Ben Rector (born November 6, 1986) is a singer/songwriter from Tulsa, Oklah… Read Full Bio ↴Ben Rector (born November 6, 1986) is a singer/songwriter from Tulsa, Oklahoma, US now based in Nashville, Tennessee. Rector’s stylistic influences include pop, rock, and folk music.

Rector took piano lessons as a small child but did not begin playing music seriously until he picked up the guitar in high school. He began writing songs in tenth grade and formed a band called Euromart the following year. Euromart made an EP and played club shows in Tulsa, but dissolved when the members left for college.

After high school, Rector attended the University of Arkansas where he studied marketing. During his freshman year he recorded a self-titled EP that featured the song “Conversation”, which won the Grand Prize in the pop category of the John Lennon Songwriting Contest in 2006. He is the youngest person ever to win the award for the pop category. The EP grew popular in surrounding states, and by his sophomore year, Rector began touring frequently on weekends and during breaks in the school year. In 2008 Rector released his first full-length record, Twenty Tomorrow, followed by Songs That Duke Wrote in 2009. In 2009 Rector was given the NAMA award for best singer songwriter in Northwest Arkansas. During his college career at the University of Arkansas he played approximately 200 shows.

In June 2009 Rector moved to Nashville with his wife to pursue songwriting and to continue his career as an artist. On November 28, 2009 he released Jingles and Bells, a Christmas album composed of classic Christmas songs. Rector arranged the songs and played all the instruments on the album. He released his most recent album Into The Morning on February 16, 2010. Through word of mouth, the record peaked at #5 on the iTunes pop chart, #10 on the iTunes overall chart, and #11 on Billboard Heatseekers.[3] Immediately following the release, Rector co-headlined the “Three Amigos” tour throughout the eastern half of the United States with fellow Nashvillians Steve Moakler and Andrew Ripp. Later in the spring of 2010 he toured with both Dave Barnes and Five for Fighting.

His song “After All” was used in the June 15, 2010 episode of the ABC Family show Pretty Little Liars.

Albums
Year Title
2007 Twenty Tomorrow
2008 Songs That Duke Wrote
2010 Into the Morning
2011 Something like This

EPs
Year Title
2006 Ben Rector
2009 Jingles and Bells

Singles
Year Title
2010 Summer Candy

Out of My Head
Ben Rector Lyrics

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We've got this situation
And I don't know, I don't know how to fix it
You've got your intuition
And I've changed, rearranged
Oh but now I'm used up, all done
Waiting on someone
I-I don't have no patience
For you to come undone

I-I-I'm out of my head
I'm out of control
I'm out of my mind again
And I'm out of regrets
I'm letting you know
I'm letting you go again
I'm ou-out of my head

Think back to when we started
Things were fine, things were good had a fighting chance
But now we're broken hearted
Back and forth trying to figure out
Where you stand up, all done
Waiting on someone
I-I don't have no patience for you to come undone

I-I-I'm out of my head
I'm out of control
I'm out of my mind again
And I'm out of regrets
I'm letting you know
I'm letting you go

Again I'm back to where we started
With you I can't seem to part
Or leave or go away it's true
I'm leaving you

I'm out of my head
I'm out of control
I'm out of my mind again
And I'm out of regrets
I'm letting you know
I'm letting you go

Cause I'm out of my head
I'm out of control
I'm out of my mind again
And I'm out of regrets

I'm letting you know
I'm letting you go

Overall Meaning

In this song, Ben Rector sings about a relationship that has gone sour and the frustration of trying to fix it. He acknowledges that there has been a change in himself and that he doesn't know how to make things right with his partner. He is tired of waiting for his partner to change and is out of patience. He feels like he is going crazy trying to hold on to something that is no longer working. The chorus where he repeats "I'm out of my head/I'm out of control/I'm out of my mind again/And I'm out of regrets/I'm letting you know/I'm letting you go" shows that he has finally come to the realization that the relationship is not worth the effort anymore and he is ready to let go of it.

The second verse talks about how things started out well, but somewhere along the line they went off track. They are constantly fighting and not able to come to a resolution. He knows that he cannot wait for his partner to change and that it is time for him to move on from the relationship. The repetition of the chorus emphasizes his determination to let go of what is causing him stress and to move on with his life.

Overall, this song seems to be about an individual in a relationship that has turned toxic and is causing them stress to the point where they feel like they are going crazy. They finally realize that it's time to let go and move on from the situation.

Line by Line Meaning

We've got this situation
There is an issue between us

And I don't know, I don't know how to fix it
I don't know how to resolve the problem

You've got your intuition
You have your gut feeling/sense

And I've changed, rearranged
I have made changes and adjustments

Oh but now I'm used up, all done
I am drained and exhausted

Waiting on someone
Expecting someone to take action

I-I don't have no patience
I have no patience

For you to come undone
For you to break free from the situation

Think back to when we started
Let's revisit our initial phase

Things were fine, things were good had a fighting chance
Our situation was good, and we had a possible chance to work through it

But now we're broken hearted
But now, we are emotionally damaged