Empathy
♫ Sneaker Pimps Lyrics

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Her innocence is above me
Today is dead she's around my head
Between my history between my headphones
This is her home forever her home

But I can't be her brother
To empower her to become her
Trawl through this forgiveness

My memory's so empathy low

This attitude beneath her
It's evident it denies us
Proves herself to be closer
But not me forever not me

This sickness avoids all cure
Imperfection my downfall
Learn myself through symptoms

My memory's so
Empathy low

Overall Meaning

The lyrics of Sneaker Pimps’ song Empathy depict the complex nature of a relationship that the singer has with a woman. In the first few lines, the singer describes the woman's innocence and how she is omnipresent in his thoughts despite her not being physically present. He associates her with his history and the music he listens to. The phrase "Today is dead" could refer to the idea that the past is more relevant to the singer than the present, which could lead to him feeling stuck in the past.

The singer then acknowledges that he cannot simply be the woman's brother, and that empowering her is not within his capacity. The phrase "My memory's so empathy low" could mean that the singer struggles to put himself in her shoes, or he is not feeling empathetic towards her situation. The woman, on the other hand, is described as having an attitude that denies the possibility of closeness between them. It is implied that the singer is struggling to understand the woman's perspective and their differences inhibit them from becoming closer.

In the chorus, the lyrics "This sickness avoids all cure" adds to the sombre mood of the song. This line could reference an unresolvable issue within the relationship, or a feeling of detachment from reality. The songwriter implies that he needs to learn more about himself to overcome his shortcomings, with the phrase "Learn myself through symptoms." Overall, Empathy speaks to the complexities of navigating relationships and the struggles that can arise.

Line by Line Meaning

Her innocence is above me
I see her as someone pure and innocent, someone who is better than me.

Today is dead she's around my head
Even though the day is over, I can't stop thinking about her.

Between my history between my headphones
My past experiences and memories are kept in my headphones, separating me from the present.

This is her home forever her home
She belongs here, and this place will always be her home.

But I can't be her brother
I can't just be there as a supportive friend or family member.

To empower her to become her
I wish I could help her become who she truly is, but I don't know how.

Trawl through this forgiveness
I need to sift through my emotions and find forgiveness within myself.

My memory's so empathy low
I struggle to empathize with others and remember their perspectives because of my experiences in the past.

This attitude beneath her
She has an attitude that is noticeable and present.

It's evident it denies us
Her attitude affects our relationship negatively.

Proves herself to be closer
She shows favoritism towards someone else, making me feel left out.

But not me forever not me
I don't think she will ever have the same closeness with me as she does with others.

This sickness avoids all cure
There is no solution to the problem, and it only gets worse over time.

Imperfection my downfall
My flaws are what bring me down and prevent me from being happy and successful.

Learn myself through symptoms
I start to understand myself better when I realize my negative behaviors and patterns.

My memory's so empathy low
I still struggle to empathize with others and remember their perspectives because of my experiences in the past.

Lyrics © Universal Music Publishing Group
Written by: CHRIS CORNER, DAVID LAMB, IAN PICKERING, LIAM COVERDALE-HOWE

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@conradwarne2756

5y↑13

@Marmite Most proberly. Not sure if its just the brain though.

I had a friend from school about 30yrs ago. He had a heart transplant and after the operation he was such a different person.

He had all these memories that where not his memories but as we later found out where that of the person who the heart belonged too. My friend use to be quite a thug and always get into trouble for commiting crimes mostly robberies. After his heart transplant he was totally the opposite person he use to be.

He became such a gental caring and compassion deep person and gifted in music art & poetry. The person who the heart originaly belonged to was a music writer, Landcape painter, and use to write poetry.

My conclusion is that the whole body is wired up to be a certain way. How it responds to life is based on two factors (1 our Genes) (2 our conditioning) Two factors that nobody chooses or is in control of.

So im not sure if its just the brain I

@vixxcelacea2778

8y↑57

+SissyFlower5 This is what pisses me off so much about just calling it empathy. There are to my knowledge two types.

What they "say" you lack or have trouble with is cognitive empathy. This could mean you have trouble reading or understanding peoples emotional states or "reading a " as it were. This means subtitles and certain ways of thinking are often lost to those under the autism spectrum.

However, from what I understand, those under this spectrum usually have emotional empathy in spades. Often higher than "neurotypicals" as it were. Emotional empathy is the ability to understand someones pain.
This reflects a lot of autistic encounters. Once someone under the spectrum realizes and understands that someone is hurt or that they may of been the cause, even if they may not get why, they instantly feel pretty terrible.

A lot of people compare autism to psychopathy. This is false. They're basically opposites. Psychopaths have low or missing emotional empathy and incredibly high cognitive. They read people like a book, but have no physical capacity to care or find worth in them and their experiences. Everyone is a stepping stone or a toy. No one else exists except them.

Any expert can correct me if I'm wrong. I'm relaying what I've learned and what I've personally experienced with those under the spectrum of autism.

@claytonroberts5881

5y↑4

Improved Transcript:

So, what is empathy and why is it VERY different than sympathy?
Empathy fuels connection. Sympathy drives disconnection.

Empathy... It's very interesting. Theresa Wiseman is a nursing scholar who studied professions - very diverse professions - where empathy is relevant, and came up with four qualities of empathy:
[1] Perspective taking - the ability to take the perspective of another person, or recognize their perspective as their truth. [2] Staying out of judgment - not easy when you enjoy it as much as most of us do. [3] Recognizing emotion in other people, [4] and then communicating that.

Empathy is feeling WITH people. And to me… I always think of empathy as this kind of sacred space. When someone's kind of in a deep hole, and they shout from the bottom, and they say, "I'm stuck. It's dark. I'm overwhelmed." And then, we look and we say, "Hey!" And climb down..."I know what it's like down here. And you're not alone."

Sympathy is, "Ooh!" "It's bad, uh-huh?" "Uh... No. You want a sandwich?"

Empathy is a choice and it's a vulnerable choice, because in order to connect with you, I have to connect with something in myself that knows that feeling. Rarely, if ever, does an empathic response begin with, "At least..." ...Yeah. And we do it all the time because - you know what - someone shared something with us that's incredibly painful and we're trying to "silver [line]" it. I don't think that's a verb, but I'm using it as one. We're trying to put a silver lining around it.

So,
[problem:] "I had a miscarriage."
[empathetic response:] "At least you know you can get pregnant."

[problem:] "I think my marriage is falling apart."
[empathetic response:] "At least you have a marriage."

[problem:] "John's getting kicked out of school."
[empathetic response:] "At least Sarah is an A-student."

But one of the things we do sometimes in the face of very difficult conversations is we try to make things better. If I share something with you that's very difficult, I'd rather you say, "I don't even know what to say right now. I'm just so glad you told me." Because the truth is, rarely can a response make something better. What makes something better is connection.

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@rsaorg

4y↑377

Exciting news everyone!

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@lorisetley2188

4y↑1

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@swayz87

4y↑2

Well deserved!! 👌

@cosmoblivion

3y↑2

Besides the verbal teachings, I have so appreciated the animated visuals that illustrate the concepts. Very useful to share in many settings/purposes.

@robmillist

I <3 you RSA!

@RichardGriffiths1

3y↑1

Did you win?

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@becomingfr33

10y↑2.2K

Empathy doesn't start with 'at least', or 'chin up', or 'get it together' or 'get over it'... it starts with the silence of listening

@charlesmichaelschmitt6412

5y↑19

Yes but my wife hates it when I say nothing, I said “I listening to what you said“ and she would say “and“? I would say “yes that is so terrable, you must feel so bad“. This could go on I could give her a hug and come the next day it would start over. She would say “it's your fault!“ I would say “ am so sorry“. She responds with “it's too late!“ I would be like “Oh, I can write you an apoligy“. She responds “ that is so anti social! Don't waist my time!“

@annekathbarba7696

5y↑24

@@charlesmichaelschmitt6412 sometimes it depends on what kind of person whom you will give that empathic gesture, give her what she want. But if u really dont know what to say to your wife just hug or hold her hand

@mewilly11111

5y↑8

@@annekathbarba7696 A hug or hand hold in the moment of upset is a micro aggression and will only deepen the divide. It's dismissive and empty. You don't know Charles Michael Schmitt so please don't offer advice that can only harm.

@mewilly11111

5y↑19

@@charlesmichaelschmitt6412 I would suggest a marriage counselor.

@bencreatetv

4y↑2

And making them feel that you understand them

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@xPimpinJx

5y↑971

"I don't even know what to say right now , I'm just glad you told me." Wish more of my friends knew that phrase instead of dumping advice on me.

@petergraywolf5765

4y↑59

I came to the conclusion (based on my own experiences with depression, deep and repetetivve one) that trying to help thru advice often does more harm than good

Actually the person that truly helped me, realized that maybe there isnt anything she can do. So she simply was there for me. Even if i wrote one message in half hour (depressed people can be so slow, having problem with single sentence that takes few minutes to form) she simply was there for me, for to talk or not talk and just share her presence with me.

I wish people would realize that dumping advice can do more harm than good. And sharing your presence with the other person (without necesity to talk, just being close) is the best help that they can offer.

@marshwetland3808

4y↑26

@@petergraywolf5765 Presence is something that most people wouldn't even know what it means. Awareness and connection are not really valued in our culture, generally.

@petergraywolf5765

4y↑5

@@marshwetland3808 i understand that it is big issue in our modern culture(s) , thats why i speak about it. To maybe open eyes of few people, about how ot help someone in depression (not to mention that it applies to other situations too, not just to depression)

my philosophy kinda is ,,if i suffered, i can teach others how to avoid this suffering" for example tips about how to get out of depression (since i went thru it myself) , or how ot help someone in depression (since i was both in the position of depressed one, and also in the position of trying to help people with depression)

spreading knowledge, wisdom (that comes from truthful experiences, not from theories) sharing knowledge, is in my opinion very important. And compassionate.

@npc6817

4y↑41

I've made this mistake plenty of times, the problem is that when you care about someone and they let you in on their problems it's hard not to feel a call to action, to slay the metaphorical dragon and save your friend from the beast.
It takes many lessons in humility to understand that most of the times nothing you could ever say would makes things better and that more often than not even if it could that wouldn't help anyway.
Even right now I'm having a hard time not to slip back in my old ways and just straight up tell you what to think about your pushy friends.
The only thing I would suggest to you is to just make clear from the beginning that you're not looking for that sort of help or any help at all, most of us advice dumpers are not doing this because we think only we can solve the problem or to feel better about ourselves, we just tend to jump to the conclusion that this is what is expected of us and that coming back to you empty-handed after what you shared with us would just let you down.
sorry in advance if I ended up overstepping my boundaries, believe me when I say it was not my intention.

@lalasmitty4twenty538

4y↑3

You have the type of friends that want to help you...my grandmother is like that she's always telling us what to do lol.

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@SanFranXclips

4y↑497

"Empathy is not connecting to an experience, its connecting to the emotions that underpin an experience" -Brené Brown

@gilliganob1442

2y↑10

Empathy is owning the emotional experience as if it was your own. It's being present to what's going on. Marvin

@RachelRHCP

2y↑3

@@gilliganob1442 whole heartedly agree when you write being present. Such good insight. You’ve inspired me think, if it’s okay, adding on that it doesn’t have to be owning it as if it’s your own, because someone’s pain may be outside of our experience and we can still connect with our own deep compassion for the range of human conditions and emotions…empathy can also include space we hold to listen to the music behind the words, the emotions of the person who feels them and show up for them in ways they find comforting and supportive. Yknow?

@hellsgate700

6y↑689

Fox: "I'm feeling very suicidal."

Deer: "At least you haven't done it yet :)"

@amynguyen8086

5y↑19

hellsgate700 i shouldn’t laugh at this

@GeorgeCagle

5y↑30

Bro, it's a moose.

@Churlz

5y↑35

As a suicidal person, I laughed at this xD

@zacedx

5y↑9

Churlz same.

@taylorg6632

4y↑27

@@Churlz Heheheheheh... Same. :)

A famous greek playwright said something to the effect of 'if you know how to write tragedy perfectly, you know also how to write comedy'.

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@JacobSoboroff

10y↑786

"Rarely can a response make something better. What makes something better is connection." True dat.

@scscyou

4y↑2

"Rarely can a response make something better." But that doesn't mean it never can. There are a lot of people who actively refuse any help even when it's quite possible. I believe we should strongly distinguish between responses that annoyingly attempt to reduce the severity of a problem, and those with a cold, rational, but potentially helpful advice, even if it's judgemental in the form of a future prevention of the same issue. I believe that people who never take any preventative steps have no hope in reducing the frequency of their troubles. Imagine someone who causes 80% of their own issues by their own wrong behavior. Why does our consensus imply that it's correct to create your own problems and unnecessary drama? A healthy judgement is a required part of the feedback loop of our psyche. And I believe that those who complain also have the same responsibility over explicitly stating whether they want help or not. Sure, sometimes you don't want to hear that it's "your own fault", or that it will "get better", etc., but that doesn't mean you should never get that feedback. There should be a place and a time for that, at least after you get better (because that's when people typically get lazy, which basically makes them deserve at least some of the reprocussions - because people aren't always correct by default!).

@sb7271

Oof. Too real.

@TheSyntheticPop

10y↑358

"Empathy is a choice, and it's a vulnerable choice because in order to connect with you, I have to connect with something in myself that knows that feeling." So great and true.

@fry5544

5y↑3

💛 Yes. 💛

@erikamackley

4y↑3

This

@garage13

6y↑404

4 qualities
- perspective taking
- staying out of judgment
- recognising emotion in other people
- communicating that recognition of emotion

@duzza3610

4y↑6

A man of culture.

@weareallinthis3668

2y↑3

AWESOME

@emeliasalas215

2y↑2

Thank you.😀

@laurenyoung466

3y↑9

The last few words, "rarely can a response make something better. What makes something better is connection." Brilliant.

@AnthonyQueen

10y↑1.8K

Sympathy = "I see your pain". Empathy = "I feel your pain"

@alietealmeida3206

5y↑22

fantastic answers so simple put on!

@malaikawebb5675

5y↑63

apathy = "I could care less about your pain"

@user-hf3hy4jy5h

5y↑5

What if l don't?

@conradwarne2756

5y↑2

@Marmite You dont, it happens automatically. Not eveyone is wired up that way.

@conradwarne2756

5y↑13

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@Pandokie3

8y↑1.4K

I've watched this video 3 times already. I keep coming back to see it cause it just connects with me so much. After my dad unexpectedly passed away, I've learned that there are 4 types of people who try to comfort you.
1) The moose who tries to say "At least.." in everything, hoping to cheer you up. They're the ones that keep saying, "Look towards the future!" and "Move on!"
2) Those that don't know what to say, so they just ignore you and hope that by the time they connect back with you after several months and years, you'll be perfectly fine again. They're the ones that don't know how to do the healing, so they simply ask "How are you?" every time they see you, hoping that they will finally hear "good" from you.
3) Those that don't know what to say, so they start talking about how good their life is and obviously try too hard to make the mood light and happy, which ends up doing the opposite effect.
4) The bear. The ones that simply listen and say, "That is traumatic." and "It's okay to cry."

@NabhaCosley

5y↑60

This was really helpful to read. Thanks for sharing.

@grittykitty1915

5y↑11

Was that a moose?

@hiteshbellani9547

5y↑20

My papa passed away on 31th July,, just two weeks back,,, we share the same pain,,, we all need the bear ,,,hugs

@juliemanning

5y↑14

@Aimee Levens I'm so sorry. The journey to motherhood is portrayed as something that falls into womens laps. Its almost as though, as soon as we intend on becoming mothers, it becomes a challenge. Its a dark and lonely place and one I hope more women decide to talk about. I am in the middle of trying and I feel like I'm racing some clock.

@kathysliceidaho

4y↑68

I want to be the bear. I strive to be the bear. I don't always succeed at being the bear.

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@MooreCashFlow

3y↑16

Bravo! Responses don't make people feel better, connections make people feel better.

@autumnreneamckeivier4901

35w↑10

I was assigned to watch this video for a discussion board assignment in my social work course. I cannot get over how calming Dr. Browns voice is.

@pantsuck11

10y↑835

"I have an alcohol addiction"

"at least it's not a meth addiction"

@daikyosenshi

5y↑33

At least you have the resources to fuel your alcohol addiction

@jjjos

5y↑15

Daikyosenshi at least you have the mental and physical abilities to use those resources

@hiteshbellani9547

5y↑3

Lol

@simeonismyname2982

5y↑3

both can put you in the grave easily, so there is no ranking for sure

@enduring22

4y↑1

@@simeonismyname2982 agree

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@LadyGameLyric

10y↑192

Never has a 3 minute animation short explained things so perfectly.

@jsponson

4y↑29

The sympathy described in this video is NOT true sympathy, it's more like pity.

The prefix sym- means "together", "with", e.g. symphony, symposium, symbiosis. Sympathy literally means I experience your suffering with you, or "I share your pain."

@zuby985

4y↑66

The reality is…we need both. It’s not a good idea to paint one as bad and the other as good. Sympathy involves compassion and a desire to help and aliviate suffering. (the world needs this) Sympathy and Empathy are not mutually exclusive of each other.
with that…great lesson.

@maxpayne892

2y↑11

Sadly only a few people understand that. I'd say empathy is worse when you're dealing with someone depressed. Compassion is the best option in most cases. And yeah sympathy isn't evil

@OR1000N

I think empathy HAS compassion and the desire to help but expresses it in a more effective way.
Sympathy might want to alleviate suffering- obviously, because they just want to end your problem without understanding how you feel

@phyxiuss

2y↑3

I don't want sympathy

@jawmama99

2y↑2

@@phyxiuss sympathy is an automatic human reaction, it's not negative. no one is 'giving' sympathy they are responding to difficult stimulus and automatically responding. It's not a bad thing.

@phyxiuss

@@jawmama99 i don't care how you view it. It's rude for me

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@ChrisLamberts

10y↑87

This should be a children's novel!

@karenjohannessen8987

@@IngasVideos How would it need to be "more kid friendly"?

@SissyFlower5

8y↑751

This is interesting. I'm not sure if I agree wholeheartedly, but it's interesting. I'm autistic, so according to stereotypes, I am incapable of empathy (Ugh, stereotypes...)
I'm not sympathetic at all. I never tell people , "I'm so sorry for your loss," or make those facial expressions people have tried to train me to do.
What I do instead is help them. I work at a summer camp, and my ability to work with upset/crying kids is stuff of legend. Because I'm the only counselor who doesn't say "Just relax and join the group" or "No one else is upset over this. Look, they're all calm!" or "We're doing this right now. You have to do this. Calm down and do this with the group." I actually help them calm down, by sitting with them and talking, or letting them be away from the group for awhile. You know why? Because I get it!
I don't just say, "Aw, I'm so sorry about that." Actually, I never say that. Is that why the world thinks I'm un-empathetic?

@yukin2694

8y↑25

+SissyFlower5 sISSY, THIS IS A GREAT POINT

@SissyFlower5

8y↑116

+B Nettles This is what I've been trying to tell people for years! I may be completely deadpan but I AM STILL FEELING YOUR PAIN. Not everyone reacts to emotions in the same way. But it doesn't mean we don't have them!

@MegaBanne

8y↑59

+SissyFlower5 You sound like a wonderfull person.
To have empathy is all about understanding. To help a nother person for the sake of that person is to be a friend. Some people are very good friends, but might not have the same ability to understand a nother persons problem. You are obviously a very wise and understanding person.

@EternallApprentace

8y↑29

+SissyFlower5 I personally hate this video. I fell it shits on sympathy, and raises empathy to be a golden blindfolded wound-licking-loves-company standard, with their in actuality being so much more depth between empathy and sympathy even with simple definitions of (though there's multiple) of "sharing feelings with another person" and "Feeling, often bad or sadly, for another person."

That all said, your comment, saying "This is what I've been trying to tell people for years!" is so great, I find it actually outshines the whole video without even picking apart all the flaws I could find in it.

Thanks :)

@vixxcelacea2778

8y↑57

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@priyankasalelkar3564

4y↑13

"One of the things we do sometimes, in the face of very difficult conversations, is we try to make things better."

@griefshare2907

3y↑2

We should be "care takers"; not "cure givers".

@cherokeewarcry

4y↑42

I almost cried while watching this as it reminded me of my own fight with depression. It was delivered in a very empathetic way. It built connection.

@Revsusu1

9y↑56

So true! I remember in the hospital many years ago with a badly crushed and mangled leg, doctors saying they may have to amputate....ugh, I was in shock and a lot of pain. Many friends and family came to visit. To me, in the state of shock and horror at the thought, their words, meant well, but felt empty.The only person whose words felt real and empathetic was my youngest son (at the time, in his early twenties), who held my hand and simply said, "I know how you feel." And I instinctively knew he knew.
Not at the time, but some time later, I realized why his words were empathetic. He, too, had had the experience of shattered bones earlier in his life through an accident. He had 'felt' the feelings and the pain. He knew! I was and am so grateful for his words. They truly gave me hope.
I healed (as did he) and we both are just fine. The experience, for me, drew me closer to him. It was inclusion, rather than exclusion. During the experience, the space between us lessened, we drew closer together. I have always remembered that moment and been very grateful for him being there with me at that time.

@rsaorg

10y↑161

We are thrilled that 'The Power of Empathy' RSA short has reached over 2 million views! Watch it here http://ow.ly/ugQ1j

@BrockGunterSmith

10y↑6

Awesome. What a great short to get that many views. Just the very end alone really hits it home. You don't have to solve other people's problems, or sugar coat them, just truly be there WITH them and make a meaningful connection.

@ShashankSahu

10y↑4

great

@JoshuaJadeMcCoskrie

10y↑46

I'm thrilled that this exists. As someone dealing with depression daily this is a clip that I can understand quite easily.

@kinymani1255

9y↑3

Can you please add subtitles in spanish. And thanks for a simple and profound message

@sisbrawny

The RSA I always thought the key difference was the "I've been there". To empathize, we need to have experienced what they've experienced. Sympathy is a feeling of compassion when we haven't experienced it.

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@lindacabage6547

1y↑35

Eight years later, I still love these videos and wish more would be made. They're perfect and easy for people to relate to. Thank you for them. Don't ever remove them.

@GrandpaandGrandmaOwen

3y↑11

All people want is to be validated in what is going on in their life and to be loved. So, this video is perfect to teach the connection part of a relationship. Don't try to fix it, just find it in your heart to love them.

@theonlinevirtualoffice9836

3y↑1

Absolutely!

@UniversalPotentate

10y↑173

So asking "What do I say at a funeral?" is the WRONG question to ask.
The correct question is "How do I connect with the grieving?"
Well, that's solved one of the biggest conundrums I've had for a while. Thanks!

@briellehunter7233

6y↑15

Not that you asked but if you want here is some things that may work if you are in that situation although it has to come from your heart. You could say I pray you find some comfort during this time of hurt. Or I know you probably do not want to eat but when you find the strength I brought you these so you don’t have to cook. Or I am here for you when or if you want someone to just listen or hold your hand Or I brought you a bottle of wine because I know how hard it is going to be to sleep and some fruit because I know you don’t want food when everything hurts this bad and a sleeping bag in case you do not want to be alone. I am only one call away, you don’t have to say anything. I will see your number and be on my way.

@josephricciardi601

5y↑9

My Dad was a funeral home director and then left for another profession. But even though he was no longer in the profession, I watched him as one of the most amazing "connectors" during funerals I had ever seen. When I was 14 we went to a funeral together and I told him, "I feel awkward. I don't know what to say." He told me to watch him. Although he said the words "I'm sorry about your loss" it wasn't the words. it was him giving his "presence", staying in the other's space, listening carefully, and sharing in their grief. He was like that big bear in the video. His words could have been misused by me, "I'm sorry for your loss..." move on... But I did in fact see him making connection. This video nicely crystalized this for me, though I did get the lesson years ago. Now I have the words to share with others.

@natclo9229

5y↑1

At a funeral some will feel empty looking at their experiences with love ones and some will truly remember what it was like to be experiencing the best times they had with loved ones, and can focus on taking what was positive that they loved about the person and applying energy into something worth while
Connecting with others can allow them to naturally connect to them self in memories
As we are more likely to say what was it like from your point of view, or tell me about what being there was like when someone says im looking at/disconnected or following these thoughts
What makes connection effective is more than caring or understanding, feed back, language and tone changes and well as other things we might need to understand quantum physics to even begin to understand
people respond to changes you make in yourself as you change your words, energy, intention and intended outcome. Getting someone to view internal images from their own (1st) perspective is just the being

@belatedmedia

10y↑508

If you translate the Greek for "sympathy" you get "fellow-feeling," or even more literally "together suffering" but there is definitely more distance in how the interaction plays. Empathy is more close, personal and passionate, while sympathy is understanding but from a distance.

@nicholasbogosian5420

6y↑13

Belated Media thank you. I've often received sympathy, self described as empathy. It has a subtle distance, a micro-feeling of superiority.

@Lucas_Jeffrey

6y↑34

I think she is trying to anchor a difficult-to-describe concept to the word sympathy, primarily as a means of better defining empathy in its modern context (another word she anchors new concepts to). Language is a strange thing.

I think when she says 'Sympathy', she means all at once, "Encouragement", "Advice giving", "Helpfulness", "Consolation", et al. These are all more likely to be behaviors driven by judgment and problem-solving rather than by unfiltered perception, compassion, connection and truly sharing in the other persons' feeling.

@EklectiKOfficialEDM

6y↑18

That's actually not accurate, it's the other way around.

https://www.merriam-webster.com/words-at-play/sympathy-empathy-difference

@blackbird365

4y↑20

@Marten Dekker Sym-pathy DOES LITERALLY mean 'with-feeling' (from the Greek) as does com-passion (from the Latin). The much-overused & much-misused term 'empathy' has become popular in recent years to mean precisely that. 'Pity' used to be seen as a good thing in Victorian times, but has come to seem condescending or patronising, which now seem supercilious & unpleasant.
'Sympathy' does NOT mean 'looking down on', as you rightly say is minimising etc - it means sharing the feeling.

@cosmoblivion

3y↑5

Sympathy is separate from the other and, generally from one unable to understand what the other is going through but desiring to say something they perceive as kind.

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@orianaforsythe9159

5y↑23

My communications teacher showed this to me a year ago and it seriously changed my relationship with a lot of people. I freaking love it. I share it with everyone who brings up empathy around me, and I try to watch it every few months just to remind myself not to fall back in the, “at least” way of thinking ❤️

@happygamingtime5200

8y↑33

We watched this in class... I cracked up laughing at the moose part. I got some stares, and some smiles.... I love this video.😂😂😂

@susiehughes1788

10y↑7

"Because the truth is, rarely can a response make something better. What makes something better is connection." Wow. This is fantastic.

@ShelleBelleDesigns

8y↑37

Empathy is walking a mile in someone's shoes. sympathy is being sorry their feet hurt.
Why would we want to crawl into the dark hole that someone has climbed into? Isn't it better to reach in - from up top - and help them out?
The problem we encounter is getting sucked into their darkness - especially if we've been there before. It could trigger wherever put us there in the first place.
Now there are some things I can be empathic about and can (and do) help others out all the time. I'm there for them whenever they need me, But I do it with some detachment. I trained as a counselor and you cannot help others if you are in the same place they are in. You've got to be in a better place. (Up the ladder). [The 'sandwich' reference was somewhat flippant.]
I am commenting here because I'm always hearing people say "I'm an empath" - like its a quality to be revered. These people are unhappy! They say they feel everyone's pain! They're suffering with others. Again I ask, how can you help them when you've taken on their pain/depression, etc?

@kyracoach

6y↑1

Yes you are describing connecting them to hope. It is not having to crawl down in the dark hole, but just be present with them. Agreed.

@conradwarne2756

5y↑7

Everyone is different and not all situations are the same. For me Empathy is not a choice, it just happens spontaniously. What Ive learned since childhood is to switch Empathy off because it can become overbearing and draining at times. Whats important is connection, thats where the love is. ❤

@nasong3311

Personally, I agree with the comment about connectting with others, always be there for them if they need but try not to trigger wherever put us into their darkness. Because it is easy for people who tried to be empathy to be suffered with others' pain, get overwhelmed and finally even need to see a therapist themselves because of too much empathy to others. I would suggest people to choose to be empathy or not first as long as themselves in a good condition at first.

@heidia2199

4y↑4

Interesting point. Perhaps the video would be better showing a peaceful and safe place instead of a dark hole. The value I see in this talk is simply listening without judgement or trying to intervene. Most of us feel compelled to "help" and inadvertently invalidate or shut someone down during a vulnerable disclosure.

@angelw8450

3y↑1

To me, people talking down to me from a better place means they do or understand. & I feel like, even when I wish I were dead, that I have to pretend to be better too. I fake smile & get away. More exhausted for the effort of being where someone else needs me to be. My grandmother lost her husband, whom she dearly loved. She was hurt by people’s well meaning sympathy for years after the fact. But one Freud sat with her. Never said a word sat next to her & cried. That was more comforting & precious to her than that friend will ever know. I was deeply hurt. & scared many years ago. I ran away. I saw a friend, as I was fleeing, & stopped & told him what had had happened. He cried. No one has ever cared about me enough to invest emotion in me before. Always detached. Superior. Maybe condescending & sympathetic. But those tears saved my life. It made that much of a difference. We cannot do it that all the time for everyone. But it matters on ways we may never know when we do. It showed me that someone saw me, saw my pain. & understood. I have been used to people trying to justify their coldness by saying I can’t be there with you, it’s too dark. Fine. Walk away then. But not being able to connect means you do not understand. & nothing from on high & better places will ever convince me that you do. 🤷🏼‍♀️

@orlaspring363

2y↑12

Sympathy by well-meaning friends after my mom died young: "I'm sorry about your mom. At least she's not in pain anymore." Empathy: "I don't even know what to say. I can't imagine what you're feeling but I'm here for you." The person who empathized would show up out of the blue and take me to eat, knowing that was something I'd forget. She didn't say, "I'm sorry," but she gave me far more than anyone who did.

@skyhappy

2y↑1

Nothing wrong with both statements. They both show condolences.

@vronlace

2y↑1

If someone said to me, "I'm here for you", it would sound utterly hollow. What does "being there for someone" even mean?

@worldwidehandsomekimseokji4064

5y↑11

Empathy is really a choice indeed.
Some people simply couldn’t hold back and keep talking, but I do think that listening to what others said is truly important.
It is tiring to connect to my bad and heavy memories in order to feel what others feel.
That’s why I treasure those who are willing to listen and put themselves in the others shoes.
There are less and less people who choose empathy in the society nowadays, which is quite pathetic.

@eldonscott9

9y↑109

So simple, so insightful and so powerful. Remember to be this way towards our own selves as well! Relate with ourselves and be kind with ourselves, THAT is intimacy and power. Then you can share what you have developed with others that are in your life and be a healing force in this world.

@jtamaresis

9y↑3

Eldon Moore - Exactly.

@TheMusicFlowChannel

8y↑1

+Eldon Moore Self-reflection :')

@joecflee

6y↑9

So many great comments here. I'm reminded of a scene in the movie Inside Out where Joy is constantly trying to make people joyful by telling them to ignore the bad while Sadness just sits, listens, and seemingly commiserates with others. I tend to interpret sympathy as trying to tell people to get out of their dark world and come join me in my beautiful world while empathy is withholding judgment and simply be there for them, for better or for worse. The final words in the video were the most powerful--rarely does a response make something better; what makes something better is connection.

@tarynmavrodaris9791

4y↑11

That is so lovely, "Rarely can a response make something better. What makes something better is connection.". Powerful stuff. Thank you Brené.

@fredblogs3114

4y↑7

This is so so true and really hits home. When my little dog was really ill before she passed away in April, I got so sick of "well at least she had a good life", ''well at least you did everything you could" etc etc or "my dog died last year/month/week " etc There was only two people who showed absolute empathy, when I told one friend she was ill, she said '' go home and give her lots of kisses from me ", exactly what needed to hear, not someone trying to fix the situation. On the day she died another friend came round with flowers and ice cream, just what was needed. She was the one that didn't try to make me feel "better" , she was the one who drove me wherever I needed to go, cemetery etc and would drive an hour a day so we could walk somewhere nice. She suggested taking our drawing pads to a local park in Beverly Hills. Their empathy was so natural and effortless,

@RentelnMan

9y↑31

This hit me like a brick wall

@fry5544

5y↑9

💛 Yes, this video - 10000000%. 💛 Just stop, shut up, stop judging/being judgemental and listen. Be there for someone else, put yourself in their shoes, & feel what they feel without harming yourself or loosing yourself in it in the process. What helps people who are suffering is not glib advice, but knowing that someone is there with them. They can work it out when they feel better, when they feel less alone now that you’ve been kind to them - that’s part of their agency & auntonomy & right to do whatever they want with their own dang lives. Thank you, thank you, thank you, Brené Brown. From a life-long bear. May we all understand & practice the bear’s wisdom & compassion one day. 💛

@NailPolishGurll

4y↑41

If ONLY people right now in 2020 could see this and take it to heart ❤️

@BubbleDraws211

3y↑1

Awwwwww

@davidi.ezekiel9345

3y↑16

- Take the perspective of the other person.
- Staying out of judgement
- Recognize emotion in others and communicate it with them.
- Feeling with people

So many lessons in this video. How quickly we judge others. We all need to relearn how we connect.

@seaburyneucollins688

7y↑9

When someone says to me "at least X", I am grateful that they are trying to make me happy. And to be honest, when I am depressed, it really does help to look at the silver lining, and I am glad that someone is trying to remind me of the good parts of my situation. Maybe this is just my stereotypically masculine perspective, but it means more to me when someone tries to help me rather than just connect with me.

For me personally, I'd take more comfort from the moose than the bear.

@gabbie921

1y↑1

Thank you for this comment. I appreciate you sharing your perspective. I am currently struggling with my husband because I find him to be lacking in empathy - he is always in "moose" mode. Your comment has helped me to see that perhaps he does not intend to be insensitive but is perhaps trying to support me the way he would like to be supported. The funny thing is that a few years ago I also appreciated mooselike advice, and it was something that I prided myself on - I didn't want to mope, I wanted solutions to my problems. But at the moment, I recognise that there are no solutions to my problems because they are largely things I simply have to accept and heal from.

@songbirdsky

22w

This is the case for me too!

@setheheart4911

8y↑485

can i hug that fox too please?

@swaggerlegend

6y↑1

woah, spicy bro

@iloveyou5149

@EtienneMuraseTeamDoki

Moi aussi, je veux lui faire un câlin.

@claytonroberts5881

5y↑4

@cowboylizzy1

7y↑9

I love this comparison. Sharing it with everyone. Thank you!

@canoeist2008

8y↑4

When you share some ones pain and suffering they are not on their own you are letting them know you are there with them and they are not alone the power of Empathy does this in a unique way.

@eye-leenlove

8y↑13

Even my Social Work professor blessed us with this woman. Dr. Brown, your sweetness is received by my spirit. Empathy has bitten me very hard in the past. It's the most vulnerable of virtues to take up. You're the sweet drops of rain that fall upon bitter people. Sometimes it makes its way into our lips...thank Mrs. Brown!!!!!!

@victoriahaley5110

30w↑1

I was listening to an audiobook while working today and she talks about empathy in the book. Her voice and the way she talked, a light bulb went off and i thought " NO WAY!" Pulled this video up -confirmed. Book I'm listening to : Dare to Lead By Brene Brown.

@inspiredlife8123

5y↑5

Empathy is a choice. Choose actively and make it your habit!

@ElaineHansenHRD

10y↑7

loved this simple explanation of empathy vs. sympathy. For me, empathy communicates that you have been seen, heard, and valued. It communicates to the person that they are not alone and normalizes their feelings. Experiencing being understood can be the catalyst for the person to begin the process of healing/recovery.

@oscarwilliamson1264

Elaine Hansen, you must be a kind being 💓☺️🤙

@AlessandroBattiston1

10y↑11

"What makes something better is connection"
Such a simple and perfect explanation of #empathy

@TylerOakley

8y↑910

this is great.

@JenIsRaadd

8y↑1

I saw you link this on Twitter and the link didn't work, so I HAD to search for it on here. I'm so glad to have found this! Thank you!

@marimagique

thanks for sharing this on twitter <3

@Dumptheclutchevo

8y↑2

it is...i wish more people understood this

@diamond-vm5sl

8y↑1

OMG HI!!!!!! I LOVE U

@lilyannabernier4978

OMG

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@anoushadewan

30w↑1

It’s 2023 and I’m having a hard day. And then i remembered this video from way back, and it put a smile on my face. The moose always cracks me up 😆 But also, such a beautiful video. Thankyou.

@bloodyDragonCake

10y↑26

She took the best out of Sympathy and Empathy and attributed it to Empathy, they are both important.
Sympathy to me is to like someone so much you yourself feel like you need to help the other one out of the hole he is in,
Sympathy makes me give you a place to stay for a couple of weeks
Empathy lacks this trying of changing the situation, its simply embracing what the world is like for the other side and by feeling what the other feels easing their pain

@DolceVents

4y↑5

I’ve seen this a million times and I love it like it’s the first time!

@audreyh6628

7y↑4

I have watched this so many times and have shown it to so many people. I wish everyone in the world would watch it.

@briannehopkins5958

8y↑15

I went to a mental health facility for kids and DBT group. They played this to help teach us about empathy and validation, and its one of my favourite things to help with this kind of thing. it really teaches and shows how to feel for one another instead of putting others down when not meaning to. i love this.

@13enwarner

10y↑12

Empathy is not always a choice though. You can choose to be empathetic, but sometimes, when you see someone else in a tense situation, you feel the emotions you feel they are feeling. Like if someone get's kicked out of a class you're taking and you get embarrassed or flustered because they are, or you would be if you were in their shoes.

@manakin5

10y↑1

I disagree - even in that situation, you are making a choice. You do not have to feel that way under those circumstances (although I admire you greatly for allowing yourself to). The alternative is to shut yourself off, to numb yourself to it, which is something many other people choose to do, sadly. And that is what feeds disconnection and shame.

@camillacoates6200

10y↑1

+manakin5 It's a choice? No, not really. Not for me. I don't "allow" myself to feel what others feel—It's default. I have to work so hard to avoid this. Generally by keeping to myself.

@HulluMel

5y↑1

@@manakin5 Not everyone has that choice. When I feel other people's emotions I can't shut them out or avoid them. I have to literally leave that situation or try to shoulder through it. The idea that empathy is a choice minimises the feelings of people with too much empathy and demonises people with low empathy because neither can help it.

@manakin5

5y↑2

I think we may be talking about two different things here. I was speaking more about direct conscious empathic connection with another person, not necessarily subconscious empathic connection which I think is what you and camilla (and perhaps the OC) were referring to. The latter happens whether we want it or not, I agree. But I think the former is largely voluntary, and does require courage to respond to. The people who shut themselves down, distract themselves, externalize their anger and frustration, get defensive, other similar "othering" traits, those people are making a choice. Maybe some of those people lack a capacity for empathy and are psychopathic or sociopathic, but I imagine many of them still have a capacity for empathy but haven't been taught that it's ok or better to be that way.

@MaryLouGreen

9y↑20

Thank you for the statement, "I don't know what to say right now. I'm so glad you told me." that I can use for my response when I hear someone else's pain. Another empathy killer in addition to "at least..." is "it won't last..." I am going to send a link to my friends to help you on your way to 3 million views!

@oscarwilliamson1264

Mary Lou Green,you must be a kind being 💓☺️🙏🤙

@lionsskyblue442

The most powerful bit is the bit about 'connection', it's what we all seek, and so many of us are starved of

@arielmullins0

"What makes something better is connection." So true! And so needed in our world today.

@BreenyLee

8y↑383

This is absolute GOLD!

@ethancbaker2002

3y↑1

Snap? 😳 lol jk

@brick5710

3y↑1

No one cares bitch

@brendanpaoletti2691

3y↑2

@@brick5710 holy relax

@Dearlittlebrother

Agree

@kanwal4740

Self awareness and empathy, a great explanation in below video
https://youtu.be/E7szeLyhjTE

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@sharoncarter6994

9y↑3

THANK YOU FOR THIS! I needed this especially in my life right now... and how you put it to where even a child could understand.

@livjames8624

2y↑1

This is why you we tend to surround ourselves with the people who can relate to us.

@bornwithbsguards

28w↑2

Sympathy =im sorry you are going through this. Empathy= im so sorry you are going through this, I feel your hurt and I wish you weren't going through this. Im here for you.
Im an Empath. I know very well how it goes. Its ok too. I feel the pain when someone hurts themselves. Thats a real empath. I also feel broken hearts. And I know immediately if ive hurt someones feelings which I try so hard not to do. But once in a while it happens and then I beat myself up for saying or doing whatever I did. Empathy can be mentally painful.

@ETGOTHOME7

2y↑7

“In order to connect with you, I need to connect with something within myself” ❤it’s all down to connection and showing we are all human beings who should take the time for each other without judgment.

@vanessafrost7132

8y↑29

The best description of the difference between Empathy and Sympathy I've ever come across - it shows me that I'm guilty of often going down the sympathy route as I am more comfortable trying to problem-solve than trying to form an emotional connection with the other person.

@spyralatelier

1y↑1

"You don't listen to respond. You listen to understand."

@sandraclark2922

2y↑2

I found this video bc my older sister is recently widowed and she got peeved with me always trying to "FIX" her problems when she called me. Anyway, I realized that we were never taught some of this emotional intelligence stuff bc our childhood home/parents were very tense and stressed and we were told to stifle our emotions. "Stop crying or I'll give you something to cry about!" and "Pull yourself up by your bootstraps" and that sort of talk. This shows me that I need to learn these skills to fill in a "gap" in my "educations'. And not beat myself up over it and problems my ignorance caused over the years.

@kimbow555

5y↑6

This is an excellent explanation. Absolutely brilliant! So many people don't know how to show empathy.

@MountainViewFor2

6y↑4

She’s wonderful. The words ring true. And the animations bring it to life.

@julianbrentley7447

Absolutely loved this explanation! I'm so glad she highlighted the difference between merely being sympathetic, and truly connecting in vulnerability with someone/thing.

@Tee-pf6oj

34w↑2

I had to watch this video for class and I'm glad I did! I have so much on my mind and this brought me happiness. Thank you :)

@volbla

8y↑18

I don't know if i'm in a really feely mood right now, but this video brought me to tears.

@devilmaycry1337

Same. No idea why.

@graziellaelschker4514

8y↑1

same :( and i don't get teary often!

@lolisierra8754

6y↑3

Loved the drawings, and when the 2 raining clouds got together and turned into a heart, it is awesome!

@7cupsharrytheunicorn425

7y↑2

This is such a good video. Just yesterday I had a group discussion about the power of empathy and why it's important to show empathy when you are talking to people who are opening up to you. Showing a little but of sympathy is good also, so saying things such as, "I'm sorry you're are going through this" or "I'm sorry for you're loss" it tells the person that you understand what they have just said to you, but may not always care. Showing empathy is the key to getting someone to opening up to you, it shows the person that you know what their saying, you understand what they are going through and their not alone in this. Just knowing that you are not alone, can be a big weight lifted off your shoulders and can make things feel less isolating.

@guinwhite

4y↑2

So simple, so powerful. Beautifully done in every way. Thanks for explaining (succinctly, visually) the difference between empathy and sympathy. Brilliant!

@2warship

8y↑5

I'm so glad that the Holy Spirit can lead us to what that connection is heart to heart, that makes something better.

@davidwhitting8259

6y↑2

What so non-Christian's are not capable of empathy?

@bigburgerboi2005

3y↑3

Watching this for a class assignment, who else is on that same boat!

@stocktonperry6172

3y↑1

yes

@MsSimpleMovies

6y↑4

Empathy is very important in marriage and parenting. At least three times a day I'll need to take my ego out of a situation/conflict and listen for what's really going on. Then, to convey that they're not alone, and I get it, and accept them. Then to suggest a next step (which isn't always helpful, actually). It's exhausting, but it makes a more intimate family.

@timfriday9106

3y↑1

There are no perfect words. But there are perfect feelings. Empathy is one of'em.

@jayakohli612

27w↑3

Sympathy I see your pain Empathy I feel your pain. Thank you

@pathagas

4y↑1

my professor showed my class this video one of the first days of the semester. it's so incredibly powerful.

@keenyaBKraftHappy

I appreciate this as part of my stress reduction training. I've been holding blame, collecting it, and savoring the day my significant other gets home from jail... You just saved him?! Or made it real-er if that's a word- to get more support from professionals. Thank you Bren!!! Thank you my therapist whose name I shall not reveal but she is AWESOME!!!

@MikeSullivanBornToShine

3y↑3

Beautiful way to show HOW 'Empathy' connects us...

@Javaslinger7730

2y↑5

That's an excellent explanation. Empathy is hard. The key part there is that willingness to feel what the other person is feeling. My defense mechanism is to NOT feel real sadness, or hurt or pain. Empathy kinda goes totally against that. Now I understand why it's so hard for me. Why my reaction is often defensive or fear based. I think I'm going to need therapy to learn to have empathy more naturally.

@coconutsciencegirl9232

7y↑2

What makes something better...is connection. Soooo true. This is true for most professions but especially the ones where empathy is the center. Nurses. You know I mean you!

@TheMrRaoul

8y↑7

Beautiful video, a strong quality that only is strong when it comes from the heart, from the core within a person - Rather than when it comes from an ego, from an identity. He/she has a certain ego, has a certain identity to be a certain way in order to..... (you fill in the blank). When you truly are empathic, it really connects <3

@lindsaymcilwraithkreisher2529

7y↑3

If you are naturally and uncontrollably empathetic, you must practice self protection. For those struggling with overwhelming sense of empathy and feeling that it affects their own well being - you must do your part of self care and love. Meditation helps some folks to ask for protection that way, some find working out/yoga, massage, and other relaxation modalities to benefit. When you do not have to try to be empathetic, sometimes that means you are energetically open (which is good) but you cannot be too much so...because again, life is about balance and you must find ways to balance your position with the ebb and flow that works for you and your own happiness.

@shokeeng

5y↑3

"What makes something better is (a vulnerable) connection."

@gilb_4

True connection requires vulnerability

@montsesalazar6457

5y↑2

I just showed this video to my high school Psychology students and I could tell it really made an impact, it really got them thinking. What a beautiful video!

@sebi506

6y↑2

"I don't even know what to say right now, I'm just so glad you told me." Literally the thing I say to everyone who opens up to me (mostly in German, however). And I mean it that way, rarely can I do something about the issue, but I can always just be "there".

@elenak6934

8y↑339

"At least..." is a form of invalidation - the most disastrous emotional abuse for a human being. It's definitely not a sympathy.

@twanvanderdonk2504

8y↑40

Not in the way the video portrays it, but it can be very heartfelt too. Someone who doesn't know what to say could make an attempt to lighten the other person up by focussing on the positives and this happens more than you would think. When i did poorly in school because of very thorough problems at home a teacher told me "I know and it isn't going to change soon, but (at least) you are in such a high level of education, finishing it will take you to university and you can have a better life. So just focus on school and it will be better sooner than you think." It didn't help, but she wasn't trying to invalidate my problems either. She wasn't acting for herself nor her boss, but for me, what could not be described as anything but sympathy (after being in her class for 4 years).

@elenak6934

8y↑17

+Twan van der Donk it depends on the situation, I agree that I overgeneralized here. Expressing empathy is definitely a skill that can and should be learnt.

@FoxPopvli

8y↑6

"At least..." is the most direct and simple way to get beaten sooner or later :D

@jilliansmith7123

6y↑5

James: what is "witnessing infantile?" would that be infanticide? Infantile just means "childlike." Infanticide means the killing of a child. If the latter, than, you're not kidding!

@petergraywolf5765

4y↑3

@@QuackersMcCrackers i dont know if you ever will read it , afterall your comment is three years old. But you arent correct.

I seen interview with a woman, who was since like 6 years old being offered to sex... so basically a rape ? or something like that... being a slave for many years. I dont remember when she escaped, something like when she was 15 or 17 ... so too many years of abuse and rape

When she spoke with police, explaining what she went thru, those experiences that she had were so insane that they didnt believed her and called her a liar. Multiple psychologist too, was something so horrible that they couldnt accept that it is real.

You know what she said ? That psychologist and police calling her liar (which is form of invalidation) was ironically worst than the years of rape itself.

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@johnnywlittle

10y↑3

That was awesome, thank you!

@XiluvmelX

8y↑1

This is brilliant. Really excellent way of explaining the huge, (and often misunderstood) difference between empathy and sympathy.

@Cutie3XBaby

when i feel like i need help or searching for comfort, i come back to this video. Because no one has shown more empathy to me than this cartoon illustration.

@PavelBarber

9y↑68

A video everyone should watch! Excellent lesson from a lady who took the plunge at made herself vulnerable. There is a lot of power in vulnerability, but it is tough to put ourselves in a spot to be vulnerable. So happy this exists.

@AJ___USA

3y↑3

What !!! Let me do you a favor

this video is not based in reality, being vulnerable to anyone or anything or even your own emotions is a bad thing and both i and the rest of the world have absolutely no empathy or pity for the week minded, I’m not even telling you to be physically strong I’m simply telling you to grab life by the fuckn balls and control both your emotions and your life and never put yourself in a position where you have to rely on anyone or be vulnerable, me enlisting in the Marines was the greatest choice I ever made, they taught me the harsh truths of life without even having to say anything all I needed was to suffer and experience fear to understand how to control life and others, Darwin’s theory of evolution only the strong survive this planet and if your not strong then you better adapt to your environment real fuckn quick or you will alway be a victim

@TEAMGETHELP

@@AJ___USA Darwin wasn't top shelf science and women experience life very differently from us, but I do agree that submitting to emotions and feelings we don't like is the key to unhappiness. The philosophy of stoicism is the answer and a little bit of Patrice O'Neal doesn't hurt-.-

@KHajj

10y↑13

according to research, empathy can affect our physical features, our face can change or mimic the facial features permanently to the person who we empathize. This is partly how the research explained on why married couple look more and more the same over the years.

I've seen a video of a white baby who's adopted into a black indigenous people, and when he grew up, his physical features changes and more closer to that of a black man. Although, I don't entirely believe empathy could possibly be the whole culprit behind it, but partly it possibly has to be.

@christinefrancois6371

2y↑1

I LOVE this...holding space, being there for someone without judgement or trying to 'fix' something. A lot to learn here. Thank you so much! <3

@ogunleyemotunrayo5273

30w

What makes something better is the connection!

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