Love Me Or Leave Me
Anita O’Day Lyrics


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You hold your arms open wide
You say come and lay by your side
If this is just another ride you're taking me on,
Then leave me alone

I'm not your part-time man
Love is more than now and then
I've enjoyed as much as this, as I can stand
So, love me or leave me alone

Love me or leave me alone
Love me or, baby,
Believe me, I'm gone
This time I'm gonna be strong

Maybe once upon a time,
I was young and love was blind
I thought I had finally made up my mind
It's sad, but

Love me or leave me alone
Love me or leave me alone
Love me or, baby,
Believe me, I'm gone

Love me or leave me




Girl, don't deceive me
Love me or leave me alone

Overall Meaning

In "Love Me Or Leave Me," Anita O'Day sings about a relationship that is filled with uncertainty and inconsistent commitment. The singer is being approached by someone who opens their arms wide and invites them to lay by their side, symbolizing a desire for closeness and intimacy. However, the singer suspects that this could be just another fleeting romantic encounter, and if that's the case, they'd rather be left alone than go through the pain of being let down yet again.


The singer asserts that they are not interested in being the love interest's part-time lover. They believe that love is much more than occasional moments shared together. They have reached a point where they can no longer handle the emotional rollercoaster that this relationship brings. They have enjoyed the present moments as much as they can bear, suggesting they have reached their limit and cannot sustain this up and down pattern any longer. Thus, they urge the love interest to make a decisive choice - either truly love them or leave them alone.


The chorus emphasizes the singer's ultimatum - love them wholeheartedly or let them go. They are no longer willing to tolerate half-hearted love or mixed signals. They want their partner to understand that they are serious about needing their love to be sincere and consistent. The repetition of "Love me or leave me alone" solidifies their determination, suggesting that they have reached a breaking point and will no longer settle for anything less.


Reflecting on the past, the singer acknowledges that they might have been younger and naively believed that love could overcome any obstacles. However, they have matured since then, realizing that sometimes love is not enough to sustain a relationship. They thought they had finally resolved their confusion about the relationship, but it has become clear that their decision was misguided. It's a sad realization, but they now know that love alone cannot make a relationship work.


In the final lines, the singer insists on honesty. They implore their love interest not to deceive them any longer. They want them to make a choice - either truly love them or let them go. The repetition of "Love me or leave me alone" in the last lines shows that the singer has reached a point where they are ready to move on and find strength and independence, no longer willing to continue in an ambiguous and unfulfilling relationship. They have recognized their worth and refuse to settle for a love that is not genuine.


Line by Line Meaning

You hold your arms open wide
You portray an inviting gesture, signifying your desire to have me in your life


You say come and lay by your side
You express the longing for me to be close to you, seeking physical and emotional intimacy


If this is just another ride you're taking me on,
If you are merely treating our relationship as a temporary and superficial experience


Then leave me alone
Please remove yourself from my life, as I am not interested in temporary encounters


I'm not your part-time man
I refuse to be someone you can have intermittently or when it suits you


Love is more than now and then
Love requires consistent commitment and dedication, beyond sporadic moments


I've enjoyed as much as this, as I can stand
I have reached my limit of tolerating this level of temporary enjoyment


So, love me or leave me alone
Either fully love and commit to me, or depart from my life and allow me to find true affection


Love me or leave me alone
Make the choice to genuinely love and prioritize me, or let me go and find someone who will


Love me or, baby, Believe me, I'm gone
If you cannot love and fully commit to me, understand that I will leave and seek love elsewhere


This time I'm gonna be strong
I have decided to be resolute and steadfast in my determination to find true and enduring love


Maybe once upon a time, I was young and love was blind
Perhaps in the past, when I was youthful and inexperienced, I was willingly ignorant to the flaws in love


I thought I had finally made up my mind
I believed I had come to a definite decision regarding love and relationships


It's sad, but
It is regrettable, yet I have come to the realization


Love me or leave me alone
Either embrace my love fully or depart from my life entirely


Love me or leave me alone
Make the choice to genuinely love and prioritize me, or let me go and find someone who will


Love me or, baby, Believe me, I'm gone
If you cannot love and fully commit to me, understand that I will leave and seek love elsewhere


Love me or leave me
Either reciprocate my love or relinquish your hold on my heart


Girl, don't deceive me
Please refrain from misleading or betraying my trust, be honest in your intentions


Love me or leave me alone
Either fully love and commit to me, or depart from my life and allow me to find true affection




Lyrics © DONALDSON PUBLISHING CO, TOBAGO MUSIC COMPANY, BMG Rights Management, Universal Music Publishing Group, Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC, Warner Chappell Music, Inc.
Written by: Gus Kahn, Walter Donaldson

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