So Hard
Chris Lowe/Neil Tennant Lyrics
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And you get mysterious mail
I've tried hard not to shock you
It's hard not to with the things I could say
Tell me why don't we try
Not to break our hearts and make it so hard for ourselves?
Why don't we try
Not to break our hearts and make it so hard for ourselves?
You lock your letters in a box
And you've hidden the key
I go one better - I'm indebted
To a contact magazine
Tell me why don't we try
Not to break our hearts and make it so hard for ourselves?
Why don't we try
Not to break our hearts and make it so hard for us?
Everybody's got to live together
Just to find a little peace of mind there
If you give up your affairs forever
I will give up mine
But it's hard
So hard
I'm always hoping you'll be faithful
But you're not, I suppose
We've both given up smoking 'cause it's fatal
So whose matches are those?
Tell me why don't we try
Not to break our hearts and make it so hard for ourselves?
We make it so hard
(It's so hard)
Tell me why don't we try
Not to break our hearts and make it so hard
Tell me why don't we try
Not to break our hearts and make it so hard for ourselves?
Not to break our hearts and make it so hard for ourselves?
We make it so hard for ourselves
We make it so hard
So hard
We make it so hard
"So Hard" by Chris Lowe and Neil Tennant is a song that delves into the complexities of relationships and how people go about handling them. The song's verses describe the various ways the singer and their partner try to keep things hidden from one another, such as locking letters in a box and reading contact magazines. At the same time, the singer is wrestling with their own urges to reveal secrets and potentially hurt their partner. The chorus pleads with both parties to try and work on their relationship together, rather than making it unnecessarily difficult for themselves.
The lyrics convey a sense of frustration and helplessness, as the singer and their partner repeatedly fail to be truthful with each other. They also highlight the importance of communication and honesty in any relationship, as keeping secrets and playing games only serves to make things harder. The song's chorus is a plea for both parties to work towards a healthier, more honest relationship where they can find peace of mind.
Line by Line Meaning
I double-cross you
I betray your trust
And you get mysterious mail
As a result, you receive cryptic messages
I've tried hard not to shock you
I attempt to avoid startling you
It's hard not to with the things I could say
However, it is difficult to refrain from saying certain things
Tell me why don't we try
I suggest that we ought to attempt
Not to break our hearts and make it so hard for ourselves?
To avoid damaging our emotional wellbeing needlessly
You lock your letters in a box
You securely conceal your correspondence
And you've hidden the key
Additionally, you have kept the means of entry to yourself
I go one better - I'm indebted
Correcting the previous statement, I claim a superior effort
To a contact magazine
I am beholden to a publication that serves as a personals advertisement forum
Everybody's got to live together
We all have to coexist
Just to find a little peace of mind there
Simply to achieve a small measure of serenity
If you give up your affairs forever
If you surrender your extramarital relationships permanently
I will give up mine
I promise to do the same
But it's hard
However, it is a daunting task
So hard
Excessively difficult
I'm always hoping you'll be faithful
I am constantly wishing for your loyalty
But you're not, I suppose
Unfortunately, you have not been faithful, as far as I know
We've both given up smoking 'cause it's fatal
We have both ceased smoking in fear of the deadly consequences
So whose matches are those?
I ask, rhetorically, who owns the matchbox
We make it so hard
We cause our problems unnecessarily
(It's so hard)
We find it incredibly difficult
Lyrics © Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC, Universal Music Publishing Group
Written by: BRYAN G. FRYZEL, ANNA MASONE, JOELL ORTIZ
Lyrics Licensed & Provided by LyricFind
@enda4689
In simple terms you mean by counterpoint, when voices are "harmonically interdependent (polyphony) but independent in rhythm and contour", it means:
Harmonically Interdependent (Polyphony): The voices or sounds work well together to create harmonies, meaning they sound good when played at the same time because they complement each other.
Independent in Rhythm: The voices or sounds have their own unique timing and pace. They don’t follow the same beat or speed but have different rhythms that work together in the overall piece of music.
Independent in Contour: The voices or sounds follow their own distinct musical paths or melodies. Each voice has its own ups and downs, highs and lows in pitch, creating a unique shape or "contour".
So, in a song, when the singing and the music (instruments) have harmonies that sound good together but have different rhythms and melodies, this phrase is used to describe that musical relationship. They certainly do that well.
@itskyb
It took me 28 years to finally see this video, but I'm here.
@Che469
I first heard this song in 1991 I was 12 lol , but only because it was being played in the background of an episode of Beverly Hills 90210...lol took me forever also to find this song as well Love this song!!!!!
@corneaterman
This is at the pinnacol of their dance/ pop stuff. You should see the concert movie “Performance” by these guys.
@pauldoake6188
Well done
@88hyperman
But I like it there
@FabioCiampaglia
Me too...i linten once in the car of May friend i think was 1991
@user-db9xj8py9i
Pet shop boys are the most beautiful band of 80s love from Greece!!!!
@paoloorlando6769
Per
@sarahsmith4284
Yes you are so right. BRILLIANT MUSIC. Cheers from England 👍👍👍❤❤❤
@Anna_Volkova
The most beautiful band of 80s is Modern Talking.