Back to Me
3 Doors Down Lyrics


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I have poured out my heart
Laid it right here for you
And I've tried so hard
That's the best that I can do
Please understand I am not who I was

You used to be all that I had,
Now you're just not what I need
I've got to get over you
And I know then I can get back to me

Tears forget, that's more than I can do
'Cause they don't wash away
All the things that we've been through
I've put behind me my share of the shame
We could call villains but it's all in vain

You used to be all that I had
Now your just not what I need
I've got to get over you
And I know then I can get back to me

All of my life I've waited, hoping
Wanting you to see me the way that I am
But now I know that I'm not alone
Someone understands

You used to be all that I had,
Now you're just not what I need
I've got to get over you
And I know then I can get back to me

You've got to know that
You used to be all that I had,
(You used to be all that I had)
Now you're just not what I need
(Now you're just not what I need)
I've got to get over you
And I know then I can get back to me
Then I get back to me




(Then I get back to me)
Then I get back to me

Overall Meaning

The lyrics of “Back to Me” by 3 Doors Down is about a person who has poured their heart out to someone they love but failed to win their affection. The person acknowledges that they have tried their best, yet it was not enough to maintain the relationship. There comes a time to let go and move on. The person realizes that they need to get over their love and start focusing on themselves. They need to be able to affirm their own identity and regain their sense of self-worth.


The first verse of the song reveals the desperation of the person in trying to make the relationship work. They have poured out their heart and tried their best, but it has come to nothing. The person then admits that they are not the same person they used to be. The relationship has changed them, and they need to rediscover themselves. The second verse speaks of the pain and sorrow that the person has been through. The memories and shame of the past have been left behind, and the person can no longer see the other person as a hero in their life. Instead, they have to admit that the relationship is over and move on.


The chorus of the song brings together the central idea of the song. The person recognizes that they need to get over the person that they once loved to be able to get back to who they are. They need to reclaim their identity and sense of self-worth. The final verse speaks of hope and the realization that they are not alone. Someone understands them and can relate to their experience.


Overall, “Back to Me” is a powerful song of self-realization and the need to move on from a failed relationship. It speaks to anyone who has ever experienced heartbreak and the struggle to reclaim their sense of self.


Line by Line Meaning

I have poured out my heart
I have exposed my own feelings to you


Laid it right here for you
I have made myself vulnerable and exposed to you


And I've tried so hard
I have made every effort possible


That's the best that I can do
I cannot do any better than this


Please understand I am not who I was
I am not the same person that I used to be


You used to be all that I had,
You used to be the only thing that mattered to me


Now you're just not what I need
You are no longer essential to my life


I've got to get over you
I need to move on and forget about you


And I know then I can get back to me
Only then can I become who I truly am again


Tears forget, that's more than I can do
I cannot forget the emotional pain that I have gone through


'Cause they don't wash away
Crying does not make the pain go away


All the things that we've been through
All the experiences that we shared together


I've put behind me my share of the shame
I have let go of the guilt and regret that I felt


We could call villains but it's all in vain
We can blame each other but it won't change anything


All of my life I've waited, hoping
For my entire life, I have been waiting and wishing


Wanting you to see me the way that I am
Desiring for you to truly understand me


But now I know that I'm not alone
I realize that other people can empathize with me


Someone understands
I have found someone who truly comprehends my struggles


Then I get back to me
Only then will I become myself again




Lyrics © Universal Music Publishing Group
Written by: BRADLEY KIRK ARNOLD, CHRISTOPHER LEE HENDERSON, MATTHEW DARRICK ROBERTS, ROBERT TODD HARRELL

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The Nieman House

Heard this song on my Spotify. And literally hit a soft spot. I healed but I definitely have not been the same.

Danielle Marie

That’s awesome! Because if you’ve healed then you should definitely never ever be the same. Congratulations to you from another person who has also healed in a world broken unhealed mean hateful people. I appreciate you and I love you and I wish you the best of luck

Marcus Weaver

I love this song. It's help me get through an ex and some family and former friends too.

Carla Lage

Amo #3Doorsdown Brasil 🇧🇷

German F

Great Great band.. 3 doors down is a AMAZING band!!! Tienen letras excelenteees!

Nathan Goad

I love this song, one of my favorites on the album

Leyshay1

I seriously wasnt sure about this album at first(and I have loved EVERY one). Then I took a real good listen and decided it was one of my favorites. Played it day in and out the 1st 2 weeks i had it! I love this song...good break up song <3

Edgar Steven

That solo is so powerful then the chorus my god

Stacey Keiser

YESSSSSS that solo is my fave part.

Dim Pap

Truly emotional ballad! 🎼 🎵 🎧

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