Don't Let Go
The Co-Dependents Lyrics
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cnd my friends all tell me that you're wrong
Now I find myself saying things outloud
That I've really known all along
Well I think about it, think about it, every night
When I lay awake at night while you sleep by my side
cnd I wonder what I'd do if I woke up and you're gone
Don't don't go away
Is that what you wanna hear me say?
If you wanna leave today I'll help you pack
If things end today
You won't break my heart that way
You won't ever hear me say I want you back
You try to act like you want me
But I know the words you say are lies
You stick around because you have nothing better to do
I can see it by the look in your eyes
The lyrics of The Co-Dependents' song "Don't Let Go" explore the theme of a tumultuous and dysfunctional relationship. The singer is caught between their own feelings of attachment and the warnings from their friends that they should let go. They admit to themselves that deep down, they have always known the truth about their relationship.
In the first verse, the singer acknowledges the internal conflict they constantly face. They contemplate their dependency on their partner, who they feel they need, despite their friends' advice to the contrary. This suggests that the singer is grappling with their own insecurities and fear of being alone.
The second verse reveals the singer's intense contemplation during sleepless nights. While their partner sleeps peacefully beside them, they question what their life would be like if their partner were to leave. The lyrics imply that this thought has consumed the singer's mind to a point where they almost yearn for it to happen, as though they are ready for a change or a fresh start.
The chorus, "Don't don't go away, is that what you wanna hear me say? If you wanna leave today, I'll help you pack," reflects a turning point in the singer's mindset. They have acknowledged that staying in a relationship out of fear or desperation is not healthy. They finally express a willingness to let their partner go if they want to leave. The lyrics imply that the singer no longer wants to hold on to this unfulfilling relationship, as they believe it would be better to part ways.
In the final verse, the singer confronts their partner's insincerity. They claim that their partner is only sticking around out of convenience or lack of options. This is indicated by the look in their partner's eyes, which the singer can perceive. The lyrics suggest that the singer is tired of being deceived or taken for granted.
Overall, "Don't Let Go" reveals a relationship filled with emotional turmoil, where the singer struggles with their own co-dependency. Through introspection, they come to understand the truth and express a willingness to move on if their partner chooses to leave. The lyrics highlight the singer's growing self-awareness and desire for a healthier and more genuine connection.
Line by Line Meaning
You try to tell me that I need you
You attempt to persuade me that I am dependent on you
And my friends all tell me that you're wrong
My companions express their disagreement with your behavior
Now I find myself saying things out loud
Presently, I catch myself vocalizing thoughts
That I've really known all along
Ideas I have truly been aware of from the beginning
Well I think about it, think about it, every night
Well, I contemplate it, contemplate it, each and every night
When I lay awake at night while you sleep by my side
During the moments I remain sleepless while you slumber beside me
And I wonder what I'd do if I woke up and you're gone
I ponder upon the actions I would take if I awakened and discovered your absence
I've thought about it too much so baby, bring it on
I have excessively pondered this scenario, so dear, let it happen
Don't don't go away
Please refrain from departing
Is that what you wanna hear me say?
Is that the response you desire me to utter?
If you wanna leave today I'll help you pack
If your intention is to depart today, I will aid you in preparing your belongings
If things end today
If our relationship concludes on this day
You won't break my heart that way
You will not cause emotional distress in that manner
You won't ever hear me say I want you back
I will never express a desire to reconcile with you
You try to act like you want me
You make an effort to pretend that you possess affection for me
But I know the words you say are lies
However, I am aware that your statements are deceitful
You stick around because you have nothing better to do
You linger due to the absence of more fulfilling options in your life
I can see it by the look in your eyes
I can discern this from the expression in your gaze
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@ross5330
DEFINITION: "Trying to create a feeling of safety in the world that you don't feel safe in."
Related to inability to self-soothe or self-regulate and believing that others are out to hurt you
Anxious attachment - People-pleasing, Golden Child Syndrome
People who are codependent look for people who they can fix to feel worthy and as a way to convince the other to stay.
ACTIONABLE STEPS:
- Give up control of the other, let them be who they are. They may not need you.
- Practice secure attachment tendencies
- Have your own worth/priorities/identity outside of person
- Have to take care of the inner child.
- Take the spotlight off the other and put it on yourself.
@PullMeIntoYourPerfectCircle
I watched my first video by Margarita that speaks about anxiety attachments...it woke me up and it made me a little sad that 90% of the video I related to. I was already aware and I've known for years I've needed to change.
On a positive measure,to hear it all in words helped a lot. To hear someone tell me exactly how I feel and what I go through and my thoughts patterns has been really eye opening.
I find myself being this way EVERY
SINGLE
DAY
towards my husband.
Every
Single
Day.
So sad and depressing and addictive. My husband has pulled away, naturally,but he remains with open arms only when I'm ready and healed. Right when I think I'm headed towards healing,he opens back up then I sabotage it again and again. It's like he's in the outside looking in,at me,waiting,he's done all he can do to help me,but then I became dependent. It was too much.
This is my second video,haven't watched it yet had to type this first
God bless you all ❤
@1986SGB
As a grateful member of many recovery modalities for 6+ years now, here’s what I’ve learned codependency really is:
- inability to self regulate and experience reality moderately
- need for 24/7 positive regard
- no self esteem (thus we seek esteem in others and substances)
- no relationship with something greater than yourself, no real purpose in life
The solution is really in keeping complete accountability, leaning into tolerating life on life’s terms over time and attending to your own life.
Codependency is addiction to drama and other people, and it will rob you of the most precious resource - TIME.
As someone who has now recovered pretty fully from codependency, I can attest that total healing is possible and it’s magnificent!
@kylaszone
"Be selfish and self-obsessed because you don't know how to do that." And this is exactly why no one will ever be allowed to dim my light again. They have no idea what had to be overcome in order to find self-love and no longer abandon my own needs. So call me full of it, self obsessed or too focused on me, it's just a compliment now.
@kaay.baabii3115
How I’m trying to be
@sirg-had8821
The goal I'm striving towards.
@flexiveganc7441
@@kaay.baabii3115e too, i wake up biw in the night. B😂cause a neighbour was angry/ dissapointed to me becaise i had not give him somehting (because i gave to another). Then i feel guilty also because it was new for me i gave no explanation. But now i feel myself like very egoistisch. But deep insite its also the better choice. But van almost not breath becaise i have always respect for older. Bit this what i did today i dont do for beeing a egoist. But i habe to do this so they keep dostance for me. And i attract healthy persons who respect me. Instead of calling me like it was very low from me.I gave it to another. Take care you all
@comparecards5688
@@flexiveganc7441keep giving it whilst you can
@lilredhaze555
I understand...I feel guilty for anything I do for myself... it's like "buyer's remorse" was always told I was selfish...never the case... I always worked my ass off... especially after I left an abusively toxic marriage over 20yrs...dove into my job taking any & all shifts available... didn't want to think bout nothing but didn't wanna dull pain & hurt in drugs & alcohol...it began to work on me...everyone noticed...BUT ME....SO...one day my bestie called me off work & we went to the Beach...first time ever w/o any responsibility... so at 47 yrs old my friends & bosses HAD to explain that it was okay to call off for a mental day...I am still learning to let go...have fun...breathe...say NO... I don't have the energy to do that today... I'M learning I have to make myself a priority or will get lost mentally & hurt physically...#SELFLOVE❤❤
@fembot521
I am watching this video waiting for my bf to text me back. I think about our relationship incessantly. Any perceived change in behaviour from him makes me furious and I want to end things with him. This really resonated for me. The spotlight analogy is spot on! Who cares what he is doing! I only care what I am doing and if he wants to leave he can leave I cannot control him, his thoughts or actions or whether or not he loves me! I AM A JUICY ORANGE!! Thank you ❤️. Gonna watch this a few times.
@MineralsnGems
We will be independent juicy oranges ❤
@laurenlockridge5583
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@38tothegut
i love this n i agree