If I Am a Stranger
Ryan Adams Lyrics


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For all the hours here that move too slow
There's all this letting go, that don't pass
If all this love is real, how will we know?
If we're only scared of losing it, how will it last?

If I am a stranger now to you
I will always be, I will always be
Stronger now than me, stronger than you
Our love will always be
And if we let it go, I will try to be there for you
If I can, what if I can't?

Today is yesterday when you don't know
How to rebuild the walls that someone has knocked down
To tell the truth, it's hard enough without a lover
Who you want to hide your darkness from
So they won't let you down

If I am a stranger now to you
I will always be, I will always be
Stronger now than me, stronger than you
Our love will always be
And if we let it go, I will try to be there for you
I will try to be there for you
If I can, what if I can't?

For all the hours here that move too slow
There's all this letting go, that won't pass
If all this love is real, how will we know?
If we're only scared of losing it, how will it last?

If I am a stranger now to you
I will always be, I will always be
Stronger now than me, stronger than you
Our love will always be
If we let it go, I will try to be there for you




I will try to be there for you
If I can, what if I can't?

Overall Meaning

The opening lines of the song, "For all the hours here that move too slow, there's all this letting go, that won't pass," create a sense of restlessness and anxiety. The lyrics suggest that time is moving too slowly and that the act of letting go is becoming harder to do. There is a sense of being stuck in a situation that is unchanging, and not being sure how to move forward. The question raised in the chorus, "If all this love is real, how will we know?" highlights the uncertainty and doubt that can exist in a relationship. Fear of losing what one has can hinder the growth of love, and if the love is not allowed to grow it is more prone to dooming itself.


The second verse of the song particularly emphasizes the difficulties of rebuilding trust and opening up after a relationship ends. The walls that someone has knocked down reference the walls people build up around themselves to protect them from hurt. Asking someone to let their guard down and trust again can be difficult even for someone they have already been in a relationship with. The fear of being hurt again is too great. The closing lines of the song "If I am a stranger now to you, I will always be, I will always be. Stronger now than me, stronger than you. Our love will always be," suggest that despite being strangers in the present, the love that existed between the two is stronger than either individual.


Line by Line Meaning

For all the hours here that move too slow
The time passes slowly and it feels like it never ends.


There's all this letting go, that don't pass
There's a feeling of having to let go of something and it's hard to get over it.


If all this love is real, how will we know?
We question the validity of our love and whether it will last.


If we're only scared of losing it, how will it last?
If all we do is worry about losing our love, how can it sustain?


If I am a stranger now to you
If I feel like you don't know me anymore


I will always be, I will always be
But I will always be here for you.


Stronger now than me, stronger than you
I am stronger now and so are you


Our love will always be
Our love will always endure


And if we let it go, I will try to be there for you
Even if our love ends, I will be there for you.


If I can, what if I can't?
I may not be capable of doing what I promise, and that worries me.


Today is yesterday when you don't know
When you don't know what to do, it feels like every day is the same.


How to rebuild the walls that someone has knocked down
How to put up defences again after being hurt by someone.


To tell the truth, it's hard enough without a lover
It's difficult to go through life, even more so without someone to share it with.


Who you want to hide your darkness from
Someone who we want to protect from our negative side.


So they won't let you down
So that we are not disappointed or hurt by that person.


For all the hours here that move too slow
The time passes slowly and it feels like it never ends.


There's all this letting go, that won't pass
There's a feeling of having to let go of something and it's hard to get over it.


If all this love is real, how will we know?
We question the validity of our love and whether it will last.


If we're only scared of losing it, how will it last?
If all we do is worry about losing our love, how can it sustain?


If I am a stranger now to you
If I feel like you don't know me anymore.


I will always be, I will always be
But I will always be here for you.


Stronger now than me, stronger than you
I am stronger now and so are you.


Our love will always be
Our love will always endure.


If we let it go, I will try to be there for you
Even if our love ends, I will be there for you.


I will try to be there for you
I will make an effort to be there to support you.


If I can, what if I can't?
I may not be capable of doing what I promise, and that worries me.




Lyrics © Universal Music Publishing Group
Written by: RYAN ADAMS

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@jamiehenson8090

When my daughter was an infant and would cry I would sing this song to her. It was the only thing that would immediately stop her from crying and she would just stare at me quietly until I finished the song. She also suffered from car sickness and so I would keep a cd of this song in the car in case she started crying....never failed to stop her from crying and put her in a peaceful place till we got to our destination. She's 7 now and doesn't remember the song but I do :)

@swamibr0

literally doing the same thinng right now with my newborn son <3

@GeneSlyman

That's awesome, it's such a lullaby soothing songs - with such real relationship issues - it's raw.

@susanbanks3800

That’s amazing!! I just found his music! I think that is so awesome how your daughter calmed right down!! It’s very calming. It’s definitely calming. It has me very relaxed!! Bless you and your beautiful daughter!!

@primaverafib

I really love your comment! ❤ 💕

@poundtumbles

@primaverafib Me too.

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@stevesargant5041

Was fortunate enough to see him perform in London recently to a full house at London’s most prestigious theatre. A solo set lasting well over 2 hrs. and I’m pleased to report that after a few turbulent years for obvious reasons, the boy’s still got it.

@mapatterson22

I was there too. He was wonderful. His voice sounds even stronger and now that he's sober, his humour is even better.❤

@Geotubest

That's great to hear.

@JamesE1980

I’ve been lucky enough to see him play around 10 times in 7 different venues over the years and he has never disappointed glad to hear that hasn’t changed

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