Her Pleasure Is My Pain
Jewel Lyrics


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A man stands in the doorway like a small child
Angry fists
She lies on her bed her head buried in her pillow
And she stares at the moon
He speaks to her all the words she's heard too many times before
And pretty soon she just let's his voice fade away

And she thinks

This was a gradual steel frost
That started with cold feet
And ended with numb hearts

This was once satisfying sex but now no longer is

It was once filled with the possibilities of new china or old stone
But now it's exagerated and waterlogged no longer what these
Hands had
Intended and still I cry in my sleep

He always said I was too sensitive

But I say

(chorus)

At least I never meant to make him cry
At least I never meant to make him hurt that way
Nooo I never meant to make him cry
Never meant to make him hurt that way

Yes it's true, I'm too senstive
But he takes pleasure in my pain
Yes it's true, I'm too senstive
But he takes pleasure in my pain

And the unheard hours they fly by
She goes to the window
She puts on a nightgown and brushes her hair
He's already asleep
By the time she

Goes and lays herself back down.
She thinks

My god, what am I doing hear?

My bones have grown tired of his hunger, of his gray eyes
And I feel if I were to stay one more night here I'd die or explode
Or worse yet just fade away
There have been days so dark that I felt like august
And that I soon too would turn to fall
He always said I was too sensitive that if I cared so much
The world could kill me that way
I wonder if he's only half alive or if he's simply always been this
Inarticulate
'Cause I say

And she get's out of bed and looks at her feet as though they
Were the wings for her freedom
She gets up and goes to the door
It's a moment in which anything can happen
Instead she gets out some clothing




Puts it in a bag and leaves him sleeping
While she heads for the door

Overall Meaning

The lyrics of the song “Her Pleasure Is My Pain” by Jewel tell a story of a dysfunctional relationship in which the female protagonist has been enduring for far too long. The song starts off with a man standing in the doorway with his angry fists while the woman lies on her bed, her head buried in her pillow, staring at the moon. The man speaks to her, saying all the things she's heard countless times before, but she just lets his voice fade away, realizing that the relationship has taken a toll on her.


Jewel then sings of a gradual steel frost that started with cold feet and ended with numb hearts. What once was satisfying sex is now no longer fulfilling. The possibilities of new china or old stone that the couple had anticipated have now become exaggerated and waterlogged. The woman cries in her sleep, and although the man always claimed that she was too sensitive, she never meant to make him cry or hurt him that way. Yet, he takes pleasure in her pain as the cycle of dysfunction continues.


The unheard hours fly by, and the woman contemplates her life. She realizes that her bones have grown tired of his hunger and gray eyes. She fears that if she were to stay one more night, she would die, explode, or fade away. There have been days so dark that she felt like August and that she soon would turn to fall. She wonders if he's only half alive or if he's always been inarticulate. And in the end, she gets out of bed, looks at her feet as though they were the wings for her freedom, packs a bag, and leaves him sleeping while she heads for the door.


Overall, the song delivers a powerful message of a toxic relationship that has taken its toll on the woman, making her feel trapped and helpless. The lyrics capture the emotions felt by many who have been in a similar situation, and the melody delivers the message with hauntingly beautiful vocals, making it a memorable piece of music.


Line by Line Meaning

A man stands in the doorway like a small child
The man appears vulnerable and weak like a young child standing in the doorway.


Angry fists
The man is angry and may have raised his fists in a threatening manner.


She lies on her bed her head buried in her pillow
She is laying down with her face pressed against a pillow and appears to be upset or crying.


And she stares at the moon
She is looking at the moon while contemplating her thoughts and emotions.


He speaks to her all the words she's heard too many times before
He is repeating words or phrases he has said before that have lost their meaning or effect.


And pretty soon she just let's his voice fade away
She stops paying attention or listening to the man and lets his voice become background noise.


This was a gradual steel frost
Their relationship has gradually grown cold and distant over time.


That started with cold feet
The gradual decline of their relationship began with a sense of discomfort or anxiety.


And ended with numb hearts
Their relationship has become emotionless and passionless.


It was once satisfying sex but now no longer is
Their physical intimacy was once satisfying, but now it no longer brings them pleasure.


It was once filled with the possibilities of new china or old stone
Their relationship was once filled with the potential for new and exciting experiences.


But now it's exagerated and waterlogged no longer what these Hands had Intended and still I cry in my sleep
Their relationship has become overblown, distorted, and not what they had intended or hoped for, causing her to cry in her sleep.


He always said I was too sensitive
The man has criticized her for being too sensitive or emotional.


At least I never meant to make him cry
She may have caused the man pain, but it was never her intention to make him cry.


And the unheard hours they fly by
The time passes quickly while she is alone with her thoughts and emotions.


My god, what am I doing hear?
She questions herself and her decision to stay in the relationship.


My bones have grown tired of his hunger, of his gray eyes
She is tired of the man's constant desire and his piercing, emotionless gaze.


And I feel if I were to stay one more night here I'd die or explode Or worse yet just fade away
She feels that if she stays any longer, she will not be able to handle the emotional strain and may lose herself.


He always said I was too sensitive that if I cared so much The world could kill me that way
The man has criticized her for caring too much and for being vulnerable to emotional pain.


And she get's out of bed and looks at her feet as though they Were the wings for her freedom She gets up and goes to the door
She stands up and prepares to leave the man, feeling as though her feet are the key to her freedom.


It's a moment in which anything can happen Instead she gets out some clothing Puts it in a bag and leaves him sleeping While she heads for the door
She hesitates for a moment but ultimately decides to leave the man while he is sleeping, indicating the end of their relationship.


Yes it's true, I'm too senstive But he takes pleasure in my pain
She admits to being sensitive but blames the man for taking pleasure in her emotional pain.




Lyrics © BMG Rights Management
Written by: Jewel Kilcher

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