You Can't Take Love For Granted
Graham Parker Lyrics


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Pre>
Intro am g (twice)

Verse
Dm am g am
Took her to a party and danced with the host
Took her to a restaurant and treat her like a ghost
Took her to a movie and looked at another screen
Paid for entertainment she'd already seen

Bridge
Bm g d a
I get so hungry, I'm eating my heart out
Bm g d a
Oooh I felt it go empty I'm wondering what I can be thinking about

Chorus 1
Dm am g am
But you can't take love for granted, underneath another skin
Dm am g am
Can't take love for granted, up behind another grin

Demonstrated passion in a grip hard to shake
Took up every fashion till everything went fake
Pulled a coat over her shoulder, cracked a joke over and over
Watch the rain turn the night colder, stared into the headlight beam

Bridge
I get so wired I'm making all the wrong connections
And I get so tired I'm picking up bad affections

Repeat chorus 1

Chorus 2
Can't take love for granted, can't take love for granted,
Can't take love for granted, can't take love for granted,

Instrumental section on bridge chords, then intro repeat

Watch the swans out on the lake, circle circle circle (circle circle)
Talk and talk and talk around it (circle circle)





Repeat chorus 1 then chorus 2 then chorus 1 twice (fade) /pre>

Overall Meaning

The lyrics of "You Can't Take Love For Granted" by Graham Parker is a warning about taking love and relationships for granted. The initial verses talk about neglecting the person one is dating, like taking them to a party or restaurant and not giving them attention, instead focusing on other things. The chorus talks about the danger of such actions, reminding the listener that love cannot be taken for granted, no matter how much they try to hide behind appearances. The bridge talks about the emptiness that comes from this kind of neglect and how it can leave one feeling disconnected.


As the song progresses, it becomes evident that the fascination with the person has turned into an obsession that has transformed the relationship. Demonstrative passion has turned into a hard grip that is difficult to shake, and every affection and passion has become fake. The coat over the shoulder, the jokes cracked over and over, and the rain turning the night colder all signify the distance between the two people that was not there before. The bridge then talks about the confusion that arises from this transformation, with the singer unable to distinguish good from bad.


Parker's song is a warning to people to cherish their love and relationships, and not to take them for granted. The song's importance is evident to this day, as people still relate to it despite its release date being over 40 years ago.


Line by Line Meaning

Took her to a party and danced with the host
I disrespected my partner by ignoring her and dancing with someone else.


Took her to a restaurant and treat her like a ghost
I didn't pay any attention to her and acted like she wasn't even there.


Took her to a movie and looked at another screen
I was distracted during our date and didn't pay attention to her or the movie.


Paid for entertainment she'd already seen
I didn't bother to find out if she had already seen the movie and wasted our time and money.


I get so hungry, I'm eating my heart out
I'm feeling lonely and desperate for affection.


Oooh I felt it go empty I'm wondering what I can be thinking about
I don't understand why I feel so empty inside and can't figure out what I'm doing wrong.


But you can't take love for granted, underneath another skin
We can't assume that our partner will always be there for us and give us love, no matter who else we're with or what we're doing.


Can't take love for granted, up behind another grin
We can't forget that love is important and needs to be nurtured, even if we're putting on a fake smile or ignoring our partner's needs.


Demonstrated passion in a grip hard to shake
I was too intense and clingy in expressing my feelings, making it difficult for my partner to pull away or say no.


Took up every fashion till everything went fake
I tried too hard to impress my partner and changed myself into someone I'm not, losing my authenticity.


Pulled a coat over her shoulder, cracked a joke over and over
I made insensitive jokes and didn't respect my partner's boundaries, physically or emotionally.


Watch the rain turn the night colder, stared into the headlight beam
I was so lost in my own thoughts and emotions that I couldn't be present with my partner and enjoy the moment.


I get so wired I'm making all the wrong connections
I'm so anxious and desperate for love that I'm choosing the wrong people or behaving inappropriately.


And I get so tired I'm picking up bad affections
My actions are leading me to get involved with people who are not good for me and cause me harm in the long run.


Can't take love for granted, can't take love for granted,
Love is not a guarantee and we shouldn't treat it as such, but instead cherish it and work to maintain it.


Watch the swans out on the lake, circle circle circle (circle circle)
I'm observing the swans on the lake, who are trapped in a repetitive cycle and can't escape it, just like I feel trapped in my own cycle of bad behavior.


Talk and talk and talk around it (circle circle)
I keep talking and talking about my problems and feelings, but never take action to change anything or improve my situation.




Lyrics © BMG Rights Management
Written by: Graham Parker

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Comments from YouTube:

@JoJo-ie5qh

Haunting and beautiful

@puckpaul810

Remember watching this sophomore year of college. Great song

@luciusmichael

I'll never understand why GP didn't become a household name.

@EdKazO-Vision

Totally agree.

@thiscorrosion900

You can say that about a lot of artists, honestly. Why not Big Star? Well.....lessee.....A. bad luck B. record company/distribution stupidity C. lack of radio promotion. D. the music is too intelligent for the masses. But it is a puzzle sometimes why someone like Elvis Costello gets huge, and Graham Parker doesn't. On the other hand,
it's not like Parker never had a consistent, successful career. His records always got notice and critical praise. By the late 80s you could market people like
Tracy Chapman and make them huge stars. 10 years previously......Joan Armatrading, had some notice but couldn't attain that level of fame. Even Parker made
a huge comeback in 1988 with Mona Lisa's Sister, and was still on RCA.BMG by then. They put a lot of money into promoting that album, and it worked. Another
thing is Parker's career went through so many stylistic phases. Then again again, so did Elvis Costello's. Some of Parker was too acerbic for the masses, I think.

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