Talk To Her
India.Arie(인디아 아리) Lyrics

When you talk to her, talk to her Like you want somebody to talk to your mama
When you have a conversation with her, speak with the same kindness and respect you would use when speaking with your mother

Don't get smart with her, have a heart to heart With her just like you would with your daughter
Avoid being condescending or insulting and instead have an open and honest discussion with her like you would with your own daughter

Cause everything you do or say You got to live with it everyday
Your actions and words have consequences that last beyond the moment they were said or done

She's somebody's baby She's somebody's sister She's somebody's mama
She is an important person with a family who loves and cares about her

Now when you go to her, speak truthfully Be honest as you can be from your heart
When you approach her, be sincere and truthful with your thoughts and feelings

You're in a situation where ya losing patience Take some time and look her in the eye
If you're feeling frustrated, take a moment to collect yourself and establish direct eye contact with her

When you just can't find the words you want And it's hard to reach the point Where you both can understand Don't just tell the truth But tell the whole truth It'll make a better man outta you
If you struggle to express yourself or reach an understanding, don't hold back and instead share your full truth to improve yourself and your communication skills

It doesn't matter if she's wearin' A mini skirt or a business suit Whether she's twenty-five or ninety-nine Treat her the way your mama taught you to
No matter her appearance, age or occupation, treat her the same way you were taught to treat women by your mother

She could be the queen of Sheba She could be a schoolteacher Home maker or a lawyer I think it's good for your Karma Like when you talk to her
Regardless of her status or career, treating her with kindness and respect will bring good karma into your life

Now, let's keep it real Nothing in this world could ever exist Without its opposite
To be honest, everything in life needs its counterpart to exist

There has to be a sun and a moon A man and a woman And that's just the way it is
The balance between masculine and feminine forces is fundamental and natural to life

Humanity's lop-sided And everybody's fighting How do we restore the peace?
In our society there is an imbalance and everyone struggles, so how can we bring back harmony?

Mother Earth is hurting 'Cause everyone is searching For the feminine energy
The earth is suffering because people are failing to embrace the fullness and strength of feminine energy

Watch your mouth, yeah, yeah Don't get smart with her, have Heart to heart With her just like you would With your daughter
Be careful of what you say and how you say it, maintain gentle and compassionate communication with her like you would with your own daughter

Just like you fight for your sister If you know that somebody dissed her How you gonna care for your daughter Turn around and talk bad 'bout her mama?
If you would defend your sister when needed, then how could you disrespect the mother of your own child?

If you love her hair (Say so) If you want her there (Say so) Tell me if you really want her (Say so) You want to slap her down (Say so)
If you find things you love or appreciate about her, express those feelings honestly, but also be vocal if you have negative emotions so that you can deal with them in a healthier way

Same way you listen to your auntie Never interrupts while you speak Make your words sweet like candy As if you were talking to your granny, yeah
Practice actively listening to her thoughts and feelings just like you would with your aunt or grandmother, and speak kindly to her

If you really love her, then (Say so) If you really need her, then (Say so) You love the way she thinks (Say so) You love the way she speaks (Say so) When you need some good conversation (Say so) (Say so) If you want her in your life (Say so) You want her to be your wife (Say so) You'll be there to the end (Say so) If you're thinking 'bout leaving (Say so) If you wonder where she's going (Say so) If you need to grieve with her (Say so) You just want to be with her (Say so)
If you genuinely love and care about her, express that to her; tell her what you appreciate and admire about her, and be there for her during both good and bad times

When you talk to her, talk to her Like you want somebody to talk to your mama
Once again, be respectful and kind with her, as though you're speaking to your own mother