Joe is an American R&B singer. Born and raised in Columbus, Georgia, he lat… Read Full Bio ↴Joe is an American R&B singer. Born and raised in Columbus, Georgia, he later relocated to Atlanta, Georgia, and signed a record deal with Polygram Records in 1992. He rose to prominence after releasing his debut album Everything the following year. He followed it with a series of successful albums under Jive Records, including All That I Am (1997), the international bestseller My Name Is Joe (2000) as well as the multi-certified albums Better Days (2001) and And Then... (2003). Several songs from these albums became hit singles on the pop and R&B record charts, including the number-one hit "Stutter", the top ten entries "All the Things (Your Man Won't Do)", "Don't Wanna Be a Player", and "I Wanna Know" as well as his collaborations "Faded Pictures", "Thank God I Found You" and "Still Not a Player".

Sex Ain't A Weapon
Joe Lyrics

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Hmm, hmm, yeah, yeah
I get it, I get it
You say no better
So you gonna hold back your love for me
You know how I want you
But you wanna punish me
Trade in your heart for misery!
You're killing the feeling, destroying the moment

But as I felt I cross the field
No touching, no kissing
You're showing me wishing
You're shooting me down, but that ain't how its supposed to be!

Oh, girl, you cant use sex as a weapon
Oh, not with me!
You cant use sex as a weapon
Oh, not with me!
Tell why
Why chose a girl so aggressive?
Oh, not with me!
You cant use sex as a weapon
Cause sex ain't a weapon, no!
Oh, oh, oh, oh

Girl, I wanna make love, but you wanna make war
If its just another chore I don't want it!
I don't want it!
Ah, girl, you know I'm hungry
But you wanna starve me
A queen bee, she never hold back the honey!
Oh, but what are you proving?
Your winning is losing
When you're in, if you're in, you're losing it, girl!
That other fish that swim around in your sea

And that's why you cant
You cant use sex as a weapon
Oh, not with me!
Tell why
Why chose a girl so aggressive?
Oh, not with me!
You cant use sex as a weapon
Cause sex ain't a weapon, no!
Oh, oh, oh, oh

Oh, girl, you
Oh, there shutting off your
If your love is true!
You're mad at me, I'm mad at you

You cant use sex as a weapon
Oh, not with me!
Tell why
Why chose a girl so aggressive?
Oh, not with me!
You cant use sex as a weapon

Cause sex ain't a weapon, no!
Oh, oh, oh, oh

Overall Meaning

The song Sex Ain't A Weapon by Joe is about refusing to tolerate being manipulated in a relationship through sex. In the first verse, Joe acknowledges that his partner is withholding her love and using sex as a means of punishing him. However, he resists this behavior and states that it is not how a healthy relationship should be. He highlights that her actions are "killing the feeling" and "destroying the moment" by not allowing physical closeness like touching or kissing. Despite these actions, Joe affirms that he will not let himself fall into the trap of being manipulated through sex as he declares that "sex ain't a weapon" and that he will not tolerate it.

In the second verse, Joe expresses his desire for intimacy with his partner, but how she seems to be using it as a way to make him fight with her instead. He emphasizes this through the line "girl, you wanna make war." Joe compares his partner to a queen bee holding back the honey, which suggests that she is aware of his needs but is purposely withholding them. Joe points out that this kind of behavior, which involves one person manipulating the other, is a losing battle, with the winner actually losing out in the end. He believes that intimacy should be a natural expression of love, and without that, the relationship is doomed to fail.

Overall, the song conveys the message that sex should not be used as a means of control or manipulation in a relationship. Instead, intimacy should be based on trust, respect, and a genuine desire to love and be loved. By highlighting the problems with this manipulative behavior, Joe allows listeners to see the true value of intimacy and why it should be a natural expression of love.

Line by Line Meaning

I get it, I get it
I understand what you're saying

You say no better
You're not any better than me

So you gonna hold back your love for me
You're going to withhold your love to punish me

You know how I want you
You're aware of my desires

But you wanna punish me
You want to inflict pain on me

Trade in your heart for misery!
You're giving up your happiness for suffering

You're killing the feeling, destroying the moment
You're ruining the intimacy and ruining the situation

But as I felt I cross the field
Despite the confusion, I went ahead

No touching, no kissing
You're avoiding physical intimacy

You're showing me wishing
You're giving me false hope

You're shooting me down, but that ain't how its supposed to be!
You're rejecting me when it's not necessary

Girl, you cant use sex as a weapon
Sex should not be used as a way to manipulate or harm someone

Oh, not with me!
I won't stand for it

Tell why, why chose a girl so aggressive
Why did you choose to be so hostile?

Cause sex ain't a weapon, no!
You shouldn't use something as intimate as sex to hurt someone else

Girl, I wanna make love, but you wanna make war
I want to be close to you, but you're pushing me away

If its just another chore I don't want it!
If sex is just an obligation to you, then I don't want it

Ah, girl, you know I'm hungry
You know how much I desire you

But you wanna starve me
You're not fulfilling my needs

A queen bee, she never hold back the honey!
A powerful woman doesn't hold back from showing affection

Oh, but what are you proving?
What is the point of this?

Your winning is losing
You're not really winning by hurting me

When you're in, if you're in, you're losing it, girl!
If you're committed, but still withholding love, you're losing in the end

That other fish that swim around in your sea
Other people who may be interested in you

And that's why you cant
This is the reason you shouldn't

You're mad at me, I'm mad at you
We're both upset with each other

Lyrics © BMG Rights Management
Written by: ALVIN GARRETT, DERRICK L. ALLEN, GERALD WAYNE ISAAC, JOE L. THOMAS

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