In 1995, songwriter/producer and representative for Atlantic Records Matt Serletic approached the members of Tabitha's Secret concerning a long-term record deal. However, Serletic was more interested in helping Thomas find his voice than he was in the band Tabitha's Secret. Jay Stanley and John Goff were uninterested in a long-term record deal, believing it was better to sign for a one-record deal and evaluate the situation following this record's release. Thomas, however, felt the band should take the offer.
The fact that Stanley and Goff were resistant to sign, alongside pressure from the record company to drop the two guitar players, Thomas, Yale, and Doucette decided it was best to part ways with the other members of the band. Splitting the band landed Thomas, Yale, and Doucette a two-record deal with Atlantic Records, which was later renewed. With their two guitar players gone, Atlantic introduced the trio to Adam Gaynor, a rhythm guitarist and Kyle Cook, a lead guitarist. The five now comprise Matchbox Twenty, a world-renowned band.
When Matchbox Twenty debuted its first album Yourself or Someone Like You, Jay Stanley sued for royalties, claiming he owned the rights to the song 3am which appeared on the newly released record. Stanley stated that he was paid for the original recording sessions of the song when it was performed by Tabitha's Secret (it's released on multiple albums by Tabitha's Secret). This lawsuit lasted five years and was settled in 2000.
Although the band never released any records while they were together, Jay Stanley released three albums after getting the rights to the recordings of Tabitha's Secret. He released a rough demo mix, "Don't Play With Matches" in 1998, to satisfy the hard-core fans and the "Live" record in 2000. Later, Stanley joined with Tony Miceli and engineer George Spatta to re-mix, re-master, and overdub the original recordings and put them into the album "Tabitha's Secret?" which was released in late 2001.
Unkind
Tabitha's Secret Lyrics
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Is living on pain the thing that's getting to you
Write my name, pin it up with my picture
And say it's the only thing 'cause I'm not around to be around
I'm beaten and battered, hell if my dreams get shattered then
Pain gives me the right to be unkind
I trade a river of tears for just a little emotion
You can curse my name, pin it up with my picture
And say it's the last time that I'll be around to be around
Oh well I'm torn and I'm tattered
So the thoughts in my head they get scattered
Oh well pain gives me the right to be unkind
And it set's me here
Right back to the heart of it
Jones Crazy is a slight defense from it
Jones Crazy is a place I call my own, (when I'm alone, dig)
So Bring it on baby, what you getting into
Well I swear at once it was the little things that mattered
But it all seems true to you
Say the hell with my name and say the hell with my picture
Yeah but swear for the one time you need me around to be around
Well I'm around right now
And here I'll stand like it matters
Only once gets through and then gets scattered by the rain
But pain gives me the right to be unkind
And it sets me here
Right back to the heart of it
Jones Crazy is a slight defense from it
Jones Crazy is a place I call my own, (when I'm alone, dig)
Right back to the heart of it
Jones Crazy is a slight defense from it
Jones Crazy is a place I call my own, (when I'm alone, dig)
Right back to the heart of it
Jones Crazy is a slight defense from it
Jones Crazy is a place I call my own, (when I'm alone, dig)
In Tabitha's Secret's "Unkind," the lyrics suggest a speaker who is grappling with emotional pain and the need to be unkind as a way of coping. The lyrics feature a series of statements that seemingly come from an outside source, urging the singer to bring on pain and heartache, while also implying that any kindness they might show would not have the same impact. The opening lines urge the singer to go ahead and bring on whatever emotional turmoil they are facing, noting that living in pain seems to be the thing that they are struggling with. The singer is being urged to pin their own name and photo up as a reminder of their absence, suggesting that their emotional wounds are so deep that they are no longer present in their own world.
The chorus of the song reinforces the idea that the pain they are experiencing gives them the right to be unkind. This seems to suggest that the singer is doing battle with their own humanity, struggling with the need to lash out and take out their emotions on others. They note that they are "beaten and battered" and when their dreams get shattered, pain is the only right that they have left. In the final verse, the singer notes that they are "torn and tattered" and that the pain they feel sets them back to the heart of their struggles. They mention "Jones Crazy," which seems to be a sort of coping mechanism, a place they go when they are alone and feeling overwhelmed.
Overall, "Unkind" is a song that grapples with the complexities of emotional pain and how it can lead to lashing out at others. The lyrics suggest that the singer is struggling with a sense of being distant from their own emotions, almost observing them from afar, rather than fully experiencing them. The chorus, with its repeated refrain of "pain gives me the right to be unkind," underscores the profound sense of alienation that the singer is feeling, as well as their realization that their pain is leading them down a dark path.
Line by Line Meaning
Bring it on baby, what you getting into
Challenge me with your problems, what issues are you dealing with?
Is living on pain the thing that's getting to you
Are you struggling with the agony of your existence?
Write my name, pin it up with my picture
Remember me by putting my name and picture up on display
And say it's the only thing 'cause I'm not around to be around
Imply that I am no longer there, and this is all that's left of me
I'm beaten and battered, hell if my dreams get shattered then
I'm broken and bruised, and if my hopes are destroyed, then I'm doomed
Pain gives me the right to be unkind
Because of my agonizing experiences, I feel justified in being cruel
Bring it on baby, what's with sudden devotion
Why are you showing such an unexpected love and loyalty towards me?
I trade a river of tears for just a little emotion
I would give up all sadness if it meant feeling a little happiness
You can curse my name, pin it up with my picture
Feel free to speak ill of me and display my likeness prominently
And say it's the last time that I'll be around to be around
Suggest that I won't be coming back, and this is the final chapter of our relationship
Oh well I'm torn and I'm tattered
I am damaged and ruined
So the thoughts in my head they get scattered
My mind is a mess, and my ideas fly in every direction
Oh well pain gives me the right to be unkind
Once again, my suffering justifies my bad behavior
And it set's me here
My pain keeps me stuck in this spot
Right back to the heart of it
It leads me straight back to the source of my pain
Jones Crazy is a slight defense from it
My mentality of 'Jones Crazy' is a weak barrier against my suffering
Jones Crazy is a place I call my own, (when I'm alone, dig)
'Jones Crazy' is my state of mind, and I feel comfortable and familiar with it when I'm by myself
Well I swear at once it was the little things that mattered
I used to believe that small things made a difference
But it all seems true to you
But now it appears that it's all true to you
Say the hell with my name and say the hell with my picture
Forget about my name and my image completely
Yeah but swear for the one time you need me around to be around
But promise that if you need me, I'll be there for you
Well I'm around right now
Fortunately, I'm here for you at this moment
And here I'll stand like it matters
I'll stay by your side as if it's important
Only once gets through and then gets scattered by the rain
Only a few things stick with you before they are washed away by the troubles of life
But pain gives me the right to be unkind
Once more, my pain justifies any harsh words or actions that I may make
And it sets me here
And my pain keeps me stuck in this same spot
Right back to the heart of it
Once more, it leads me back to the source of my pain
Jones Crazy is a slight defense from it
Even though it's barely enough, my 'Jones Crazy' mentality helps protect me
Jones Crazy is a place I call my own, (when I'm alone, dig)
I view 'Jones Crazy' as my personal space, where I'm most comfortable on my own
Lyrics © O/B/O APRA AMCOS
Written by: BRIAN YALE, JOHN GOFF, JOHN JOSEPH STANLEY, ROB THOMAS, ROBERT THOMAS
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