And That's What Hurts
Hall & Oates Lyrics


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Never let nobody know me
Never let nobody dare
Never let somebody hold me
Long enough for me to care...

Till I found you
Till I found you.
Never let my guard down easy
Never let myself let go

I never knew the reason why
I never let my feelings show
Till I felt the pain
Of loving you

And that's what hurts
When we say goodbye
And that's what hurts
On those sleepless nights

There's nothing I can do
'Cause I'm lost inside of you
And that's what hurts.
I never let nobody touch me

Never let nobody try
I never let somebody move me
Deep enough to make me cry
Till I found you

Till I found you
I was strong and independent
I Never needed anyone
I thought I had it all together

Until you came and proved me wrong
Now I'm stronger with you
In my life
And that's what hurts

When we say goodbye
And that's what hurts
On those sleepless nights
There's nothing I can do

'Cause I'm lost inside of you
And that's what hurts
Yeah and that's the catch
But the hearts not good at holding back

It's a blessing and a curse
And I don't know what's worse
And that's what hurts.

Sometimes I want to run
Sometimes I feel just like a fool
Sometimes I'm even sorry baby

That I felt in love with you.
Oooh that's when it hurts
It hurts so bad
Ooh can't sleep at night

Nothing I can do
'Cause I'm lost inside of you
Oohhh
It hurts oh it hurts

'Cause I'm lost inside of you
I can't help myself
I can't help myself




Hurts without you baby
You're not here, you're not here

Overall Meaning

The lyrics of Hall & Oates's "And That's What Hurts" tells the story of a person who has always guarded their heart and never let anyone in until they found someone they cared deeply for. The singer reflects on how they thought they had everything under control before they met this person who changed everything. This individual gave them a reason to let go of their guard and allowed them to be vulnerable, but now that they have to say goodbye, it's what hurts the most. They feel lost and unable to move on because they are so deeply in love with this person.


The first verse sets up the scene for the singer's guarded nature. They have never let anybody know them or dared to let them hold them. However, all this changes when they meet the person whom they have fallen in love with. The chorus repeats that it is the pain of loving this person that hurts when they say goodbye or on sleepless nights. And there is nothing they can do about it, as they are lost inside of this person.


The second verse further establishes how the singer felt invincible until meeting this person. They thought they had everything under control and never needed anyone until they arrived. The bridge of the song highlights the inner turmoil of loving someone so profoundly that it becomes a blessing and a curse. They don't know what's worse and sometimes can't help running or feeling like a fool. The last verse ends with expressing how much it hurts to be without this person, but the singer can't help themselves because they can't let go of their love.


Line by Line Meaning

Never let nobody know me
I have always kept myself guarded and never let anyone in


Never let nobody dare
I have always been wary of people approaching me


Never let somebody hold me
I have never let anyone get close enough to me to hold me


Long enough for me to care...
I was always scared of people getting close to me because I didn't want to end up caring for them


Till I found you
I found you and everything changed


Never let my guard down easy
Even with you, I was still hesitant to let my guard down


Never let myself let go
I never allowed myself to fully let go and enjoy the moment


I never knew the reason why
I never understood why I was so guarded and scared of getting close to people


I never let my feelings show
I always kept my feelings bottled up and never expressed them


Till I felt the pain
It was only when I fell in love with you that I felt the pain of love


Of loving you
I fell in love with you and it hurt


And that's what hurts
The pain of loving you is what hurts the most


When we say goodbye
Saying goodbye to you is the most painful thing


On those sleepless nights
I can't sleep when I think about you


There's nothing I can do
There is nothing I can do to ease the pain


'Cause I'm lost inside of you
I am lost in my love for you


I never let nobody touch me
I never let anyone touch me in a way that made me vulnerable


Never let nobody try
I always kept people at arm's length to avoid getting hurt


I never let somebody move me
I never let anyone have an emotional impact on me


Deep enough to make me cry
I never let anyone get close enough to make me cry


I was strong and independent
I prided myself on being strong and independent


I Never needed anyone
I thought I didn't need anyone in my life


I thought I had it all together
I thought I had my life under control


Until you came and proved me wrong
You came into my life and showed me that I needed you


Now I'm stronger with you
Being with you has made me stronger


Yeah and that's the catch
Loving you is both a blessing and a curse


But the hearts not good at holding back
I can't help but love you with all my heart


It's a blessing and a curse
Loving you is both a wonderful and painful experience


And I don't know what's worse
I don't know if it's worse to love you and feel the pain or not love you at all


Sometimes I want to run
Sometimes I feel like running away from my emotions


Sometimes I feel just like a fool
Sometimes I feel foolish for falling so deeply in love with you


Sometimes I'm even sorry baby
Sometimes I regret falling in love with you because it hurts so much


Oooh that's when it hurts
That's when I feel the pain the most


It hurts so bad
The pain of loving you is unbearable


Ooh can't sleep at night
I can't sleep at night because I'm constantly thinking about you


Hurts without you baby
It hurts to be without you


You're not here, you're not here
I miss you so much and it hurts




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Written by: CHILD, LACY

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