He then formed the short-lived bands Bash & Pop who in 1993 released one album Friday Night Is Killing Me and then later, Perfect, who released an EP in 1996 titled When Squirrels Play Chicken. In 1997 their album Seven Days a Week was shelved due to record company problems.
In 1998 Stinson appeared on Puff Daddy's "It's All About The Benjamins (Rock Remix)" along with Foo Fighters frontman and former Nirvana and Queens of the Stone Age drummer Dave Grohl. He also can be seen playing bass for the song in the music video. Stinson has been the bass player for Guns N' Roses since 1998.
In 2004, Stinson released a solo album Village Gorilla Head which was well-received by the music press. Also that year, Stinson's band Perfect finally released the shelved Seven Days a Week, which they retitled Once Twice Three Times a Maybe.
In the fall of 2005, Tommy joined Soul Asylum for a few gigs in tribute to Karl Mueller. Tommy and Dave Pirner (founding member of Soul Asylum ) were friends in High School in Minneapolis, MN. He also scored the Jennifer Garner movie Catch and Release.
In between touring and writing, he managed to produce Bobot Adrenaline's debut album Unfurled.
In December 2005, he reconvened with Paul Westerberg and Chris Mars to record two new songs for a Replacements compilation. Stinson further collaberated with Westerberg on the soundtrack to the Sony feature film Open Season, recording bass tracks for 'Love You in the Fall' and 'Right to Arm Bears'. The two also recorded 'Wild as I Wanna Be' but Sony reportedly rejected the song because they thought Westerberg sounded ill. The song was instead recorded by Deathray.
In the summer of 2006 Tommy played a few shows with Soul Asylum once more during a break in the Guns N' Roses tour.
During the early-to-mid years of this decade, a flier for a Tommy Stinson show tacked to a utility pole was visible in one of the commercial bumpers of Saturday Night Live.
Destroy Me
Tommy Stinson Lyrics
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I couldn't bear not to see
You're makin' wounds that don't bleed
I can almost feel them when I look into your face
Can't justify all my needs
I get too bored too easy
You make me wait my turn when you
I love the way you look as you destroy me
I love the way it feels as you destroy me
You destroy me
Can't you see us breakin' down
You're in your Hepburn gowns
Not making a sound
Didn't mean it but we said it anyway
We'll take it back once again
Leanin' on a weakened crutch
Stayed up to late thought too much
Didn't feed it, we're just starving it to death
What we need is to take another breathe
What we feel is getting hard to accept
I love the way you look as you destroy me
I love the way it feels as you destroy me
I love the sound we make as you destroy me
You destroy me
The song "Destroy Me" by Tommy Stinson is a poignant reflection on the paradox of love and pain. The lyrics describe a relationship in which one person is causing harm to the other, yet the victim finds a strange pleasure in the experience. The singer is torn between his desire for intimacy and the realization that he is being hurt. When he looks into his partner's face, he feels the wounds they are inflicting on him, yet he cannot bear to look away. There is a sense of helplessness and surrender in his voice as he describes the power his partner has over him.
The chorus of the song is particularly striking, as it declares the singer's love for the destruction he is experiencing. This paradoxical statement encapsulates the emotional complexity of the song, and forces the listener to question their own assumptions about love and pain. The bridge of the song offers a glimmer of hope, as the singer acknowledges the need to take a step back and breathe. However, this moment of clarity is short-lived, as he is quickly pulled back into the whirlwind of his toxic relationship.
In conclusion, "Destroy Me" is a powerful song that explores the psychological depths of a dysfunctional relationship. It offers a nuanced, thought-provoking perspective on the complexity of love and pain, and speaks to the universal human experience of being vulnerable to the people we care about, even when they hurt us.
Line by Line Meaning
Don't dim the lights, baby
Please don't turn off the lights, my love
I couldn't bear not to see
I feel anxious when I can't see you
You're makin' wounds that don't bleed
You're hurting me emotionally
I can almost feel them when I look into your face
I sense the pain when I see the expression on your face
Can't justify all my needs
I can't explain why I have certain desires
I get too bored too easy
I lose interest quickly
You make me wait my turn when you
You keep me waiting even though you're eager to see me
Can't wait to see me
You're excited to meet me
I love the way you look as you destroy me
I enjoy how you look when you're causing me emotional pain
I love the way it feels as you destroy me
I enjoy the sensation of being emotionally hurt by you
You destroy me
You are causing me emotional harm
Can't you see us breakin' down
Don't you realize our relationship is falling apart?
You're in your Hepburn gowns
You dress elegantly like Audrey Hepburn
Not making a sound
You're not speaking or making any noise
Didn't mean it but we said it anyway
We spoke hurtful words unintentionally
We'll take it back once again
We'll apologize and try to make amends
Leanin' on a weakened crutch
We're relying on something that can't support us
Stayed up to late thought too much
We've been thinking too much and have lost sleep
Didn't feed it, we're just starving it to death
We neglected our relationship and it's dying
What we need is to take another breathe
We should take a step back and try to relax
What we feel is getting hard to accept
We're struggling to come to terms with our emotions
I love the sound we make as you destroy me
I enjoy the noise we make when you're causing me emotional harm
You destroy me
You continue to cause me emotional pain
Contributed by Josiah B. Suggest a correction in the comments below.