So Hard
Chris Lowe/Neil Tennant Lyrics


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I double-cross you
And you get mysterious mail
I've tried hard not to shock you
It's hard not to with the things I could say
Tell me why don't we try
Not to break our hearts and make it so hard for ourselves?
Why don't we try
Not to break our hearts and make it so hard for ourselves?

You lock your letters in a box
And you've hidden the key
I go one better - I'm indebted
To a contact magazine
Tell me why don't we try
Not to break our hearts and make it so hard for ourselves?
Why don't we try
Not to break our hearts and make it so hard for us?

Everybody's got to live together
Just to find a little peace of mind there
If you give up your affairs forever
I will give up mine
But it's hard
So hard

I'm always hoping you'll be faithful
But you're not, I suppose
We've both given up smoking 'cause it's fatal
So whose matches are those?
Tell me why don't we try
Not to break our hearts and make it so hard for ourselves?

We make it so hard
(It's so hard)

Tell me why don't we try
Not to break our hearts and make it so hard
Tell me why don't we try
Not to break our hearts and make it so hard for ourselves?
Not to break our hearts and make it so hard for ourselves?
We make it so hard for ourselves
We make it so hard




So hard
We make it so hard

Overall Meaning

"So Hard" by Chris Lowe and Neil Tennant is a song that delves into the complexities of relationships and how people go about handling them. The song's verses describe the various ways the singer and their partner try to keep things hidden from one another, such as locking letters in a box and reading contact magazines. At the same time, the singer is wrestling with their own urges to reveal secrets and potentially hurt their partner. The chorus pleads with both parties to try and work on their relationship together, rather than making it unnecessarily difficult for themselves.


The lyrics convey a sense of frustration and helplessness, as the singer and their partner repeatedly fail to be truthful with each other. They also highlight the importance of communication and honesty in any relationship, as keeping secrets and playing games only serves to make things harder. The song's chorus is a plea for both parties to work towards a healthier, more honest relationship where they can find peace of mind.


Line by Line Meaning

I double-cross you
I betray your trust


And you get mysterious mail
As a result, you receive cryptic messages


I've tried hard not to shock you
I attempt to avoid startling you


It's hard not to with the things I could say
However, it is difficult to refrain from saying certain things


Tell me why don't we try
I suggest that we ought to attempt


Not to break our hearts and make it so hard for ourselves?
To avoid damaging our emotional wellbeing needlessly


You lock your letters in a box
You securely conceal your correspondence


And you've hidden the key
Additionally, you have kept the means of entry to yourself


I go one better - I'm indebted
Correcting the previous statement, I claim a superior effort


To a contact magazine
I am beholden to a publication that serves as a personals advertisement forum


Everybody's got to live together
We all have to coexist


Just to find a little peace of mind there
Simply to achieve a small measure of serenity


If you give up your affairs forever
If you surrender your extramarital relationships permanently


I will give up mine
I promise to do the same


But it's hard
However, it is a daunting task


So hard
Excessively difficult


I'm always hoping you'll be faithful
I am constantly wishing for your loyalty


But you're not, I suppose
Unfortunately, you have not been faithful, as far as I know


We've both given up smoking 'cause it's fatal
We have both ceased smoking in fear of the deadly consequences


So whose matches are those?
I ask, rhetorically, who owns the matchbox


We make it so hard
We cause our problems unnecessarily


(It's so hard)
We find it incredibly difficult




Lyrics © Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC, Universal Music Publishing Group
Written by: BRYAN G. FRYZEL, ANNA MASONE, JOELL ORTIZ

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Most interesting comment from YouTube:

@enda4689

In simple terms you mean by counterpoint, when voices are "harmonically interdependent (polyphony) but independent in rhythm and contour", it means:


Harmonically Interdependent (Polyphony): The voices or sounds work well together to create harmonies, meaning they sound good when played at the same time because they complement each other.

Independent in Rhythm: The voices or sounds have their own unique timing and pace. They don’t follow the same beat or speed but have different rhythms that work together in the overall piece of music.

Independent in Contour: The voices or sounds follow their own distinct musical paths or melodies. Each voice has its own ups and downs, highs and lows in pitch, creating a unique shape or "contour".

So, in a song, when the singing and the music (instruments) have harmonies that sound good together but have different rhythms and melodies, this phrase is used to describe that musical relationship. They certainly do that well.



All comments from YouTube:

@itskyb

It took me 28 years to finally see this video, but I'm here.

@Che469

I first heard this song in 1991 I was 12 lol , but only because it was being played in the background of an episode of Beverly Hills 90210...lol took me forever also to find this song as well Love this song!!!!!

@corneaterman

This is at the pinnacol of their dance/ pop stuff. You should see the concert movie “Performance” by these guys.

@pauldoake6188

Well done

@88hyperman

But I like it there

@FabioCiampaglia

Me too...i linten once in the car of May friend i think was 1991

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@user-db9xj8py9i

Pet shop boys are the most beautiful band of 80s love from Greece!!!!

@paoloorlando6769

Per

@sarahsmith4284

Yes you are so right. BRILLIANT MUSIC. Cheers from England 👍👍👍❤❤❤

@Anna_Volkova

The most beautiful band of 80s is Modern Talking.

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