So Hard
Cold Chisel Lyrics


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They're so hard
Women, that is
So hard
And all that I ever know
Of you
Is the damage you can do
And it breaks the other way, I know
It's so hard
For so long
You were the one
For so long, now
Anyone who denied
Your way
Had to play with the two of us
Now I feel that's begun to change
And it's so hard
I believe
There's a restlessness growin' in you
And I feel the same
I dunno if there's a day comin' soon
That'll find us alone
Or if that wouldn't be such a bad thing
All I know
Of you
Is the damage you can do




And it breaks the other way, I know
It's so hard

Overall Meaning

The lyrics of "So Hard" by Cold Chisel reflects on the emotional turmoil and complexity of dealing with intimate relationships, particularly with women. The chorus emphasizes the challenging nature of approaching and understanding women, suggesting that they are difficult to comprehend and navigate. The lines, "And all that I ever know of you, is the damage you can do, and it breaks the other way, I know, it's so hard" expresses the singer's disillusionment with women, and being aware of the harm they can cause. The repetition of the phrase, "it's so hard" is a clever play on words that references the difficulty of understanding women as well as the challenges of being emotionally vulnerable.


The verse speaks of a past relationship that had been the singer's anchor for so long, but now the dynamics seem to have changed. The singer realizes that his partner may be feeling restless, and he can relate to this feeling. He also acknowledges that there might come a time when they will be alone, and he wonders if that would be such a bad thing. The lines, "Anyone who denied your way, had to play with the two of us. Now I feel that's begun to change, and it's so hard" suggest a past power dynamic where the partner's way or decisions were the only way forward. The singer acknowledges that this is no longer the case, causing a shift in their relationship.


Overall the song delves into the complexities of relationships and the deeply personal and emotional baggage that individuals bring into them. It highlights the difficulties in understanding and communicating with other people and how relationships with women, in particular, can often be challenging.


Line by Line Meaning

They're so hard
Referring to women being emotionally hard to understand


Women, that is
Clarifying that the previous line was referring specifically to women


So hard
Emphasizing how difficult it is to understand women


And all that I ever know
Expressing the artist's limited knowledge of the woman being referred to


Of you
Referring to the woman in question


Is the damage you can do
Defining the woman by the harm she can cause


And it breaks the other way, I know
Acknowledging the potential for equal harm to both parties in a relationship


It's so hard
Reiterating the difficulty in understanding women


For so long
Referring to a long period of time


You were the one
Implying a past romantic relationship with the woman


For so long, now
Indicating that the relationship has been going on for a while


Anyone who denied
Referring to those who did not approve of the relationship


Your way
Referring to the woman's desires or demands in the relationship


Had to play with the two of us
Suggesting that the opposition had to deal with both the singer and the woman


Now I feel that's begun to change
Noting a shift in the dynamic of the relationship or the opinions of others


I believe
Confessing a belief or hope


There's a restlessness growin' in you
Observing a sense of discontent or unease in the woman


And I feel the same
Relating to the woman's emotional state


I dunno if there's a day comin' soon
Expressing uncertainty about the future of the relationship


That'll find us alone
Contemplating the possibility of ending up alone


Or if that wouldn't be such a bad thing
Considering the potential benefits of being alone


All I know
Stating the limits of the artist's knowledge of the woman


Of you
Referring again to the woman in question


Is the damage you can do
Repeating the idea that the woman is defined by the harm she can cause


And it breaks the other way, I know
Reiterating the acknowledgement of the potential for two-sided harm in a relationship


It's so hard
Concluding with the idea that understanding women is extremely difficult




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