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A. M.

1y↑6

Question:
How can we find our True Self?
How exactly can one choose Attentivity over attachment if all his life did the opposite?
How stop and turn it?
Is there specific steps or exercises?
Does anyone know?

I watched a lot of Mate's video, but still don't know if he has specific paths, steps or exercises to get there.
Or maybe he just suggests general advice such as be kind to yourself, know yourself,... (which are important too...)
Thanks.
🙏🙏

A channel

50w

I know what you mean. I would never call it ptsd but what else could it be - when my life takes turns for the better but I become anxious and tense the better it is?? Lol. I got through childhood being a surogate husband and father, I never could be angry, so I went through a clown "always upbeat" phase. Now in my 30's, I can say many things have been going right, except health lol.
And its always the same thing, even tho I love my life and opportunities and every door seems to be opening - like you I feel like I have to be "ready" to walk through them. And it would be easy if readiness depended on my mental resolution, I have plenty of that, but it depends on my health and that has been wonky.
I find it so frustrating. I have everything on the horizon - love that was lacking from my parents, regular fulfillment of my other needs, but the closer I get to it, the more fear and panic sneak in. Its like I am supposed to live in hell of wanting something but never having it.
When it comes close to me, I dont know what to do, I get very tense. I am very relaxed in tense situation, I was at my healthiest in a job most people would feel is "too responsible and hectic", when others are panicking I am calm.
But when everyone else is calm and enjoying life - like enjoying love, intimacy etc - I am tense as fuuu and want to run away.

It would be easy if we could power through this, but we cant. And its really frustrating, because I pride myself on mental fortitude, but like Gabor said, "body says NO".
Early on I learned that loving is most dangerous thing for my authenticity, and later ofcourse I replicated same BS with romantic partners. So now I am even more sure on body level, that relationships are dangerous, probably most dangerous thing for my health.
So I cannot stop the need for other, but also I cannot stop the fear of another.
Stuck in a place in between.

Ironically I was at my healthies when I worked that job that wasnt really pleasant, but it required physical strength and focus.
Whenever I got into comfier jobs I fell apart.
Whenever I had romantic interest I fell apart.

Its like I can only do meaningless flings or work jobs I hate, to not get ptsd symptoms.

I want to heal.
I hope we can all heal truly and fully. And become whole people again.

Matt

This is hard for people in your culture who are nonbinary.

Your culture labels in a mental disorder: autism spectrum disorder.

My culture (pagan) recognizes it as our most intuitive gender. Our indigos: man and woman in the same body. It’s why they’re so intuitive they know how both genders feel regardless of their biological sex.

For autistic ppl to self actualize white people have to stop being transphobic and the only country that’s happening in is Germany cause they learned from the Holocaust.

They also labeled nonbinary as a mental disorder and gassed us for it. It’s how we got the term Asperger. They could survive the conversion therapy (ABA Therapy) but would be sterilized.

Germany also has always recognized the neutral gender: das auto

All comments from YouTube:

Joy B

1y↑232

Clear and touching. I'm 70 and must now live a life before the life runs out on me. Thank you Dr. Mate

Metalgear222

1y↑12

"your coming and going is nowhere but where you are" - Japanese master Hakuin

shaney

1y↑7

62 and at a very similar place. "Agency"

leahsproject

1y↑8

Our emptiness can't be filled by anything from outside of us.

JackAlope!

1y↑4

I don't feel so bad learning at 46

Katalina Kristina

50w↑2

I hope you live a full happy life!!!!

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Chey Summa

40w↑56

Amazing, absolutely amazing. This message has helped me more than any counselor ever has. I am a few days sober from alcohol. I am currently battling depression and ptsd. I have let go of many people I called friends. Being in isolation is forcing me to get comfortable with myself. I'm in absolute awe right now. Who knew an 11 minute video would change my perspective entirely. Recovery is possible. Thank you so much. ❤

Ariel

37w

That's awesome !

your connection

37w↑3

...And not everyone we let go or lose, is a loss. Wishing you strength, healing, happiness, and peace.💜

carol pridgeon

36w

Oh, good luck in your recovery. Blessings blessings blessings. Namaste'

justwatch902

1y↑151

I’m so grateful for Dr Mate, he is the type of doctor that really explains trauma and addiction, my healing started a year ago and still understanding the “why”am I like this” is crucial, we humans need more doctors trying to help with trauma and addiction, I’m on my way to healing myself and couldn’t be more grateful to him and videos like this, thank you!,

Farah Butt

1y↑869

Those who are authentic tend to become misunderstood as the world is largely full of inauthentic people. The authentic person therefore becomes alone.

Hauntings stories

1y↑12

I recommend the outsider book author colin Wilson 🙏

VETEMENTS × VENGEANCE

1y↑10

this hit.

SuperPogacsa

1y↑8

Too true.

MILA_Tequila

1y↑17

Agree! I feel like this everyday in our society

Vivi L

1y↑91

Alone doesnt mean lonely. Lonely are those who are inauthentic and have fake connections. When you become authentic you may not be friends with everybody, but the connections you have will become a lot deeper

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All Heart

1y↑39

This is spoken by someone who gets it. I am so thankful for this moment in time. This video. This experience of life …. The gift that it is every day. Every sunrise and sunset. Every breathe we take. Love you 🌍

Joanne McArthur

1y↑105

This is very deep and profound.
I am proud of myself that I fight the urge to knumb my pain with alcohol.
We need to talk about our achievements.
Love and peace to you all 💚☮️🙏

Steve Barnard

1y↑6

I’m proud of you as well!

Tim Garrison

52w

Sorry not into religion I gave you the thumbs down otherwise you did great

aaron dixon

51w↑3

So proud of you ❤. I have also surrendered. Society views surrender as weakness. Its actually one of the strongest most courageous things I've done.

aaron dixon

51w↑1

@sugarpuffies keep up the good work. "Waterboy voice" You can do it!!

Randy Dyke

50w↑2

Proud of all my fellow quitters here

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Andrew Miller

1y↑77

I have broken free from my domestication. Through introspection and recapitulation rituals. I have become my authentic self. The authentic self is a being of love and joy. I have achieved heaven on earth.

aisthpaoitht

1y↑9

Me too man. Actually through Eckert Tolle, Michael Singer, and a lot of my own critical thinking and understanding of the fundamental nature of reality.

Kirstin Rose Harris

@aisthpaoitht and what is the nature of reality in your opinion

aisthpaoitht

1y↑2

@Kirstin Rose Harris spirit/mental/consciousness. We don't really have a word to describe it because we can never directly comprehend it. It is the same "stuff" that your thoughts are made up of.

Ia Ber

52w

@aisthpaoitht what works do you recommend from Eckert Tolle and Michael Singer?

Maria Malhotra

44w↑2

Definitely a New Earth by Tolle; changed my life immeasurably for the better. Also Letting Go by Dr David Hawkins.

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Chey Summa

40w↑9

Instead of judgment, this message delivered compassion. And i can't begin to express how grateful i am for that. Incredible.

Mithra666

33w↑5

My body was screaming at me, and I finally listened. Now I say no and walk away. I know it sounds simple. But the power in this is limitless for my well being. Thank you for validation!❤

Applebanger

28w

It's one of the hardest things to do. Taking care of yourself/being loyal to yourself and distancing yourself from negative things or people. Especially when you've been told the lie that you are selfish in doing so.

Cole

1y↑35

I thought today: Love for yourself and others will direct you towards what is right, and discipline will make sure it happens.

Famatu

1y↑2

Discipline is meaningless. There is no such thing as discipline if it means doing something that you don‘t want to do. Will power can only do so much but will not suffice. You need to enjoy what you are doing one way or the other

Famatu

1y↑4

Sorry didnt mean to be all negative, the loving yourself and others (I would say before others) is great!!

Cole

1y↑2

@Famatu I have to fundamentally disagree, and have tangible evidence to show that discipline is not meaningless.

Cole

1y↑3

@Famatu Also disagree with the fact that you have to enioy what youre doing. There are many things on this earth that are not enjoyable but are very necessary. All a matter of how your attitude adjusts.

Famatu

1y↑4

@Cole I get what you are saying, i guess i am just allergic to that term because i associate it strongly with bs right wing self help people who prioritize discipline over self love, and tell people to just be disciplined instead of fixing their much more fundamental, deeply rooted emotional problems. more people need therapy than discipline. the much more healthy and fulfilling way is for discipline to arise out of somewhat being sure of yourself and what you're doing. but again i hear what you're saying, it's important to accept the reality that life includes suffering

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Teacher Robin

1y↑26

So very well spoken. When I can go inside and centre myself to my "call it my pineal gland connection to source" I realize that where I had been was my shadow self and that love is natural from my authentic self. Hence I go inside or admire the beauty of nature because I know that same inner core we all have from an atom to a galaxy created everything beautiful. Allow, Allow, Allow. We must let go of our body programming and start creating our own feelings ... particle to quantuum.

Pamela Rosie

38w↑5

I wish you joy and inner peace Gabor. Thank you with All of my Heart and Soul 🙏🏻💟✨

Polly Pocket

1y↑32

Thankyou for this message it's so true we are conditioned by our upbringing and moulded to behave in a certain way to fit into society suppressing who we really are ... suppression causes incongruence/pain ... it's important to find our real self 💖

Roane Magloire

38w↑3

I heard this message for the first time today; it certainly resonated with me on so many levels. With the insight gained, my healing journey will be marked with more compassionate curiosity and grace. Big takeaway ...

Living a real life abroad!

42w↑4

You are absolutely amazing Gabor. You have validated so much of what I felt to be true 🥰

Janet.W

39w↑3

I needed to hear this. So powerful. Thank you Dr. Mate

Digital Stoic

1y↑19

These words literally gave me a real sense of life again.💗

Susan Timmel

49w↑5

Beautiful and so insightful. I’ve been on this path for many many years, Heal Your Life Workshop Leader, EFT Certified, Dr. Dispenza follower and Dr Maté stitches all together for what feels like a finished quilt of understanding, the trauma that all of us suffer from.
Thank you so much for the post and the attention and energy that it took to manifest the work you are sharing.
Bless you, and May the gifts you have brought be returned to you a hundred fold.
❤

mahesh cv

37w↑3

Thanks for rhis wonderful message. Dealing with chronic health issues in 50s. Tracing it to how being focussed on others i didn't treat myself well. Slowly getting back to recovery mode and really feel that there are many good souls who have chronic conditions from trauma and how real important is it to get back to authentic self. These messages help a lot

kyra johnson

1y↑23

We have all these stresses, anxiety, depression and worry bc we are not doing what we were put on Earth to do. We are doing what society tells us to do- from the age of very young children we’re institutionalized, sent to sit around and be brainwashed in a room 8 hours a day, rush to school, rush to work, college, workforce.

Never enough time and emotional capacity to spend genuinely getting to know ourselves and our children. We always in go mode, bills, mortgage, trauma, stress and uncomfortable feelings ect. We are not supposed to be doing these things. We have to be human and deal with that experience. Instead we are distracted worker ants. Dr. Mate is a force & a leader this world needs- our spirits are lost. We need healing from generational trauma.

Ross Brewer

1y↑38

I have been very angry about my current situation.

My wife wants a divorce. I can’t afford my own place and may have to leave the job I’m in to be able to afford my own place or else I can’t see my kids.

In short, this simple and short meditation stopped me killing myself. Thankyou so much. You have helped more than you may ever know.

The REAL Truth

1y↑5

If you're really struggling with these thoughts reach out to me or others. I went through a similar situation but different circumstances. And I saw eventually (with enough distance from the pain) that the universe was clearing my life of all that didn't serve me to pave the way for a new more authentic life.

Dr. Nick

1y↑4

Bro , there are many online groups on SOCIAL MEDIA which helps men in your situation. You need more emotional and mental support than anything. I understand that your situation is difficult but you need to stay strong for your kids. Focus on yourself.

Kimberly Valdes

1y↑7

God wanted me to see your message. I wanted a divorce and my husband killed himself in March of 2020. It is a tragedy that weighs on me heavily. See your current situation is only temporary. Your wife may want a divorce now, but that doesn’t mean that her feelings won’t change in the future. Has she lived on her own as a single mom before? Has she dated other men? Its bleak out here. I thought I could figure it all out on my own and I was so wrong. I was wrong to make my husband feel like he was the only part of the problem. There were some things that we needed to forgive each other for but we allowed it to become a poison in our relationship instead. When I wanted to fix it, he didn’t want to. & when he wanted to fix it, I didn’t want to anymore. The timing sucked. I wish I would’ve listened to him and been willing to try when he wanted to. But my walls were up and I wanted him out. In retrospect, I wish I would’ve done things differently and tried to heal us both instead of just myself. We had both done each other wrong and continually blamed each other then “fixed it” by making deals. But the deals didn’t work because we were both too resentful to actually give out of love. It has to come from love. The relationship must heal and return to a pure state without negotiating or unhealthy attachments/ ideals. Both have to accept and forgive. & both of you need a support system. Best of luck, stay in the game and things will get better with time. Give it time.

Cesar Chavez

1y↑3

Please, never give up on yourself and your kids.

David Zane

52w↑3

@Kimberly Valdes you're reply was powerful. May you find the path forward towards healing. Sharing your story was a great step on your own healing path.

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Ellanore Vannin

1y↑70

I got ill and I can see how correct he is a about trauma and stress causing illness.
Because I got ill I have been educating myself on health. And recently I realized I was missing something. It was my mental health.
So I started educating myself on psychology. And I remembered a lot of stuff I didn't want to remember.
When I remembered I got physical symptoms that were so bad I couldn't move. And I realized that these are the same symptoms I felt when I first got sick and these are the symptoms I feal all the time. And it all tied back to when I first remembered my trauma when I was 14. All the emotions I had buried came up and i couldn't stop them. But since i was still a child i shoved the emotions down again and didn't deal with them.
Now however I am processing them in a healthy way. I change my way of thinking. And I can see a difference in myself.
I now know that all this time I have been in a constant state of high stress. I am tense when washing my hands. When walking or laying in bed. I am stressed all the time because of my trauma.

Dora Medved

1y↑3

Hello dear Ellanore, could you tell me more about educating yourself on psychology? I believe I have a lot of trauma from my childhood but I dont know how to bring it up and heal it… do you have any advice?
I wish you all the best 🙏🏼

Ellanore Vannin

51w↑2

@Dora Medved
For some reason in my search for healing from my trauma I didn't think to turn to the great phycisian. Instead I read about psychology. But everything I read just made me worse. They only offered coping techniques and no hope of healing.
The book "Christ and your problems" was the first book that offered hope for healing. It was suggested to me by the lady I am doing counciling with. And it has been so helpful!
You see it pointed me back to Christ.
I no longer freeze from a flashback! Nor do i have flashbacks! I don't get intense nausa or rapid heartbeat either. Life has been so much better.

RISE Refuge for Intuitive Sensitive Empaths

41w↑2

thank you for this gift. the recognition that we are all conditioned and programmed toward addiction, attachment habit energies or automatic behaviours, including numbing, aversion or grasping is so important. balance and flow are essential.

Gina Renee

27w

This is so beautifully well-explained. Thank you!!

Gabriella Rujsz

51w↑3

Thank you so much 🙏
And yes, the real freedom is coming when we allow ourselves to be who we really are ❤
And then we can understand things , like I understood why I was a big smoker for more then 20 years 🥺 ,
and can now enjoy my freedom from it more the 3 years…🎉❤

jo po

1y↑21

One of my favorite teachers for lack of better word. Thank you sir.

paparadeliko

1y↑61

He just says the correct reprogramming words. Like the "am i still this child that needs to choose attachment rather than authenticity?" that hit me in a way that made me realise some shit

Luciana Hurduc

🙈🎯👌

Hajas Valentina

51w↑3

me too, that's what's happening when we don't say what we think in fear of making someone angry (that's a weekly occurrence for me, no wonder why I have extreme autoimmune disease)

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carol pridgeon

36w

I just love this man so much. I want to remember to listen to him more often. Many times when I listen to talks about my "human condition" I feel anxious because I have a part of me that feels overwhelmed and says, 'I won't be able to do this" and then the sense of failure. However, listening to Gabort, I am reminded to be compassionate....COMPASSIONATE... with my self...These words I just typed bring up so much sadness and yearning....to be really in love with and compassionate with myself. Thanks so much Mr. Gabor Mate...you are indeed one of the most influential compassionate person I have ever listened to and I am so grateful for you. Namaste'

Dk

1y↑17

if you can find it, it was never lost in the first place. this last quote will help me heal and recover my authentic self

Darren D

1y↑31

My mind is blown , this information is so important and valuable

Tiny Nijman

1y↑11

Very helpful ❤ I feel quite often very lonely. I wish I could feel better in myself ! The evenings are the best for me so that is a good feeling. I can relax then.😊 and I can think about happy things and it is true if I am with other people I feel I have to keep up a brave face and that I need to be funny.I feel often also very shy maybe I can find out why that is.

bridget hunt

38w

❤

miguelods

1y↑8

Beautiful. Thank you for this powerful message.

AnikaLee

1y↑12

Thanks you, because I listened to this yesterday, I met someone I hate today then I feel pain in my chest but I don't know it's actually anger. I remember what you've told so I started to ask myself "What do you feel?" Oh I hate that person who keep treat me I want her death. I accept my darkest side and be a friend i've never have who sit and listen to myself. The pain is gone now

Desert Crab

34w

I never looked at this issue in my life from his perspective. This is so simple it is profound, what I have done is surrender who I am for the hope of attachment. When described like that, I get it. I am known as a rebel to almost everything society throws at me to conform to, now I know where that comes from. I am very good at that, I just need to figure this out regarding intimate relationships and crap fitting. As I continue on my healing journey, those intimate relationships become strained because they are accustomed to a more compliable me. I am finally at a place where it no longer matters, what matters is getting on with the things I know in my heart are the reason I even exist.

Sanity Island

1y↑21

Self respect. Ego would have us be cruel and hurtful to everyone especially ourselves. But letting love in is learning who you were made to be and letting go of the dead vines of iniquity. You don't need to be God. Rest in love and honor your actual being made in the image of God's love.

Lori McNamara

47w↑1

I have such genuine gratitude for the words of Gabor Mate at this time because I am in the middle of a fight at the human rights Tribunal against a former employer who made me to physical labour while I had a cast on my broken wrist even though I asked repeatedly for help, and then when I asked for help the final time, in essence putting my foot down, I was fired the next day. This is known as not making accommodations for a disabled person, aka disability discrimination, retaliation for standing up for my human rights and wrongful termination. Now I have a lawyer from the actual human rights tribunal calling me a liar and saying that my case is garbage because of the complete and total OCD and bipolar that came about in me as a result of this treatment, having read some untruths in some of the documents that I have put forth. I just confirmed with an adhd specialist with his resounding and enthusiastic yes, that people who are in bipolar mania are likely to lie and stretch the truth, and I was also responding to 34 lies i counted in the documents my former employer put forth, half of which I have evidence against. She ignored many multiple statements and letters from my physician and responded to my case as if i was a conniving theif.

It is just nonstop bullying and abuse even by the body that is supposed to be protecting me against it. This morning I put in a complaint against this against this lawyer at 10:30 speaking to the manager of Legal Services, I have had to postpone my upcoming mediation for Tuesday because of being in fight flight freeze for two weeks straight because of this lawyer and ending up taking to the emergency department by ambulance

Zoey

1y↑2

I needed this so much. Thank you! 💗

Joanne r

1y↑6

I am sick, endometriosis and adenomyosis. I am starting to understand why 🙏🏻

Fernanda Janicas

46w↑3

I believe that all my physical pain was all or most of it caused by emotional pain since my childhood and part of my adult life.

Kelvin Mwenda

49w↑2

Full of wisdom and truth.

Steve Hallam

48w

Wow! this was great for me as it kinda confirms what I recently wrote in my journal. Im really nearly there now . I'm on that ruway with just a couple of Indentity's left to work through. They are strong ones too. But that I can see through them is a great acknowledgement to me, Thank You

Stefan Stern

1y↑2

Man, Mr. Mate, this really made me cry... with happiness!... Thank you so much!!<3

Keith curry

1y↑2

This is the best information one self should never loss touch with through one whole life, cuz know one’s true self will always keep you in touch with the spirt that tell you what going wrong with something inside of you, what your doing right and what isn’t going right, don’t not loss touch with one’s true Self. Always stay authentic,

2WAVYDRILL

48w

God bless you. You have saved many minds, you have freed many minds.

Πόπη Σαλούστρου

43w

So true ❤

Jojka Vargova

Wow, amazing speech ❤

Gina F

1y↑3

This doc is brilliant ❤

Lucy Woolcot

34w

Thanks for the wisdom❤

John Z

52w↑1

Very nice commentary, I'm alone because I Don't compromise for other people. Sad to say Im partly narcissistic. I think the real essence of socialising is compromising for other people.

michael o'mara

Love to you all and your families

Peggy O'neill

1y↑15

I'm not lost and I am praying for all people.

putent

1y↑1

How? I'm trying to understand what I am. Am I the mindful me that interacts with everyone on a daily basis or am I the me that only shows at the hight of my emotions (happiness, anger, sadness, pleasure).

TastyTarco

1y↑1

@putent self acceptance, self knowledge, self consiousness

Micael Azevedo

@putentacceptance. Be wild, be Nice, enjoy ND repeat!

arkafon79

1y↑15

I wish Dr. Gabor Mate did all of his audiobooks

Majik 1111

1y↑12

It's a great video...very insightful. With the whole world now experiencing the uncertainty and intense stress, anxiety, and depression over abrupt climate change, could you please do a video on ways to cope with the realization that humanity and Life itself is now threatened?Thanks!

Maccam

1y↑3

There is no such thing as "abrupt climate change." You might begin by asking myself, "why am I allowing an unproven politically motivated "narrative' upon which billions of billions of dollars are being made and billions of people are being exploited, to frighten me?" Work with the fear at a personal level and you will find your way forward. Wishing you courage and happiness...

Maccam

1y↑2

Then too, you will encounter anger and outrage at having been so destructively lied to...

Tracey Vyver

Hi madam can u pls give me ur narrative then???

Tracey Vyver

Woops I meant maccam

Rachel

34w

The last statement was so powerful wow

Naserian Manyando

40w

Absolutely beautiful!!!

Way Of Thinking

40w

Thank you so much! Hope this helped you in some way

Dominik Musiolik

37w↑1

The myth of normal, what a great book! have a good day

revis ampura

1y↑7

This made me connect with my self.

Kimberly Valdes

1y↑2

This is in my top 5 videos of all time. Wow. Thank you for this.

Albert

1y↑8

Thank you for sharing this!

Alasart. Art and Time

1y↑6

Love your talks thank you

Justin Vreeland

1y↑8

What if we don't know who our authentic selves are? Perhaps more importantly, what if our authentic self is contrary to societal and cultural norms and expectations?

Drick

26w

Thats absolutely ok. We are all unique in our own way. Embrace your individuality even if it runs contrary to social norms or expectations. We do not need validation from others to be ourselves, in fact seeking validation/acceptance/approval from others and looking to conform rather than live authentically is the most sure fire way to lose connection to our true selves and live in stress, anxiety and inner turmoil. Your authentic self is inside of you. You just need to do the work, engage in deep introspection and build self-awareness around who you are, flaws and insecurtities included, and begin to accept and love yourself for who you are. Only then can growth and healing occur. I am on that journey now and i must say i can't believe it has taken me this long to come to this realisation.

A. M.

1y↑6

lrene

1y↑2

Take a look at abraham hicks..its all about finding a better feeling thought, and then another and another, be watchful of your thoughts, and like a plane going off course, put yourself back on course,
Better feeling thoughts become your normal...
I promise. Xx

A. M.

@lrene Thanks a lot.
Can you send a specific video or website of Abraham Hicks, which is focused on the exercises, step by step? 🙏🙏

lrene

1y↑5

@Sv St it's about doing whatever it takes to feel even a little bit better, then a bit more, like climbing the rungs of a ladder...
If you're current reality is not as you'd like it, find just one thing in it to be appreciate of and milk it, then from that better feeling place find something else, repeat, repeat you will find your mood lightens, you'll feel better, your reality will be softer....what have you got to lose....try it, do the work...take positive steps.

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Morning star

46w

Now it is making sense to me, why I am having frequent kidney stones, after I got over my neck pain using Dr Sarno's teachings.... I am still not being myself.

ariane Köhler

1y↑10

Thank you so helpful 🙏

Janice Scott-Pair

49w

I really needed to hear this.😊😊😊😊

Moneta

48w

I must remember this (: for myself and for everyone I come across

CDNBOBify

47w↑2

so amazing-thank you.

Way Of Thinking

47w

Thanks for watching! Glad you liked the video

S Mc

1y↑1

When you're Lost, it's because you don't know who you are anymore. So how can you find what you lost, when you're the one who's lost?
Paradox!

Peter Hoatson

33w

Such gold in those words

Toni Williams

This man is amazing

Becky Kipepe77

Thanks so much for this Dr.Mate

Gina Hochstein

36w

A sense of urgency, for better understanding.

TheRomanWay

1y↑4

My authetic self was a massage therapist but I got burned out and began resenting it and now I’m a protector provider and king of my family and a data analyst because it pays more and I don’t have to touch people for money with makers and owners and repulsive fake doctors telling me to work more for Pennies. The wounded healer will not thrive in a toxic economic culture of treating humans as standing energy reserves to be spruced mined and extracted for profit (your not getting paid what you deserve and assholes are stealing from you).

Topala Luiza

39w

Thank you so much 🎩🙏

JJ Recon

1y↑1

❤ Gabor Mate, great books too 🤓

The best day TODAY

1y↑4

We say :the sound makes the music,
Greetings from vienna, austria
Very nice video

Amanda

48w↑1

I am me After having an alcoholic mother and a traumatic childhood, which I won’t bore you with, by the time I reach 30 I realised I was me. I will always be honest open, I care, a great deal for humans, but I care more for nature. People often say stop pretending to be yourself. You smile too much. You laugh too much. You’re always telling the truth it can’t be real. It is real it is me and the reason for this is because of my childhood there was so so many lies between my parents verbal violence between my parents deceit between my parents. I just realised in my 20s if you don’t like me, walk away.

SkinCareLuver

39w

Wish this video had titles we can quickly click on to see what exactly is being discussed in specific portions of the video, Anyways, I caught Covid a year after the outbreak when it was still going and I have been badly depressed ever since with little body energy. i'm not sure what to do but I need a stress test to test my cortisol and see how bad my depression is doing so I really need a neurologist appointment!

John Smith

38w↑1

Thank you❤️🙏

daisilui

1y↑3

How about instead of seeking comfort/doing something about your pain and discomfort, you learn instead of doing nothing, just watching it and endure. Nothing last forever- you cannot know pain if you never learned pleasure. Also know that the pleasure drugs give you won't last- and you know what comes after- pain, worse than before. So, pain is not to be managed but to be endured. Don't seek pleasure to distract you from pain because this is a never ending cycle that leads to nowhere- life lives you away instead of you living life; accept it as it comes, one moment to the next- it will bring you what you need to experience at any given time.

etzenhammer

44w↑1

I agree on all he said but in our modern complex work environments, where we lack control and suffer from the complexity of large systems, it seems almost impossible to stay authentic. Somehow you need to play the work game. If you're really being authentic, you won't be able to pay your rent, let alone kids.

Tony Zamberlin

49w

Great video! 🙌

Way Of Thinking

49w

Glad you liked it Tony!

Shanti

48w

👏👏👏🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️💐💐💐💐

Corina van de Wetering

1y↑5

If you not try to see youre history with different eyes you can stay stuck in a hustory that wasnt yours to live in🌸

Ory G

49w↑1

I don’t know. I mean, it’s easy to be authentic when life is good and you have everything provided for. But if you’re struggling to make ends meet, and you’re in survival mode, authenticity will be difficult. Perhaps, even impossible.

Darius

44w

Pressure creates diamonds, the best time to grow is when shit is going haywire. Show appreciation and love in hard times and it will be 10x easier in the better times.

Robin Moreno

1y↑2

I find it disheartening, al be it by lack of choice, that I see someone suffering from cancer or slave conditions, and they seem to be taking it with more grace.
Meanwhile with what I suffer from a relentless contraction nervous system, PTSD and deep emotional responses of fear, sadness or anger as much as I try and be at ease with the many good things in my life,
I still just feel so broken.
I just feel so confused, fragile and sensitive.
My bodies mind has taken over, my mind feels more at ease thank God but my body is just weighed by so much shit.
And to go out in public where people will think I'm being like this on purpose, I just want to hide until I feel like I'm ready.

yn pavo

1y↑1

I can relate to this, hoping for you to get better soon 🫂
Also be patient with yourself and dont put yourself down for not being read yet, healing takes its time, especially if its complex injuries like yours
Have a good one 🤍

Donna Christman

51w

We all have different capacities. Be kind to yourself, as you would be to a friend who’s suffering. Try to include something pleasurable each day- that’s the hardest for me. Be patient. ❤

A channel

50w

Patrícia Cavalcante

I need to see this video every single day.

Another World

51w

✨🙏✨ #Universal

MyTubeBoise

1y↑2

Stunning.
(Thank you, Way of Thinking gang)

Alicia Yagüe

1y↑4

thanks a lot.beatifu lpowerfull ,healer💙🙏

Cristina Evans

51w

By the time I work all this out I’ll just die lonely and sad,trying to loose myself in drugs and avoidance54 and tired of trying

Michele Maliano

1y↑8

For me with a hearing problem, the music is very subtle. And, I’m not wearing my aids. His voice it clear.

S Cooper

1y↑2

Gabor has this dead on!!!

Sunny Bunny

1y↑5

💯 thank you!

Star Elecktra

30w

Lack of information and seemingly never getting any conclusion for alot of things has driven me pretty much insane to the point I dont leave my house much and think every single person is a threat

Matt

Noemi.888

Gábor Máté speaks to me.

BrotherPaul

37w

Little clown fish living in the coral reef cannot perceive the vastness of the ocean but down there in the guts it feels being a part of something grand. It does not look for a true self despite wearing clown’s mask, it is self all the time. It loves the ocean, herself and her neighbors. Be like fish.

K Hollis

51w

“Why are you the way that you are?”

Robin Wong

1y↑1

The only thing I have an issue with is that he’s not a psychologist or a psychiatrist. Although I do agree with what he says most of the time, he’s not trained to practice what he talks about as a GP/family doctor. I think the things he talks about draws a lot on reading and his personal experience, but he lacks the clinical intuition that is accrued through providing therapy. He’s teaching things that I’m not entirely sure he is trained to teach in - ie he’s trained to be a GP but trying seemingly doing a psychologist’s job by talking about trauma etc when that’s not his job

Drew Brightside

1y↑5

Sometimes the people with real knowledge are the ones who experiences it first hand and made it back. There are many people who get degrees and learn just to get a career who do t really care. Even Elon Musk will tell you that knowledge is out there.

Robin Wong

@Drew Brightside Sure - but I think the point I'm making is that as a GP, his job isn't to work with peoples' trauma. His knowledge of trauma and addictions is largely correct and I agree, but the point I'm also making is that GPs are not trained to work with trauma. You may find that most Psychologists also have their own experiences of mental health difficulties which is what draws people to the profession.