The First Night
Monica feat. Jermaine Dupri Lyrics
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Feeling completely, down to be open
Down to be open
For some satisfaction
Didn't want to say yes, hating your reaction
I knew it was wrong, for feeling this way
Especially the thought of giving in on the first date
Couldn't let go, it stayed on my mind
I was thinking!
I should make a move but I won't
I know your probably thinking something is wrong
Knowing if I do then it won't be right
I don't get down on the first night
I should make a move but I won't
I know your probably thinking something is wrong
Knowing if I do then it won't be right
I want to get down but not the first night
We were chillin' watchin' your t.v.
Wanted to touch you, wanted to kiss you
And somehow in one night discover I love you
Felt so right but it felt so wrong
And look how we are carrying on
Trying to say things to get me to stay
But my watch tells me its getting to late
I'm thinking!
I should make a move but I won't
I know your probably thinking something is wrong
Knowing if I do then it won't be right
I don't get down on the first night
I should make a move but I won't
I know your probably thinking something is wrong
Knowing if I do then it won't be right
I want to get down but not the first night
If you want me
You got to know me
And if you want my love
You gotta wait my love
Baby, that's the way it's got to be
Get to know me so we can do this
I should make a move but I won't
I know your probably thinking something is wrong
Knowing if I do then it won't be right
I don't get down on the first night
I should make a move but I won't
I know your probably thinking something is wrong
Knowing if I do then it won't be right
I want to get down but not the first night
The song "The First Night" by Monica feat. Jermaine Dupri is about the struggle of giving in to physical desires too quickly in a relationship. Monica is feeling vulnerable and open to the idea of physical intimacy but is hesitant because she doesn't want to be judged or ruin the potential for a deeper connection. She realizes that giving in on the first night isn't the right thing to do, but she is still tempted. They spend the night together, and Jermaine tries to persuade her to stay, but Monica ultimately decides to leave and take things slow. She sets boundaries and makes it clear that if Jermaine wants to be with her, they need to get to know each other first.
The lyrics are powerful because they address a common issue in modern dating - the pressure to be physically intimate too soon. The song encourages listeners to take their time, build a connection, and respect each other's boundaries. The verses are filled with conflicting emotions, and the chorus is a repetition of Monica's decision to wait. Overall, the song sends a message of self-respect and healthy relationships.
Line by Line Meaning
Boy this evening, was it only me
I can't tell if you feel the same way or if it's just me
Feeling completely, down to be open
I'm feeling really vulnerable and open to exploring this attraction
Down to be open
I'm willing to let my guard down and take a chance on you
For some satisfaction
I'm looking for some physical satisfaction
Didn't want to say yes, hating your reaction
I didn't want to give in and risk your disapproval or rejection
I knew it was wrong, for feeling this way
I know it's not socially acceptable to want to get intimate on the first date
Especially the thought of giving in on the first date
I'm worried about being judged for 'giving in' too easily
Couldn't let go, it stayed on my mind
I couldn't shake the desire to be with you physically
At the end of the night I had to decide
I had to make a choice about giving into my desires or holding back
I was thinking!
I was weighing my options and considering the consequences
I should make a move but I won't
I'm tempted to be physical with you, but I don't think it's the right choice
I know your probably thinking something is wrong
I'm aware that you might be confused or disappointed by my hesitation
Knowing if I do then it won't be right
I know that giving in to my desires would go against my values
I don't get down on the first night
I don't want to have sex or be physically intimate on the first date
We were chillin' watchin' your t.v.
We were hanging out and relaxing, just watching TV
Wanted to touch you, wanted to kiss you
I was really attracted to you and wanted to be physically close
And somehow in one night discover I love you
I'm worried that becoming physically intimate could lead to confusing feelings and a false sense of love
Felt so right but it felt so wrong
There was a conflicting feeling of attraction and guilt
And look how we are carrying on
We're getting caught up in the moment and not thinking about potential consequences
Trying to say things to get me to stay
You're trying to convince me to give into my desires and stay with you
But my watch tells me its getting to late
I'm aware of the time and know that it's not appropriate to stay over or be physically intimate
If you want me
If you're interested in pursuing a relationship with me
You got to know me
You need to take the time to get to know me beyond just a physical attraction
And if you want my love
If you're looking for a deep emotional connection and love from me
You gotta wait my love
You need to be patient and wait for the appropriate time to become physically intimate
Baby, that's the way it's got to be
This is my personal belief and value system when it comes to physical intimacy
Get to know me so we can do this
I want to build a strong emotional connection and trust before becoming physically intimate
I want to get down but not the first night
I'm attracted to you and interested in physical intimacy, but it needs to be at an appropriate time
Lyrics © Universal Music Publishing Group
Written by: STEVEN VAN ZANDT
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@mrselection7814
I don't care what anyone says. What Jermaine Dupri did for RnB is on the same level as Dr Dre did for hip hop in the 90s. He had an ear for talent and knew how to make hits
@raqueledwards2827
Mr Selection agreed and thats on the real😚
@blessedk77
Right, and had some of the baddest remixes!
@dawb86
kelly cherisse completely agree with u. that Biggie "Big Poppa" So So Def remix was better than the original 💯
@igfromthe323
100% agree
@MrBenHaynes
Preach! JD y'all.
@AmeliaMark503
Monica dun went off 2 da next level like fr fr 💖 a u t h e n t I c v i e w s 💖 is what got them HUGE!
@munamanilla3751
i miss the old days
@needacleaner14
Back when it was considered cool for us as young women to have respect for our own selves. Seriously, shout out to the sisters who still have respect for their own selves. As women, it starts and ends with us.
@linusrandall9339
But sadly in the “good old days“ many women were robbed of their choice as to whether they would get down on the first night.