Pale Shelter
Curt Smith Lyrics


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How can I be sure
When your intrusion is my illusion?
How can I be sure
When all the time you changed my mind?
I asked for more and more
How can I be sure?

When you don't give me love
You gave me pale shelter
You don't give me love
You give me cold hands

And I can't operate
On this failure
When all I want to be is
Completely in command

How can I be sure
For all you say you keep me waiting?
How can I be sure
When all you do is see me through?
I asked for more and more
How can I be sure?

I've been here before
There is no why, no need to try
I thought you had it all
I'm calling you, I'm calling you




I ask for more and more
How can I be sure?

Overall Meaning

The lyrics of Curt Smith's song "Pale Shelter" depict a sense of confusion and doubt in a relationship. The singer questions how they can be sure of anything when the other person's intrusion feels like an illusion. The constant shift in the other person's actions makes it hard for them to trust in what they say or do. It seems as though the singer has asked for more attention and affection but has not received it, leaving them feeling like they're stuck in a pale shelter. The other person's inability to give them love has left them with cold hands and a feeling of failure.


The singer's frustration and confusion reach an all-time high when they ask how they can be sure of anything when the other person just keeps them waiting and only sees them through. They feel like they're not in control and just want to take command of the situation. They've been in this position before and feel like there's no point in trying to understand the other person's motives. They thought the other person had it all, but they've been left with more questions than answers. They continue to ask for more, but they don't know how they can be sure of anything.


Overall, the lyrics of "Pale Shelter" convey a sense of uncertainty and disappointment in a relationship. The constant changes and lack of affection from the other person have left the singer feeling vulnerable and insecure.


Line by Line Meaning

How can I be sure
Expressing uncertainty and distrust in the current situation


When your intrusion is my illusion?
Asking how to be sure when the other's presence feels like a trick


How can I be sure
Still expressing doubt and uncertainty


When all the time you changed my mind
Acknowledging the other's influence on one's thoughts and emotions


I asked for more and more
Admitting to seeking more from the other


How can I be sure?
Repeating the main concern of the song


When you don't give me love
Pointing out the lack of affection from the other


You gave me pale shelter
The other's presence isn't comforting but rather weak and inadequate


You don't give me love
Reiterating the lack of love or care from the other


You give me cold hands
The other is distant and unfeeling


And I can't operate
Feeling unable to function as desired


On this failure
The relationship or situation feels like a failure


When all I want to be is
Expressing a desire for control in a situation that feels chaotic


Completely in command
Wanting to be in control of one's own life and feelings


For all you say you keep me waiting?
Questioning the other's reliability and trustworthiness


When all you do is see me through?
Feeling like the other only sees through one's surface appearance


I've been here before
Recognizing that this situation has been experienced before


There is no why, no need to try
Feeling like there's no reason or effort to be made to change things


I thought you had it all
Believing that the other had everything desired or needed


I'm calling you, I'm calling you
Reaching out to the other for help or support


I ask for more and more
Repeating the desire for more from the other


How can I be sure?
Ending the song with the same question and expressing ongoing uncertainty and doubt




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Marcys Helen0509

LYRICS
How can I be sure?
When your intrusion is my illusion
How can I be sure
When all the time you changed my mind
I asked for more and more
How can I be sure
When you don't give me love (You gave me pale shelter)
You don't give me love (you give me cold hands)
And I can't operate on this failure
When all I want to be is
Completely in command
How can I be sure
For all you say you keep me waiting
How can I be sure
When all you do is see me through
I asked for more and more
How can I be sure
When you don't give me love (You gave me pale shelter)
You don't give me love (you give me cold hands)
And I can't operate on this failure
When all I want to be is
Completely in command
I've been here before
There is no why, no need to try
I thought you had it all
I'm calling you, I'm calling you
I ask for more and more
How can I be sure
When you don't give me love (You gave me pale shelter)
You don't give me love (you give me cold hands)
And I can't operate on this failure
When all I want to be is
Completely in command
You don't give me love
You don't give me love
You don't give me love
You don't give me love
You don't give me love
You don't give me love
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Saraliza313

How can I be sure?
When your intrusion is my illusion
How can I be sure
When all the time you changed my mind
I asked for more and more
How can I be sure
When you don't give me love (You gave me pale shelter)
You don't give me love (you give me cold hands)
And I can't operate on this failure
When all I want to be is
Completely in command
How can I be sure
For all you say you keep me waiting
How can I be sure
When all you do is see me through
I asked for more and more
How can I be sure
When you don't give me love (You gave me pale shelter)
You don't give me love (you give me cold hands)
And I can't operate on this failure
When all I want to be is
Completely in command
I've been here before
There is no why, no need to try
I thought you had it all
I'm calling you, I'm calling you
I ask for more and more
How can I be sure
When you don't give me love (You gave me pale shelter)
You don't give me love (you give me cold hands)
And I can't operate on this failure
When all I want to be is
Completely in command
You don't give me love
You don't give me love
You don't give me love
You don't give me love
You don't give me love
You don't give me love
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Frankincensed

Not just a hit maker. These guys really knew how to arrange and produce songs, incorporating interesting breaks, instrumentation, lyrics, and passion that helped put them above the majority of 80s bands.

Diego Cardoso

#brasil

Chris Gribben

Well said.

Reuben Herrera

Always

John Pothen

The guy on keyboard is a producer

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Sympathy ForTheDevil

To understand this song and the entire debut album it's on (The Hurting, 1983), one thing must be said: both members of the band were enchanted by the work of the psychotherapist Arthur Janov, whose most renowned book was Primal Scream (1970). Janov was the inventor of “primal therapy”, a treatment that encouraged the patient to explore his childhood traumas, experiencing them for a second time and then expressing the long-repressed pain. One way to release this pain is this primal scream. The same name of the duo, not by chance, comes from a psychotherapeutic treatment developed by Janov, during which the patient lives again the earliest sensations of the perinatal age, hence the name “Tears for Fears”. Both members felt that their parents had not given them love, but only a weak, “Pale Shelter”. Composing The Hurting was a way to throw out all the things they absorbed in the childhood, to take the feelings of abandonment, rejection and anger and turn them into something active. With its pure emotions, The Hurting is the album for those who have experienced what being imprisoned in our own emotions means; for those who have felt the desperation that makes its way, when you cannot escape, whether it comes from childhood or not. Source: auralcrave.com

Cary Heuchert

Of course, John and Yoko also did primal scream therapy with Dr. Janov, influencing the Plastic Ono Band album, released in October 1970.

jim voz heer

Thank you very much for this comment. Very important info!

guineawuv

Oh wow, that is really cool to know. Thanks.

Immahoodlum

Very impressed by your knowledge and thankful for your patient explanation.

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