How Christmas Is Supposed To Be
Gary Barlow Lyrics


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I've given all I've got
You've given me nothing
Something to believe in
Sleepless nights
But every day I wonder
You're still dreaming
If I'm wasting my time here
No surprise

The voices way too loud
Emotions up and down
Searching hard to find some light

It's a war, it's a fight
On the worst of all nights
No, it's not the red that we wanna see
There will be no release
'Til we're down on our knees
Can we both agree
It's not how Christmas is supposed to be

I'm hoping this will be the year
I've been saying that forever
Agree to disagree
No compromise

Stay in
Go out
Be alone
Be together
Respecting each other even despite
The way we scream and shout
Forever falling out
Too much wrong, too little right

It's a war, it's a fight
On the worst of all nights
No, it's not the red that we wanna see
There will be no release
'Til we're down on our knees
Can we both agree
It's not how Christmas is supposed to be

No, it's not how it's supposed to be
No

Maybe we can start over again
Make tonight the beginning instead of the end
Put down our weapons
Dry all our tears
Find love, love this Christmas Eve, yeah

Woo!

Merry Christmas, everyone

Just look into my eyes
Let me apologize
Here's the only place that I wanna be
I wanna be
The only gift that I need is you loving me
And we both agree
This is how Christmas is supposed to be

This love, this love
This love is right where I wanna be
The only gift that I need is you loving me




Now we both agree
This is how Christmas is supposed to be

Overall Meaning

The lyrics to Gary Barlow's song "How Christmas is Supposed to Be" explore the challenges and conflicts that can arise during the holiday season in a relationship. The singer expresses their frustration and disappointment in their partner's lack of effort and the constant dreaming without taking action. The lyrics convey a sense of longing for a more harmonious and enjoyable Christmas experience, highlighting the disconnect between their expectations and reality.


The song reflects on the difficulties and struggles faced by the singer, as they question whether their efforts are in vain and if they are wasting their time. The voices of doubt and the constant emotional turbulence make it hard for them to find the joy and light they seek.


The chorus emphasizes the contrast between the idealized image of Christmas ("the red") and the reality they are experiencing. It portrays Christmas as a battle, a fight, and describes it as the worst of all nights. There is a yearning for release and resolution, a desire to be united in agreement that this is not how Christmas should be.


Towards the end of the song, there is a shift in tone and a sense of hope surfaces. The singer expresses a desire to start over, to find love and reconciliation. They apologize and acknowledge that the only gift they need is their partner's love, highlighting the importance of connection and understanding during the holiday season. The lyrics suggest that by putting down their weapons, drying their tears, and embracing love, they can create a Christmas experience that is true to its essence.


Overall, the lyrics of "How Christmas is Supposed to Be" delve into the complexities of relationships during the holiday season, expressing the desire for a more harmonious and loving experience.


Line by Line Meaning

I've given all I've got
I have put forth all my effort and given everything I have


You've given me nothing
But in return, you have given me nothing


Something to believe in
I am seeking something or someone to have faith in


Sleepless nights
These nights are filled with restlessness and unable to find peace


But every day I wonder
Each day, I question and ponder


You're still dreaming
If you are still holding onto unrealistic dreams and aspirations


If I'm wasting my time here
Whether or not I am investing my time and effort in vain


No surprise
It is not unexpected or shocking to me


The voices way too loud
The noise and opinions around me are overwhelming and overpowering


Emotions up and down
My feelings are fluctuating and unstable


Searching hard to find some light
I am diligently seeking for positivity and hope in the darkness


It's a war, it's a fight
This situation feels like a battle and an ongoing struggle


On the worst of all nights
During the most challenging and difficult times


No, it's not the red that we wanna see
We do not desire the color red, symbolizing conflict and tension


There will be no release
We will not experience relief or a resolution


'Til we're down on our knees
Unless we humble ourselves and submit to a higher power


Can we both agree
Can we find common ground and come to a mutual understanding


It's not how Christmas is supposed to be
This is not the true essence and spirit of Christmas


I'm hoping this will be the year
I have the expectation that this year will bring a positive change


I've been saying that forever
But I have been expressing this hope for an extended period of time


Agree to disagree
We can acknowledge our differences and still coexist peacefully


No compromise
There is no willingness to find a middle ground or reach an agreement


Stay in
To remain indoors or not go out


Go out
To leave the house and be in public


Be alone
To spend time in solitude, without the presence of others


Be together
To be in each other's company and share moments


Respecting each other even despite
Showing respect towards one another, even in spite of


The way we scream and shout
The manner in which we argue and raise our voices


Forever falling out
Constantly experiencing disagreements and conflict


Too much wrong, too little right
There is an abundance of wrongs and a scarcity of rights


No, it's not how it's supposed to be
No, this is not the ideal or intended state of things


Maybe we can start over again
Perhaps we have the opportunity to begin anew


Make tonight the beginning instead of the end
Let us transform this night into a fresh start rather than a conclusion


Put down our weapons
Let us cease our metaphorical and literal battles


Dry all our tears
Wipe away all the emotional pain and sadness


Find love, love this Christmas Eve, yeah
Discover love and experience its true meaning on this Christmas Eve


Woo!
An exclamation of excitement or enthusiasm


Merry Christmas, everyone
I extend my joyous Christmas greetings to everyone


Just look into my eyes
Direct your gaze into my eyes


Let me apologize
Allow me to express my regret and seek forgiveness


Here's the only place that I wanna be
This is the sole location where I desire to be


I wanna be
I have a strong desire to be


The only gift that I need is you loving me
Your love for me is the sole gift I require


And we both agree
Both of us are in accordance and in agreement


This is how Christmas is supposed to be
This fulfills the true expectations and essence of Christmas


This love, this love
The affection and bond between us


This love is right where I wanna be
This love is exactly where I want to exist


Now we both agree
Currently, we are aligned in our understanding


This is how Christmas is supposed to be
This embodies the genuine spirit and meaning of Christmas




Lyrics © Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC
Written by: Gary Barlow

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Most interesting comment from YouTube:

Chaya Lael

Today I send you lots of prayers
For what’s about to be
I really want to help you
So I’m sending this from me

I’m sending what is needed
There is no need to apply
But most of all I send my love
To all that passes by

🙏🏽🙏🙏🏼🙏🏿🙏🏾🙏🏻



All comments from YouTube:

Looby H

Beautiful song people forget how talented Sheridan Smith they make a great duo well done Gary and Sheridan

Gary Barlow

thanks for your sincere compliment kindly let me know where you're watching from❤️🎤

Наталья Павлова

Очень Красиво 🌠💫🎵🎶💕

Maria De Lourdes Cabral

Amei 😍💖💖

Bon Jovi Jon

hola como estas es un placer conocerte
aquí.

Ann Rogers

Lovely song & video. Great collaboration. Love the his & hers Christmas tree.
Merry Christmas 🎄☃️🕊

Gary Barlow

Hello, how are you doing today? Nice meeting you here.

Ann Rogers

@Gary Barlow A Million Love Songs Later & Here I Am! 🤭😘 🎤🎶🤗

ignitesomething 35

🔥What a purely beautiful song! A perfect song all year long for me…..❤️❄️⛄️

Mazé Domingues

Concordo, linda para o ano todo!

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