Thinkin
Janet Jackson Lyrics


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When I first met you
I swear that I was straight with you
I wasn't looking for nobody new
I just needed someone to talk to (to talk to)
You said you were cool and understood
But now you caught feelings like I knew you would
And you sitting there with a broken heart
'Cause I gave you my body and not my heart

When I'm holding you late at night
I'm thinkin' 'bout my ex
When I'm kissing you and look at you
I'm thinkin' 'bout my ex
And I'm sorry I didn't mean to hurt you
And I know sorry doesn't mend your broken heart

Baby, I have to be
Unselfish and true to me
'Cause I'm not where I really want to be
And it's nothing with you
It's all me (all me)
I toss and turn all night when I sleep
Want and reaching for someone who use to be
Said it must be some kinda karma thing
'Cause I can't seem to let go and love again

When I lay with you, I close my eyes
I'm thinkin' 'bout my ex
When I'm touching you gently
I'm thinkin' 'bout my ex
And I'm sorry I didn't mean to hurt you
And I know sorry doesn't mend your broken heart
When I'm listing to music I'm thinking' 'bout my ex
In a bubble bath with the candles lit
I'm thinking 'bout my ex
And I'm sorry I didn't mean to hurt you
And I know sorry doesn't mend your broken heart

You're beautiful
I don't wanna take the space from someone else
So let me go
And do a little soul searchin' for myself
I'm sorry that
I pulled you in and let it get this far
You know I never meant to break your heart

At the shopping mall or the movies
I'm thinkin' 'bout my ex
At the restaurant while I'm eating
I'm thinkin' 'bout my ex
And I'm sorry, I didn't mean to hurt you
And I know sorry doesn't mend your broken heart
While you talk to me, I drift away
I'm thinkin' 'bout my ex
When you ask me what I'm thinkin'
I'm thinkin' 'bout my ex
And I'm sorry I didn't mean to hurt you
And I know sorry doesn't mend your broken heart

At the shopping mall or the movies
I'm thinkin' 'bout my ex
At the restaurant while I'm eating
I'm thinkin' 'bout my ex
And I'm sorry, I didn't mean to hurt you





You know, it's not who you think it is

Overall Meaning

Janet Jackson’s song “Thinkin” is about a woman who meets someone new and gets into a connection with him, only to find out that she can’t shut out thoughts about her ex-lover. The first stanza of the song reveals that the singer wasn’t planning on meeting anyone new, but she needed someone to talk to. The person she meets says they’re cool and understands her, but the singer realizes it was obvious that the new person would eventually catch feelings, and now they’re left with a broken heart because the singer gave them her body, but not her heart.


The chorus of the song continues with the singer revealing that even though she’s with someone new, she can’t stop thinking about her ex. She’s sorry for hurting her new partner’s feelings, but she knows that an apology won’t heal their broken heart. In the second stanza, the singer admits to tossing and turning at night because she’s still reaching out to her ex, even though the relationship ended. She concludes it must be karma because she can’t seem to let go or love again.


The bridge of the song, the singer expresses her admiration for her new partner and apologizes for leading them on but she feels they need to go their separate ways so she can figure out her feelings.


Overall, Janet Jackson’s “Thinkin” explores the theme of a person who struggles to move on from their past relationship, even if they’re trying to be with someone new.


Line by Line Meaning

When I first met you I swear that I was straight with you I wasn't looking for nobody new I just needed someone to talk to (to talk to) You said you were cool and understood But now you caught feelings like I knew you would And you sitting there with a broken heart 'Cause I gave you my body and not my heart
When we met, I was clear that I didn't want anything serious, I just wanted to talk. You said you were fine with that but ended up catching feelings anyway. I'm sorry for hurting you, but I only gave you physical intimacy, not emotional, and that's my fault.


When I'm holding you late at night I'm thinkin' 'bout my ex When I'm kissing you and look at you I'm thinkin' 'bout my ex And I'm sorry I didn't mean to hurt you And I know sorry doesn't mend your broken heart
Even though I'm with you physically, my mind still wanders to my ex. I'm sorry for hurting you, but just apologizing isn't enough to make it right.


Baby, I have to be Unselfish and true to me 'Cause I'm not where I really want to be And it's nothing with you It's all me (all me) I toss and turn all night when I sleep Want and reaching for someone who use to be Said it must be some kinda karma thing 'Cause I can't seem to let go and love again
I need to do what's best for me, even though it means hurting you. I'm not in a good place emotionally and it's not your fault. I still can't let go of my past and move on, it's like karma is holding me back.


When I lay with you, I close my eyes I'm thinkin' 'bout my ex When I'm touching you gently I'm thinkin' 'bout my ex And I'm sorry I didn't mean to hurt you And I know sorry doesn't mend your broken heart When I'm listing to music I'm thinking' 'bout my ex In a bubble bath with the candles lit I'm thinking 'bout my ex And I'm sorry I didn't mean to hurt you And I know sorry doesn't mend your broken heart
Even when I'm intimate with you, my mind is still on my ex. I'm sorry for hurting you, but just apologizing doesn't fix the damage I've caused.


You're beautiful I don't wanna take the space from someone else So let me go And do a little soul searchin' for myself I'm sorry that I pulled you in and let it get this far You know I never meant to break your heart
You're amazing, but I'm not in the right place for a relationship. I don't want to hold you back from finding someone better for you. I'm sorry for getting you involved and leading you on, that was never my intention.


At the shopping mall or the movies I'm thinkin' 'bout my ex At the restaurant while I'm eating I'm thinkin' 'bout my ex And I'm sorry, I didn't mean to hurt you You know, it's not who you think it is
Even when I'm out with you, my mind is still on my ex. I'm sorry for hurting you, and it's not because there's someone else in my life, it's just my inability to move on.




Lyrics © Royalty Network, Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC
Written by: Andy Cramer, Kenneth Edmonds, Tanya "Freckles" White

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