Pride and Joy
Brandi Carlile Lyrics


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Time of day I can't recall
The kind of thing that takes it's toll
Over years and over time
Over smiles and over wine
All in all it wasn't bad
All in all it wasn't good
But I still care
That's the problem with the days
They're never long enough to say
What it is you never said
All the books you never read
I throw myself into the wind
Hoping somebody will pick me up
And carry me again

Where are you now
Do you let me down
Do you make me grieve for you
Do I make you proud
Do you get me now
Am I your pride and joy
I believe this to be true
Nothing sacred nothing new
No one tells you when its time
There are no warnings only signs
And you know that you're alone
You're not a child anymore
But you're still scared
All your mountains turn to rocks
All your oceans turn to drops
They are nothing like you thought
Can't be something you are not
Life is not a looking glass
Don't get tangled in your past
Like I am learning not to

Where are you now
Do you let me down
Do you make me grieve for you
Do I make you proud




Do you get me now
Am I your pride joy

Overall Meaning

The lyrics to Brandi Carlile's "Pride and Joy" express a longing for connection and validation from someone who may be absent or distant. The first verse describes a sense of time slipping away and missed opportunities. The singer looks back on their life and acknowledges that the overall experience was not necessarily good or bad, but it still matters to them. They express the frustration of not being able to fully articulate or express what they feel, whether it's the books they never had time to read, or the words left unsaid. The metaphor of throwing oneself into the wind represents the hope of being caught and carried by someone, anyone.


The second verse delves deeper into the feeling of being alone and scared, despite the experience of growing older and being more competent. The mountains and oceans, which once seemed insurmountable, now appear small and insignificant. The singer recognizes that life is not a fairytale - there are no guarantees or warnings, only signs that may or may not be followed. The closing stanza repeats the questions from the chorus, pleading for acknowledgement and approval from a specific person who may or may not be listening.


Overall, "Pride and Joy" speaks to the universal desire for love and recognition, even in the face of disappointment or loss. The lyrics suggest that time moves quickly and opportunities are fleeting, so it's important to appreciate and connect with others while we can.



Line by Line Meaning

Time of day I can't recall
I can't remember what time of day it was when this memory took place


The kind of thing that takes it's toll
This memory is something that has been weighing on me heavily


Over years and over time
This memory has persisted through the passing of years and the march of time


Over smiles and over wine
Even in moments of happiness and celebration, this memory haunts me


All in all it wasn't bad
Despite the weight of this memory, overall it wasn't a terrible experience


All in all it wasn't good
However, it also wasn't a positive experience


But I still care
Despite the mixed emotions surrounding this memory, I still care about it deeply


That's the problem with the days
One of the issues with life is that time is limited and not always sufficient to adequately express ourselves


They're never long enough to say
We often find that there simply isn't enough time in a day to say all that we need to say


What it is you never said
Sometimes we miss out on the opportunity to express ourselves and say the things that we always meant to say


All the books you never read
Similarly, there are books we meant to read but never got around to doing so


I throw myself into the wind
In this moment, I am metaphorically throwing myself into the uncertainty and unpredictability of life


Hoping somebody will pick me up
I hold out hope that there will be someone there to support me


And carry me again
Like someone has done before when I needed them


Where are you now
I am wondering where you are in this moment


Do you let me down
Did you disappoint me in some way?


Do you make me grieve for you
Do I feel pain or sorrow because of something you have done?


Do I make you proud
Am I someone who makes you proud?


Do you get me now
Do you understand who I am now?


Am I your pride and joy
Do you consider me to be something that brings you joy and makes you proud?


I believe this to be true
I have faith that this is the case


Nothing sacred nothing new
There is nothing particularly special or novel about this situation


No one tells you when its time
There is no one to tell you when the time has come to make certain decisions


There are no warnings only signs
There may not be explicit warnings, but there are often clues or signals to guide us


And you know that you're alone
You understand that, ultimately, you are alone in your experiences


You're not a child anymore
You have grown up and cannot rely on others to take care of you like a child


But you're still scared
Despite being an adult, fear can still grip us in important moments


All your mountains turn to rocks
Things that once seemed insurmountable can become much more manageable


All your oceans turn to drops
Challenges or obstacles that once seemed expansive and daunting can become much smaller


They are nothing like you thought
Our experiences don't always line up with our expectations or predictions


Can't be something you are not
We must be true to ourselves and not try to be someone we're not


Life is not a looking glass
We cannot always view life through a narrow perspective, but must be open to new ways of seeing things


Don't get tangled in your past
We mustn't get bogged down by what has happened in the past; we must continue to move forward


Like I am learning not to
I, too, am still learning this lesson




Lyrics © Warner/Chappell Music, Inc.
Written by: Brandi M. Carlile, Timothy Jay Hanseroth, Phillip John Hanseroth

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