That Girl
Jennifer Nettles Lyrics


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A friend gave me your number
To tell you watch your lover's tracks
See I always kind of liked you
So, I wanna have your back
There is a good chance by the time you hear this
The story's gonna say
That I came on to him
But it was never quite that way

I knew he was good looking
Maybe too good to be true
But when he kissed me in that alley
I could tell there was a you

I don't want to be that girl
With your guy
To fool you
Make you cry
Wreck it all
For one night
To be with him when he should be with you
I don't want all the dirty looks
The headlines
So, I called you
To explain why
I wound up
With your guy
When I don't wanna be that girl

I know boys can be promiscuous
Yeah, that's just what they do
But this involves the both of us
Yeah, it's our business too
So, I thought I'd call to tell you
It was never in my plan
I'm not the scarlet Devil
I don't want to take your man

Imagine how surprised I was
When he got up to leave
It wasn't my name on his lips
No, he didn't call for me
He didn't say, Jolene

I don't want to be that girl
With your guy
To fool you
Make you cry
Wreck it all
For one night
To be with him when he should be with you
I don't want all the dirty looks
The headlines
So, I called you
To explain why
I wound up
With your guy
When I don't wanna be that girl

We all know how the moral of the story goes
Be careful what you reap because you reap what you sow
I'm calling 'cause I really thought you should know
Even though he's being that guy

I don't want to be that girl
With your guy
To fool you
Make you cry
Wreck it all
For one night
To be with him when he should be with you
I don't want all the dirty looks
The headlines
So, I called you
To explain why
I wound up




With your guy
When I don't wanna be that girl

Overall Meaning

The lyrics to Jennifer Nettles' "That Girl" tells the story of a woman who receives a phone call from a friend who has been involved with her boyfriend, the friend calls to explain what happened and take responsibility for her actions. The singer explains that she didn't plan for anything to happen and she doesn't want to be the "other woman" who wrecks a relationship for one night of passion. She wants the girlfriend to know what happened and that she takes responsibility for her actions.


The singer starts by explaining that a friend gave her the girlfriend's phone number to tell her to watch her lover's tracks. She wanted to have the girlfriend's back because she had always liked her. The singer then revealed that she got caught up in an unexpected situation with the girlfriend's boyfriend. She knew he was too good-looking to be true but gave in to kissing him in an alley. However, she could tell that there was still a "you" (the girlfriend) in the picture.


The singer was surprised when the boyfriend got up to leave, and it wasn't her name on his lips. He didn't call for Jolene. She knew then that being involved with this man wasn't worth hurting someone else over. She didn't want to be labeled as the "girl with your guy," and ruin everything for one night. So, she called to explain herself and take responsibility for what she had done.


Overall, the song is about owning up to one's actions, meeting one's responsibilities, and values. It also implores listeners to be mindful of their actions and not hurt others for their own selfish reasons.


Line by Line Meaning

A friend gave me your number
I'm calling you because I got your number from a friend who wanted to warn you about your lover's unfaithful behavior.


To tell you watch your lover's tracks
I'm calling to let you know that your lover may not be faithful to you, so you should keep an eye on their behavior.


See I always kind of liked you
I've always had a fondness for you and don't want to see you get hurt.


So, I wanna have your back
I want to support you and have your best interests in mind.


There is a good chance by the time you hear this
It's possible that by the time you receive this message, the rumor mill may have already spread false information about me and your lover.


The story's gonna say
People may tell you that I made advances towards your partner.


That I came on to him
Rumors may circulate that I tried to seduce your partner.


But it was never quite that way
However, the situation wasn't as it may have seemed.


I knew he was good looking
I was aware of your partner's attractiveness.


Maybe too good to be true
I wondered if your partner was too good to be faithful.


But when he kissed me in that alley
Despite my reservations, your partner kissed me in a secluded place.


I could tell there was a you
I realized that your partner was being unfaithful to you.


I don't want to be that girl
I don't want to be the other woman who comes between you and your partner.


With your guy
I don't want to be involved with your partner in a romantic or intimate way.


To fool you
I don't want to deceive you about what's going on between me and your partner.


Make you cry
I don't want to cause you pain or heartache.


Wreck it all
I don't want to ruin your relationship with your partner or your own life.


For one night
It's not worth it to me to have a fling with your partner.


To be with him when he should be with you
Your partner should be faithful and committed to you, not me.


I don't want all the dirty looks
I don't want to be viewed negatively or judged harshly by others for my actions.


The headlines
I don't want to make the news or cause a scandal.


So, I called you
That's why I'm reaching out to you now.


To explain why
To clarify the situation and tell you my side of the story.


I wound up
I ended up in this situation with your partner, but not because I wanted to.


With your guy
I was with your partner, but it was not part of my plan or intention.


When I don't wanna be that girl
I don't want to be the other woman or cause harm to your relationship.


We all know how the moral of the story goes
There is a lesson to be learned from situations like this.


Be careful what you reap because you reap what you sow
If you don't treat others with respect and honesty, it may come back to haunt you.


I'm calling 'cause I really thought you should know
I'm making this call because I believe you deserve to know what really happened.


Even though he's being that guy
Despite your partner's unfaithful behavior, I still don't want to be the other woman.




Lyrics © Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC, Royalty Network, Kobalt Music Publishing Ltd.
Written by: BUTCH WALKER, JENNIFER NETTLES

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Mr. Birdgang

A friend gave me your number
To tell you watch your lover's tracks
See I always kind of liked you
So, I wanna have your back
There is a good chance by the time you hear this
The story's gonna say
That I came on to her
But it was never quite that way

I knew she was good looking
Maybe too good to be true
But when she kissed me in that alley
I could tell there was a you

I don't want to be that guy
With your girl
To fool you
Make you cry
Wreck it all
For one night
To be with her when she should be with you
I don't want all the dirty looks
The headlines
So, I called you
To explain why
I wound up
With your girl
When I don't really wanna be that guy

I know girls can be promiscuous
Yeah, that's just what they do
But this involves the both of us
Yeah, it's our business too
So, I thought I'd call to tell you
That it was never in my plan
I'm not the wicked Devil
I don't want to take your land

Imagine how surprised I was
When she got up to leave
It wasn't my name on her lips
No, she didn't call for me
She didn't say love me

I don't want to be that guy
With your girl
To fool you
Make you cry
Wreck it all
For one night
To be with her when she should be with you
I don't want all the dirty looks
The headlines
So, I called you
To explain why
I wound up
With your girl
When I don't really wanna

We all know how the moral of the story goes
Be careful what you reap because you reap what you sow
I'm calling 'cause I really thought you should know
Even though she's being that girl

I don't want to be that guy
With your girl
To fool you
Make you cry
Wreck it all
For one night
To be with her when she should be with you
I don't want all the dirty looks
The headlines
So, I called you
To explain why
I wound up
With your girl
When I don't really wanna be that guy

i dont wanna be that GUY



All comments from YouTube:

Liz de carlo

The album is so incredible. Great job Jennifer.

Sarah Feierstein

I just LOVE her voice! So POWERFUL!

chris rice

Idk why this isn't topping the charts either country or pop.. Excellent song all around she does of course kill it live too..

chris rice

@Jennifer Nettles ♪ no I'm not on any social media platform atm I find them toxic to done degree 😉 but if you wanna get in touch please do we can figure it out..be awesome!!

chris rice

@Jennifer Nettles ♪ oh likewise Jenn he blesses us daily 😉 well considering the post is 7yrs ago I was certainly a fan before that post!! I'm back in the Midwest atm moment looking for options maybe TN or FL somewhere chill after living in L.A. for 20yrs haha looking forward to new beginnings..hope your doing well also Jen..

chris rice

@Jennifer Nettles ♪ damn you just made my night!! Its really you omg dang thank you thank you and let's stay positive and bring light to the darkness 🍻😳😎🎼

Lisa10

Whatever Jennifer touches turns into gold!!

Bootsie Boo

How awesome is Jennifer Nettles!!! I love her voice and this song is awesome!! The video is even great!! I'm beyond in love with this woman!!

Brandi Schacke-Hrycyk

This song is awesome it's about time somebody sings about certain things that go on in our lives. Great song keep on going Jennifer Nettles.....!

Darla Chance

LOVE this song!!! Her voice is AMAZING!!! Can't wait
to see her in Orlando in February!!! 

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