tank of gasoline
I took a swing at my old man one Christmas
I never dreamed that it would be his last
I wish mom had rung my neck
When she caught me with those cigarettes
Which reminds me, I'm down to my last pack

If I had a dime
For half the things I did
That didn't make no sense at all
I'd be living a little higher on the hog
If only I'd have known
That later on down the road
I'd look back and not like what I see
I'd have changed a lot of things
Startin' with me

I called my brother everything I could think of
The night he wouldn't bail me out of jail
I lost a job most folks 'round here would die for
By laying out all night and raising hell
And I let a woman that I love slip through my fingers
Chalk another dumb move up to my foolish pride
I wasn't there standin' by the bed
When the preacher bowed his head
With the family the day my grandma died

If I had a dime
For half the things I did
That didn't make no sense at all
I'd be living a little higher on the hog
If only I'd have known
That later on down the road
I'd look back and not like what I see
I'd have changed a lot of things
Startin' with me

If only I'd have known
That later on down the road
I'd look back and not like what I see
Whoa, I'd have changed a lot of things




Startin' with me
Startin' with me

Overall Meaning

Jake Owen's song "Startin' With Me" is a contemplative tune about a man who is reflecting on his past mistakes and regrets. The song opens with the confession that the singer had a one-night stand with his best friend's sister and it has caused a rift in their friendship. He also reminisces about how he pawned his grandpa's old guitar for beer and gas when he was in college. The singer also speaks of a time when he took a swing at his father one Christmas which he never would have done if he knew it would be his last.


The chorus of the song talks about how if the singer had a dime for all the foolish things he has ever done, he would have lived a life of luxury. In hindsight, he notes that he doesn't like what he sees when he looks back on his life and would have changed a lot of things, starting with himself. The unfulfilled regrets of the character are clear and it is illustrated that he wishes he could fix the wrong that he has done in his life, but the past is the past and he cannot change it.


Line by Line Meaning

I had a one night stand with my best friend's baby sister
I made a poor decision by sleeping with a family member of someone very important to me.


And to this day he still won't speak to me
My actions have caused a rift in my friendship and I have not been able to repair it.


I pawned my grandpa's old guitar in college
I made a foolish decision to trade something of sentimental value for temporary pleasure.


For a case of beer and a tank of gasoline
I gave away something that had meaning to me for something that would not last or benefit me in the long run.


I took a swing at my old man one Christmas
I acted violently towards a family member during a time when love and forgiveness should be emphasized.


I never dreamed that it would be his last
I did not realize that this moment would be the last interaction I would have with my father before his death.


I wish mom had rung my neck
I regret my actions and wish my mother had punished me more severely, as it might have helped me learn my lesson.


When she caught me with those cigarettes
I was engaging in unhealthy behavior that could lead to long-term health problems.


Which reminds me, I'm down to my last pack
I have not yet overcome my addiction and continue to engage in dangerous behavior.


If I had a dime
Reflecting on my past actions and how they have affected my present and future, I realize that I have made many mistakes.


For half the things I did
I have made so many mistakes that if I were paid for every one, I would have a lot of money.


That didn't make no sense at all
I can see now that many of my past actions were irrational and did not benefit me in any way.


I'd be living a little higher on the hog
If I had made better decisions in the past, I would be living a better life now.


If only I'd have known
Looking back on my life, I wish I had the knowledge and insight that I have now.


That later on down the road
I can see now, with experience and hindsight, the consequences of my actions and how they have affected my life.


I'd look back and not like what I see
I am recognizing that my past actions have not led me to the life I want, and I am not proud of who I was.


I'd have changed a lot of things
Knowing what I know now, I would have made different decisions in the past.


Startin' with me
I am taking responsibility for my past mistakes and recognizing that I can only change myself going forward.




Lyrics © BMG Rights Management, Universal Music Publishing Group
Written by: Joshua Ryan Owen, Jimmy Ritchey, Kendall Marvel

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Most interesting comment from YouTube:

@jdmarr2259

​​@@icedclips725
I just read your response 11 months later.

I'm afraid you got it backwards.
Read the 12 steps of A.A., especially #8 and #9.
It's not about what others owe you, but what you owe others regarding your addiction.

I respect tremendously someone who's gotten clean & sober.
Congratulations on that.

Peace.



All comments from YouTube:

@brianpatrick151

You tell it brother... Im 44, singer/songwriter/guitarist. Been drinking and partying for all my life. Got sober for 7 years, fell off. Got worse. 4 DUIs, high speed chases etc. In Kansas City. Spent 2 years behind bars, still struggled after I got out. Christmas day was 90 days... Again... Spent Christmas alone. Pushed out everyone in my life who cared for me, but made it thru the holidays sober. Got a great job with an old business acquaintance and things are awesome. God is great! Keep it up

@fordrunner1000

Stay strong and keep it up buddy.

@user-ij5oy8om1s

Well this is not a buddy but I could be you go girl lol lol😂but that's OK I love being incognito lol .❤😂😢🎉

@tylerlake4476

Damn brother you wrote this 11 years ago. I hope your still pulling strong.

@daniellamartinez9161

That takes a lot. Thanks for being strong for the ones that aren’t ready yet.

@josephzillmer2023

You look up its gone...times out. Never comes back around. Regret is the deepest scar.

@laurenbeene1435

When I was in my 20s I would listen to this song because I liked the lyrics...but here I am almost 32 and I can relate to every single lyric to this gem!💯🖤

@Lunchbox420

The older u get the harder the lyrics in songs hit

@wearytravelerin2023

I can totally relate to you about this awesome Jake Owen tune beautiful

@brandonbirr9471

@@Lunchbox420 you hit the nail right on the head !.

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